Nasty relatives in the countryside, why are relatives in the countryside becoming more and more estr

Extraordinary times have to be dealt with by extraordinary means.

Let your sister stay at your house when you come, and then go back when your brother-in-law has cleaned up.

This is a difficult problem, the previous few years of this problem is still more prominent, now with the change of the times, similar things are also changing, the countryside also has a good side, slowly understand their simplicity, you will slowly adapt, and the current situation means that you will have more unhappiness, these things do not take it seriously in the future It is inevitable who will use whom, home and everything

I can't say what happened to the rural people. It's just that you have different living habits from others, and you use your eyes to measure others. Maybe you haven't noticed their simplicity and kindness.

Tell them anything directly, or turn on your sister to them? Just ask them to pay attention. No, it's someone else's, and you can take extraordinary measures.

Rural people are like that, and you tell them what life is like in the city. They really don't understand, they will know next time, they should pay attention, let your brother-in-law tell them these words.

Marrying a person is equivalent to marrying his family, and you must tolerate his family, otherwise you will have to divorce.

Besides, counting up to the five generations, how many of them are not from the countryside? With good living habits, you should not look down on the bad habits of others. Otherwise, it is a dictionary that forgets its ancestors.

Therefore, before getting married, don't just look at personal conditions, but also look at his family environment and friends, otherwise, you will only ask for trouble.

Maybe that's their habit! As for those who don't slipper, you can tell them, I think they can understand, after all, it is a family, as the saying goes, a family does not speak two words! You can talk to them!

Just tell those people and tell them to pay attention

People are in the rivers and lakes, and they can't help themselves.

The first type: relatives who love to compare, this kind of relatives are too common in our countryside, as soon as their family buys something new or their own family buys a car, or their children are admitted to college, or the son or daughter finds a rich and good partner, they begin to show off. This is a situation, another situation is that if your home has added some new furniture, the relative is unhappy, maybe you will have to quarrel with your husband when you go back, complaining that it is not as good as your family, this kind of relative is actually not able to see others live better than him!

Relatives. The second type: especially love to pretend to be poor relatives, such relatives no matter whether their own family has money or not, they like to pretend to be poor, complaining all day long that they are not good, and the family is not good, as if their poverty is caused by you, quite a "I am poor and I am reasonable" posture!

Relatives. The third type: especially dislike the poor and love the rich relatives, this kind of relatives, when your family is poor, do not look at you at all, if your child is a little promising, he thinks that he can rely on your family's relationship, this will begin to flatter you, and you will be a sycophant!

Relatives. Fourth: like nosy relatives, this kind of relatives we have the most in the countryside, these relatives often don't worry about their own affairs, always have to manage whether your children have an object, how much money they make a month, and manage your parents' shortcomings, not only to manage but also to go to the whole village to talk about these things of yours, so that you are very helpless!

Relatives. Fifth: love to take advantage of the small relatives, this kind of relatives in our countryside is not uncommon, they like to take your things, as small as a piece of clothing, a watermelon, as big as anything to close the side, in short, I think your family is good, do not need money to take it for free!

Relatives. Sixth: relatives who owe money and do not pay it back, this kind of relatives are more in our rural areas, everything has to be stretched out to you to return your hand, ask you for money, borrow money this time, and do not pay you back after borrowing.

You asked him if he wanted it, and he said that he had no money, but you found out behind your back that he was holding the money and deliberately not returning the money to you, what do you say?

Relatives. Seventh: Relatives who like to sarcastically ridicule, such relatives often have a "bad mouth", they often like to ridicule us directly, or directly ridicule us where it hurts the most, and they often always carry those "sour" things in their words.

Relatives. Eighth: Relatives who sneak up on trembling oak things, this type of relatives is not uncommon, they tend to be "unsteady", which means that they often sneak something back to their home in your house, and over time you will find that as long as they come to your house, there will be something missing in your house.

There can be many reasons why relatives in rural areas are estranged, and here are some of the possible ones:

Population mobility: With the difference in urban-rural development, more and more young people choose to work and live in cities, causing them to leave the countryside and become less connected to their rural relatives.

