Troubles before marriage, please help me

Why are your brother-in-law's parents like this I still want to marry someone else's daughter and save money, it's really unreasonable Your sister can bear to rent a house after marriage, and his house is still inked The average family doesn't give the seller who marries him If you don't have a house, you don't have a fixed residence Do you want your sister to sleep on the road with his son after marriage??? Really... This should be asked to your brother-in-law to negotiate with his family I think the average family son insists on every stubborn family It doesn't cost much to build a house Besides, it's built for his own son, and others can't get it! There's no need to die so much Whether you can coordinate the house depends on your brother-in-law's ability If you really want to marry your sister, I think he will succeed I wish your sister and your brother-in-law a happy marriage and grow old together

Your brother-in-law's family does have a bit of a problem, if you want to get married, you still have this attitude, I suggest that your sister talk to your brother-in-law, in fact, you can also ask for a separation, take the half of her, don't want a house, anyway, working outside, it's really not easy for your sister to listen, she doesn't have her own house when she gets married, and her mother-in-law's family is still like that. It's infuriating. Let's talk to your brother-in-law.

Your brother-in-law's family has a bit of a problem, and if you want to get married, you still have this attitude, I suggest that your sister talk to your brother-in-law well, sometimes, even if the husband and wife have a good relationship, they will have conflicts because of their families, and don't break up until they have to.

I don't think there's any need for your sister to dwell on this kind of thing.

Since you have chosen this person, you also know the situation in his family, and no matter how much trouble you have, you can't solve the problem. It's better for you to be generous, anyway, after getting married, you will go out to work, and you won't live, what to do with that money, it is better to let his family give more money to go out to work within the scope of his ability. Marriage is just a formality, and the most important thing is whether you will live well in the future.

For this kind of thing, whether it is covered or not, the two of them will have a psychological knot in the future, so it is better to give in generously. took the money and went out to work and lived his own small life.

If you want to listen to the truth, I don't think your sister needs to ask so much, don't let the two of you always trouble the two of you, your parents have paid enough for us. If the two of them can get along well, isn't it better than anything else, let your parents not worry about us, and the requirements are not so reasonable from time to time, I don't know your customs, we didn't say that you must have a new house to get married, maybe it's too old.

Look, I'm a little angry!

Summary. Dear This means that you are afraid of being embarrassed because you are afraid that too much help will cause misunderstanding among your family.

I think you're supposed to get married, isn't it appropriate for us to be in trouble like this?

My dear, what is the problem you are experiencing?

Dear This means that you are afraid of being embarrassed because you are afraid that too much help will cause misunderstanding among your family.

It's me who bothered him, mainly because he wanted to ask him if he was married, because he asked me before if you were married, and I didn't have a positive question about him at the time, so he didn't face my question, just wanted to see if he was married and had a girlfriend.

Look at this meaning, the other party has a family.

He has a family, but he won't turn down someone who is interesting to him, which means he can pedal two boats.

If it's not zealous, then it's only a little bit, he wants to flirt with you.

I can still say that, just that time he asked me, are you married? After I didn't face his problem, I didn't take the initiative to send me WeChat, except recently, during the epidemic, I sent him WeChat to help get some tissues. There is also the question of asking him for others.

It's going to be good. Sometimes other people only give out 2 packs of paper, but he sends us 3 packs of paper. I asked him if he had taken a paper towel once, and then the company issued paper towels, and he also specially told his colleague to ask him to leave us 2 more packs of paper towels.

His colleagues are not willing yet. Everyone else has 2 packs, what, do they still have special treatment?

My dear, you can just ask if it's interesting, maybe it's more enthusiastic.

You are still optimistic about the woman herself, I suggest you get along, in the current society, you can say: it is still a better version of the girl.

Right ......It's pretty good, don't miss it, after this village, there will be no ...... this storeIt's true!!!

As for what you said, now because it costs a lot of money to buy a house, get engaged, and get married, and the woman's family didn't say anything at all, but said: You can look at how much you ......In fact, this is already a great support for you, such as the other party's family directly informed, there is no ......If you want to marry my daughter, you say, that's the truth!!

Men, it is necessary to take on the obligation of supporting the family, women to be honest, can help the family even a little, there is really no, maybe the other party's family is really difficult, want to support a little, may be limited and embarrassed to shoot, you say there is such a possibility, right? ?

It is recommended that you: If you really have difficulties, such as your own family can not afford it, you can directly discuss with the woman's parents to see if you can support this, and if not, you will make this to your parents, first get through the current difficulties, and slowly return, the house and the family are not wrong!

When you think it's not appropriate, you should look everywhere, you are so bad in your heart and are pressed with a belly of fire, if you really get married, the two people will inevitably quarrel, and then it will be a big contradiction in the future.

Communicate in a timely manner, don't keep it in your heart.

To be honest, I personally feel that getting married on such an economic basis is too weak.

