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Love is love, the times are different, the social atmosphere has changed, and the school atmosphere is also different! Today's children grow up in junk romance movies as soon as they are born, how can you make people not fall in love? Now children are precocious, in fact, love has become a trend in school, and elementary school has begun, but most parents are blind!
So there are only two important points:
1. Ask him to handle the relationship between love and study. Parents should be open-minded about this! You have to believe in the children, the children of today are not the same as the older generation, they are more mature, smarter, more intelligent, and they can handle romantic relationships.
You just need guidance, assistance. Don't try to ban it. You have to be clear, if you don't have a clear attitude and there is a problem, the child will not know whether to tell you or not.
So tell your child directly that you do not forbid him to fall in love, that you support his choice and are proud that he has a love of the opposite sex. If he has a girlfriend boyfriend, you can also invite her friends to come to the house to play and come to dinner. Your open-mindedness can keep his every move under your control.
The power of love is huge, if he wants to fall in love, you can't prohibit it, if you force him to fight guerrilla with you, not only can you not control the child's situation. It also makes the child nervous and affects the child's learning, because: on the one hand, he wants to fall in love, and on the other hand, your prohibition makes him feel that love is sinful, which produces serious psychological pressure.
2. Sexual relations are forbidden before the age of sixteen, and parents should be absolutely authoritative on this point! Although the child is precocious in mind, the body does not develop at the same rate, and sexual relations will affect the physical development. You have to tell your child about the dangers of sexual relations at the beginning and set hard targets.
You can even make it clear that this is a condition for you to support his relationship. If he violates, you cancel the support.
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As far as I'm concerned: a child of that age will have a sense of rejection from his parents, and I mind you helping him find a psychologist.
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Pretend not to know, if he knows that you have found out, he will have an awkward relationship with you. And it's such a big person, it's strange if you don't have it
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By taking a political lesson, it is very useful.
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Falling in love is not scary, teaching children how to deal with emotional problems and protecting themselves, children nowadays are very smart.
1. Raise awareness, focus on guidance, and do not blindly criticize.
2. Home-school cooperation, strengthen communication, and give respect and care in life and feelings.
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1. Stabilize emotions and stay calm; Many schools and parents have a very unified attitude towards early love, regarding early love as a flood of beasts, and the first time they find it seems to be like a great enemy, thinking about how to quickly stop and cut it off. But in fact, such excessive reactions and arbitrary ways of dealing with parents will only make the problem more and more serious, or stimulate children's rebellious psychology. If parents find that their children have symptoms of early love, they should first stay calm, sort out the ins and outs of the matter, and then do what to deal with.
2. Seek opportunities to communicate; After getting to know the child's situation, parents can choose an appropriate scene, such as going out with the child or watching a movie, and talk to the child in a relaxed environment. For example, understand the current state and pattern of getting along with the two children, how to view the relationship with each other, etc., do not blindly blame the child, surface your own position: understand but do not support, and talk to the child about the pros and cons of early love, leaving the child time to think for himself.
3. Give children the knowledge of adolescent sexuality; Parents can usually give their children adolescent sex education in a specific environment or occasion, with the help of books or popular science**. For example, menarche in girls, beards in boys, etc., this is not to show support for children's early love, but to let children understand the changes in puberty and learn how to protect themselves. Know what behaviors are okay and which can't cross the line.
4. Guide children to focus on learning; In the face of children's early love, most parents are probably most concerned about learning, for fear that their children's falling in love will affect their learning. However, there may be many reasons for the decline in children's grades, such as relationships with classmates, academic difficulty, etc., which cannot be simply and rudely attributed to early love. Parents should guide their children to focus on learning, and the relationship between two evenly matched people can last for a long time, and parents should not stop it to encourage children to learn on the premise of ensuring the quality of schoolwork.
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At present, it is found that there are many junior high school students with precocious puberty, and the precocious feelings will be more abundant, although many schools strictly prohibit the situation of precocious love, but it is also very difficult to stop, or the more forbidden adolescent children will become, the more rebellious they will be, precocious love will have a certain impact on learning, but sometimes there is no way to avoid the situation, parents should also communicate with their children through their own efforts to reduce the negative impact of precocious love. Let the child know the adverse reactions of early love, for the child may affect the schoolwork, and can affect the mind, now is not the time for early love, so that the child himself can dilute the idea of early love. Or try to let the child be able to talk to the parents about these things, can open their hearts, can talk about their concerns, or have any requirements to put forward with the parents, can give the child some good advice, so that when they are in love or suffer setbacks, at least the parents can confide.
If early love is handled well, it can sometimes stimulate children's learning motivation and promote better learning. You can't insist on forcing and prohibiting your child's early love, this way can not be very helpful, and because the child has a rebellious mentality, it may affect learning, affect your studies, and even run away from home. Rebellious psychology is manifested in deliberately not listening to instructions, not listening to commands, and the more parents want to forbid things, the more they must do them.
Therefore, it is necessary for parents to communicate well with their children and deal with them reasonably, so that children can strengthen their motivation to learn, or their communication skills, so that children can talk and deal with things well.
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If you want to solve the problem of early love among junior high school students, it is possible to solve the problem of early love among junior high school students only by educating more first, guiding more and paying more attention to them.
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Puppy love is a manifestation of lack of love. Junior high school students are generally older, and those are classmates who are lagging behind in their grades. Before solving the problem of puppy love, I would like to ask if parents really have enough care and education for their children?
I have a neutral opinion on the early love of junior high school students, I think that knowing that people go out to study is like early love, and it is not a big deal, as long as it does not cause death. Of course, most puppy love is a hindrance to learning. You have to ask a counselor for this specific guidance.
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In this era of openness, if you kill his bud, it will be in his heart that will never be able to pass the ups and downs.
I think it's better not to talk about them, as long as every time there is too much deviation, methods such as; Adjust them to a table, so that after a long time they will find each other's shortcomings, so that the short-term relationship will pass, sometimes the interaction between classmates of the opposite sex would have been very pure, but after being talked about by others, it has deteriorated, and it is easy to be self-defeating!! Hehe, I'm a middle school student!!
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