Why do you find out that your ex is particularly low after a breakup?

Many girls suddenly feel that they were blind after breaking up, and they can't help but sigh how could they like such a low boy from their ex? For example, after breaking up, it is discovered that the other party is scumbag, unmotivated, distracted, inconsiderate, chicken thief, slamming the door, etc.

In fact, when a person falls into obsession, the feeling will become very blind, often when we like a person, we will ignore many bad things about the other party, just like chasing stars, idols are handsome and talented, and they will take it for granted that the other party is perfect in other aspects (in fact, it may not be), which is called the halo effect in psychology.

When we love someone, all kinds of hormones in the body are troubled, and it is difficult for reason to make accurate judgments, even if we find that the other party is not suitable for us, or what is not good, we will deceive ourselves and make excuses for the other party. When they break up with each other and become sensible, they can only see the "real him" when they look at each other, not the person who adds many fantasies of their own.

This is also why many people in love will think that "the authorities are fascinated, and the bystanders are clear", because people in love see the other party after being beautified by their own brains, and the bystanders see the unprocessed original picture.

There are also some girls who have never been in love, and when they meet someone who can fall in love, the other party may have done a little bit of good behavior towards her, and she will be deeply moved. Even if the other party treats her badly later, she is actually dissatisfied, but there is always a worry that it is not easy to meet someone who loves each other, and she is afraid that she will not meet someone better, so she does not dare to make up her mind to break up.

But maybe someone else will do it better than this one? Feelings are that there is no harm if there is no comparison, who is good and who is not, it is really a comparison. Girls often meet people who really like their own good to themselves after a dead breakup, and then look at their poor exes, it's really unpleasant.

Of course, you can only use a low man to describe your ex.

Because you have survived all the long nights alone, and you have endured those years of pain and crying alone. You are also alone, and you have survived the days without him.

The days after the breakup are painful for everyone. I feel that in such a relationship, I obviously gave everything, but in the end, it was a bamboo basket for nothing. I can't bear my ex, and I always feel that my ex has a lot of good things, which has become the biggest root cause for us to not let go of ourselves.

It's true that when you're together, you feel like it's the best person in the world, but I don't know if you have noticed that after you have cried, after you have suffered, you feel that there is no big deal without that person. On the contrary, it is himself, who is becoming more and more amazing, and can kill the cockroaches crawling on the table; You can walk around the street by yourself; can be scared to the point of being overwhelmed in a strange city, but still pretending to be strong; You can go to work and fight for your dreams while suffering over and over again; You can tell yourself to get through it.

In the end, you made it through. The times that scared you, and even made you think you were about to get through at one point, you passed by alone. That person didn't come to you, and you don't care anymore because you're getting better and better.

My favorite writer once said: I have money, so I think my ex is very low.

Indeed, when you get richer and better, get better and better, get smoother and smoother, know more and more people, and get wider and wider along the street, you will really find out: ex, why is he so bad.

In fact, it's not that he's low, it's not that he's bad, but on this level, you've gone farther and farther, and you're getting closer and closer to your excellent self.

Therefore, after the breakup, you must cheer up, meet a better self, and finally use your strength to tell him: You are so stupid, let go of someone like me.

Because of the lover's eyes, when you are with him, you will feel that he is good at everything, and then you will paralyze yourself, when you break up, look at him from the perspective of a bystander, you will find out how scumbag he is, so, close to Zhu is red, close to ink is black, you must listen to the opinions of others, of course, you can't listen completely, you have to rely on your own judgment.

Everyone has a strong desire to possess, but I think that since you have broken up, it proves that the other party is not good enough for you, so if you find the other half, you must measure it according to your future standards, at least you must be able to say the other party's ten advantages, or let the other party say your ten advantages, so that the opposite sex can go with you for a long time, if you can't even find ten advantages, I suggest that you continue to wait, after all, the person who wants to live with you for a lifetime, he must be good enough.

In fact, some of the words that are said many times are not unreasonable, "I didn't make friends after breaking up", "The original vow was true, it was true that I loved you, and it was true that I wanted to be with you in the end, but now it's true that I don't love you" Many times we always have disgust after breaking up, because if you don't love it, you don't love it, once your coquettish cuteness, your stupidity, your original, he will feel cute, but after a long time, you will get tired of it, your stupidity is just your stupidity, and you will hate each other in two lives.

In fact, it can be said that the person who left still doesn't like it enough, if this serious like you, even if you break up, he won't dislike you, or he may come to you after a while. If you don't love it, you don't love it, there are not too many reasons, a good girl should cherish herself and cherish her time, her youth is only a few years, there is no need to make herself depraved because of a person.

