How did the gap between comrades in arms gradually widen after being discharged?

Some people train harder and exercise their bodies, while some people just drink or something and return to the normal middle-aged man's beer belly.

Some rely on parents, some rely on parents-in-law, some rely on relationships, some rely on their own hard work and efforts, and some rely on relief. After a long time, the distance has been widened, the relationship is far away, and the feelings have faded.

It's because some people keep exercising every day, and some people live a comfortable life, and they don't want to work hard.

The jobs they are looking for, the treatment, the people or things they come into contact with are different, and the gap is gradually widening.

When I was in the army, everyone shared blessings and hardships, and after being discharged from the army, due to various reasons.

Everyone will not have much time to get together, and they will gradually make different friends, and they will be estranged.

I think it may have something to do with their family background, for example, those who have money may have a good life as soldiers, and those who don't have money will go to work as security guards.

The emotional gap has not been widened, and it can only be said that they are running for their own lives, and of course, there must be a gap in the conditions between rural soldiers and urban soldiers when they are discharged from the army, and there is also a gap in earning money.

When they were in the ranks, there was no gap between the rich and the poor, and there was no gap between superiors and subordinates, but after they were discharged from the army, their family situation became the main reason for their disparity.

The gap after leaving the military is generally widened by whether or not they continue their education.

I have never been to a comrade-in-arms gathering, the two levels are seriously divided, and comrades-in-arms with good jobs look down on comrades-in-arms who do not work, and that bit of comradeship-in-arms cannot be found back.

After our comrades-in-arms were discharged from the army, some of them became tens of millions of bosses, some of them worked odd jobs to make a living, some of them became cadres or technicians, and some of them did the hardest and most tiring labor. Two comrades-in-arms of the same bank, one is a vice president with an annual salary of hundreds of thousands, and the other is a security guard with a monthly salary of 2,000.

Because people will become, especially those who take off their military uniforms and treat themselves as ordinary people, it is easier to change. And there are very few people who still don't change their true colors after taking off their military uniforms, and the current comrades-in-arms have not experienced the baptism of death and war side by side, so it is normal for the comradeship to be very thin.

I joined the army in 2011 when I was in college, a female soldier, and only two of us female soldiers left the whole school that year, and I was discharged from the army in 2014 and returned to school to continue my studies. The reason why I served for 3 years was because I chose to be a non-commissioned officer for another year after being a compulsory soldier, and then applied for discharge from the army in the third year. Leaving the army was my own choice, and my family always persuaded me to stay in the army, but because I failed to be admitted to the military academy in the army, it was considered that I failed to realize my dream, and I also experienced the green military camp dream, and I had no regrets for the rest of my life, so I chose to leave the army.

I think there will always be a period of discomfort when every soldier comes back from the army, but after the baptism of the barracks, your whole person has become mature, and I think the way you think about problems or interpersonal communication will be more suitable for this society, rather than being out of touch with society as many people say. Although I have not officially stepped into the society now, I feel that several years of military camp experience has given me a lot of experience, and now the pressure of social competition is very great, and the pressure of work and entrepreneurship is greater, but a few years of military service is not in vain, it is not only an experience but also an invisible force that inspires me to move forward on the road of life in the future. ‍‍

After working in the army for two years, he was mixed from the company to the organ, and he resolutely decided to retire in the face of retirement, and he betrayed the trust of the squad leader and the leader! After being discharged from the army, I was also very confused and didn't know what to do, I worked in the company for more than a year, and I felt that life was dull and boring, so I took the public security exam, and my work was very busy, but it was very fulfilling, and I felt like an army. Generally speaking, it is recommended that the newly retired comrades-in-arms do something outside first, do not be idle, think about the future while working, don't easily venture capital, don't trust others too much, be cautious and focused, be down-to-earth, endure more hardships, and it will be easier to maintain the success of the army.

A veteran in '82, a spring soldier in March '78, and when he came back from the army, he was called a poor man and two hundred, what should I do if I don't have a job! Fortunately, I learned wired communications in the army, and I have learned the electrician's manual in the army for the local rural electricity use, and the principles and policies of reform and opening up have been studied in the army, so I made a plan in the winter of 84 to build a self-made chaff and flour processing plant in our village, and the funds needed 3,000 yuan. With the real small assets in my life, I through my own efforts, the credibility of the shopping mall, step by step, like a snowball, although I am not tens of millions of rich, but I am a person of credibility, there are two children who graduated from the bachelor's degree and worked in the national unit, I entered a well-off life ten years ago, I miss the life of the army, if I don't have the five years of refining in the army, there is no well-off life I have today.

