I hate my ordinary

Landlord, you can know that ordinary people account for the vast majority of people in this world. Ordinary people have an extraordinary way of living, as long as you make your life meaningful and valuable, you are not ordinary. Sometimes ordinary is also a kind of greatness.

If you want to open a little, everyone has a time when they are confused, just get through it. Didn't someone say it? "Whether a person is successful or not depends not on how much wealth he has, but on how deep his knowledge of the world is.

Friend! Ah, if you and me, it shows that you are extraordinary! Hey, hey, hey.

I think every ordinary person would have such thoughts! Contribute more to society, and when you get happiness from others, you will understand that you are not ordinary at all....

Be confident, ordinary is true!

99% of people are ordinary people, but as long as you have confidence in your heart, your face will naturally have radiance, and it will not be ordinary. Even if you are not particularly good at anything else, as long as you are healthy and happy, you will be liked by others and yourself.

In fact, there is nothing bad about being ordinary, I am also such a person, I have complained about myself before, why is everything so ordinary, just because of ordinary, I found my him, believe in myself, ordinary is not ordinary, but I didn't find it.

I feel the same way! Usually has been low-key, and when I see other people's scenery and other people's honors, I will feel very uncomfortable, and even deny myself. However, behind their scenery, they are under more pressure, and we simply live a happier life Therefore, being an ordinary person is your characteristic, let them envy it.

In fact, there is nothing wrong with being ordinary, let alone a mistake, how many people in the world are not ordinary? It's not that you're dressed up in a trendy way, but you feel good when you're noticed every day. As long as you do your best and be happy every day, that's the most real happiness...

Then you're crazy and different.

Don't care too much about other people's eyes, we ourselves are heaven, others are hell, if we want to deliberately cater to the eyes of others, the original self will be blurred.

We need to know ourselves clearly and understand who I am. What kind of person am I? in order to live a complete life.

This is a person who is very strong in his heart, and since you can ask this question, it is also a person who is very entangled in this question and is a little fragile in his heart.

First of all, you have to understand etiquette, give others respect, don't laugh at others, beat others, speak ill of others, keep smiling, keep silent.

The second point is that you have to learn to be sophisticated, to embarrass people and stop in time when you know that the other party is disgusted by the topic. Don't force others, uphold the concept of doing unto others what you don't want to be done to yourself, do your own thing, and don't trouble others.

The third point is that you have to learn to praise others, to praise others from the heart, if you can appreciate the shining points that people really care about, then they will think that you are his confidant, and there is no such thing as hate.

Fourth, you must be humble, and you can't always talk about your strengths and always show off your achievements in front of others, which will invisibly belittle others and elevate yourself.

Fifth, know how to be grateful, don't forget your help to others, but others should be kind to you, but you should keep it in your heart.

Sixth, don't tell other people's secrets. Everyone has some privacy, don't say what you know, don't ask if you don't know.

Seventh, we must have an understanding, tolerant, humble and sincere attitude towards others, put ourselves in the shoes of others to understand the emotional behavior of others, understand the pain and needs of others, and treat others sincerely, so as to win everyone's trust, respect and friendship.

Eighth, we value others, we all want to be highly valued by others, and we hope that others will treat us as individuals.

If you can maintain the above points, it is not difficult to have a good interpersonal relationship, if you want to correct your way of dealing with the world, then first you have to pay off the debt you owe, to say sorry to the people you hurt, to get forgiveness from others, you can really change yourself, don't live hypocritically, don't die in a daze.

When one is different from the rest of a group, everything is inseparable, and when the same thing is done by one person, even if it is right, it becomes wrong because two people do it! Now I am hated by my colleagues, but I don't take their salaries. When I work, I take my work seriously and get off work, they love to work overtime, and they will work overtime if they love it, and they will only have 3,000 yuan more than me in a year, let them talk and laugh at lunch, and they will talk and laugh at lunch, and they will be quietly jealous, and they will talk nonsense behind their backs......I don't go to the holiday dinner between colleagues.

