How do adults deal with parental discipline anxiety?

Make your own decisions about your own economy. With a job, everyone has to face the problem of buying a house. Once your parents give you a down payment, basically your housing problems are also controlled by your parents.

The power of this kind of control is powerful, even if you have studied abroad and lived in the United States for almost 10 years, and have lived in a "free" country for almost 10 years, I have seen examples of people who bought a house in the United States because they took their parents' money, and they were remotely controlled. You can accept your parents' money to buy a house, or you can buy a house without your parents' money.

For those parents who don't have money, of course, this is not a problem, but if your parents still have some money, but you can't afford to buy a house, you have to think carefully about whether your freedom is important, or whether the house is important. Make your own decisions. Your first job actually sets the tone for your life.

This is the first turning point in your life that you can get yourself. If you ask your parents to find a job for you, they will definitely arrange your life according to their own ideas. You may not be satisfied with the life arranged by your parents, but if you are arranged, then you will definitely have anxiety.

This anxiety is basically not solved by adjusting one's own mindset, and it will be more difficult to solve it. For those who have choice anxiety, it is actually you who have greater happiness by enriching your life, washing away anxiety so that you can think calmly, eventually solve the problem, or change your mind. And if you are arranged to work by your parents, you basically have no choice, and there is no way to solve anxiety in a life without choiceSo first you have to give yourself a choice.

The first step to making a choice is to find a job on your own.

It is true that the premise of looking for a job on your own is that you can find a job. For those who are capable of working, this is certainly not a problem. For those who can't, it's not a problem if your parents don't have access to it either – it's useless for you to rely on your parents anyway.

Some people may feel that as long as they take more money, they will have no problem being managed by their parents for the rest of their lives.

That's because you are subconsciously still willing to be managed by your parents, if you really don't want to, then you really can't be controlled. Chinese parents are very willing to manage their children, and they want to manage their children from birth to coffin. After managing their children and grandchildren, three generations of shade addiction are the wishes of Chinese parents.

If you accidentally become a century-old family, it is really the pride of Chinese parents. This is the luck of the sons and daughters of China, and it is also the imprisonment that the sons and daughters of China cannot get rid of. Don't blame your parents, as long as you have the determination and ability, you can stand on the shoulders of your parents and achieve more.

You are already an adult, so the main thing is to communicate, communicate and negotiate, and let your parents know that you have your own ideas.

Tell your parents that you can be independent and that you are no longer a child.

It is recommended that you talk to your parents and tell them that you have grown up, have your own thoughts, and can take care of your own affairs to reassure them.

It's always a good idea to talk to your parents seriously so that they can be less disciplined.

First of all, you need to make sure that whatever your parents do to you is for your own good, and that your parents can't possibly want to hurt you, even if sometimes they do it in a way that is too extreme.

Be considerate of each other, parents are also doing this for your own good, understand each other.

In fact, I think a little more communication can effectively solve this problem.

There are some disciplines that should listen to the parents, after all, they are for your own good, and we should calm their emotions.

Parents are also for our good, since we don't want to be controlled, we should be mature and steady, and be able to handle things independently, so that parents can rest assured!

Adults should have their own career and living space, as long as you are self-reliant, do not rely on your parents, and continue to mature yourself, then the parental discipline will naturally disappear invisibly.

I think it's better to talk to your parents and tell them that you're an adult.

First of all, you must behave maturely and steadily, and then discuss with them reasonably.

They are all adults, and they should have their own ideas, and they can relax as much as they want.

Adults have their own lives, and if they still live together, friction and quarrels are inevitable, take a step back from each other, and move out early to live independently.

You agree to all his requests for you, and care for him, because he is your elder!

Everyone's thinking is different, let's empathize!

You fly high and make more money.

I'm an adult now, but I haven't had a job yet, my parents have been very strict since I was a child, and my parents have always been very strict (just socializing and going out) very extreme and sensitive, which has caused me a lot of harm, we never communicate and can't communicate, and the sensitivity is terrible, I pick up my phone and come over and say I'm chatting, I follow when I go out, and all my classmates and friends have called ** to ask me, including their parents, and I've always been like this, although it's very good to me, but always tell me how difficult they are, and it's a lot of pressure every day, begging grandpa, suing grandma and something like that to oppress me Just today, it may be bad outside, and when I get home, he beat me up, I'm a 21-year-old girl, and I've had low self-esteem and depression for 21 years.

Deal with it calmly and think about who's right and who's wrong.