Friends can t make an appointment, how to express the anger in my heart

For how to express anger appropriately, we first need to figure out what anger is. Anger is a manifestation of excessive anxiety or dissatisfaction. It is depressed for a long time or too dissatisfied with a certain state of affairs at the moment, and in a fixed period of time, the inner anger explodes instantly.

Some people say that long-term repression can also make people angry? The answer is yes. If you expect to reach a certain level or a certain effect in life or work for a long time, and after repeated efforts, you will eventually fail to achieve your goals, and you will have an irrepressible emotion in your heart.

The second is the situation where anger erupts at the moment of momentary dissatisfaction with something. This kind of anger can be instantaneous, and it can erupt immediately, even to the point where it is difficult to control, and the impact is extremely high. This is also an extremely common manifestation of anger.

There are two ways to express anger. One is the representation of sanity. One is the over-radical representation.

Most of the rational expressions are based on the case, leaving angrily, and no longer asking questions, ignoring the performance and attitude. There are also two ways to express excess: one is noisy; One is in the form of a rage attack.

If you make a big noise, there will not be any big consequences after the quarrel, but it will hurt the feelings between colleagues and friends. Furious episodes can develop into uncontrollable conditions, with unpredictable and serious consequences. If it damages public or private property, harms the body of others, and even worse, harms the lives of others.

Judging from the above analysis, the best way to express anger is to get up and leave angrily. Then go for a run, karaoke, 、......Exude the anger in your heart. After the mood is calm, sort out and communicate. May you all be at peace! Always healthy!

Since it's a good friend, I think he really encountered something that can't leave, or I will definitely accept your invitation, as a good friend, you should be considerate of each other, don't go your own way, friends can't revolve around you all the time, or be considerate of each other, as far as your expression is concerned, since you are good friends, I think you express your anger correctly, he won't be angry, after all, you have a deep friendship, in the foundation, as long as you don't do anything excessive? I don't think it will affect your relationship, right? I missed this opportunity, and next time I have the opportunity to make another appointment, with this guilt, I think he will be happy to go to the appointment next time!

We must keep running, looking for the original dream, sorting out the layers of suffering, and locking the direction of the future, in order to unravel the mystery and pour out the fog, and finally have a satisfactory destination. Flowing water, limited time, taking advantage of the early sunshine, bright as fresh, we are still in the best period of life, the true feelings of their own bright future, steadfastly fulfill the firm footprints, will not be in vain this life, blooming bright brilliance.

I waited for her stupidly in the cold wind, and in exchange for her ruthless words, I was not available. (You can't change it to what she said to you at the time).

Put it at ease, both men and women should be equal in a relationship, there is no need to keep your voice down, some women love to do some useless things, in the name of testing their boyfriends, how can you really love you be willing to wait for him, so think for yourself.

Don't be like that, learn to be generous.

She got angry with you, proposed to her, and sent the ring and roses.

Because it may be that the other girl is also more reserved before the luck.

So if you don't sell it, you have to be so urgent, you can't give each other happiness now.

Let's not spoil her beauty.

It's good for both of you.

Do you care what other people say?

How do you know if you don't go to an appointment?

If your friend says no, it won't work?

Could it be that your friend said that the earth is not rotating, and the earth is really not rotating?

I really don't understand, why do you care so much about other people's opinions, you just want them to give you some confidence.

Now they don't give you confidence, you give yourself confidence.

Be bold and talk to her, of course, tactfully, to show that you have a good impression of her.

The whole world is turbid, and I am alone.

Everyone is drunk, and I am sober.

What do they know.

It's not their business.

What does Brother Ren think?

Believe in yourself. There is no fault with the ......

I don't think it's so serious to eat a meal.

Ordinary friends can also go out to eat together.

That's all what my friend said, does your friend know her? Not necessarily! You don't have to eat when you ask her out, take her to the amusement park, it's more open.

If there is no first time, how will it develop in the future?

If you like it, say yes. I don't need to do anything when I was a child. Care. The key is how people are now.

Maybe you can't leave, or maybe you don't want to hang out with you.

The first can be used in a mocking tone, with casual jokes to express your dissatisfaction with him, and you now have an opinion about him. Second, you can say it more casually when chatting, saying you know, in fact, I'm very angry now, because of how you are, but I'm a person with a good personality and more tolerant, so I can still bear it, but you have to change it next time, otherwise how can others bear you in the future, this will not make the atmosphere embarrassing. Clause.

3. Keep silent, you don't like to talk too much when you're angry, or talk to the person who makes you angry, you will be even more angry, so ignoring it is also a good choice, you can do your own things and play your own game.

It's fine to say it, but don't be too blunt. You can say to someone: I'm really angry because I don't want to lose my temper with the people I care about, so I chose to tell you.

As long as you are a person who really cares about you, and your IQ is passable, he will definitely sincerely express his mistakes, and then make you happy.

It's easy to express anger, but it's a technique to express anger elegantly. The best way to do this is to be sarcastic and rhetorical. Sometimes a few simple words not only refute his face and make him unable to get off the stage, but also make himself angry.

Speaking is also an art, and in terms of people, such as retreating, irony, and drawing salaries from the bottom of the kettle, are all good methods. Like some large-scale palace fighting dramas, house fighting dramas, you often use this method, you can go to learn more about it.

Some people have no temper, and even if they are angry, they hold it in their hearts for fear of troublesome others, so that they have wronged themselves and may not be able to give others a good deal.

