How do you think about the problem of parents handling the marriage of their children?

Updated on society 2024-05-19
23 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    I don't think there's any harm in listening to your parents, after all, they eat more salt than you eat, and they still have a long-term vision than yours, and they can see people more accurately than you. I just didn't listen to my parents, and now I'm in a mess. The parents choose for you, generally because they feel that they will be more developed in the future and can bring you material things.

    Then you will feel how good your husband is. Love is an unreliable thing, there is it today, and it will not be tomorrow. No one can take love as a meal for a lifetime, and the feeling of two people who love each other for a long time will be dull, just like if you look at a beautiful person, you don't think he's beautiful after a long time, and you don't feel ugly when you look at an ugly person for a long time.

    Right? If you find happiness yourself, it's okay, but you can't tell your parents if you're unhappy, it's your own fault and don't listen to the old man. This is more likely.

    In the future, if you can't live a material life, you will regret it, and there is a possibility that you will regret it. It is not excluded that the two of them are also living well. In short, it would be better to listen to the opinions of our parents, we have a family of sisters, and the husbands are all found by our parents, and now they are all very developed, and they are living a very nourishing life.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    The life of the parents, the words of the matchmaker! The gift of people is also, and the foundation of filial piety is also!

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    In my view of marriage: parents always want us to find a good partner (in their eyes)? The starting point is for our good, I can understand that!

    But what is the purpose of our courtship? And certainly find yourself someone you love and love you? This is called happiness!

    It may take a long time to find such a person, doesn't it mean that "people will see people's hearts over time"? I've seen a lot of people who met through "blind dates", but it was because they didn't know each other that they found out that 'he wasn't really suitable for me' that led to the breakdown of the relationship or divorce...To clarify, I'm not against this "blind date"....The most important thing is to see how you are doing it for your marriage. in order to communicate more convincingly with your parents...I don't know if I can help you, I hope to find a good home!

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    See how your parents are looking for the person you are looking for, and if it meets your requirements, it will be great......If not, talk to your parents about your ......

    If you already have a lover, then confess it to your parents

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Parents can only suggest, not interfere, and fully respect the feelings of their children!

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    First of all, you have to understand that the people who can get married are already adults, and your children are already adults! They are not only your children, but also a mature adult, if as an adult your children can't handle your own marriage, do you think you can handle someone else's marriage as another adult? I don't know what your specific situation is, but I can see that you should be very concerned about the lives of children when you ask such a question, as the saying goes, caring is messy, and sometimes it is even better to do the wrong thing with good intentions.

    When the children have grown up, let them deal with their own problems, including marital problems.

    Unless they're looking for advice from you, let them find their own answers. A person's marriage can never be smooth and smooth without contradictions, and when there are contradictions, it is good to resolve the contradictions. You're in a hurry on the side, jumping in a hurry, maybe it's already settled over there.

    For children's affairs, housework, or marriage, don't worry too much and get involved. It is enough to support the children from afar, care for them and not cause them trouble. In the final analysis, marriage is still a matter of two people, and the more people get involved, the worse it is.

    Sometimes, the children's marriage is actually not a big problem, and the parents on both sides are involved, but they have nothing to do.

    Sometimes it is between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and sometimes it is the original family that constantly intervenes in the affairs of the small family and points fingers, resulting in endless problems in the relationship between husband and wife in the small family. Bless your children and leave the rest to the children themselves. Today, in the 21st century, marriage is not the only destination in life, it is good to have a happy marriage, if something irreparable happens in the marriage, it is not a good thing to end this bad marriage.

    Looking at marriage with a frank and open mind, and looking back, the contradictions in the children's marriage are not a problem. They will be fine, and I believe that they will find their own happiness.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    As a parent, I first want to ask my children some questions, if there is a problem with their own children, then we must actively educate, if it is a daughter-in-law or son-in-law, then we must let the children be tolerant at this time, because they are not easy.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Parents should understand some of the problems in their children's marriage, and persuade them to do something, and they can help them as a person who has come before.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    I think as a parent should help your children sort out this thought, and then let them make their own decisions, so that they don't resent their parents in the future.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    As a parent, of course, it is necessary to persuade peace and let the children communicate well, rather than directly denying their marriage and believing that it is the fault of one party, which is also wrong.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    When there is a problem in the marriage of children, parents should counsel, dissuade, mediate, and try to maintain their marriage.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    I think parents should respect their children's decisions after analyzing the pros and cons for their children, after all, if there is a problem in their marriage, it is up to them to solve it.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    As a parent, you should not interfere too much, and you should leave it to the two children to deal with, but you should also give them some advice, and finally how to choose to leave it to the children to deal with.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Parents should communicate well with their children, give them advice and suggestions, and tell them how to solve the problem.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    You should ask your daughter and son-in-law what they think about each other, and then see what is the cause of their trouble, and then decide what to do.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    The answer to this question should first be considered from the perspective of parents.

