Should the couple get divorced after three days of quarreling?

During the Spring Festival this year, I went to my husband's house for the New Year, and I had a conflict with his father. His father said in a commanding tone, "Don't have a second child." I immediately became angry, I said that other parents encourage their sons to have one more grandchild, you might as well not want to.

This year, because of a small change in my husband's job, I came up with the idea of changing jobs. My family is very supportive, and my husband and his father started his big truth again: health is the first thing, you work so comfortably, the salary is not low, what can you do when you come back, you have no education, ** there is a good job waiting for you.

After saying this a few times, my husband was a little shaken again. In a quarrel, I said that my husband followed me and enjoyed happiness at my parents' house. He felt that his self-esteem had been severely affected and asked me for divorce.

Later, I persuaded him to think more about the sake of the child. It's just pressed down.

In recent months, my husband has become obsessed with fishing, and every time he comes back, he doesn't do anything, and his children don't pick up and drop off at school, so he thinks about going fishing, fishing during the day and fishing at night. I was angry and said, "You can use your home break to look for a job, and if you want to start a business, you should go on a field trip."

My husband quit again, saying that I was in too much control, and that he could do whatever he wanted, and I didn't want to control him. Last year, the two of us borrowed some money together to buy a car, and every time we said it was very good, we bought it for me to drive, and every time I asked him to teach me, I would teach it for ten minutes and stop teaching. I won't be able to preach, the day before yesterday I found a driving instructor to teach me, and he had an opinion after he found out.

This time, he offered to be separated from me for a while to calm down, and he took the child away. For my husband, I don't seem to feel any heartache anymore, but I can't bear to have children. My child has been with me since he was a child, and he has spent a lot of effort to cultivate him.

I would like to ask all netizens, how can I properly solve such a situation?

My husband and I have known each other for more than five years, been married for more than four years, and our children are four years old, I am 30 and he is 29. At that time, the two were introduced by classmates, and they got married after a short time of love. After marriage, I found that there is a big gap between the values of the two people, which may be because the two people are different in terms of education.

I had an undergraduate, and he didn't go straight to a five-year college in high school. In married life, two people often quarrel, sometimes because of trivial things. He has a short temper, which may have something to do with the environment in which he grew up.

He came from a combined family, his mother died when he was young, his father continued to play, and his stepmother brought a son, a few years older than my husband. My husband was ostracized by his stepmother and that brother since he was a child, and he has not had a good relationship with his stepmother until now, and that brother also broke off the father-son relationship with his husband's father when he became an adult. And I didn't know about my husband's family before marriage, these complications.

I have always lived in a warm family, and my relatives love me very much.

When I first got married, I thought my husband was not bad, because he had a lot of hardships from snacks, and he was not too tired to work in my house. Later, after giving birth, my parents gave up the small shop that had been in business for more than 20 years, and my mother concentrated on helping me take care of the children, and my father went out to work. I have been living with my parents with my children, and my husband has come back to live with me.

I have been working in a unit very close to my mother's house since I met my husband, and my work is relatively free, but my income is not high, about 40,000 yuan a year. My husband works in the field, comes back every few days, stays at home for three days and leaves. He works on a rotational basis, so he doesn't have a holiday off every holiday.

His salary is not high, plus the welfare benefits are about 50,000 yuan a year. In Jiangsu, this income level is only enough for food and clothing. So I've always wanted my husband to go home to work and not have to live separately.

And his family has been strongly opposed, thinking that he is doing a good job and should not resign. Three years ago, my husband and I used our spare time to work as a courier, and asked my dad to resign from the unit to help us. When my husband wasn't at home, I asked his dad to help.

After working like this for three months, every time his father came to help, he had to say that earning this money was hard-earned money, and this was in exchange for life safety, so let's stop doing this. I said that's okay, let my husband come to work near my house and find someone with a higher salary than now, but his father began to go crazy and said that he would either sever the father-son relationship, otherwise he would not let my husband resign. I was so angry that I overturned the table.

