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Do you think you're getting married because you love each other? I think such a major event in life must not be so rash, your parents have their reasons for opposing it, they are for your own good. And even if you get married desperately now, you will definitely not be so happy in the future.
Two people should be sure to know each other well. You've seen it 3 times before you thought of getting married? Wouldn't it be too fast?
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It's a very avant-garde girl, and maybe this society will slowly develop like that, and I don't think there's anything wrong with it. But like the question of the two of you, it's best to make sure that the foundation is very strong! And then it's not too late to make plans to get married, think about it!Hehe.
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After reading your narrative, I think your relationship is worth scrutinizing, but it's not reliable! You're all too young......Real marriage is not child's play!
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Property justice? That's why your family dislikes hers, so that's why you did it. That's what people in big cities do today! Who is in charge of the money, it depends on who will manage the money?
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Are you really in love? There is a saying that two people get married because they don't understand; Separated by understanding! ~
You have to think about it a lot, you don't know her very well, why not be everywhere first! ~
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Your marriage is too easy, and if I were your parent, I wouldn't agree to it.
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What kind of marriage is absolutely unreliable.
The right time, place, and people are not advantageous, and you are dead.
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What should I do if my parents don't agree? "Feelings of parental opposition" can do this.
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I don't think it's a happy marriage.
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Oh, you guys call it love like this, aren't you tired?
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Nowadays, it is indeed a problem for young people to find a partner, and parents are very anxious, hoping that their children will fall in love as soon as possible, get married and have children, which is also a major event for them.
Therefore, parents are very enthusiastic and show their children objects, but they don't know that their vision is completely different from that of young people, and they may not be able to see the talent they like, because of the difference caused by different concepts.
Everyone knows that young people are active in their minds, they pursue beautiful and romantic love, and many young people are busy with work and study, and they don't want to get married too early, but they have been urged to marry by their parents.
Therefore, as parents, we should respect the ideas of young people, respect their choices, and do not impose our own ideas on their children, so that children will be more disgusted, everything should go with the flow, let them swim freely, choose independently, and their love objects, so that they can respect and understand their children the most.
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It depends on your own wishes, as long as you like it, it can't be determined by your parents for life.
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Marriage mainly depends on whether the two are in love, and parents can only regret if they disagree.
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I just got married last month to my girlfriend who I've known for 10 years and been in love for 6 years. Both of our parents did not agree before the Hailstone, but we truly loved each other, and we completely trusted and relied on each other. We worked hard all the way and we won.
Because we all think of each other as the only ones in this world.
I have five sisters, three sisters and one brother, and my wife is an only child. Her parents are both doctors, they bought a nice house in Xiamen two years ago, one has high blood pressure and one heart disease, my parents are ordinary workers, and my mother has diabetes. Do you think we are under more pressure than you?
But we still won this family war, because we were more ruthless than them!
We talked for six years, and they had been against it before the wantonness, and they forced us to do nothing, so we lived on our own outside, and I had no special skills, and my appearance was average, but after all kinds of difficulties, we still didn't separate. As a result, it is clear that the two of us have no emotional problems, but they insist on separating us, can't they imagine that we can't do it because of their simple sentence. Different cherry blossoms, how much suffering we have suffered, why do we force our dearest people to death, we haven't done anything bad, we're not children, don't we even have the opportunity to make an important choice in our lives?
They are so selfish, so selfish that they make us unbearable and make us want to die. Now we get along with each other's parents, and it turns out that they are not sure if their objection is really correct! Simple, then it's up to us to find out.
If you trust each other completely and feel that the other person is the person you are looking for in this life, then please do not hesitate, it is an insult to your love. You have to be brave enough to say what you think in your heart, ask face-to-face whether you have the courage to go on, stick to what you think is right, and break up as soon as possible if someone is timid. Don't use the weight of the burden as an excuse, who knows what the next decade will look like?
Are you so unconfident in him? If it is a family with good conditions, will your parents say that they are afraid that you will be bullied in the future? Remember, cherish the people who are good to you, and at the same time don't take your feelings too cheap!
And don't use other people's eyes to mistakenly link your own life to what a stupid thing, isn't it?
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It depends on how you decide, if you want to be with this person, then you don't have to care about your parents' choices, just respect your choice.
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Parents love their children, but they cannot interfere with their children's freedom to marry. Of course, if it is forcibly interfered, it only proves that the love of parents is selfish.
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It is indeed a very good thing that two people can complement each other when they are together, both in terms of doing things and in terms of personality.
