Mom doesn t agree with my boyfriend, what should I do?

Mom disagrees, and she is worried.

You patiently tell your mother that he is a motivated person, how good he is to you, how good he is to you, you love him very much, you want to be with him, and then let him also express his determination that he will love you for the rest of his life, as long as his daughter can be happy. Mom will always agree.

Your mother is for your good, I believe that your parents will not harm you, after all, they have more experience in looking at people than our young people, since he can't give you the happiness you want, break up, the current society is so realistic, how to live without a certain economic foundation?

Sympathy, but it depends on your feelings, you have to work together, but you are quite conflicted, you have deviated from your mother, and you are going to give up, then you should hurt him as little as possible. Let's break up.

The question is contradictory. I think you should let your boyfriend find a stable job first. When the time comes, your mother will definitely agree.

Parents won't hurt you.

Take a good look at the love between you.

Sometimes material things are more important than feelings.

It is advisable to break up with him without hurting him too much.

I can't help you with this, everyone thinks differently. As I said, encourage him to do something. Come to your house slowly.

One cry and two fuss, it's OK after a long time.

If it's not suitable, don't be together.

The vision of the older generation is very accurate.

First of all, you need to really understand what is the reason why your mother disagrees, there is a saying that "mother-in-law looks at her son-in-law, and the more she looks at it, the more she likes it" Is it really these on the surface? If yes, then provide the following suggestions.

1. "Demolition problem" like what I said above, such as black, figure, etc., these are congenital and difficult to change, what needs to be done is that there are no bad habits, and improve personal image, which is easy to solve. Without talent, these are not a big deal. So do a picture of the image of the fastest this.

2. "Mention benefits" You are the bridge between your boyfriend and your mother, and your role is very important. You can talk more about his advantages in front of your mother, how good he is to you, such as being able to cook, it can be said that he takes care of his family after he gets married, and he doesn't have to cook himself (you can compare the neighbors who don't cook.) If you don't have talent, you won't be able to participate in the activities of the set, and you'll be fine, and you'll just get some blessings in the future, and you won't get three highs when you're old.

In a word, it is to play to the strengths and avoid the weaknesses.

3. "Looking for assists" You said that your boyfriend can't be too good, otherwise as you said, your mother thinks that what happens to girls who are outgoing and unmarried, so find someone who has a greater impact on her, the first choice must be your father, followed by your grandfather, and then your grandfather, so that through a long period of accumulation, I believe that your mother's attitude will change.

At last! Of course, you can "threaten" a little, saying that you can't find a more suitable one except for him, and you yourself may not want to remarry in the future, etc., and it is better to say a little, and blind obedience is not necessarily good. Appropriate "resistance" is the best, and finding a degree is the best.

What your parents say may not be right, but it will not hurt you.

If both parents are against love, it's best to think about it.

It's not about breaking up with you or anything, you can communicate with your parents first so that you know how unhappy they are with your boyfriend.

You don't have to ask your boyfriend to change or anything, you just need to see if you can accept the shortcomings that your parents said. Then the most important thing is that you will live together in the future, not with your parents, but you must ask your parents more before getting married, and don't be too anxious to get married.

Instead of you arguing with your mother, you should learn more about your boyfriend. See if he's really fit to be together for the rest of his life.

Don't pay too much attention to a person who is good to you, no matter how good your parents are, no matter how good your parents are good to you. Your parents raised you so much, and you didn't feel very good, but he just thought he was very good to you when he cooked you brown sugar water during your period.

1. Active communication.

First of all, you should explain to your parents that you love your boyfriend very much, and he has many advantages. In today's society, money can't solve everything, the most important thing is to value people's feelings, as long as they are good to themselves, that is the most important thing. If after marriage, the man hooks up outside for money, then the wife of the family is very sad, and the family will not go to the end.

Therefore, when looking for a husband, you must first value the other party's character rather than money, money is something outside the body, and it can be earned by two people working together.

2. Show your determination.

After all, when you are in love, you will live with your husband in the future, not your parents and your husband. Although the opinions of parents also have a great influence on everyone, after all, they start their own family. If you choose to break up just because your parents don't agree, it's disrespectful to the other party, and it also means that you are very unassertive, so you can listen to your parents' opinions when looking for a boyfriend, but if your parents say something wrong, you should also correct it in time, and you can't just listen to it.

3. Listen to your parents' opinions.

Because my parents are very old, they have a lot of experience in society. They may be able to see at a glance what kind of person has what kind of character, so as children, they should also listen to their parents' opinions. But if you find that your parents have something wrong, you don't have to listen.

There are some girls who are in love, so they are coaxed by men. When you get married, you should still keep your eyes open and find a husband who suits you.

1. Emphasize the strengths of your boyfriend.

One of the most common ways to influence parents' perception of a date is to emphasize the good qualities of your partner. Leigh Leslie and her colleagues' findings published in the Journal of Marriage and Family at the University of Maryland show that many people, especially young adults, strategically share information about their dating partner with their parents, while those who primarily share positive information that emphasizes the strengths of their partner are more likely to be approved by their parents. While you shouldn't lie to your parents or glorify your boyfriend's good qualities, it's helpful to focus on your partner's qualities, knowing that your parents will agree.

2. Show your commitment to your boyfriend.

Research has found that one of the factors with the greatest degree of parental approval for a relationship or a particular partner is the level of commitment between partners and the stage of the relationship. In other words, over time, as relationships become more serious, parents tend to be more endorsing of a relationship or a particular dating partner. Sometimes, it simply means the best thing you can do to get your parents to recognize that your boyfriend is patient and let time pass.

Don't conflict with your mother first, your boyfriend is willing to make changes in order to be with you, which shows that he really loves you and wants to go on with you, so you also have to show the reason why you want to be with him all the time, to put it mildly, your mother is just an outsider in your relationship, only you can feel your boyfriend's love for you, your mother may be a little picky about his shortcomings, you can talk to your mother more about his advantages, so that your mother can feel your persistence and love for your boyfriend, Then slowly influence your mother, and tell your mother not to always talk about his shortcomings, he is also changing, I hope she can support you together, I hope your mother will not affect your feelings.

Your mom is turning a blind eye You know that you can't wake up someone who is pretending to be asleep (her reasons are just because she thinks you deserve better...It's not that he's not good enough, it's that you should find a better one) You also said that your parents don't have a retirement salary, in fact, it's mainly because of the conditions and family (hardware is most likely an excuse) After all, she has come over Some things are considered more and far you have to understand She also has her reason Grasp the key points to talk about it (conditions, your choice in the future) People, you see it, then you can still stop you from marrying, but you also have to listen to some of their real thoughts (not superficial, definitely have deep concerns, long-term) to talk about, and also clearly express their own views and positions If you don't let it go, no one can force you to let it go, after all, your own happiness (adulthood, do it yourself, but the consequences are good or bad).

If you like this boyfriend very much, then make it clear to your parents and let your actions influence her, so you can't mess with your parents, you can only say it well.

As long as the two of you really love each other and kiss your mother, she will still agree.

Dear, I suggest you elope.