Why is it difficult for the post 80s generation to get along after getting married?

Relax your heart and learn to be tolerant of each other. If the other person does something that you are not happy with, you have to put yourself in his shoes and consider whether he is doing it for your own good. Quarrels are inevitable, but the key is to solve them from a good direction.

When it's okay, when you're in a good mood, talk about the past, the future, and communicate your feelings. If you are a girl, then be coquettish, don't be too strong, it's not good for you; If you're a gentleman, just take on a gentleman's example, don't worry about everything, if you're really like that, go back to the hospital for sex reassignment surgery, haha! Now that you're married, let's live well, cherish love, cherish marriage!

I wish you all happiness!

It has nothing to do with the difficulty of getting married and the post-0s. The main thing is to look at the contradiction between the two people. If you just get married, you need to run in for a long time. A hundred years of seeking the same boat, a thousand years of repair to sleep together.

Because the post-80s generation is a house slave, a car slave, a child slave, and a pension slave, of course it is difficult to get along.

There are too many reasons, we are all proud people, too calculating, neither of us is willing to pay a little more for each other, always thinking that we have given in enough and so on.

Which one is too assertive is also a problem.

There are too many reasons, and being selfish is the biggest one.

After getting married, there will be many contradictions that need to be reconciled slowly by both parties, regardless of which generation.

No, I'm a post-80s generation, married for 2 years, and my married life is very good, why does the landlord have this question???

Is it true that the marriage rate of the post-90s generation is less than 10%.

Fake.

Previously, it was reported on the Internet that there are currently about 100 million people in the post-90s group, and the statistics of their marriage data found that the post-90s who registered for marriage did not exceed 10 million couples, and the proportion was less than 10%.

First of all, it is a fake, pure rumor, and cannot be believed!

Why wouldn't they want to get married?

To paraphrase Tolstoy's famous saying: people who want to get married are all alike, and people who don't want to get married have their own concerns.

What is inevitable is definitely the economic problem, "when life does not consider a series of money-consuming issues such as getting married and buying a house, the rest of the world is opened." “

Who praises the ruler and counts the height of the post-90s?

Those born in 1990 to those born in 1999 are counted in the past ten years. Today, 99 years old in 2021, he has turned 22 years old. According to the relevant laws of the country, men can get married when they reach the age of 22 and women can get married when they reach the age of 20.

But the reality is that with the development of modern society, the vast majority of them marry late and have children later.

College students are about 22 years old after graduation, and most people may fall in love in college, and work for at least a few years after graduation before considering starting a family. Some are in graduate school, and if you have a doctorate, it is even more unlikely that you will marry early.

Therefore, over the years, the age of marriage has been pushed back for a long time.

It's hard to see what kind of life you want and what kind of wife you marry. Ordinary people don't have so many ups and downs in their lives, and it is not difficult to run a small family well with two people, occasionally have a petty bourgeois romance, and communicate well in case of trouble. If you want this, you want that, and drink more chicken soup from Douyin, then it will be difficult to get married.

After that, they didn't want to find a partner or have children. When they are urged to get married and have children, they tell their parents a different story"Theory"These girls believe that they are now financially independent and have a certain amount of security in their lives, and they will take care of themselves in the future.

Moreover, I am afraid that if I meet a bad other half, I will not only be hurt emotionally, but also bring a lot of distress to my later life. If you are old in the future and can no longer take care of yourself, you can go to a nursing home with good conditions, which is better than a bad family life and allowing children to care for the elderly. In this regard, I also have a deep experience, there was a post-90s girl who said that she didn't want to have children when she got married, she didn't want to be affected by children, she just wanted to enjoy life.

Weddings, funerals, and childbearing are the great traditional customs of the Chinese nation, and they are also the outstanding achievements of the recognition and practice of the 5,000-year-old civilization. We regard marriage and childbirth as a major and important event in life, and it has also created countless wonderful families for us. And these excellent traditions of the Chinese nation have been passed down from generation to generation in the family unit.

Oh, yes! In recent years, some female friends will feel that it doesn't matter whether they get married or not, have children or not, but the reality is actually very cruel, and there are other confusions that you can't imagine.

I think the basic meaning of the existence of children is that when you are old, they can take care of you, and they can entrust you to the nursing home, so that the nursing home can take good care of you. Taking care of you is the responsibility of the nursing home to your children.

Due to the times, your children are busy with work and life, and you don't have to take care of them personally, but after you go to a nursing home, your children are your guardians, which is a potential force to protect your rights and interests. With the supervision of children, the elderly will feel more secure. Here we will talk about a real case, some time ago, we told netizens such a thing, Uncle Zhao Yufu, who originally lived at No. 44, Changhua Road, Shibei District, Qingdao City, is 82 years old this year, after the death of his wife Ms. Duan, because his children were busy with work outside, Uncle Zhao Yufu met Ms. Zhang, who was 40 years younger than him, and the two later registered their marriage.