Different social circles: With the cultural differences between urban and rural areas, people's social circles have also become different. Relatives in the city may be more inclined to find their social circle in the city, while relatives in the countryside are more inclined to be with other farmers.

High cost of communication: With the distance and cultural differences between urban and rural areas, the cost of communication is also increasing. Relatives in urban areas may be more likely to communicate with others through the Internet and modern communication technologies, but relatives in rural areas may not have such conditions or are less familiar with these technologies.

Different values: As society develops, the values of people in urban and rural areas may differ, which can also lead to alienation between relatives in urban and rural areas.

In conclusion, the reasons for the estrangement of relatives in rural areas can be multifaceted, which requires a specific analysis of the specific situation.

There is a saying in the countryside that I don't know if you remember. Called: "A table to a thousand miles", this sentence means that relatives are still relatives in this generation, once to the word "table", relatives will be far away, if you don't move around, there is not much difference from ordinary people.

So why is this happening?

Nowadays, most of the rural people go out to work, and they don't go home until they go out in their twenties in the first lunar month, and they are busy with their own work, and they really don't even have time to go to relatives. In the past, in addition to New Year's greetings, relatives walked around, and there were two festivals: the Dragon Boat Festival and the Mid-Autumn Festival. Nowadays, few people move around these two festivals, except for the New Year's greetings and lying down.

Just as we rural people say ourselves, it is faster to pay New Year's greetings now than to go up the mountain to chop firewood. Walking around and saying a few words, putting down the gifts and leaving, even relatives didn't have time to make tea. Some of them also shook their hands vigorously, don't soak, don't soak, so-and-so relatives' family has just drunk it, and I want to drive so-and-so family to visit the New Year.

Let's talk about it, is this like going to relatives? I don't think it's better to be in a hurry.

In the eyes of young people, only the mother-in-law's family is a relative, and other relatives are not relatives. There is a saying: "a table to go thousands of miles", to the table of the word generation there are few people to move, only those who have not married a daughter-in-law nephew, there is no place to go to the New Year's greetings, will go to the mother-in-law's house, there is a wife will only go to the mother-in-law's house, and the mother's uncle's house may not be recognized by the door facing east and west.

At present, the gap between the rich and the poor in the rural areas is too great, not to mention that others look down on them, if they are poor, even relatives and sisters look down on them, and sometimes even their parents look down on them. Formed a relationship between you and my relatives, the rich relatives are afraid that the poor relatives will borrow money from him, and if they don't borrow it, they can't say it, and they are afraid that they can't pay it back if they borrow. What about poor relatives?

You have yours, I can't put it aside, I won't come to the knot, no matter how poor I am, I won't come to your door. In this way, the relatives are cold to each other, so no one wants to move around, some relatives still have old people in their families who have to go, and others don't go, and some don't even go to build a house, marry a daughter-in-law, marry a daughter, etc., and the blood relationship between relatives is broken.

I don't know if my dad borrowed their money in the last life and didn't pay it back, and the children in the family were mixed up with my dad, and then those relatives, whether it was renting a house, the child was rebellious, the child went to school, or buying a house and a car, decorating the house, and everything. The child rebelled and didn't want to go to school, so I asked my dad to persuade him to take him to the restaurant for dinner. The child went to college, and you didn't believe it when I said it, my father didn't send me personally when I went to college, but my father personally sent the children from my aunt's family and uncle's family.

The child was admitted to graduate school, and my father asked him to review in school.

In addition to his kitchen, bedroom, bed, TV, refrigerator, from the decoration to the sofa, table and chairs, none of them are not mine! Really, no one else believes me when I say it! So far, he has never mentioned the settlement, and his grandmother loves his little son the most, if his little son has nothing, he will cry and let him get it.

The most hateful thing is my aunt's house, my son graduated from secondary school and went to the provincial capital, and my daughter's graduate school went to Shanghai, and every day I explicitly hinted that our family mixed so well, Apple is the provincial capital, and my daughter was chased by several people, not Shanghai. I'm really speechless, my aunt and uncle are both working in the factory owned by my father, I used to like my aunt very much, but I didn't expect people to change when they became rich, they always compared me with her daughter, and now they can't talk well.