Enlisted in 96 years, discharged from the army in 04, during the eight years, won awards, outstanding soldiers, outstanding Communist Party members many times, four times won the third-class meritorious service, there is no hope of promotion, 03 years to apply for transfer back to Shijiazhuang, the military affairs department will not let go, 04 years to apply for demobilization, back to the locality. 14 years have passed, from salesman, sales executive, regional manager to marketing director, and now vice president of a listed company, I have been engaged in three completely different industries, has been adhering to the attitude of never admitting defeat and a positive and optimistic attitude, the career is smooth, nearly forty years old, especially thanks to the army for many years of experience and stubbornness flowing in the bones. ‍‍

Shandong Armed Police, although they have performed very well in the army, still feel that they are more suitable for the society, and it is enough to dedicate two years of youth to the country, and they will definitely respond to the call when the country needs it. After retiring on September 5, 15, I thought about it for a few days, and I still felt that I should finish college, and I came out to work in 17 years two years later.

05 years scout discharge, 06 years as an apprentice to learn machining 08 years by chance by the boss found that I have a talent for sales, since then embarked on the road of sales, to the boss to create a very brilliant performance I personally 10 years of sales of 160 million, and then 11 years of boss investment in finance failed I lent him 2 million commission, 12 years of the boss was deceived by the country, since then seriously ill, 13 14 15 years I helped him run the company to pay off debts, take him everywhere for medical treatment, 15 years of the boss ** foreign debt let me pay him off, After the company was sold, he went back to his hometown in Hubei, I was confused for 16 years, looked around for a year, played for a year, and started to do business again for 17 years, and this year is preparing a new factory, I hope it will go smoothly in the future.

The firefighter retired for two years, and after coming out, he made wall materials, and was deceived by his cousin. At that time, the discharge fee of several thousand yuan was all taken in. I have worked as a sales packing and handling in the book city, a bar KTV waiter, a crew to play tricks, an artist agent, and now I am working with my friends in a film company, a decoration company, and a hotel management company.

Now I am preparing for the township tourism project.

I'm also a veteran here, and I was discharged in December '92. Rural soldiers, one test to learn, two to volunteer soldiers, three to learn technology, the result of learning to drive home three months to come to Shenzhen, more than 20 years of Shenzhen life, enterprise management life, everywhere there is a "soldier" flavor. Now that he has taken root in Shenzhen, his lover is originally from Chongqing, and his two children were born in Shenzhen, and his comrades-in-arms are often in contact with each other, and they often come to play with me.

I have my own company, because of my work, I have also been in touch with the old company commander, I am his correspondent, so the relationship is very close, I go there many times a year, I miss the life of the army, I feel that I am lucky, this life has come slowly!

After I was demobilized, I had no background, I pushed the trolley, pulled the rack car, handed over the imperial grain, and the sour thorns were paid, the opportunity and team spirit and their own efforts are indeed very important, the opportunity is a team will succeed with a team of efforts, and the soldiers generally do not have a skill, and it is important to learn some technical work after coming back.

After returning from the army, I was admitted to the ** and became a grassroots cadre, from the high-spirited teenager to the current middle-aged greasy uncle has indeed changed a lot, no matter what I have experienced, I will always remind myself that I am a soldier.

I graduated from high school and joined the army, a soldier of an automobile company of a certain army department, served for 5 years, an outstanding soldier, joined the party in the army, and was more than ten points short of the military academy cultural test. In the first two years, he retired and returned to his hometown, and with the support of his family, he opened a kindergarten and served as a kindergarten supervisor. In the past two years, nearly 200 young children have been developed from childhood to adulthood. ‍‍

In Fuzhou 86 Division field troops for three years, retired at the end of 99, the family spent money to find a subordinate unit of the Food Bureau, so far the unit is only 1400 salary, 10 years began to self-study Zhou Yi Wuxing, Feng Shui gossip, 12 years and apprenticeship plus self-study of Chinese medicine, to now it is also a small success, cured a lot of patients, family conditions are OK, there is no life pressure, has been doing what he likes, married and his wife is happy, the son is 8 years old.

Haiphong soldier, after retiring from the army, entered the bank, worked for ten years, went to the enterprise as a vice president, 600,000 a year, and then felt that he was not enough to start graduate school now, and after reading, he was ready to study for a doctorate, no joke, real life experience.

In 09, he retired from the Coast Guard, and when he came back, he had a good time with more than 50,000 yuan in retirement money, and made up for the two years