It's like a good team, one person is good at this thing and the other person is good at that, and that's a good combination.
Moreover, you have also found the reason why your personalities are different, and that is because the two of you come from completely different families. Therefore, it is still worth cherishing.
If you want to be a good middleman now, you can start in two ways:
1. Build a good relationship between you and your boyfriend and reassure him a lot. In particular, make it clear to him that he should not be too eager for quick success and quick success, and not too much hope to be recognized by others.
You just say, "Take your time with this, I've been dating you for four and a half years, and I'm sure I'll continue to be with you." You don't have to worry, this matter can definitely be solved, but we still need to spend a little more effort. ”
Continue to implement the marriage room under the Shou Wu family. Since it is an off-plan house, after it is completed, the decoration will be done, bit by bit, and the things that should be done will be implemented.
Article 4 Second, do a good job of the work of the families of both sides.
For example, he may not have done a good job on your parents' side, but you can first get in touch with his family and friends to form a rapport.
As for your parents, don't worry, they are already skeptical, and you can behave more.
Instead, be patient and put these things into practice what they suspected, and when these things are implemented, maybe your parents will be shaken.
I'm sure your parents want you to be happy too. So, you have to let your parents gradually come into contact with your gesture of happiness, and they will gradually accept the truth.
Including the complementarity of your personality, after you are with him, your growth, and your life is getting happier and happier, these little things need to be shared with your parents.
If both parents are against it, but they certainly have one of them that is relatively not as vehemently opposed. You can start by letting the person who waver in your position accept your relationship first, and then break it down one by one.
A person's life is very long, it has only taken four and a half years now, there is still time, don't worry, take your time, there will always be a chance.
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The woman's family disagrees with basically three situations:
First, the material or potential conditions of the boys are not up to their standards.
The second is that the door is not the right or the living environment of the two is quite different, and it is not easy to run in and understand each other, and they are afraid that the girl will be wronged. The third is that they have bad habits or have big problems, and they are afraid that they will not be good for girls.
But generally speaking, the woman's family does not agree to argue, and the last half will still agree, and after marriage, whether it is in the recognition of the son-in-law or the mentality of distressing her own girl, it will improve, the family will be more harmonious, the run-in cycle is shorter, and the happiness index will not be too low.
Second, the man's family.
The man's family does not agree, and it is generally more of a mother and less of a father, so let's talk about it simply.
The father generally has a sense of the overall situation, is more concerned about the woman's family background and reputation, and at most has an economic condition.
Mother's situation is a bit complicated, after all, many mothers are mothers-in-law from many years of daughter-in-law, if the mother herself was disapproved by her father's family when she was young, so it is easy to form a part of the disapproval.
There are other things that I don't like to look at, and all mothers are for the good of their children, which is not to be questioned.
Some look at the girl and are worried that it will be watery, some look at the girl and spend money generously, thinking that it will increase the pressure on the son, some girls love to play, and the mother is worried about not caring for the family, and some look at the face and think that you are not happy and do not agree.
There is nothing dissatisfied, but I don't like it, some mothers feel that their daughter-in-law is here to rob their son, and they have a sense of deprivation psychologically, so they naturally can't like it, not that there is such a sentence that the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is innate.
It's a long game.
If the man's family does not agree with the reputation, especially the mother, life will be difficult, not only do you need to swallow your anger, but you will sandwich the boy in the middle, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will naturally be wronged, and the daughter-in-law will inevitably be counted down and marry the daughter-in-law and forget her mother.
If you want to achieve family harmony, you need to spend a lot of time, energy and financial resources, if the husband and wife are more than gold, then it is fine, if on the contrary, the wear and tear of the relationship will accelerate sharply, mutual dislike, become a matter of gain and loss.
It is becoming more and more difficult for the two to understand each other, so in the end, the natural emotional separation, at this time, the person who disagrees will say, just say that you are not suitable and do not listen! But it's not that there is no bad run-in, it's just that it takes a lot of experience and time, and it's really a protracted battle.
In the case that there is little difference between the door-to-door and the family, the woman's family does not agree, but she can work hard and stick to love. After the man's family disagreed, especially after the man's mother clearly showed her dissatisfaction, she decisively separated, whose child is not a child, and who is not a little princess and prince at home.
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Do you want to listen to your parents' opinions when you are in love?
Personally, you can listen to your parents' opinions, because the vast majority of parents in the world want their children to live well, so you should listen to their views and refer to them.
