What should I do if my playmate from childhood is now stronger than me and my heart is unbalanced?

This is a deviation in your psychological positioning, the so-called "people are more popular than people", you only see their successful side, but you don't see that they also have troubles. Your education and salary are not as high as theirs, but you have always compared your weaknesses with them, how can you be psychologically balanced? In other words, you're comparing the wrong thing, you're comparing the wrong object.

We say, what are we studying and working for? Is it to have a high income? Is it to buy a car and a house?

Of course, this is a very realistic pursuit, but we can dissect these material pursuits to see the essence, what are we pursuing? It is the joy of life, the happiness of oneself and the satisfaction of one's heart. Even if you have money, but you are not happy, what is the use of money?

The most valuable things in the world can't be bought with money, you can't buy happiness, you can't buy happiness, you can't buy ......happiness, you can't buy happinessIt may sound preachy, but it's true.

You are unbalanced because we grew up together, because others look at them differently, yes, we can't not be affected by external factors, but we should find something to be proud of, something to be happy about, don't limit your eyes to material gains, in addition to these, we have a lot of things that we are more proud of. What they really have to compare is: who is happier, who is the happiest, who is the happiest.

How are these joyful and how can happiness be obtained? It's not money and material things, it's your hands and wisdom. You know, money can be earned, but mood, happiness, and happiness can't be earned.

And don't we live to make ourselves happy, to make our cares and loved ones happy?

When you find something to be proud of and envied, you have a sense of superiority, confidence and strength, don't you? Isn't there a saying that when God closes a door for you, he will also open a window for you, in other words, you are not only better than others in this aspect, but must be better than others in another.

Think about it, I'm sure you can find your pride!

The so-called psychological imbalance is that they want to lose their temper when they are not happy, or they have many wishes that cannot be fulfilled at once, but they have nowhere to vent, so they come to a psychologist for help. However, the counsellors found that none of the clients lost their temper with them. When they came, they may have been angry, some drank "sorrow-drenching" wine, some quarreled with their relatives, some were ready to take revenge on their enemies, and some wanted to commit suicide ......In the counseling room, these people can cry loudly, pour out their grievances, expose unspeakable secrets in their hearts, denounce the meanness and ruthlessness of certain people, and talk about their own opinions and ideals.

Facts have proved that temper should have a normal channel, as long as there is a suitable place to confide, a little rational person can actually control his temper. Due to different genders, different ethnicities, different positions, and different levels of education, there will also be different experiences of psychological imbalance. "Balance" is simply a state of mind:

Imbalances are frequent, and the key is how to adjust.

No matter who you are, when a certain state of psychological imbalance persists to a certain extent, you should consider it calmly from your own subjective point of view

1. Can you treat people, things, and things that you feel unbalanced with an objective attitude?

2 Is it possible to form a trustworthy relationship with a person for a reasonable exchange of information?

3 Do you have a sense of humor to relieve psychological stress?

4. Can you actively participate in beneficial social activities (e.g., recreation, sports, academic groups, etc.)?

5. Ability to take appropriate breaks and engage in beneficial recreational activities on a regular basis.

6 Can you maintain a good level of physical health (do not shy away from illness and avoid medical treatment, and insist on physical exercise)?

7 Is it possible to focus on the current reality (not ambitious, fantastical, realistic)?

8 Do you have a relatively satisfying job (professional, amateur, for experiential enjoyment)?

9 Is there a way to solve one's own problems step by step (distinguish between urgent and important; urgent, unimportant; Not urgent, important; Not urgent, not important four categories, gradually resolved). In this way, in life, work, study, and interpersonal communication, we can be good at all kinds of problems and get out of the feeling of imbalance, so that our psychology can gradually become balanced, so that our lives are happy, our learning progress, our work is happy, and our interpersonal relationships are harmonious and harmonious.

Find someone to talk to, and it will be much better.

Constantly enrich yourself, and strive to find what you are good at, find your own motivation from them, people will always have their own strengths, if you are very good at learning, continue to study, test, take the civil service examination, take the judicial examination, if you are good at communication, do business, start from small things, it is because their life is superior, and you are in a dilemma. So you have more pressure than all of them, and your motivation is naturally greater than theirs, maybe one day you start your own business and become a boss, and they are still working for others, maybe one day they will work for you.