On the one hand, it may be a lack of confidence in yourself, and on the other hand, you are afraid that venting it will damage your relationships. The method of suppressing anger and valuing peace is not appropriate, let alone a long-term solution, because if it is suppressed for a long time, it may be more terrifying when it erupts.

Why express anger.

The value of expressing anger is to rebuild one's own relationships with others. If you don't express your anger, you will be considered bullied and unprincipled by others. Expressing anger, the other party is more willing to make friends.

Parents came in and out of our rooms at will, rummaging through our things. Our colleagues have disclosed our personal information to others without their consent. After waiting in line at the supermarket for more than ten minutes to pay, a few people suddenly cut in the queue.

In these situations, we may feel that our boundaries and rights have been violated and we may feel very angry. So expressing anger is actually defending our boundaries. Expressing one's anger appropriately is not only good for your physical and mental health, but also for the development of your relationships and your career success.

What is anger.

American psychologist Jacques Sillar said: "Anger is an internal uncomfortable reaction, caused by a feeling of unfairness and unacceptable frustration." "Clearly, behind the anger is fear and powerlessness.

There is an old Chinese saying that "anger becomes anger". It's easy to get angry when you're angry and ashamed. Rapid heartbeat, hot headhead, hot face, and a series of uncomfortable physical and mental reactions occur. The body is reminding us that we need to express our anger.

It's okay and allowed to express anger, and even people who are good at expressing anger are more likely to be respected by others. Only by showing their true and complete selves can others be willing to truly establish a relationship with us.

How to express anger appropriately.

So, how do you properly express anger? Here are a few things to try:

Be prepared to be rational rather than emotional before expressing anger.

If anger is not processed rationally, and is directly expressed through a certain behavior, the blood rushes up, the brain is hot, and the fight with the other party rudely may cause endless trouble. Rational preparation is also very simple, that is, not acting according to one's own impulsive will.

A classmate, Xiao Ming, is often bullied by the same child in kindergarten, and he is very angry every time he goes home.

Dad told him: "There are two options in the face of this matter: the first is to improve your own ability, so that the other party will no longer dare to bully." The second is to run a little faster so that the other party can't catch up. ”

This is the preparation of reason, without harsh words and without reckless use of force.

So it's okay to say, "When you do this, I'm angry. I feel like I've been hurt, and I want you to ask my opinion first. Please don't do this again, if you do this to me again, I won't be friends with you again. ”

Moreover, being rational at the moment of expression also allows others to see their principles and attitudes.

You can express it with the severity of the tone, or focus on repeating a sentence or two, or add some winks. If the other party is not a fool, he will naturally understand. If he continues to say it when he knows that you are angry, then you don't have to worry about his face, after all, respect is two-sided, it is impossible for you to be excluded by the other party all the time, and it is also necessary to fight back appropriately, so that he knows that you are not a soft persimmon.

You can use some rhetoric to express it, for example, if someone makes me unhappy, I can say that I am fortunate that I have a good temper, otherwise I would have broken off my friendship with you a long time ago, so that the atmosphere will not be awkward, and I will also express my anger. Or don't talk directly, express your anger with silence, the other party should be able to feel your unhappiness when they see that you don't speak, so that the scene will not get out of control.

People will have times of anger, and the person who can control his emotions is the master. The best way to control your emotions is to vent. Take out all your anger elsewhere, and everyone vents it in a different way.

Personally, when I'm angry, I like to go to the playground and run until I'm too tired to stop. Sweating profusely, it also calmed myself down a lot. When I was in college, I guess I encountered a lot of angry things.

University is really a big dye vat, and anyone can meet it. I remember when I bought a printer and printed all over my bedroom, I don't think there's anything wrong with that. But before using someone else's stuff, shouldn't you say it first?

The dormitory is never spoken by anyone, and it is printed directly. Forget it once or twice, and it turns out like this every time. At one point I was really angry that she didn't respect people at all.

I wanted to have a direct fight with her, but I couldn't help it, and I slammed the door and walked out. Then I went to the playground and ran ten laps, and the anger was dissipated by the wind. When you're angry, it's easy to do something wrong.

It's best to do nothing at first and find a way to vent that works for you. Some people like to find a friend to go out for a big meal and then complain all the time. This is also a good way for everyone to talk to, and when you encounter something angry, you can go to a friend for comfort.

Or you can go to a movie, relax, or even go for a walk by the river alone. Go to a quiet place and think about it. Some people like a quiet way, and some people like a noisy way, which has something to do with people's personalities.

Some of my friends are angry, so they like to draw in their notebooks, or go to the river to sit and sit. Some friends like to drag you to video game cities or Internet cafes to vent, and go to song halls all night. Everyone deals with things differently, but the most important thing is to calm down first, losing your temper won't solve anything, and it will make things worse.

It seems that you have no dignity in your whole person, and others will say that you have a bad temper. Calm is king!

In fact, if you want to express your anger elegantly, I feel that you can use this accent to tell the other party, your behavior, your way of doing things, your attitude makes me feel very angry, so I don't want to pay attention to you now, please don't mess with me, let's stop here today, and the rest will be talked about later.

First of all, you have to calm down, calm yourself, and don't break out the little volcano inside.

Secondly, think about the opponent's weaknesses and the points of counterattack, and then form words to refute him. This is where we can use rhetoric. Suppose, if the other party provokes you and you praise him, it will cause the other party to feel uneasy at this time, which is all the ironic effect of rhetoric.

In the end, you can express yourself elegantly and calmly, and it is best to pretend that you don't care.

This will not only make oneself aura, but also make oneself elegant.