What if there are many things that you know are in the past and have no fundamental meaning, but you

Hello landlord, first of all, according to your statement, the things you have experienced are emotional, humanistic, and ideological factors, as well as personal values and emotional characteristics.

1.First of all, you must understand that a series of emotional legacy problems, the most fundamental is that the mental and emotional investment in the early stage has exceeded the normal range of your own, resulting in the retention of emotional problems in the later stage that are difficult to eliminate, which is the physiological embodiment of scientific basis.

2.Based on the basic theories of social and humanistic thought, your question is in line with common sense. The previous things that went deep into the heart and couldn't extricate themselves, which is equivalent to taking deep roots in the deepest part of the heart.

So the conclusion is that your previous emotional experience is not trivial. The only way is to dilute it with the passage of time, and you will never forget it.

3.What is worth it from the perspective of one's own core interests? You have understood the meaning of its core values, but that emotion disturbs your values, which is inevitable, when the core interests and emotions have a fundamental conflict, often the emotions have the upper hand, the core interests will be forgotten, to achieve the contrast between interests and feelings, it is necessary to fight against their own chemical reactions, and if they can break through, their own control is extraordinary.

Through the above analysis and generalization, you must know that no matter what it is, it should be diluted, and it is good to keep it in your heart. The fundamental value is gone, and what you pay is no longer valuable. So you have to let go now, because now you are still giving, your emotions will affect your physical and mental and practical fundamental interests, I hope you understand, this is the cruel part of life.

This can't be rushed, it will be fine after a long time, and there will be other things to fill in these things after a long time, so let go of your mood, do what you should do, think what you should think, and don't think about what you shouldn't think. It'll get better slowly. It's common ...

I used to be the same as you, I think you should let go of the point, zhi look at the point, what others say

Anyway, everyone has been there, it just depends on you.

I used to be very emotional, my teacher used to say that when I was in a good mood, I would answer and study well, and I made rapid progress in everything, and I didn't want to do anything or study when I was in a bad mood, but now that I have experienced more, I have changed.

Slowly change your habits, find someone to talk to if you feel uncomfortable, or go shopping to buy something you like, or take a bus to look at the scenery outside the window, anyway, try to make yourself happy, if you don't feel sorry for yourself, who do you expect to feel sorry for yourself!

Hehe, this.

It's the pressure in your heart.,It's what you have at this age.,Zhi will have a kind of fear of life.,It's okay.,Just overcome it.。

Well, sometimes if you schedule your time fuller, you won't think about this kind of mess, will you? To tell you the truth, my mother passed away, I was only a teenager at the time, I cried to death, I used to think about some negative thoughts, I felt that I didn't want to face the future, and in the face of those troublesome things, I would always stay when my mother was still there. You must not be like me, I have also been persuaded by people to get better, please don't be inferior to me, I suggest you read a book"Life Cafe", will give you a lot of feelings, and I now arrange a lot of classes for myself every day:

I'm just like you, I think that since they're not the same as us, forget it, I'm just me and I have no one to replace, since we're abandoned, then I dream of studying hard, standing on the peak they can't be, and letting them know that we can succeed without them!!

I'm just like you, but after my classmates told me, I tried hard to change, and finally changed, so I think you can change too. ^_

Open-minded, the world is a thousand things, and no one owes anyone anything.

I don't know if you're a scorpion! I'm in the same situation, and it's like you're saying something like someone is retelling my feelings.

But how to say it? I always felt that I would be like this because my mind was not mature enough, so I would be emotional in everything, and it would be difficult to control my emotions, which was a great loss, and I would offend people unconsciously. But.

I feel that compared to some people and feelings, it doesn't matter if I offend some people (including direct leaders). I often comfort myself, madness is uncomfortable, I decided that I would stay. Actually, I know that I am still naïve, and I am ready to face the difficulties that are coming.

Although some things are not convinced, I am fortunately more optimistic and look at it. As long as you don't mess with me again, it's over.

For friends to play without calling themselves, in fact, it is also very simple, everyone has their own life circle and private life. Let's understand each other. Even if you are a real friend or relative, you have to avoid yourself, let alone a little friend.

It's not good to be simple, it's not good! I'm also struggling with this issue. Because of innocence, I have lost a lot, and it turns out that my desire is expanding!

You belong to obsessive-compulsive disorder, always force yourself to think about some irrelevant things, try to relax, listen to **, delve into some things that interest you, and make life fuller, if the obsessive-compulsive disorder is serious, you will have to go to the hospital**, hehe, however, you are not so serious, come on, it will definitely get better!

Find something you love to do, make the most of your life, keep yourself busy, and distract yourself.

That should be better!

Actually, I'm just like you!

Or don't think about those annoying things, go with the flow, time will make you accept everything around you!

I've also been, why do you want to think about other people, you don't live for others, people don't live for you, why do you want to do so much, if you don't fight, you don't fight, you can't do without that person, you live yours, he lives his, and when you have that thought, you replace you with me in this sentence, and then think about other fun things.

Did taking a look at the following one help you?

1) "Living in the Present". Don't always think about tomorrow, don't always regret what happened yesterday, focus your mind on what you want to do today.

2) "Live Here". There is nothing we can do about what is happening in the distance. Worrying about things is unfounded, and it doesn't help anything.

3) "Stop conjecturing and face reality". Many psychological disorders are often caused by "taking things for granted" without actual basis.