During the marriage between Uncle Zhao and Ms. Zhang, Uncle Zhao's savings and millions of real estate were transferred to Ms. Zhang.

Later, Ms. Zhang divorced Uncle Zhao Yufu, because the house was gone, and there was no savings, Uncle Zhao Yufu had to rely on a pension of more than 4,000 yuan to live in a nursing home. Now Uncle Zhao Yufu said with deep feelings"I am very good in the nursing home now, the nursing home staff take care of me like a relative, and my son often takes time to visit me, and I feel that it is a blessing to have a son.

Therefore, whether your children support you or not, but the feeling of having children and not having children is different, they must be your confidence and protector. "

Now many post-80s and post-90s generations don't want to get married, first of all, because they haven't met the person they want to marry, they may be busy with work, or busy with other things, and don't put their minds on falling in love.

They don't even have a relationship partner, let alone a marriage partner, so they won't consider getting married. So the reason why they don't want to get married, and the reason why they don't want to get married is that it's too expensive to fall in love now, and it's not like before, just go to the park and go to the library to read a book.

There will also be relatively large expenses when falling in love, because today's girls are not as easy to fool as before, and now a casual gift is a few hundred yuan, and a casual meal is also hundreds of dollars, if like some people, his salary is not high, in fact, the money earned is not enough to date. The cost of falling in love is already a lot, and if you want to get married, you need to spend more money, and you need to spend more money.

Now this society does not say that you can get married if you want to get married, not only boys have high requirements for girls, but now girls have high requirements for boys, in the past, boys always wanted to find a gentle, beautiful and virtuous woman, but now there are many older leftover men, and they have not been able to find a wife, because the requirements of girls will be relatively high, requiring boys to have a car and a house.

It is that the price of goods in this society will be relatively expensive, many people can't afford to buy a car, and they don't have a house, so girls won't be willing to marry them if they know that boys are like this, they know that girls have this idea, so they also dismiss the idea of getting married.

But in fact, with the development of society and the progress of science and technology, a person is also very happy, can play mobile phones, play games, go on the Internet, maybe when two people are together, sweet times will make others very envious, feel very affectionate, but when there is a conflict, it is also very scary, so they are very afraid of trouble, want to avoid these troubles, that is, do not find someone to fall in love, do not get married. Now people's ideas have also changed, and it is normal not to get married or to get married later, so many people want to get married after their economic foundation is better, so that they will not care about the great pressure they face after getting married, and this idea is also there. Return to Sohu to see more.

1. The reason for late marriage is because the material conditions for marriage are not mature.

Some people say that most of the post-80s generation has nothing before the age of 30, except for the rich second generation. The housing problem is a major difficulty that history throws at the post-80s generation. When it comes to housing, there is another problem that has to be involved, that is, the difficulty of employment, which is the essence of the problem.

Because the post-80s generation is facing huge employment pressure, many employers have taken advantage of this to significantly reduce their salaries. This situation limits their income level as a whole and limits their purchasing power. The housing problem is, at its very nature, an income issue.

And if you want to get married, it is naturally not a matter of getting a certificate so simple, as many gold worshippers say, it needs to be promoted. Life needs money, money is needed in all aspects, and the material conditions are not mature, how to get married.

2. The reason for late marriage is because the psychological age is unbearable to bear the pressure after marriage.

The post-80s generation can also be said to be a happier generation, because of the only child, they have won the greatest love from their parents. So, on the whole, they are also happier than any generation (naturally excluding the post-90s and post-00s after that). In a sense, not all of this love has a positive effect on them, and love can sometimes restrain a person's independence and weaken a person's ability to bear it.

Therefore, after bathing in the sun of their parents for a long time, they are rarely able to face something and bear something independently all at once. Many post-80s generations have post-marital depression, which is because they are not old and do not foresee the pressure they face in married life, or they overestimate their ability to bear it.

3. The reason for late marriage is because the work status restricts married life.

As mentioned earlier, with the increase of employment pressure and the increasing competition in the workplace, the working state of the post-80s generation is not only facing low salaries, but also facing huge work pressure. In my research on the work of college graduates, I have learned that there are very few college students who do not work overtime, and few of them have the experience of taking a complete weekend for a period of time, especially in the private sector. According to one of the graduates, they never left work before 10 o'clock, which was the evening, and they went to work as usual the next morning, every day for several months.

The author was surprised, but through later in-depth understanding, the situation of such college graduates is by no means accidental. Therefore, in this kind of working state, married life is actually in name only, and there is no time for husband and wife to get along at all, how can they be considered husband and wife.