How should parents get along with their children?

Parents get along with their children, which directly affects their children's learning and growth, so it is very important to get along well with children. First of all, we must respect each other, parents should respect their children's ideas, and they should be reasonable about unreasonable demands; Secondly, parents should support and encourage their children, especially good performance; Finally, be friends with your children and don't always show the majesty of your parents. In fact, parents should also get along with each other, and it is also important to give children a harmonious environment!

When the children were very young, we discussed with them all the big and small things in our family. Let them learn to analyze, have thoughts, have ideas, and then find ways to solve them. For example, our family buys a house, buys a car, decorates, manages money, and so on.

Let them decide. On weekends or holidays, I take my children with me to visit the elderly. Some of them I buy good things myself, and some of them I give them money and let them buy good things themselves or make them at home to deliver them to the elderly.

Let them help the elderly with household chores, wash their feet, and dry their quilts. Let them know: filial piety should try its best not to nourish the body, the crow has the righteousness, and the lamb has a kneeling mother.

Is there no distant way to think of tears, not as good as the heart of the high hall. Love day has been happy, don't wait for Dinglan to carve wood, pound the cow and sacrifice the tomb, it is better to catch the chicken and dolphin to survive.

Know his interests, then try to understand his interests, if they are right, then know his heart through his interests, know his interests, then try to understand his interests, if they are correct, and then understand his heart through his interests, and do not dry his private life too much (especially in adolescence), because it will turn him off. Talk to your child more, get to know each other, talk about your past, talk about your life, talk about your work, let him know that everything he has today is not easy to come by, so as to understand his parents.

Communicate with children in a friendly relationship with friends, listen patiently to their needs and ideas, and be able to give advice and guidance. Spend more time with your children and interact with them as friends based on their interests. As the so-called upper beam is not correct and the lower beam is crooked, all aspects must be a good example for parents.

Every family has their own unique set of ways of educating their children, and there is no one set for that. However, I think that many parents have misunderstandings in educating their children, such as spoiling their children excessively and letting their children's wrong behaviors go unchecked, which will lead to biased children's direction. Nowadays, many families believe that children are praised, but this will make children rarely frustrated, so they are at a loss when they are frustrated, so moderate criticism is also essential.

I think that in the process of school, children should not be too protective and give them a free sky, so that they can develop better.

A child's thoughts are the purest, and his every move is a manifestation of his pure and beautiful purpose. Maybe the parents don't understand or perceive his true thoughts at the first time, but you might as well give both parties a little time to communicate, shorten the distance between you, and cultivate more tacit understanding.

When they were very young, I made them develop the habit of focusing. The habit of listening carefully in class, the habit of completing homework on time, and the habit of not scribbling homework. When they are six to twelve years old, let them develop the habit of reading and the habit of gratitude and filial piety.

Make it a habit to be polite. Develop the habit of sunshine, responsibility, responsibility, atmosphere, and pattern.

Let them go to the nursing home regularly and irregularly, so that they can experience the hardships and hardships of the life of the elderly. Let them know that when they are young and strong, they must remember the bitterness of aging. In the rich and noble land, you should pity the pain of the poor.

When the children were very young, during the period when they were getting used to it, I was very strict with them. We know that kindergarten talks about health, primary school talks about habits, junior high school talks about methods, high school talks about ability, and university talks about wisdom. Ye Shengtao also said that education is the formation of habits.

Therefore, once a child's good habits are formed, they will benefit for life.

Every holiday, I hold a solemn family gathering, at which we summarize the advantages and achievements of the previous and find out the shortcomings. Define the next direction. Each person must speak for 30 minutes. Then make a family motto, a house rule. Over time, a fine family style has been formed.

1. Learn to be your child's friend. Don't take a condescending attitude when getting along with your child, sometimes you can get along with him as a friend, because children often like to communicate with friends and tell little secrets. Give him this feeling and it will strengthen the bond between you.

2. There are always times when children cry in life, don't get angry easily, learn to listen, and understand their actual thoughts. Because there is a big difference between a child's thinking and an adult's. Their ideas are very simple, and there is no need to think as complicated as we adults.

Learn to listen to your child and get along well.

3. Don't always nag around your child. Although you are an elder and what you say makes sense, children also hate nagging. For one thing, just say it once or twice, don't nag for a long time, so that the child will not only not listen, but will be resistant.

4. Learn to empathize with your child. In the process of interacting with others, we must know how to empathize, and we should do the same with children. There are reasons for children's anger and distress, think from their point of view, analyze it, and then solve it in a way that they can accept.

5. Know how to praise children often. No matter what the child does, it is necessary to know how to praise and give some words of praise or small gifts, which will not only make the child psychologically satisfied, but also be able to work hard to do everything well. It is of great help to children's growth.

6. Appropriate toughness. Sometimes the child does something wrong, and he does not listen to repeated persuasion, then he needs to give a tough attitude, but the toughness here is not to beat the child, but to take some majestic methods. For example, don't buy him the toys he wants, don't take him to play, etc.

Let him recognize his mistakes, admit his mistakes, and correct his mistakes, which is the purpose of toughness.

7. The child is not used to it, you can give him material satisfaction, but don't blindly indulge him, make mistakes to stop in time, and give criticism and education. In this way, it can help the healthy growth of children.