Dad's biggest flaw is that he doesn't have a son, and his uncle and uncle have sons. Grandma doesn't like girls, usually go home for the New Year, the things are taken home by my father, grandma is reluctant to give his grandson to the uncle's son, my aunt's daughter has just been in graduate school for a year, grandma all kinds of praise, my sister is admitted to the civil service and graduate school I don't know how to choose, know what my grandma said? What did my daughter's family go to school, how old was it to find a partner, and my mother's face was green at that time.

Who can experience the feeling of having a group of relatives following them when traveling on holidays? Who would have understood that you wanted to have a family dinner, but your father called his siblings.

Dad broke his heart, but in exchange for Shengmien's hatred. I quarreled with my dad a few times about this, and my dad was still very puzzled, they were all brothers and sisters, and he often said this. I don't know what my dad did in his previous life, he helped them uncontrollably, and once you didn't meet their requirements, they thought you looked down on people.

My aunt was too lazy to find a school district room and didn't want to go or my dad helped her, my sister-in-law and my dad were the opposite, the brothers and sisters never moved around and didn't even go to my dad for surgery, only she and her son were in her eyes.

I hate relatives! I hate them for being hypocritical, I hate them for being lazy, and I hate them for being white-eyed wolves. I think my dad should see a psychiatrist.

Indeed, as said in the comments, we never understand the feelings of the previous generation, and every time he talks about the past, he discusses how his parents supported him to go to school when he was poor, and how he and his brother went to university together. But we also have our own things, and people can't always live in memories.

I don't hate it, because I think that both rich and poor are worthy of respect, and they also earn a living on their own labor.

Don't hate it, how many people are real city people, look at the three generations above, basically they are rural people, rural people live by their own efforts, there is nothing to be ashamed of.

Not annoying. Because I myself came from the countryside, the people in the village are very kind and simple, and the most important thing is not to forget my roots, and I have never hated my relatives at home.

I don't hate my relatives in the countryside, because they are all very simple and welcoming, unlike my relatives in the city, who love to compare and look down on people.

It's really troublesome to meet this kind of relative, and I understand your feelings. People are divided into three, six, nine and so on, the good and the bad are uneven, and your family is too good, which brings out the shortcomings of his family even more. Since then again, since they are relatives, they are also destined to meet and get along, so they should be strict with themselves, be lenient with others, respect and stay away, and they will be more comfortable if they don't have the same knowledge.

You can talk to your grandma about these things, let your grandma know that you help them, and they are still being bullied, and they don't have to borrow money next time, because there is no need to get along anymore, because grandma is alive, so it's okay to maintain a relationship on the surface.

First you need to ask your parents for their opinion. The reason is not that the parties should not mix. For example, what if your uncle and your father were always very good when they were young, always protecting him, and maybe even saving his life?

I see that the conditions of your home as described by you are also okay. Is your dad willing?

If not look any further.

If your parents are not happy, forget it if the money is not returned, pay attention to collect and retain evidence. Grandma won't make trouble if she is still here, and when grandma is gone, she can ask for some of it back through legal channels.

As for yourself, you can not associate with them, or just socialize as a courtesy. There's no need to tear your feet apart.

Since they are relatives, try to be tolerant, if you can't tolerate them, you should avoid them appropriately and reduce friction.

With the acceleration of the pace of life, the feelings between people are becoming more and more indifferent, and the interaction between relatives is becoming less and less, which leads to the gathering of relatives during the New Year's holidays has become a burden.

I hate relatives as adults A hot topic in this year's Spring Festival, many wanderers, especially young people, do not have a very good impression of their relatives, and even do not want to socialize, and hide if they can, resulting in the embarrassing situation of "relatives are becoming more and more annoying and estranged" is caused by many factors.

With the abundance of material resources and the development of urbanization, the disintegration of human clan society is inevitable, and the rise of civil society with flamboyant individuality and self-emphasis has become inevitable. Individual thinking, the status and leading role of the individual in the group make young people need to face more topics that are not related to them and do not like them.