A must have course in life! What are the benefits of learning to live with loneliness?

You can make yourself very down-to-earth, you can do things that you are more interested in every day, and then you can calm down, plan your life well, and work hard towards your life goals.

No one can accompany you to the end, there is always loneliness and loneliness along the way, they are like friends, accompany you, you have to learn to adapt, loneliness will make you strong, and loneliness will make you excellent, the course of life is like this.

When a person learns to live with loneliness and loneliness, it is actually a new beginning of self-improvement, you will not care about what most people think, and at the same time, it is more conducive to self-meditation and thinking about your future path.

It allows you to have more time for yourself, allows you to concentrate on your own things, allows you to have more of your own space, allows you to get used to the feeling of loneliness, and cultivates your independence.

Loneliness is the norm of life." For me in the past, this sentence seemed to be ethereal, but for me now that I have entered university, it is a sudden change.

What exactly is loneliness? Is it a person who eats or goes shopping alone, whether it is a person who stops and goes or a person who has no one to tell. These may have been very painful things for me in the past, because I cared a lot about what others thought of me, and "a Shanchang person" seemed to be paid more attention to.

But from my current point of view, the intensity of loneliness is often a reflection of a person's degree of independence. We may all long for ourselves to be accompanied by someone to accompany us to eat, go shopping and talk about things, but in any case, people are independent individuals, and we will eventually return to our individual bodies and our own lonely world.

On college campuses, when I occasionally see them walking in pairs and I'm alone, I think I might be lonely in their eyes. But I've become accustomed to "one person", and I don't think there's anything wrong with being alone. On the contrary, I don't have to deal with others, I am not restricted in doing my own things, and I can walk alone more quickly and easily.

In fact, many times, after we fade away from the happiness or tiredness of the day, all that is left is our empty self. Many times companionship can bring us pleasure and soothe our emotions, life is a long road, and there are too many phases of human companionship, some stop and go. We can enjoy it, but we can't rely too much on the company of others.

In the adult world, a person is also very good, whether it is friendship or love, you must be ready for others to leave at any time, no longer forced, no longer obsessed.

Enjoy solitude and learn to be alone. Time flies, after the inspection of time, we will only have so many two or three intimate friends, we know the roots, we don't need to go to disguise, get along easily and comfortably. We should learn to accompany ourselves, plant our own flowers, plant our own trees, not change ourselves to cater to others, and no longer deal with meaningless communication.

On the train of life, we may really be the only one who accompanies you to the end. When we are alone, we are able to spend our time where we like, cooking our favorite meals, shopping for our favorite foods, and doing what we like. Make yourself better.

Loneliness is a compulsory course in life, loneliness will not defeat your courage to move forward, it will only teach us to learn to enjoy loneliness, we can live as we want.

In the third year of high school, because of the nervousness of studying, I have long been accustomed to being alone. I always wonder if I don't have to eat or play alone anymore when I go to college. However, when I actually entered the university gate, I realized that everything was still the same.

In my freshman year, I couldn't help but feel a little excited when I met the new faces in the dormitory, thinking that we would be best friends in the future. In the beginning, I worked extremely hard to integrate into other people's lifestyles, waiting for others to go to class, waiting for others to eat together, and even waiting for others to buy things, just to make everyone feel that I was very gregarious.

After a long time, I realized that I didn't seem to be the same person as them. Every day, I wanted to arrive at class half an hour early, but I wasted a lot of time waiting for my roommates, and their topics began to expand from boyfriends and cosmetics to various designer bags. Gradually, they and I lost common ground.

So, I decided to start my college life on my own.

In college, eating alone and shopping alone may seem strange to others. My classmates have asked me more than once, "You eat alone."

And I always nod my head embarrassedly, because I look weird and out of place. But I never wanted to explain to anyone why I always liked someone, because in my opinion, any explanation would be superfluous.

It's just that later, I felt uncomfortable alone, and found that there was no one in college who could go shopping and eat together, and I found myself too lonely. So, I called my mother: "Mom, I feel like I'm too much of a failure, and I do everything by myself every day."

Mom said, "Isn't it better to be alone, you have your things to do, and others have their own things to do, so why waste your time just to be gregarious." ”

Sometimes, I comfort myself by saying that I don't fit in just to meet someone who is like-minded with me.

However, because of the change of major, that person appeared.

So, we began to eat together and study together every day, and became "good friends" who talked about everything. I put others in such an important position in my heart, I originally thought that I was also important in other people's hearts, but then I found out that everything was just what I thought. You are not the first person to tell others when they are happy, you are not the first person to find when others are in difficulty, and you are not the first person to ask someone when they are shopping.

Later, I realized how lonely I was.

Sometimes when Sun Pinzhao is alone, he feels more and more lonely and pitiful, and there is always an impulse, or I try to fit into other people's circles, but the voice in my heart is always telling me: No.

It wasn't until I saw Liu Tong's book "Your Loneliness, Although You Are Defeated" that I realized that there are people in the world who are as lonely as me and do the same lonely things.

In fact, in the end, you will inadvertently find that loneliness only makes me stronger.

In the face of loneliness, you will never be a real loser, just like Liu Tong said: "Your loneliness, although defeated, is still glorious." ”