Since then, my husband's whole family has felt that I am unreasonable. Later, I stopped doing couriers, and my husband also filed for divorce with me. I told my family, and my family criticized me in front of my husband for what I had done wrong and wanted to correct it.

Later, I became more and more reluctant to go to my husband's house for holidays.

There is no need. There is no need to go on with a marriage that quarrels every day. Husbands and wives living together cannot avoid quarrels.

However, when two people live together, they should learn to understand and tolerate each other. No matter what kind of things or conflicts you encounter, you should tolerate each other, and don't always quarrel when you encounter problems.

Arguing every day, such a life is very difficult, and it will make two people feel exhausted because of it. Over time, the relationship will get worse and worse, and eventually it will lead to the breakdown of the marriage. So, if two people quarrel every day after they get married, I don't think there's any need to go on.

Ways to maintain a good marriage:

If you want to have a beautiful and happy marriage, first of all, husband and wife should learn to understand and tolerate each other. When encountering problems, we must learn to consider the problem from the other person's point of view, so that many conflicts can be avoided.

Secondly, communication is also a very important thing. A lot of couples always like the cold war.

However, the Cold War is the easiest way to break the relationship between two people, and it does not solve the problem. Therefore, husband and wife must often communicate with each other. Finally, couples should trust each other.

Trust is one of the most basic conditions for maintaining a marriage. If two people are together without even the most basic trust, the marriage will become precarious and will eventually come to an end.

Because after a lack of trust, two people are always suspicious of each other, and this kind of life will make both people feel tired, and the relationship will break down over time. <>

The cold war should be considered divorced for about a month, because ignoring each other for such a long time shows that the emotional foundation between two people is very weak and not suitable for being together.

It should be considered a divorce in about a week, because there is no communication between the two people anymore, and it is like a stranger, which means that the relationship between the two people has come to an end.

The cold war for about three months should be considered divorced, because the fact that two people can have a cold war for so long shows that there is no other party in each other's hearts.

Two or three weeks should be considered divorced, because two or three weeks of not talking shows that the relationship between two people is really very fragile, and being together can be said to be completely unnecessary.

I think that after a month or so of the Cold War, it means that we will be separated, because no matter how big the gap is, if the conflict lasts too long, it will not be able to recover.

After about a year of the Cold War, it should be considered a divorce, because if two people still ignore each other for such a long time, it means that it doesn't matter if they don't have each other in their lives.

I think that once the husband and wife have a cold war for a year, then even if they are divorced, because one year is enough time for two people to calm down, and the relationship between two people will really become weaker and weaker.

If the husband and wife have a cold war for a year, then it is really considered divorced, because such two people have no feelings, and there is no need to continue to live.

If the husband and wife have been in a cold war for more than half a year, they will be considered divorced, because the two have no communication.

If a husband and wife quarrel and want to divorce, they can use the following methods to divorce: 1. Divorce by agreement, both parties voluntarily divorce, sign a divorce agreement, and go to the marriage registration authority to register the divorce; 2. In the case of litigation divorce, one party goes to the court to sue for divorce, and the court will decide whether to grant the divorce according to whether the relationship between the husband and wife has broken down.

Article 1076 of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China Where a husband and wife divorce voluntarily, they shall sign a written divorce agreement and apply for divorce registration at the marriage registration authority in person. The divorce agreement shall clearly state the parties' expression of intent to divorce voluntarily and the consensus on matters such as child support, property, and debt handling. Article 1079.

Paragraph 1 and 2: Where one of the husband and wife requests a divorce, the relevant organization may conduct mediation or directly file a divorce lawsuit with the people's court. People's courts hearing divorce cases shall conduct mediation; If the relationship has indeed broken down and mediation fails, the divorce shall be granted.

Quarrels between husband and wife are inevitable, and when you find out each other's shortcomings, they will start to get angry with you, they don't want to be with you anymore, they start to be dissatisfied with you, and they want to divorce you, so they will quarrel often. Quarrels between husband and wife are inevitable, but if there are more quarrels, it will affect the feelings of two people, and it will also affect the family. When there are some conflicts between husband and wife, it is necessary to resolve them so that they do not worsen.

