Mom said that when she reaches the age of marriage, just find someone who can make do with her life,

You can't get married for the sake of getting married, marriage is a lifelong thing, although you can't achieve perfection, you can't compromise on perfection. The elderly think that they must get married when they reach the age of marriage, and they can live a lifetime after marriage, whether it is good or bad, but now society is not good, and marriages without emotional foundation are not strong.

Your mother is right, how many people have died and lived after love, but there are really a lot of divorces after marriage, where does love go, love is also based on money, there is no money, firewood, rice, oil and salt to live, every day will worry about money, more and more quarrels, contradictions, love is gone.

In fact, I think it is very important to find a suitable person, but two people must have an emotional foundation, if two people have no emotional foundation, then there will be a lot of contradictions after being together, and it is impossible to be happy, so don't cheer on your life in order to meet your parents' wishes.

Actually, what your mother said makes sense.

After all, it is necessary to have this state of mind when talking about feelings and romance, if your mood is worn out in real life, then where does all this start?

Only those who are well-fed and clothed and do not worry about money can be qualified to talk about feelings before and after spending money. Otherwise, I will run around for my livelihood all day long, go home at night and sleep before dawn the next day, earlier than the chickens get up.

That's definitely not the case, most people get married because of love.

1. Love each other. Marriage is two people living together, each other, so the relationship between each other is the most solid cornerstone of marriage, the relationship between two people, not to say that you must love to death, sometimes it is also a very important factor, because many people know the other half of their lives in the blind date of their parents, so for them, it is a particularly important factor to see and feel comfortable. There is a particularly classic question:

Are you willing to show that you love you or do you love, in fact, for me, the person I love happens to love me, which is a very happy ending, but in real life, it may not be as wishful as imagined, so I will accept to find one that looks suitable, because feelings can be cultivated, as long as he is good to me, good to my family, and not messing around.

2.There must be a certain material foundation between the two parties who are ready to get married, there will be girls who say, I love him as a person, I don't care whether he has money or not, but the sweet words before marriage, the firewood, rice, oil and salt after marriage, he can not be so rich, but at least there must be a job, between the two of you must be able to afford life, there must be a certain residence, girls, don't get married as soon as your brain is hot, although it is possible that your marriage partner is not so rich now, but please make sure that your current life is passableand he is a self-motivated person.

You can work together to make life better.

3.The problem of children after marriage, there are many marriage problems between couples that revolve around children, how many children to have, when to have children, and whether to work after having children, because of the current feminism.

The awakening of girls, the dedication of girls is becoming stronger and stronger, so it is very important to measure the problem between women's careers and childbearing, as a man, listen more to the thoughts of their lovers, and not be too macho.

After all, everyone is the best gift that their parents bring to this world, and they have their own choices, and no one has the right to impose their own ideas and desires on others.

I think if two people love each other, they must be rushing to get married. Therefore, if two people can get married, they must have true love.

You know it all, it's someone who said, so why don't you know that there are still people who are martyred? Everyone has a different idea.

It is impossible to make do for a lifetime, and the final result will definitely be divorce. Nowadays, young people are so individual, if two people get married without feelings, they will definitely quarrel often after marriage. Two completely different people have different living habits, and they have to accommodate each other in order to get by.

Seeking common ground while reserving differences is the true meaning of marriage. Makeshift marriages are basically without an emotional foundation, and it is impossible for you to let a person who has no relationship with you accommodate you. The end result must be that they don't give in to each other and quarrel every day.

1. The older generation's view of marriage will always mislead today's young people.

My parents' generation always likes to say that marriage is okay, don't talk about what you don't love. In fact, this is wrong, their generation lived in very difficult conditions, and they were busy surviving every day, and they had no time to talk about spiritual pursuits. And the society at that time did not develop as fast as it is now, and everyone's cultural level was not high, that is, they could barely make do with it, and they would not divorce even if they couldn't get by, but this did not mean that they were happily married.

And this set of theories to be instilled in young people, the harm is very great, ignoring that the current era has completely changed, everyone is pursuing the object of the same three views, and the makeshift marriage must not last long.

Second, young people have their own ideas, and if they don't love each other, they will inevitably hurt each other.

Marriage should be half based on material conditions, half depends on whether they are in love, don't feel that it is not important to love each other, on the contrary, it is very important. If a man doesn't love you, will he accommodate you, spoil you, and take care of you? Definitely can't, it is estimated that every day I will find you fault or cold violence.

If a woman doesn't love you, will she be willing to be your virtuous helper at home? Definitely not, I guess I want to be separated from you every day. This kind of marriage is not interesting at all, everyone's hearts are not together, and separation is inevitable.

3. There is no intimacy in a makeshift marriage.

People have their own emotional needs, and the more material conditions are rich, the more they like to pursue their own spiritual world. Marriage is to have someone around you who knows the cold and the heat, to share the pressure of life, and to resolve your grievances. And two people who make do with it, it is estimated that they will not say a few words at home, and they are married purely to complete the task, not to mention Wen Cun is considerate, I guess I don't even want to look at you.

Therefore, a makeshift marriage must not last long, young people should not marry for the sake of getting married, find someone they don't like to marry, this will harm themselves and others. Only when we are responsible for ourselves can we have a happy marriage.

In modern society, people are still very free, and there is no need to make do all the time in order to maintain a marriage, so as to hurt yourself and others.

I don't think I can live a lifetime because a marriage without an emotional foundation is prone to accidents and can't last long.

Nowadays, young people are more practical, but there are also some who have too high requirements for love and each other, so that they delay the good time, and when they get older, they make do with finding one. But it's really hard to make do for a lifetime, if it happens that two people are in agreement, the three views are the same, and there will be sparks, but when the three views do not match, it will be difficult to go on.

You can live a lifetime of improvisation, but you can't live a happy life. At that time, I gritted my teeth and made a living, and it was too late to regret it later, and this kind of regret accumulated more and more in my heart, which would make my life even more unhappy in the future.