At what point did you betray yourself?

In line with the principle of openness and fairness, the promotion candidates were originally recorded from the front to the back according to the results, but the leaders temporarily felt that it was a pity that some old comrades lost the opportunity for promotion because of their poor English, so they removed the English scores and selected the screening results. Later, I found that some of the better colleagues who usually knew each other were a few points away from the line, and I felt that it was a pity, so I turned the test paper out to see where I could add one or two points. I don't agree with this evaluation method in my heart, since it is said that according to the test score, it is a standard, if it is determined by the expert review at the beginning, then the expert review, but I really don't approve of this evaluation method, but the boss insists on this, and in the end, the final result is still recorded like this.

But I felt really awkward in my heart.

I was responsible for the assessment and ranking of the department in my work, and then according to the original assessment standards to get the assessment results and report to the leader, the leader had objections to the results, so I said you go to deal with it, and then I went against my heart, and the final assessment results were changed through some technical treatment measures, and I felt that I did not adhere to the rules, and violated my heart.

My boss often assigns me tasks that are not my responsibility, such as making tea, cleaning, and even buying food for her, which I repulse and loathe in my heart. But thinking that she treated me well at work, and she was warm and cheerful, I didn't refuse, which really fulfilled others and disgusted myself.

I am a cashier in a sports brand store, and there will be a lot of units in the store every year**, and it is normal to reimburse the invoice, but many units will issue more amounts, and some are even more outrageous, and let the invoice be issued without buying anything, and then give tax money, in fact, I don't want to give them invoices at all, and the practice of this unit is too wrong.

Working overtime until nine o'clock in the evening, the boss asked: Can it be done today? If not, let's continue tomorrow.

With the brightest smile on my face, I said, "I can do it!" Rest assured, boss.

After saying that, the boss nodded and left, I really want to slap myself, is it bad to follow my heart? Alas!

often patted the boss's sycophants, saying that his decision was wise, and he was my Bole, in fact, he was really comparable to the modern version of the faint king, but for the sake of high salary, for my five insurances and one housing fund, I endured nausea and said so many words against my will.

<> "When will the person who betrayed you regret it is as follows.

Wait until the woman cheats him into nothing. He'll regret it.

But in fact, this kind of thing is strange for men, even if the woman really lied to him. Finally turned around and left, don't think that he will regret it at this time, he may be even more up, and even cry and shout to save her. Instead of regretting it and coming to you.

Even if you have changed and become beautiful, but the way you get along with him may still be the same as before, in fact, the man will not think that you have really changed, he will only think that you are worthless. Or you are still very strong and make him lose his dignity as a man.

In fact, if you want to really make a man regret it, you have to recapture the man's heart.

By understanding the mysteries of marriage, they find the problems between two people, and improve their value and communication skills. Let the man come back willingly.

Kiss. In the face of betrayal. What else can I do? The end, of course. Because you don't know that he betrayed you once. After you forgive him, will he betray you for the second or even third time.

In this world, my spine usually can only control the part that is related to me, and it is sometimes impossible to suffer betrayal. However, the damage caused by some betrayals can indeed be avoided or mitigated, especially the misunderstandings and incomprehensions caused by unintentional betrayal. Changing the following things may change your current relationship to some extent.

1 Communication. Communication is always very important in a relationship because it allows the other person to understand our needs and expectations of the relationship in a timely manner, while also allowing us to understand the other person's needs. This is a way to allow some potential conflicts and emotions to be detected and resolved in advance.

Not only can it avoid the betrayal from happening, but after the betrayal happens, it can also avoid the breakdown of the relationship to a certain extent.

This is because communication (even if it is full of anger) provides space for both parties to be able to understand the consequences of the betrayal in the catharsis of the victim's emotions, and the betrayer can seize the opportunity to sincerely apologize and explain the cause and effect of the incident.

2 Don't have unrealistic expectations.

If you find yourself being betrayed a lot and resentful of a relationship, you may want to think about changing your expectations of relationships. As mentioned above, high expectations can be stressful in a relationship and can be painful for both parties in terms of the end result. Building a reciprocal relationship, accepting intimacy and possible estrangement in a relationship, and having reasonable expectations, allows us not to be overly demanding of the other person and to give them understanding and appropriate support.

Each of us will be betrayed by some people in our lives, and it will also bring some people the feeling of being betrayed by us. Accepting the imperfect parts of human nature (both in ourselves and in others) is a lesson that each of us must learn. At the end of the day, betrayal is an act and a person makes such an act, not that the person is such a person.

Distinguishing behavior from people is important for both oneself and others.

Sometimes, the harm caused by betrayal to Wu Chun lies more in the gap - because the other party is the closest person, the hurt is particularly profound. But in the same way, because of the intimacy between the other party and you, it means that you have more opportunities to understand the original situation of the matter, clarify the misunderstanding, and have a greater possibility of solving the problem.

Say sorry to the people you've hurt, whether they will forgive or not, accept it, or not even see it. Knowing the betrayer's apology is to a certain extent conducive to repairing and rebuilding the damaged sense of self-worth for the betrayed party. It will be a relief for both of you.

How many people have no joy for the rest of their lives because of betrayal; Even those who can finally get out of the predicament and heal their wounds have suffered from painful entanglements and torments; How much of the most precious time of your life has been wasted to face the wounds caused by betrayal!

Yes, many people, after experiencing betrayal, have learned to be strong and brave, and with the help of the purgatory of betrayal, they have turned themselves into butterflies and gained a new life. However, what they want to thank is not this experience and the person who hurt them, what they should be grateful for is their self-improvement and self-reliance. If life never comes back to life, they would rather not grow up themselves, rather than experience everything that is unbearable.

It was not an easy spring breeze pride, but a kind of secret happiness for the rest of my life, glad that I could bear it and come out.

You've gone through the fragile journey of betrayal, to the torment and entanglement on the verge of collapse, to the inability to fight alone, and finally to the reborn nirvana—the road is so difficult that every step is a stumble. Like a clown, walking on a thin rope, staggering, below is an abyss, in front of it is a fog, you are careful, for fear that if you take a wrong step, you will never recover.

Is it an exaggeration? It is not an exaggeration at all, only those who have experienced it will understand what kind of ordeal it is.

No one is born strong, especially in the face of betrayal.

Therefore, it is normal for you to be helpless, confused, painful, sad, and even hysterical, and it is precisely because betrayal stung the most vulnerable part of your heart, so initially, you must have used some inappropriate way to deal with betrayal.

Because they can't afford it, because they are afraid of losing, too many people can only choose to compromise, and they often want to continue to be "complete" in exchange for their feelings by wronging themselves;

They humbled themselves, but to please and cater to each other, they suffered great pain, but they also forced themselves to excuse the other party's deliberate injuries;

They themselves are already mud bodhisattvas crossing the river, but they still have to treat themselves as living bodhisattvas, trying to save a marriage, and trying to ignite a person who is obsessed and unrepentant.

If one day, you can finally be freed from the captivity of betrayal, you finally come back from the pain, and then look back at your fragile self, you will scold yourself for not fighting, and at the same time feel sorry for yourself who was helpless and vulnerable. Of course, at that time, your heart is warm, because when you can scold yourself and feel sorry for yourself, it means that you have grown up and know how to praise and love yourself.

So, forgive yourself, forgive yourself for being fragile at the beginning, and finally reconcile with yourself. Turn your head to look at this new world, the sun is warm, and life is just right.