Why do you sometimes feel vulnerable?

Don't be so sad.

In fact, as a bystander, I think your troubles and contradictions can be completely solved.

First of all, you are 23 years old, you are completely an independent and self-caring adult, and you can completely disobey the work arranged for you by your parents. Again, I find that you are emotionally fragile, as you say"Asked me to go to a shopping mall to be a salesperson, I was very disgusted, I don't like being a salesperson at all, and my eloquence is not good Half a year and I still don't know anything The boss said that if you don't increase your turnover, you will get out. However, with my education and ability, I couldn't find any other job, and I abandoned my studies when I was young"From this passage, it can be seen that there is a lack of confidence and a certain ability to be independent.

Because eloquence is not innate, it can be honed. In fact, the salesperson also exercises you, according to what you said, you want to open a store, but your eloquence is not good, even if you open a store, it is estimated that the business will not be better.

So, I advise you:

1. Accommodate your parents first and do all your current work. Have a positive attitude at work, learn like a salesperson with a good turnover, exercise your eloquence, and improve your self-confidence.

2.Have a long and patient talk with your parents. Explain your ambitions and be firm enough to tell them that you are sure you can take care of yourself and that you can afford your home. And convince your parents to borrow money for you to learn a trade.

4.Make a life plan. Reach a certain goal within a fixed period of time.

I think your character is one of the weaker ones.; Even you said you don't have the ability to be self-reliant. That's why your parents are constantly limiting yourself.

But now in this society, only by making yourself stronger, can you make others think that you are strong. I hope you think about it, cheer yourself up, and plan for a successful future in your life.

Maybe you're too sad!

When you feel that you are becoming more and more vulnerable, I think you gradually understand the true meaning of being a human being, people are fragile, as we grow older, our cognition is getting deeper and deeper, the more we realize the fragility of people, the decline in physical fitness also makes us feel powerless, in the face of the difficulties of life, individuals are really too fragile.

1. Human beings are inherently fragile

SARS in 2003, Tangshan**, Wenchuan**, Japan tsunami, 2020 new crown pneumonia, etc., such natural disasters can instantly take thousands of lives.

2. Physical fitness declines, and the greater the psychological cognition, the more you feel your vulnerability

We are the happiest when we are teenagers, but once we pass that age, we are not happy, in our 20s, running around for life, taking a meager salary, talking about ideals higher than the sky, any small setback may knock us to the ground, but we survived, in their 30s, how many people overdraft their health for life? The money earned is not enough for medical expenses, let alone dreams and ideals.

3. In the face of the burden of life, the individual is simply vulnerable

As I grow older, I realize that life is not easy, even if I am thrifty, it is not enough to buy an ideal entry ticket, because there are too many uncertainties in life, and we must keep this money to resist the blows that life gives from time to time. Some time ago, my friend's father was diagnosed with a tumor, I saw him white-headed overnight, although he was in his thirties, but he did not have much savings, and he also had foreign debts, and he was looking for people to borrow money everywhere, but it was not easy for everyone to live, I saw him a big man, crying in the hospital, I felt in an instant that we were really fragile.

But such a fragile person still strives to be strong and strong for his ideals, still fearless of difficulties to meet the heavy blows of life, still yearns for a better life, and sometimes people are also the strongest animals.

The more we grow up, the more vulnerable we feel because our responsibilities are getting heavier and heavier, and the pressure on us from society is getting bigger and bigger, and we feel that we have less and less ability to let us do things well, so we are more and more vulnerable.

It is because the older you get, the more difficult it is to gain a sincere relationship, so when people face more things, they will find the sinister of society, and they will naturally feel very vulnerable.

I think it's because you're getting stronger and stronger in the outside world, so that whenever you're alone, you have a lot of things on your mind, which contrasts strongly with being in front of others, and makes you feel vulnerable.

It shows that you don't have the courage to face pressure when you face it, and your self-confidence is not particularly strong, so this situation will occur.

Because when I was young, I didn't know that the sky was high and thick, so I did things recklessly and boldly, but when I grew up, I found that there were too many things in this world that I couldn't control.

The more I grow up, the more things I experience, and I may not be able to bear too much pressure in my heart, and I feel more and more vulnerable.

Because when I grow up, my heart begins to become mature, I think about more things, I care about more people, and I have to face the problems of old and young, and the pressure is very great, so I am particularly vulnerable.

This is because I have to bear less to more, and every time I grow, I feel that the responsibility on my shoulders is getting bigger and bigger, and thus I feel that my heart is becoming more and more fragile.

Because the older you get, the clearer you will see the world, and you will find that there are some things that you cannot accept.

Hello! From your expression, it can be seen that your tutor is an authoritative type, that is, your parents are completely above you and do not have much communication and respect for you, which causes your self-esteem to be damaged, but you don't know how to express it when you feel wronged, so you want to cry.

If you are already a junior high school or high school student, regardless of whether it is a boy or a girl, it is best to communicate with your parents (first find parents or a family who are relatively gentle towards you), sincerely express your true thoughts, and tell them that you are no longer a child and want to be respected, otherwise you will only be bullied by others when you go to society in the future. I also put forward my own views on the inappropriateness of their discipline methods, saying that I understand their good intentions very well, and I am very willing to work hard to make myself better, but I just hope that your parents can give you more understanding and support, instead of blindly beating and scolding. Otherwise, you will only become a low self-esteem personality in the future, and you will be easily despised and bullied when you enter society.

When dealing with elders, the attitude of the clan must be humble and courteous, and the language must be gentle and sincere.

In short, be sure to be well prepared and confident before the conversation, think about how to express it, how they may react and what you can do about it. (Since they have violent tendencies, I specially give you this reminder.) ）

Be sure to protect yourself, even in front of your parents. Because some parents are really not raising their children, but just treating their children as their own private belongings and at will.