From the very basic days of marriage, your wife's hukou is first and foremost a problem, and the census starting this month may be an opportunity, and you must grasp it and solve this problem first.

The second I think you husband and wife should first unify their thoughts, especially economic thoughts, before getting married, you must put the economy, expenses, especially the construction of your own home, the cost of your own family, the proportion of my own elderly expenses to figure out first, let your wife know his identity now, personal advice, the cost of the father-in-law's family should be based on local customs, and then their own expenses are guaranteed, support the elderly (of course, this is on the basis of enough support for the elderly).

If there is no unity of thought, your marriage will become an endless real quarrel and ruin the relationship.

In the end, when you get married, you have to let your wife understand how much money you can do, and if you equate marriage with economic requirements, then I think it will completely destroy the relationship between husband and wife, and it doesn't matter if you don't get married.

Finally, I wish you all happiness!

This big brother can only tell you that if you can't make money in this life, then you are ready to be angry in this life! I've heard a lot of about it!

You have to communicate well with your wife, correct your wife's thinking, and honor your parents, but there must also be right and wrong, I personally think.

There are indeed a lot of troubles in life, depending on what kind of mindset you face them. There is nothing wrong with honoring your parents, but we should also do what we can, we can't be gnawing old people, but you should let your parents understand me, after all, we don't have a foundation. But you should take care of the account yourself.

After getting married, the first thing to bear the brunt of is the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. A classic question to test whether a man loves you is: "If I fell into the water at the same time as your mother and could only save one, who would you save?"

In fact, many people will have a lot of questions, why do you always ask me and your mother, instead of me and your father? Actually, I'm the same!

Although this question is obviously a test for men, in fact, it also shows a problem, there are many contradictions between Chinese mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law! Why? First of all, a man has only two favorite women in his life, a mother and a wife, when the two exist at the same time, a man cannot handle the relationship between the two at the same time, so the contradiction arises!

This problem has existed for a long time, and until now, China's situation is getting more and more serious!

There is an age gap, a difference in upbringing, a difference in life experience, and a difference in life concepts, all of which will lead to problems between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The solution is that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law understand and respect each other, the elderly do not interfere too much with the young people, and the young people are more considerate of the elderly. Both parties should have their own living space and privacy, and it is better not to live together.

The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a commonplace topic, from the bride price money for preparing for marriage, the way of the wedding is Chinese or Western, and the house is bought in **, since you contact the topic of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradictions are everywhere. I finally crossed the three mountains, and I thought I could breathe a sigh of relief, but the problem of house decoration completely ignited the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

My wife wants to be beautiful Nordic-style home decoration, young and fashionable, but expensive; Mom has no requirements for style, just be cheap. Today, my wife has picked out a Nordic-style fabric sofa, and tomorrow my mother will silently send you two imitation leather sofas. The wife chose a minimalist personality chandelier, but the mother valued the crystal lamp in the discount; My wife wants a custom-made multi-functional wardrobe, but my mother loves a traditional carpentry wardrobe.

My wife asked for a time-saving, fashionable and healthy smart clothes dryer, but my mother said that the hand-cranked drying rack next door could still be used in addition to being laborious and ugly. Seeing that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law war is about to break out, it is nothing more than that the wife wants to be good, and the mother wants to be cheap, and when the two cannot be both, the contradiction between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law naturally broke out. In fact, as long as you take into account the needs of both parties - good and affordable!

The problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be solved.

My biggest worry after marriage is how to deal with the relationship between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, this problem really gives me a headache, my mother-in-law is really difficult to get along with.

First of all, it must be the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, two people have no emotional foundation, and it is easy to have conflicts. Secondly, it is necessary to deal with many trivial things in life, and also be responsible for heavy household chores.

After getting married, my biggest worry was that the relationship between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was not harmonious, and my lifestyle was different from that of my mother-in-law, and I often had friction and felt very troubled.

The biggest worry may be to take care of the children, I think it is too tiring and too worrying to take care of the children, and I have to worry about my children every day, be careful.

The biggest worry after getting married is to see a lot of shortcomings in each other, there are many things that need to be tolerated with each other, but some unbearable shortcomings will make you very upset.

After getting married, I found that the other party had a lot of small problems, did not wash clothes or bathe, did not pay attention to personal hygiene, and often quarreled because of some trivial things in life.

Doing hygiene, I feel that there are endless housework to do every day, and there is cooking on time for my family, and I will worry about what to eat and what to do every day.

Who does the housework at home, because we are both only children, and we are pampered at home, and neither of us likes to do housework. So after starting a family, there is always a quarrel over who does the housework.

You don't have your own private space. Before I got married, I had a lot of personal space, I could do whatever I wanted, I could listen to music, read books, cook, and exercise by myself, but after I got married, all this changed, and my personal space was greatly reduced, and I rarely had time to be alone, which made me feel very distressed.