When I first entered the society, I worked very hard, why did I win all my friends who drank and mea

People are lonely, friends can have wine and meat, and it is enough to help a little Friends are originally used to share happiness To put it bluntly, they are used to play Many difficulties are difficult that only you and your family can tell and bear The kind in TV dramas can't be found.

Contacts need to be accumulated slowly, and you are not in a hurry when you first enter the society, just to see which friends you can make.

I can now count as true friends, it is a person before leaving the society, and it is not easy to meet a few true friends in the society, because there are too many mixed interests, but it is not nothing, sincere or not, you can see it a few more times, if you find that it is not worth making, don't waste emotional energy on that kind of person, just be a familiar stranger.

On the premise of not harming their own interests, anyone who can talk about being a friend, if people have needs, they should help because they can help, do their best, successful people will have many friends of different levels, not a single level of friends, how many friends can be friends in a person's life, determine how much you have achieved Favor is a saw, you pull me back, don't be afraid to owe favors, can make you owe favors, it means that you are valuable to others, and vice versa, doing things and being a person are actually almost the same, but you can do things, not necessarily be a person To put it simply, you have to have principles in doing things, you have to have a bottom line in life, and everyone's values are different, and the principles and bottom lines will not be the same.

Why are you always entangled in the so-called identity rhetoric? A person's life will always change with their own development, social circles, and social status will change, but it does not mean that the past life should be denied because of the past friends should be alienated People who really treat you as friends will not make trouble for you at every turn Many people, many friends have not seen each other for 10 years, and they are still friends, and their work and social circles in daily life can be almost equated Because people's time is limited, what kind of people will have what kind of friends refers to this When many people introduce friends, they will talk about the events and times they have experienced together, and it can be considered that this is a friend (just like a soldier who has made meritorious contributions to the battlefield and is awarded a medal) can be used to witness your life during that period, so successful people will have friends from all walks of life, many different levels, and different social status, which is an affirmation of his past life and work, and it is rare for a person to have 3-5 friends who are really worthy of friendship in his life, and it is undeniable that there are many people, and most of the time is spent coping with work and their own life Compared with old friends, new friends will definitely take up more of their own time Old friends often only get together on the premise that something happens.

First of all, I recommend reading Carnegie's book...

Communication is such a thing as talking and doing things, try to be easy-going, and friends will naturally be available.

Basically, all people have bad motives. Those who get along should be closer, and those who can't get along should not be too close (or be friends).

There are many opportunities to hone this communication skill when you work at the grassroots level of society, and you can grasp it. People want to be repaid, people want to be casual.

Students with big differences in identity should look at his personality, look at his surroundings, and see whether he is more high-profile or hot with the grassroots, depending on the situation.

Talk less and listen more, talk less and do more. Be yourself.

Introversion is also a good character.

Talk less ...Do more.

Woe comes from the mouth. It makes sense.

Of course I talk less. It's not that you don't speak. There should be interpersonal communication.

I think. You don't think too much about it.

Just be yourself.

Birds of a feather flock together. Together. There will be people who will cherish you.

Listen more, watch more, learn more, talk less, you can't hurt people, you can't have the heart to defend people, I feel that people are valuable, and you haven't done anything bad to you because you haven't hit that value, if it comes, those who harm you and betray are coming.

Teach you the easiest: find a job, sum up experience in the work, practice in the melting pot of the society, who can't integrate with the society at the beginning, but after you exercise a few times, it's good.

Don't think about it, it's nothing, if you really can't stick to it, you can get a new job, but don't be afraid, you have to do it yourself.

recommends the book "Boiled Three Kingdoms", which Cheng Jun recalled, and an inspirational book "Who Moved My Cheese".

Your problem is primarily a psychological one, and your obstacle is also primarily psychological. To overcome the psychological barrier, it takes your unremitting efforts and hard work. As long as you work hard, you can overcome it.

It is recommended that you try the following aspects: 1. Learn to communicate with the people around you, the main tool of communication is language, communicate with them more. Topics are generally random, very broad, and there is no need to be specific, as long as everyone is interested, they can become topics.

The principle is not to harm others. The lights are not lit or lit, and the words are not clear. Second, we must learn to respect others, people are dignified, and if we want to be respected by others, we must first respect others.

Don't say anything that insults others, and don't do anything that insults others. You respect people, and people respect you. 3. Be good at helping others, everyone may encounter this or that difficulty and trouble in life and work, when he needs help, you reach out and help him overcome difficulties, others will be grateful to you, so you may become friends.

Giving people roses has a lingering fragrance. Fourth, you should participate in more social activities, so that you can meet many people, among whom there must be people who share your hobbies, and you may become friends after socializing. There is no grass at the end of the world.

Fifth, we must be modest and cautious, do not be proud of ourselves, people are clear, friends are widowed, and water is clear and there are no fish.

This has to be explored by yourself, and I recommend you to take a look at Thick Black.

You and I are basically similar in personality.

Actually, it's nothing, if I have any hobbies, and if my colleague has them, I'll discuss them with him, such as dota, so I'm going to have a hot fight with a few of them. Don't be afraid in the workplace, even if he's a leader, so what? He can eat you? You guess he is not qualified to do what he should do at work People in the relationship will slowly get acquainted with it When you meet someone who is not used to it, you usually only have work contacts with him If you can see it smoothly, everyone must be playing together It's natural.