4) "Stop thinking and feel more". One of the characteristics of Gestalt** is the emphasis on "feelings" as the basis for thinking, which can adjust and enrich your thinking. Intuitive thinking is a very valuable psychological quality, however, nowadays people put too much emphasis on logical thinking and almost become a machine that loses its emotions.

5) "Accept unpleasant emotions". Pleasantness and unpleasantness are relative, so it is necessary to be mentally prepared to accept pleasant emotions and unpleasant emotions.

6) "Don't judge first, give a reference opinion first". Gestalt** believes that the correct way to approach others and to deal with interpersonal relationships is not to judge, but to talk about what you think. By doing so, you can prevent and avoid unnecessary friction and conflicts with others.

7) "Don't blindly worship idols and authorities." Don't blindly go along with the opinions of the people, so as to lose the habit of independent thinking; And don't be unprincipled to be subservient to others, thereby depriving yourself of the ability to act autonomously.

8) "I am who I am". You should start from your own starting point and reach your full potential. Do your best to do what you can.

9) "Be responsible for yourself". One of the important principles of "Gestalt**" is to demand that you do things and take responsibility for yourself.

There are two methods, first, to imply that you are already very old, mentally aged, and mature than them, and you don't need to pay attention to the opinions and statements of children. Another is to change yourself, to make yourself cheerful and lively, to shape yourself, to change something, to have more friends, so that you don't have to worry. In terms of these two methods, it is hoped that they will be adopted.

What if you can't let go, it's not the same to put down the butcher's knife.

Your personality is similar to mine, I was also some time ago, always worried about a lot of things, very stressed, often insomnia at night, however, my classmates always enlightened me, and now I have figured it out, you can let your family help you share a little bit of your situation, of course you can't stand it alone, discuss it with your family, or listen to their opinions, talk about your own opinions, at that time you will feel that those are small problems, and with the support of your family, you will have more confidence in life, believe me is right, I wish you a speedy ride out of your troubles!

Personal personality problems belong to the type of worry.

There are so many things to think about and do as a man.

You have to decompress yourself, or you can also choose time to decompress, for example, when you are with your wife, you don't think about anything, you just enjoy life, and you can work hard for the rest of your time.

Learn to forget.

The pressure is all self-inflicted! Don't think too much, don't care too much!

When you are annoyed to think, don't think about it, and be more distracted! Be positive and optimistic, for the sake of the family, for the children to be born, be strong, and take the family and children as your spiritual pillars, which is also your motivation!

Some people think of their spiritual pillars, and they are tired and tired, they will be willing to do it, and they will be very happy to do it! Because I have the person I love the most!

People have to learn to give before they can gain.

If you are reluctant to worry about the things in your heart, then in exchange for a pair of troubles.

First of all, I will explain that the newly renovated house cannot be lived, because of the presence of toxins, it needs to be ventilated for a period of time before it can be lived, and in addition! You wish you could decorate more things, and the problem of self-cultivation and self-cultivation in this matter cannot be solved in a day or two, so read more books on this subject, and it will be fine!

That's because you have too little experience, you want to come when it's time to come, you don't think too much, you may change because of other things, it's important to change your mindset and be optimistic.

It's just anxiety. In fact, if there is really something, you can solve it very well, believe in yourself, you can!

Get a psychiatrist and let him enlighten you.

Keep it, one day you'll let it go.

There's nothing you can't let go, just treat him as a good memory, the most important thing for people to live is to be happy.

In such a situation, you must ask him clearly, what is the reason, don't think in your heart, some things must be figured out.

What was it before, the most important thing to be clear about this point, if it was a matter of ordinary life, it didn't matter, if it was something else, it would be difficult to say.

Try to influence him, he dwells on the past, to see if it is because of the matter, or because of the people. If your husband is a person with such a personality and you mind it very much, it is better to separate, and it is difficult to change people's personalities, both of you are like this. If it's just because something he can't think about or can't achieve, you can help him solve it, or you can communicate more and let go of each other's knots.

Take it easy! Time will rush to talk about it, try to influence him, care about him, pay attention to him, maybe he will slowly forget! He can't let go of the past, which shows that he is a person who attaches great importance to feelings, a person with particularly intense emotions, if he really can't do it, there is no need to live with him!

Did he show his pestering before he got married? If yes, what do you think? Do you have any children?

Are you going to have children? How do you communicate with each other? How did you cope?

Wait, none of this, who can help you decide?

I'm having the same problem, my wife cheated on me and I was going to forgive her, but she still lied to me and I don't know what to do.

Give up and don't let yourself be miserable! Boys who make girls miserable are not worth it! It's true!

Women have to be wise, your husband can't let go of the past now, that's because you are not as good as he imagined, if you are a hundred times better than her before, he will not miss the old. You get in touch with the person he used to have, and find out to her the powerful relationship of being a junior, and the others are left to fate, because we don't know how deep their relationship is.

Such a man is better off giving up. His character is willful. Even if it's okay now. In the future, when something else happens, it will be compared to your death

If there is anything in your past that makes him suspicious, tell him clearly, if there is nothing more clear, only confession is the basis of feelings.

This question is very serious, and I'm struggling with it, so let me know when you have a decision...

How can you not let it go, maybe you just do something to reassure him, he cares about you too much

The past is always hard to get over ...

If he is so entangled, it is best to make it clear to him thoroughly, or seek advice from an emotional expert, after all, they are already married, cherish it!