    First, it depends on your family relationships.

    How is it. Is your relationship with your parents a friendship or a traditional Chinese parent-child relationship? If it's the former, then parents will definitely ask for your opinion when they encounter problems; If it is the latter, the opinions of the children, in the eyes of the parents, are often the opinions of the children, and they are not so important.

    Second, it depends on the severity of the problem.

    If the problem is serious, then in the eyes of the parents, this kind of problem will often have a significant impact, except for the elders, the opinions of any children may not be of much help to solve the problem; If the problem is small, then your opinion can often play a role in easing the family atmosphere, and it is okay to ask.

    Third, it is necessary to look at the stage and scope of the problem.

    If the scope of the problem is only within the family, then you can be a member of the family and make your suggestions, pointing out the contradictions and solutions to the problem. If the scope of the problem is already known to the entire family group, then as the opinion of the children, it can only be from a caring point of view, and some other doubts are useless.

    From the perspective of children, the way of dealing with fathers and daughters and fathers and sons is still exquisite.

    In short, as a child, you are very concerned about your father's problems, which is a very positive phenomenon, so before you decide whether to help your mother deal with this problem, you must consider the above factors. It must be results-oriented.

    If you can achieve your goal, then do it; If you feel that from your parents' point of view, what you are doing will not do anything to solve the problem except for affecting the parent-child relationship, then you should wait for the patient to calm down before considering intervening.

    Secondly, your own mentality, everything can be done with a clear conscience, and many things in the world are not transferred by personal will. Although the words are also old-fashioned, think about this sudden epidemic.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Of course, if the child is already an adult, he has the right to interfere in the marriage of his parents, and he should help his parents solve the problem.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    There should be no interference, as everyone should have the right to decide their own marital status, so there should be no interference.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    Children should not interfere. Because only they know the marital situation of their parents, they are also adults and can make the most correct judgments.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Children should intervene, after all, married girls are also part of the family, and the children's advice should be sought.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    As a child, I will support the twilight love of the elderly in my family, but I will also consider many factors.

    First and foremost, older people need support and love. If the elderly are enjoying the sunset red life and they want to start a family with another person, then I will support them.

    Second, children need to consider their own circumstances. If the children are waiting for marriage or looking for other job opportunities, then they may have reservations about the old man's twilight love, because he may think that the old man should not engage in such behavior now.

    In addition, children also need to consider the happiness and feelings of the elderly. If an elderly person is already old, their mental health may be affected by marriage. If the elderly feel that they are in good shape and that their relationship with another person can bring happiness and satisfaction, then I will also support their decision.

    Finally, I believe that children should respect the wishes and lifestyles of the elderly. Older persons have the right to decide their own lives, including marriage and family life. We at Ascension should respect their wishes, but at the same time take into account our social and cultural values.

    To sum up, as a child, I will support the twilight love of the elderly in my family, but I will also consider many factors. We should respect the wishes of older people, but at the same time we should support their decisions and provide them with help and support.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    Legal Analysis: No, the sale of marriages and other acts that interfere with the freedom of marriage ° The freedom of marriage here refers to the freedom of citizens in the marriage relationship, including the freedom to marry, the freedom to divorce, the freedom to choose a spouse, etc. Interfering with children's freedom to marry is illegal and prohibited by Chinese law.

    Legal basis: Civil Code of the People's Republic of China

    Article 1041: Marriage and family are protected by the state. Freedom of marriage, monogamy, and equality between men and women are practiced. Protect the legitimate rights and interests of women, minors, the elderly, and the disabled.

    Article 1042:Arranged marriages, buying and selling marriages, and other acts that interfere with the freedom of marriage are prohibited. It is forbidden to solicit money or property under the pretext of marriage. Bigamy is prohibited. It is forbidden for a spouse to cohabit with another person. Domestic violence is prohibited. Abuse and abandonment between family members are prohibited.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    From a personal point of view, as a parent, you need to respect your children's choices and wishes first and foremost. When dealing with the marital problems of children, they should be given active support and assistance, and any form of interference or coercion should be avoided as much as possible. Be as understanding, respectful and accepting as possible about your child's partner, especially if their background, culture and values are different from the family, and be respectful and aware of their differences and needs.

    From the perspective of the family, considering the factors affecting the interests of the family and the reputation of the family, parents need to weigh their children's marriage decisions accordingly. In this case, parents can work out specific plans and goals by communicating with their children in order to better resolve marital issues. At the same time, parents should also plan for their children's future, such as preparing funds for their children and providing them with necessary help and support for their life and marriage.

    From a societal point of view, parents should also take into account the impact that their children's marriage may have on society. For example, if a child's choice to marry is not understood or opposed by society, parents can consider taking some measures to reduce the negative impact, such as promoting positive energy and insisting on true love.

    In short, as a parent, you need to consider various factors, respect your child's choice, support their decision, and provide necessary help and support.

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