In real life, many couples will always have a reputation for revenge on each other because of some things, which often quarrels and causes the relationship to deteriorate. If you encounter such a situation, how should you solve it?

1. Solve problems through communication.

When husband and wife quarrel, if they cannot communicate and solve the problem in a timely and effective manner, it will lead to tension and quarrels between the two people. This not only affects the relationship and family development of two people, but also leads to the reluctance of two people to live together. First of all, it is necessary to correctly recognize the importance and necessity of communication.

If you don't communicate in time to solve the problem, it will lead to constant quarrels between husband and wife, and even affect the happiness of your marriage. When we can learn to solve problems through communication, we will also be better able to deal with conflicts and frictions between couples.

2. Find out the root cause of the quarrel.

If it is just because the other party is your enemy, then you must also learn to say "sorry" to the other party and make up for each other's mistakes with practical actions. If you want to retaliate against the other person after a fight, then you can ask the other person what happened before, this step is very important! To be clear:

Have you talked to him about it? What contradictions did you have with him before the quarrel?

3. Analyze the problem.

After there is a contradiction, if you don't have a reasonable communication and macro handling, then this contradiction will gradually expand over time. Therefore, when getting along with each other, it is important to carefully analyze and resolve what happened to both parties. In this way, the relationship between two people can be maintained for a longer time.

When facing conflicts between husband and wife, we must learn to face and deal with them correctly. If you really don't know how to properly handle an argument, then you must learn to ask a friend of the opposite sex about the situation.

4. Learn to tolerate each other.

There are many conflicts in marriage, and two people must learn to tolerate each other's mistakes together. Right and wrong are not impossible, but you have to learn to tolerate in order to get what you want. For example, couples have different opinions about certain things at work or in life together.

Then you have to say some different opinions and opinions to the other person behind your back. Then tolerate each other in a respectful way. Don't always go to such extremes.

It is necessary to be together.

Marriage requires the husband and wife to work together and run it together. Quarrels are an inevitable event in married life, and it is important to learn to understand each other, learn to think, learn to give in and be patient from quarrels, so that the marriage relationship will become stronger.

Ways to improve your relationship as a couple:

1. Look at it with a normal heart.

Husbands and wives have been together for a long time, and they will gradually expose their shortcomings. At the same time, there will always be all kinds of unexpected trivial things in life, which keep two people busy. In addition, life after marriage is becoming more and more dull, and the feelings and enthusiasm of the two people gradually cooled down.

Quarrels often arise with a little thing, and there is a way that the quarrel between husband and wife will intensify. Quarrels between husband and wife are indeed a very common thing. Couples cannot choose to separate because of quarrels.

After all, marriage is not easy to come by, even if there is a quarrel, we must strengthen our confidence together.

2. Find the reason for the quarrel.

Husbands and wives will not quarrel for no reason, and when two people quarrel, they must find the reason in time. For example, is it that you are willful and vent your bad emotions on the other person? Two people have different opinions, what is the difference, do they only care about their own ideas and ignore each other's ideas?

These can be the reasons for couples to quarrel. After finding the reason for the quarrel between the two people, you must find a way to solve the problem. Instead of being too pretentious in something and expanding the contradiction, if the point of disagreement between the two people becomes bigger, the quarrel will definitely become more and more serious.

After a long time, it will definitely affect the relationship between husband and wife.

3. Learn to operate.

As long as the husband and wife are in one place, there is no hurdle that cannot be overcome. As for the quarrel, treat it as a trivial matter. Adjust your mindset and see the argument as a way for the other person to appeal for affection.

Through reflection, you understand each other, and you can take the initiative to resolve the problem of jujubes. That's running a marriage. When a husband and wife are together and in love, they have completely two feelings.

When the relationship between husband and wife is flat, it is necessary to learn to create romance, which can enhance the relationship between husband and wife. <>