Friends and husbands quarrel and do something, what should bystanders do?

It is normal for husband and wife to have conflicts and quarrels, and quarrels indicate that the relationship is still there, but both parties are a little uncalm or <>

It is because there are different views and opinions on a certain matter, and they are unwilling to give in to each other, and then they are more and more noisy, in fact, it is even worse now that there are outsiders, everyone wants to save face, and when there are outsiders, they will not give in for their own face. And the quarrel between husband and wife is generally not good if outsiders interfere, but sometimes the quarrel is too serious when there is no outsider to persuade peace, it is really not good, the persuader is generally to understand the situation first, understand the process of quarreling, and then according to their own identity to persuade peace, generally criticize both sides, and then talk about what is bad about quarreling, people outside will see the joke when they know, so that the child can see the impact is not good, it will leave a shadow of childhood, and it will become the object of conversation after dinner. It has a great impact on life, mood and work status.

When persuading peace, you have to tell them that in fact, there is such a thing as quarrels between husband and wife, which is estimated to happen to every couple, and you can also give your own example, which will make them trust you more, feel that you are standing in their position to consider the problem, you are understanding them, so that you can relieve their tense and intense emotions, what you say next, they will listen carefully, and then they will reflect on their behavior just now, and they will be reconciled after calming down.

Quarrels between husband and wife, outsiders persuade each other to persuade and not to dissuade, people have a long-term emotional foundation, if the quarrel becomes like that, it is not good, in case they do not follow what you said but reconciled, then you will not be a person inside and outside in the future, so how embarrassing it will be to meet in the future. Husbands and wives quarrel most of the time they are angry, want to save face, and refuse to give in, they don't want you to say who is right and who is wrong, but to create opportunities for them to reconcile, at that time it doesn't matter who is right and who is wrong, the important thing is to reconcile decently as soon as possible.

And when quarreling, if someone asks the quarreling couple, they will count each other's wrong, saying that the other party is like and that, he really can't bear it, in fact, sometimes being criticized by parents can also ease the atmosphere, but you have to your own biological parents, if the man's parents criticize the girl, then the girl will feel particularly unfair, she will think, why not talk about your son? Is he also at fault? The reverse is also true, so it is best to criticize and educate yourself with your own parents and friends.

There are also peacemakers who can also talk about the fiercer and more tragic quarrels around them, or tell their own sorrows, sometimes this is more effective than bitter persuasion. If you don't have such an example around you, you can also make one up on the spot, and in order to persuade others, it's okay to tell a white lie. <>

Although the husband and wife quarrel with each other, but the big quarrel also hurts the body, it is best to quarrel less, quarrel more will make the relationship weaker, if they are really arguing at any time, no one can tolerate anyone, you can also persuade them to get together and disperse, after all, this kind of thing is not persuasion can be good, I hope they can find their own happiness in the future.

If the husband and wife quarrel and do something, as a bystander, you should never stand by and watch, otherwise you will be unkind! At this time, you should pull the two of them apart, of course, if you should pull the man, because if the two people do it, the man is usually dominant. If the woman knows taekwondo or something, then of course you have to pull the woman.

Then push the stronger side aside, and persuade while pushing: "What's wrong with the two of you?" If you want to quarrel, you two close the door and quarrel again, how bad is it to quarrel here for others to see?

Besides, if there is something to talk about, what can't be solved and do it? You! As a man, you shouldn't beat your wife.

Hurry up, go home" I think, when the two of them start fighting, they must hope that someone will persuade them to fight and then class**.

To tell the truth, if the two of them are just arguing, it is really difficult to persuade them, as long as they persuade the two of them not to do it again. Otherwise, if you meet an unreasonable couple, if you accidentally pull the wrong one or persuade the wrong one, maybe the two of them will be unanimous to the outside world, and the anger will be sprinkled directly on your head, it will be miserable.

It's already to the point where it's so serious, of course, you have to go up and pull the two of them apart first, do you still watch them fight all the time?

My suggestion after pulling it apart is for the two of them to separate for a while, both calm down, and talk about it when they calm down!

Generally speaking, it is persuasion and not persuasion, in line with this principle, it must be persuaded to both sides! My boyfriend and I are classmates, and one of our classmates is married, and we have a good relationship! The girl and I are best friends, and the boy and my boyfriend are brothers, so we often play together!

There was a time when the two of them had a quarrel, and the girl came to us with a group of girlfriends in a fit of anger, and complained angrily! We first listened to her complain and told us why we quarreled, and then we helped her scold her husband together!

Later, when the girl was not so angry and her mood stabilized, I began to say something about my quarrel with my boyfriend and her, to prove from the side, look, your husband is still very good, and he still has a lot of advantages! Then help her husband talk appropriately, at this time the girl has passed the most angry point, and she will generally consider the problem more rationally, and she will feel that her husband is not so annoying!

The most important step is to help their husband and wife reconcile, in fact, to put it bluntly, it is to give them a step, and both parties are good**! Later, his husband called ** and asked her if she was with me, although the girl said not to tell him, but she definitely hoped that her husband would come over! So I told his husband that we were in **, and then when his husband came, he helped adjust the atmosphere, and the two of them went down the steps!

Therefore, when you encounter a quarrel between friends and husbands, the first thing must be to separate the two people, get rid of the environment and emotions at the time, and let both parties calm down! Then you have to be a peacemaker, you must ensure fairness and objectivity, you can't favor anyone, and you must not add fuel to the fire. Then create conditions for reconciliation between the two sides at the appropriate time, which is basically not a matter of principle, and everyone will go down the stairs!

I think it's good for the bystanders to go up and pull the two apart, let the two calm down, and solve the problem.

You should persuade both sides, and try not to let the man do it, after all, the strength of the woman is not as great as the man.

I think that other people's family affairs, I can not interfere in the urgency of care, after all, we are not easy to deal with, but we also have to make decisions according to things, if we can stop it.

You should go to the rack, after all, it's not good to do it, let both of you calm down and then solve the problem.