Normally, parents and children should get along well, specifically:

1. Respect the child and give him independent space.

No matter how big or small the child is, he is an independent individual, we must respect him, trust him, and regard the child as an equal person with ourselves, these are the most powerful forces in the growth of the child.

2. Allow children to make mistakes and do not force children.

Children will make mistakes in the process of growing up, when the child is very young, there is no distinction between right and wrong, at this time parents need to guide him slowly, to know that children can only grow up in the process of making mistakes. For example, we adults often do not allow children to watch TV, but parents force their children to leave the TV, but they stick to various programs of the TV station, so the children will feel unfair, we adults like to use their own ways and positions to force children to do the same things as themselves, and ignore the children's ideas.

3. Be like a friend with your child, suggest more and command less.

When you spend time with your children, you should be like a friend. Maybe sometimes parents are used to giving all the good things to their children, in fact, love is invisible to let children develop selfish and willful bad habits, and they should guide children to share with adults. Advise your child on what to do when he asks questions, rather than ordering him to deal with them in his own way.

4. Play games with your child.

Integrating into the child's game world and cooperating with the child will also make you unconsciously happy.

5. Communicate more with your children.

Parents must take a certain amount of time to communicate with their children every day, and talk about whether there are some interesting things that happened to their children that day, or whether their children have conflicts with their friends, so that it can be better. Guide your own children.

1. Recognize and praise your children more.

When a child does something well, he must praise him appropriately, so that he knows that he is doing the right thing and is more motivated to do it well. So don't hide your praise and recognition, you should pay attention to observing and praising your children's strengths, and encourage your children more. Parents should try to answer their children's questions as much as possible so that they can build self-esteem and self-confidence from an early age.

2. Children need more growth in daily life, and their minds have not reached maturity, so as parents, don't jump to conclusions about children. Believe that your child is great, and don't assume that your child is bad because of one or two things.

3. Communicate patiently with children.

When getting along with children, communication is indispensable, only by learning to communicate with children can we get along with children better, what ideas children have to listen patiently, and then discuss with him, usually communicate with children as much as possible to be patient, so as to be conducive to getting along with children.

4. Encourage your child.

When children encounter difficulties or do wrong things, we should encourage children more, instead of ignoring them, or treating them coldly, or even accusing children of clumsiness, resulting in the lack of children's self-confidence, we should encourage children more, and believe that children will get better and better.

5. As a parent, you should not only care about your child's daily life, but also care about your child's physical and mental health. Therefore, when educating children, you must set an example, do not say one thing to your child and do another by yourself, otherwise the child will imitate and there will be objections.

6. When getting along with children, we must pay attention to some things that we will not communicate with children, and even children, children can also be parents' little teachers, so that children can love learning more and feel that they can help their parents will be very happy.

Communication is a two-way street, and children must be given the opportunity to express their ideas. In adolescence, children will have the need for autonomy, and parents need to give their children enough face so that they can eliminate communication barriers and make communication smoother. Children should be given full autonomy in some small choices, even if they mess up, they are within the scope of acceptance.

Although some big things can not be decided by the child, but it cannot be completely vetoed, you should listen to the child's real thoughts and opinions first, not only give them the opportunity to express, but also close the relationship between parents and children, and understand the child's values.

Give your child some affirmation and encouragement.

Everyone wants to be affirmed and praised by others, and so do children. Every time you communicate with your child, you should first affirm your child's strengths and then point out their weaknesses. Compliments require a certain amount of skill, and they should not be too flashy when expressing affirmation, so as not to make communication more difficult.

Do a good job of facilitation.

The times are different, and parents' minds should also keep up with the pace of their children, don't take out their own experience when they were young to educate their children, their own experience is just a reference value, and they can't forcibly instill their own experience into their children, which will not only make them disgusted, but will bring uncontrollable consequences. When your child is faced with a problem or choice, don't tell them what to do, let them make their own choices.

Learn to care.

In adolescence, children's studies are important, but when communicating with children, they can't always compare their grades, which will make them psychologically stressed, and doubt the parents' motivation for communication, which will inevitably make them disgusted.

Learn to listen to your child's language.

Many adults don't understand what children say, and whenever children are interested in what they want to say to their parents, their parents just prevaricate. Every time I see this situation, I feel that the child is so pitiful, and even more sad for the parents.

In this case, parents should learn to listen to their children's language, even if they don't know what their children say, they must respond to their children, otherwise the children will be lost, and in the long run, the children will feel that they are not important, and there will be less and less communication with their parents.

Communicate with your child in their language.

Mom, this kitten says it likes me".

Yes, it said, "This kid is so cute, I like him so much."

This is to communicate with the child in the child's language, and the child will not only feel that his ideas are recognized, but also feel the importance of his own parents. The child is innocent and imaginative, and parents should also learn to communicate with him in the child's language, so that the child will feel that the parents are friends and not adults.

Learn to get along with children as equals.

Some parents and children in the process of getting along, is always too rigorous, is a very majestic existence, children want to play in the water are not allowed, of course, this is for the sake of the child's health, but have you ever thought about it, this will make the child feel a sense of distance, dare not communicate with parents.

Parents should be kind, approachable, and should be the first person to talk to when their children are wronged or happy, so it is important to learn to get along with children on an equal footing, which is a compulsory course for good parents.