Many people think that listening to their parents means that they have to do what they say. Please, you are already an adult, and your parents can listen to their opinions and choose for yourself. Love and marriage are related to the happiness of your own life, think carefully and make your own choice.
All love can listen to the opinions of parents and consider how to do it yourself.
In fact, most of our parents' opinions come from their life experiences, and our thoughts are just that we feel happy to be with him at the moment, and we think too much about the future and too simple. The opinion of your parents is definitely a factor that cannot be ignored, but the most important thing is to listen to your own heart, because it is not your parents who can accompany you until you grow old, but your other and you.
Do you have to listen to your parents when you fall in loveIn real life, most girls will not listen to their parents' opinions, even if their parents strongly oppose it, they will only turn into an underground relationship and no longer open to their parents. But such a relationship is often difficult to get to the end, and it usually takes several years to finally break up. So, what's wrong in between?
Is it really the parents' judgment that is right? Not really. The core question is:
The pressure from your parents makes you neglect to observe each other, and instead focus on confronting your parents, trying to prove that your choice is correct. And the more you want to prove it, the less you will look at the other party's shortcomings, the more you will not look at the other party objectively, you will look at him with a filter, and you will not be able to listen to the negation of others about him. You will feel that when others deny him, they are denying yourself.
So, should you listen to your parents in love? Parents' opinions can be consulted. But in this process, you must see your partner's shortcomings, run in with him, get along normally, and find out whether you are suitable in time. Don't let the pressure from your parents blind you.
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If your parents don't agree with love, you may have to think about it.
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Parents who prevent their children from falling in love freely can actually communicate with their parents。The reason why parents intervene in their children's love is because they are worried that their children will find a partner who will not make them feel very satisfied. The starting point of parents is always for the good of their children, and this should be believed.
No parent wants their children to be careless about marriage.
Parents who prevent their children from falling in love freely must take a stand. Things like marriage have to be decided by themselves, and the future life partner must also choose by themselves. After all, it is a person who has lived with him for a lifetime, and if he does not choose it himself, even if he can get married, he will be considered by his parents to be a satisfactory life partner, and he may feel a pity in the end.
Feelings can only make their own decisions, and only their own hearts know whether they are happy or not.
Many parents ignore the issue of believing that the marriage of their children should be decided by their parents. In fact, it is good for them to make their own decisions about the marriage of their children, if the parents intervene too much, it will be detrimental to their marriage, and it will also produce a lot of ***. For example, children's mentality will become more and more hypocritical, and they will slowly confront their parents.
Emotional things are always known only to oneself, and others can't feel them.
If parents intervene in their relationship, if they don't stop it at first, no matter how many people they talk about in the future, they will be ruined by their parents' opinions. Because with the first, there will be a second. Never think that your parents can find a good love partner for you, after all, your parents are planning to get married.
The marriage partner that parents want to find is the kind that lives at home, and they don't care about the feelings of their children. After all, the marriage of my parents' time is different from the current marriage situation, the age is different, and the concept of marriage is different.
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If one party does not agree to divorce, the divorce method adopts the form of litigation divorce, and the specific operation process is as follows: 1. Court mediationAccording to the laws of our country, if one of the men and women requests a divorce, and the other party does not agree, the relevant departments may mediate or directly file a divorce lawsuit with the people's court. When the people's courts of our country hear a case where one party does not agree to divorce, it shall first conduct mediation; 2. The court decides that if the court finds that the relationship between the husband and wife has indeed broken down and there is no possibility of reconciliation, the court may make a judgment granting the parties a divorce.
True love is not easy to come by, since you love, don't give up easily, but work with him to overcome and face all difficulties. As for the parents, don't force it, you can take a sleek way to slowly move around and do the work, so that they can accept it slowly. And the two of you should know how to tolerate and understand each other, communicate more, reduce suspicion, don't care too much about their own gains and losses, and use good attitudes and skills to manage love, so that love can go longer. >>>More
This, I used to read three books in Xi'an, and I dropped out of school and went home to repeat in a week, and the time you decided seemed to be a little late, but we all know that this time can be made up, so you have to seriously imagine whether you can re-enter the state of the third year of high school after you come back, or that you are sure to study hard, if you have confidence in yourself, go home and repeat, it's nothing. The key is in your level, it's up to you, your heart must be strong enough, just repeat it, 4 years, it's not about playing, be cautious. As for the parents, I think you should communicate seriously, age is not a problem, as long as you have your own ambition, they will not make it too difficult for you, think about it and go home with a backpack, good luck.