We live in this big environment, in which every word and deed. Every move. There must be a certain amount. Strict requirements. Check why you're in this state. Wouldn't it be solved if the problem was corrected?

Everybody hates you.

Explain how you say and behave.

Let everyone not like it very much.

You should correct it.

Maybe you're not very good at talking, and you've broken some unspoken rules in the workplace.

Find your own shortcomings and correct them, or leave them alone.

High emotional intelligence is one of the important qualities of a person in handling interpersonal relationships and communication. However, it is inevitable to meet some people in relationships that you hate, how to shut them up with high emotional intelligence?

Here are three suggestions.

1: Treat people with courtesyFirst of all, you can't despise people you hate too much, and you can't speak badly or attack each other. If we really want to reduce their distractions, we need to maintain proper etiquette and respect with them.

When I meet different types of people, it is only because of personal experience and past education methods that they have chosen different paths and need to be accepted and understood. For example, when someone you don't like complains or complains to you, be careful to listen to him and give him affirmation, even if you don't agree with him. By showing respect and gratitude in this way, the annoying person will also feel recognized and will no longer continue to argue or talk back endlessly.

2: Boost self-confidence.

Secondly, if you are going to silence annoying people with high emotional intelligence, it is recommended that you make yourself appear confident and calm. Even in the face of provocations and attacks from the other party, dare to express your opinion and convey this confident attitude to the other party. Don't lose confidence because of the words of people you hate, and don't allow yourself to become easily impulsive or emotionally out of control.

Improving one's self-confidence can also increase one's knowledge and background through a lot of reading and studying, so that you can better protect yourself and have more in-depth and thorough explanations and opinions, so as to reduce the number of meaningless exchanges. In such conversations, make the people who hate you realize that you are too accomplished, so as to reduce the complexity of communication and negative emotions.

3: Take the appropriate distance.

Finally, if the words of the person we hate become more and more rude and frequent, we can consider keeping a certain distance from him in order to reduce our contact. In your dealings with others, avoid revealing too much detail about your life and emotions, and don't give them too much attention to avoid getting caught up in meaningless arguments and debates.

The most important thing is to maintain a good physical and mental state, so that even if the other person does not communicate in a harmonious way, we do not have to be disappointed because it does not affect other areas of our lives.

Eventually, such people will also choose to be far away from us.

If everything goes well at the end of the day, you can call it a day and go home one step at a time. If you encounter setbacks and difficulties at work, it is easy to remain frustrated and immersed in them outside of work, sometimes lasting for a few days or even longer, making it difficult to recover.

I hate myself: in this case, I first blame myself for the problems at work, thinking that I didn't do a good job, in fact, no matter what the problem, I blame myself. Second, worry about the consequences and continue to dream anxiously.

In the end, because of this kind of thinking, I denied myself and hated self-blame even more. I can't get out for a long time, and I don't have the heart to do anything, a vicious circle.

In this situation, how can we help ourselves to regain our calm? Work is just for a better life, or for me, just a tool to make money. You can't put the cart before the horse, because work affects your daily life.

Pay attention to life itself, it is like a complete painting, the working picture in this painting is **, how much to draw depends on yourself, even if you don't have to paint.

Think about what you have, maybe it's a healthy body, maybe it's the company of your family, maybe it's someone you like, maybe it's a hobby. You know, many people may never have your seemingly ordinary beauty, or never shine away.

Segregate things from work after work. The facts cannot be changed, but we can decide how we react to this matter and ourselves. These emotions are empty, and they are not trapped in the small emotions that Kuanna's self creates.

Things change according to objective laws, existence is reasonable, and it will pass. Accept the facts, accept yourself, do your best, and don't blame yourself for the results you can't control or the reactions of others. This is internal friction.

Stop, look at your emotions from the second person's point of view, and keep it up.