Do you like me or not?

Say something that the landlord doesn't like to hear, even though your appearance is desirable.

But you must have some factors that she can't accept.

For example, the salary is low, the height is not high, etc.

Of course, she can't tell you the reason directly, because hurting another person face-to-face is not what ordinary people call it, this is a face culture.

You ask her the real reason through QQ or something, if it is something you can improve, you can change it, and give up if you can't change it.

Persistence is the best way, sincerity, gold and stone for the open, I believe she will be moved by you!

First of all, the first point is self-centered, you are the child and I am the parent, so you have to listen to me.

I think this point is a lot of parents, because as a parent, if you fail to establish majesty in your child's heart, your child will not respect herself, but often this kind of forcible behavior attracts not respect from the child, but fear. Many times when a child does something, parents see that as long as it is not what they think, they start to discipline the child, or even beat and scold, and rarely listen to the child explain why he did it.

The second point is that it is perfunctory and perfunctory. I believe that in life, we often encounter parents who often promise their children some things, such as taking their children to the park on weekends, or taking their children to go shopping to buy toys after work, but many times because of work or the mood is very bad that day, they don't go directly, the child is very aggrieved, there is no other way except crying, and then crying makes parents more irritable, and this is back to a vicious circle. As a parent, promise your child to do everything you can, otherwise you will give hope and let your child down, so dishonest behavior may seem to you to be a hardship, but the child will keep it in mind and feel that both parents are big **, and promise never to fulfill.

The third point is that you can't do it yourself but force your children to do it, and you can't set your own example. Many parents ask their children not to play mobile phone games, blindly urging their children to learn, and they are playing games on the side, which not only seriously affects the child's learning concentration, but also destroys the image in the child's mind to a greater extent. Even many parents still use their own work to play, you are the reason why your child should learn if you are a student, which is obviously unfair to children.

Fourth, always compare children with other people's children. In fact, there are many ways to encourage children, many parents like their children to learn from excellent children, but often the words are wrong, which directly causes the child's inner inferiority, and even suppresses the child's self-esteem. I feel like I'm worthless, so I just don't listen to anything and go the other way.

I like who I am more than I used to be.

In the past, because of my young age, some of my opinions were a little ignorant. But I value these things very much. Because of ignorance, many of the opinions and suggestions I made were not taken seriously or even ignored.

This made me feel self-doubting, unconfident, and even cowardly at that time.

Later, as I grew older, I experienced more things, and the problems I saw in the world changed, and I began to get rid of the ignorance and cowardice of my youth. A strong sense of motivation pushes me forward. Let a little bit become confident and persistent.

Children are the most sensitive, they can feel the real emotions of adults, maybe you don't like children, so they won't like you either, or you don't look like children!

Having a common language is the foundation of getting along with your child.

Like the above example, what does a child like to find his mother, and if he prefers to talk to his mother, it means that he really likes his mother more?

In fact, not really, perhaps the mother provides the child with the food, drink, clothing, and use that the child subconsciously thinks that if he does not kiss his mother, he will not get what he wants.

Therefore, behind the liking, there are different dimensions of performance, such as who the child believes more, who the child fears more, who the child relies on more, who the child admires more, who the child respects more, and so on.

The child may not talk to his father much, but the child admires his father's dedication to the whole family more, and cultivates the child's strong belief in becoming a man and a pillar.

The cornerstone of a good relationship with your child is to have a common language.

Children like to draw, and it just so happens that the mother also has a preference for art, so the child's best playmate at this time is the mother, and it is normal to kiss and talk more with the mother.

After a few days, the child likes to play football again, and the father likes to watch the football when he has nothing to do, and the child will accompany the father to watch the football together, and tell some stories about football.

There are many relatives in life who always like to tease their children: "Do you prefer dad or mom?" "Actually, this is an extremely child-friendly issue.

In the child's mind, both parents are very important, and the child does not want to distinguish who is more important, because often when it is said who is more important, it means that the other party is not so important, which will have a bad impact on the child's psychology.

As a parent, you don't have to force your child to choose who you prefer, and cultivating a common language with your child is the basis for establishing a "preferred" channel.

Yesterday, I heard a parent in the community say, "If you do this again, my grandson will not like you." I took a look, it turned out that the child was going to pick up leaves, the parents felt dirty and didn't let them pick up, and the child didn't listen, so the eggplant type chief said to the child that I don't like you anymore. I don't know how many moms and dads have said this.

And because of this sentence, if the child often hears it, our child is likely to grow up to become a people-pleasing personality. It will be insecure. No self-confidence.

Because I don't like you anymore, this sentence is about the child, not the child's wrong behavior, so if the child listens to this sentence too much, he may feel that parents like themselves because they do well, and they don't like themselves if they don't do well. Then when he grows up, it is easy for him to suppress himself and cater to the preferences of others. When he does something wrong, he will be afraid and anxious, and others will not love him.

So when a child does something wrong, the right thing to do should be your behavior that I don't like, because your behavior is wrong and must be changed. At this time, if the child has a temper and can't accept it, we must also adhere to the principle, and if we cry, we will hold him quietly and wait for him to calm down before telling him, he will know that we love him, but there are also principles. What is wrong must be corrected.

There may be several reasons:

1. Like your own, it is related to your childhood. When children are young, they are naughty because they are not taken seriously, and they want to get attention, or because of the lack of a trace element in the body, and mild ADHD caused by the lack of a trace element in the body, children like Lu Jizhi are not as ingenious as ordinary children in the middle of the world, and they are not favored, so when they grow up easily, they look back on their childhood and feel that it was not a happy childhood, so they don't even like to be such a big child.

2. Today's children because of the wide range of ways to contact the outside world, mature and thoughtful, little adults abound, and there is little kind of innocence, so precocious children at the same time constitute pressure on "big children", if the big children do not adjust the state, it is difficult to get along with the children and become friends, and it is even more difficult to like them.

Suggestion: You don't need to emphasize whether you like children now, it has to do with your own age, life, and experience, and when you mature and grow up, you will have the ability to control children, you will not hate them, and you will like them.

Because in my concept, if I raise a child to grow up, it is my love for him, I feel that he is the little angel God gave me, and I will have his presence in my life in the future, and he will have my company in his life, and I will have to accompany him until he needs to leave me. But it's really not his obligation to raise me when I'm old, and it depends on whether he wants to show his love for me or not, and I'll earn enough money to support myself, because he will also have his own little angel who wants to run his life. So, raising a child doesn't seem to me to be necessary.

I think raising a child is the same as raising a dog, but it depends on whether you are willing to accept it and accompany it, this is not asking for anything in return, do you think the owner of the dog will want the dog to grow up to give him what to expect? So some people don't like dogs and don't want to raise them, and some people don't like children and don't give birth, which is reasonable.

Maybe my concept itself is not the traditional set of children to prevent old age, so I don't have any desire to have children.

So am I still selfish like this?