One person has one fate, and the fate of others is something that you can't envy, you can think of it this way, your advantage over them is that you are healthy, no illness or disaster, you can eat whatever you want instead of being limited by your body or disease. Compared to those gnawing old people who don't have jobs, we're a lot better!

As the saying goes: where there is comparison, there is pain, and pain comes from comparison.

Of course, there must be comparisons in life, so that there will be progress, but not with others.

The object of comparison is not others but themselves, today's I am stronger than yesterday, tomorrow's I am stronger than today, so that we can get stronger and stronger and finally achieve transcendence!

Even if it's not as good as others, you still have to live it. If you want to be happy, you can't be careful, and you must change your careful eyes.

It's normal to be mentally unbalanced and unhappy, it's a personal experience, it just means that you're normal, you have a positive heart, if you don't feel it, it's over.

Spend more time with your parents, and gradually they will feel that it is nice to have their son by their side.

I wish you a speedy fortune.

Are they really better than you? I don't think so.

From your description, only one aspect is seen - money.

In this materialistic society, the weight of material things in people's hearts seems to be getting bigger and bigger, and people seem to have forgotten how to evaluate it objectively.

There are many things in life, don't forget your emotional heart for the rush and hard work in life, you have your own life, belong to your own life experience, express the happiness in it, pass it on, its value is no less than your former playmate.

Also, your former playmate should be happy to be strong, he is surrounded by excellent people, and he has played since childhood, that kind of pure feelings will become the pillar of your future interactions, people are flesh and blood animals, even if there is a little bit of affection in this perhaps indifferent society, you will definitely help if you have difficulties. I also have college classmates, so I don't have the same thoughts as you say, instead, I want them to contact me.

First of all, you have to look up to yourself.

What is there to compare, you just need to feel that you have a clear conscience in this life, do everything in front of you, whatever others say, don't let people sway your thoughts, recommend "Yu Dan Zhuangzi Experience".

If you say that, no one will go to Li Ka-shing???

Don't always compare the strengths of others with yourself, think about it, can your friends who go abroad be with their families every day?

Can you see those old classmates often?

It's just that you're already better than them in these points!

It's a good thing that you have such an upward heart, sometimes it's just a matter of opportunity for one person.

Actually, it doesn't matter! Do you want to have more cars, more houses to be amazing?

It's not the same to live in this society, as long as you are worthy of yourself and the conscience of heaven and earth, then what is there to regret!

You can't be blamed for social reality. Take your time to accept this reality. Finally, you have to find your own respect, don't be too backward with others.

That's because you're too materialistic, vulgar.

Is it rich to have those?

Happiness is given to oneself.

I'm not in good health, and my days are tight, but I have good friends, it's warm, I'm happy, I'm content.

You have to think about whether everything you are doing now is not made by yourself, and if so, you are worthy of yourself.

There is no way out for anyone to compare themselves to others! We have to compare ourselves to ourselves! Strive to do better!

Remember, people are better than people, more people than dead people, and being a man doesn't have to be rich to be happy.

Facing it calmly, being content and happy, there are many such things.

Pursue good, it's fine.

Then you think that you are not as good as your own.

Song of contentment Life is full of blessings, people are not content, thinking about things and being tired, being quiet is thinking, thinking about suffering, peace is happiness, thinking about illness, health, thinking about death, existence is happiness, thinking about hunger, cold, and suffering, being warm is thinking, carrying burdens, walking is happiness, thinking about loneliness, having a wife is thinking, thinking about Mercedes-Benz, home is happiness, thinking about sinners, not committing a crime is thinking, foolishness, reasoning is happiness, thinking about sleeping in the open, having a house is happiness, thinking about the sun, shade is happiness, thinking about unemployment, thin salary is happiness, I am not as good as others; Regress and think about the width of the ocean.

Others ride in the car, I walk;More than the top is less than the bottom.

Those who are not as good as me are still many levels;There are many blessings in front of you.

When I turned around, I saw the cart man;Contentment is always happy, and there is never disgrace.