If you really break up, you don't have to quarrel and quarrel, you have to go to the point of tearing your face, and say it generously, there is no need to maintain the beauty you fantasize about for someone who doesn't love you. What we want to do is to constantly improve ourselves when we are single, read more books and exercise when we have nothing to do, how good **** is, we have to torture ourselves for one person. See each other clearly, but don't embarrass yourself.

If you are not a good person, what is unwilling?

Girls' good youth is waiting for you, don't you perfect yourself and wait for a good man to come to see you? If you don't live a good life, who can make you happy, many times happiness is earned by yourself, things have happened, whether good or bad, please cherish yourself, that person is no longer in the light, and don't think that there are regrets in the world. May you find the right person to cherish you, and may you be carefree in this year, and be good with you.

When I asked a question, I saw that he was with a scumbag girl, and that woman was a scumbag who was two good friends of mine.

But I really don't like him anymore, and I don't want to get back together.

Normally, if you really let go of this relationship, you won't have ripples psychologically when you see each other again.

asked me about him scolding me after the breakup, and saying that I was not good, that I didn't do those things at all, and that he was already going to have a new love.

I asked him a good question, I had a good conscience, I was very good, I just didn't expect him to be like this, he had a very bad character, he was a new love immediately after the breakup, and he slandered me, just how good he was to me before and now he is two people.

The answer is to break up and say that your bad words are indeed a bit unkind, in fact, it is fortunate that you have seen through such a person to stop the loss at the moment, and stay away from it early to benefit, which shows that you are still very wise.

Here, I want to give you a thumbs up, because your character and perception are higher than those of boys, maybe this is also one of the reasons why you didn't continue, because the three views are not a frequency of thinking.

Asked because he was very good to me before, but it was only a month, we were together for two months, and then he changed in the next month, and he didn't want to have a future with me, and then told his friend that he wanted to break up a long time ago, I only found out later, but he still said he loved me in front of me, what.

You say how terrible it is for such a person to have a boyfriend in front of him and behind him, and I can't say what will happen after we are really together.

It's really the most important thing about your body, girl, don't worry about it, it's not worth it.

Because it's also very normal to dislike your ex after a breakup, because you have broken up, you must have a lot of resentment towards each other in your heart, and it's good to be relieved!

After a breakup, the disgust of the ex must be two people, and there is a big contradiction when they break up, and this contradiction cannot be forgiven, so they hate the ex very much after the breakup.

It's normal to hate your ex after a breakup, how can you become an ex if you don't hate it, and since you've become an ex, then try to forget it.

In the future, why do I really break up with him There are many reasons or the break up proposed by my ex, so I will make my ex particularly annoying.

It is estimated that it is because you did not break up peacefully, your ex brought you too much hurt and pain, which made you feel palpitations, so you dislike him, in fact, this also shows that your emotional intelligence is not good, and the shadow of your ex is still there.

It's normal to dislike your ex, and if you hadn't been disgusted at the beginning, you wouldn't have broken up, it's all normal.

This is normal, if you don't hate your ex, then you don't need to break up, it must be because you are annoying him now, so you will break up.

Maybe it's because I saw some shortcomings in the person I hadn't seen in love before.

Maybe it's because the other person has broken through some of your bottom lines, all of which will disgust you.

I think you will definitely hate your ex after a breakup, because after all, we have both broken up, and we will definitely look down on him, so you will hate him.

There is no need to dislike your ex after a breakup, after all, you have loved each other once, and even if you can't be friends, you can be the most familiar stranger.

Disgusting your ex after a breakup is because your ex has made too many bad impressions on you, and it will feel lighter for you.

Since you hate your ex after you break up, then it's okay not to get in touch, that is, from now on, it's cut off, no contact, no contact, that's okay, right? Why do you want revenge? What's going on? So it's okay, after all, a husband and wife are 100 days a day.

That means that no matter how much the two people communicate, they can't go back to the beginning, and they have a sense of disgust for her, which is normal, a person's nature is revealed, and he may not have found out that this person was so bad when he was with him at the beginning.

After receiving it, you are very disgusted with your ex because you think your ex is very bad to you, so you will dislike him like this.

After breaking up, you dislike your ex, it may be that your ex has done a lot of bad things, which makes you feel very sorry in your heart, and then love gives birth to hate.

If you hate strongmen after a breakup, it means that you don't feel anything about your ex and always want to stay away from him.

The harm and pain caused by your ex to you makes you disappointed and heartbroken. And it's very likely that your breakup is the ex's full responsibility. Once you gave your heart, even a lot of things, only to break up, you felt angry and unhappy for your past self.

I don't feel that there is no meaning of being old, since the two of them have broken up, then they are okay with each other! Why are you still struggling so much about limb promotion in the past? Don't you feel like a waste of time? Wouldn't it be more meaningful to have this time to listen to songs, go out and relax, etc.?