I'm similar to when you first worked, in fact, no one can teach you this, you can only experience it yourself in life, try to contact more people, and slowly understand. In the workplace, it is most taboo to talk about others in front of others, and when interacting with people in the workplace, you should be careful everywhere, don't say everything as others, just do it well in the face, of course, you may also meet a good friend, but the probability is small. Remember, people in the workplace are competitive.

Read more books, and think Dale Carnegie's "The Weakness of Human Nature" is more classic!!

I think your junior high school teacher has brought you a big psychological shadow, and then you will think that the teachers are all like that.

Admittedly, A.

My experience with bai is somewhat similar, when I was in junior high school, the teacher once pointed to a girl in the class and said to me

xx, you will definitely be worse than her in the future", but then the girl who belonged to me went to college worked part-time. Now that I'm in college, time is autonomous, but there are still people in terms of grades, we shouldn't be disheartened or even resentful when they look down on us, first of all, we have to remember the white eyes we suffer now because of our grades, and then try to make up for our shortcomings, and let ourselves have a more prominent, in order to cultivate our self-confidence, usually communicate with the teacher, you will improve a lot. As for those who look down on people, try not to care about them for the time being, or even hold back your strength and try to surpass them, and then you will find that you don't really care.

When you have achieved something, and this kind of person comes back to please you, just ignore it then, or try to raise yourself to the level they look up to, so that their life is so far from yours that it is impossible to even see you, and these troubles are not a problem. But now is not the time to think about this, first calm down and learn something, believe that you are a young eagle living in a flock of chicks, your goal is the blue sky, not fight with them for a haystack, come on.

Everyone will always encounter some similar situations on the road to growth. It is impossible for everyone around you to return.

will become friends with you, but not everyone will look down on you, unless you have some problems, it's not that you have bad grades in college, others won't make friends with you You should have more contact with people, and if you always do your own thing, it will make people feel that you will be a little withdrawn, and over time it will be like that Besides, if you have achievements in the future, you don't have to worry about it. It's unknown whether those who will have a cold face with you will have an intersection after you graduate.,Even if there's an occasional party, just laugh at it as a wine and meat friend.。。

I'm actually facing such a problem now, understand your feelings, in fact, when you encounter this kind of thing, no matter who is uncomfortable in your heart, sometimes you can't control yourself, but after a long time of ideological struggle, plus some persuasion from friends, I gradually figured it out, those who look down on you if you can ignore it, try to ignore it, after all, life is your own and not someone else's, go your own way, let others say go!! But if you really can't tolerate it, just get your grades up, and when you achieve something, no matter how flattering they are, how they flatter you, how they flatter you, or put all the credit on themselves, don't take it to heart, just do it on the surface! For such people are really ...

If you really don't want to see him, don't take it to heart, after all, it's unfair to yourself, don't think about him, time can kill a lot of things. If you are angry in your heart, then don't think about it, you have to live well, because the most embarrassing and angry thing that makes someone who hates you feel is that you live better than him. Anyway, come on!

After all, a person's life is very short, you can't live under the eyes of others all the time, you have to live yourself, you can't treat yourself badly! Just be yourself.

1.In fact, the grades themselves can't make it clear that there are any questions, and your troubles are by no means a problem with grades, but a problem with how to behave in the world. When I was in school, there were some students in my class who had bad grades, but I had a good relationship with the counselor and my classmates, and we often went to the counselor's office to chat together.

2.It is recommended that you change this mentality, try to think about how to play with everyone, in essence, you have no way to change others and society, the only thing you can change is yourself.

3.I think slowly you will understand that this is a society, there must be social laws, try to accept this law, and then on the premise of adhering to your own principles of life, to deal with all aspects of the relationship.

By the way, my university is in the top 10 in the country, the university regulations, English level 4 but can not get a degree certificate, my student who studied quite poorly, although he did not pass level 4, but also got a degree certificate, because the counselor is willing to help him fight, and the last job he found is also recommended by the counselor, quite a good job.

You may look down on this kind of person, but when you get to the society, you will know that China is a society of personal feelings, and no matter how capable you are, it is difficult for you to achieve anything if you are alone, so you have to accept this.

So it's really important to try to relax your current mood, don't think about the past, think about how to deal with everyone, and play with counselors and classmates. Of course, if you think you are a big bull, you can single out this society, you can not compromise with this society, and you don't need to pay attention to those counselors and classmates, you don't need them anyway.

Ignore ignorance, resolutely ignore, the most ruthless way to treat a person is to ignore him, because the feeling of being ignored will make people crazy, and you don't have to bother to deal with him, and you will forget about it after a long time, after all, negative feelings are not a good thing in your heart, right.

That's how many people in society are. System.

It's better to ignore them. But this generally can't be done.,If you don't want others to look down on yourself, work hard.。。。

But, no matter what, what you learn is your own, and you can't deny yourself or give up on yourself because of others... In fact, sometimes we look at it the other way, they look down on themselves and can give themselves a kind of encouragement, so that we don't admit defeat and make a little more motivated, isn't it? And I think that people who are not good to themselves ignore them, and people who are sincere to themselves should also be sincere to them, sometimes we will make ourselves unhappy because of other people's attitudes and opinions on ourselves, which can also be a harm to the people around us, they are people who have nothing to do with themselves, why should they be sad for them, but let people really care about their own worries.

Looking at their attitudes and perceptions of themselves in a negative way has made me self-motivated, and I should thank them ... They are a kind of negative encouragement and help for their own achievements.