Friend, how are the first Dink families in China now?

Those who support Dink should think about it first, if your parents are also Dink, will you exist? Will there be your happiness? In fact, it is laziness and extreme selfishness.

Not having children is also a kind of shortcoming, isn't there a sweet burden? Although I am tired, few people regret it, right?

I think Dink is only suitable for the kind of couple who have a good relationship, ideals and pursuits, have their own rich life, and have a wide range of hobbies! For ordinary people like me, I haven't found a man who loves me, so it's better to have a doll, have spiritual sustenance, and be bitter and happy! Watching her grow up healthily and live well in the future, I feel that this life is worth it!

Every day I think about her chubby face, I feel happy!

Dink is just an attitude to life, neither a cause nor an effect. Dink is also a circle, a small society, and there are good and bad ones. And those who are living well, their own ability and attitude towards life, even if he is not a dink, he (she) can live well, for example, these people can live well if they are single all their lives.

I think the biggest thing about Dink is freedom. There are many ways to lose your freedom in your life, and having children is one of them. We feel that there are far more choices in life without children.

For example, if you want to go to ** on the weekend, you don't have to stay at home with your children, the two of you are well fed and the whole family is not hungry, you have more time to study, you don't have to ask your grandfather to tell your grandmother for your children to go to school, you don't need to deal with the relationship with school teachers, and you don't need to tutor your children ...... homeworkFamilies with children often have to plan their lives according to the needs of their children, and without children, they can only listen to their own heart's needs.

I am in my 60s this year, I am a teacher, according to the young people now, I am a literary youth, my husband is a handicraft house, when I was young, I thought that there were many things that I didn't do, and I didn't have time to have children. Because of this, there are no trivial things for children, and the two of us have a lot of time to waste, nothing to stay at home to watch Japanese dramas, my husband reads hero comics, tired of reading, occasionally raises his head, looks at each other and smiles, in the same space, two people are quiet alone, it is our happiest moment.

The Dink family I know has all ages, the oldest are in their 70s, and they are really happy, because the unhappy ones are scattered early, and they will not be barely maintained because of their children, but there are always those people who stubbornly believe that they are definitely unhappy, and happiness is done for others to see, and they absolutely regret it, either the time has not come, or they don't admit it, and they are not looking for so many things to do because they are empty and have no sustenance.

There are many ways to lose freedom in life, and having children is one of them, and my lover and I don't have a special affection for children, and we don't have the idea of passing on the family lineage in our concepts, and we don't agree with the kind of saying that life is incomplete without children, so after we got married, we invariably reached a consensus on Dink. After many people choose Dink, how to convince their parents is a difficult problem, but we never seem to have this process. We all believe that people should have independent personalities and thoughts as adults, and that even those closest to you have no right to interfere in your life, and if they cross the border, our response will either change the subject or make it clear, and the other person will stop in moderation.

In my own opinion, it is personal freedom to choose whether or not to live a dink, it is a way of life, a way of life that is more faithful to oneself, because it does not have to bear the cost of a third person's life, so more time and money can be used by free will. Of course, many people would say "survivorship bias" - the Dink family that can survive is mostly happy (or at least self-sufficient), and if there is a problem, it is often compromised or divided long ago. But I have to admit that this lifestyle is not a happy choice.

After having children, many problems are almost a huge increase in complexity, if you feel tired in your original life, then the degree of tiredness should be squared, Dink is a realistic and humble attitude, environmental attitude, not an ideal state of cowardice, is a realistic choice, our ability is not necessarily worse than others, or how can it be called double income? Even for most people with babies in Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou. We can double and triple your income alone....

But we are truly in awe of life! Dink is living in the present, you say that the past and the future, in the face of reality, logic must be carefully scrutinized. Happiness for the living is the greatest happiness, not for the future.

I like to see the great rivers and mountains of the motherland, I go around the mountains and forests when I have nothing to do (I quit my job when I was young and rode a bicycle around China), in addition to work, I have a lot of time to read books and practice calligraphy, because there is no pressure from children, so I quit my job when I am not happy (this has always been said by my mother because I have no children, so I have no sense of responsibility). My wife likes to go abroad to play, and she goes to two or three countries every year, and before going to each country, she will come to do a strategy about half a year to a year in advance, learn some of the country's language, and understand the customs.

There are pros and cons to everything, and the lifestyle you choose is good for yourself. Dink doesn't have to say that if you have children, you don't have freedom, and if you have children, you don't have to say that Dink is lonely and pitiful in old age. In modern society, it is no longer about raising children to prevent old age, but when you are old, you still have relatives and spiritual comfort.

In short, raising a baby has the fun of raising a baby, and not having a child has the fun of not having a child.

Maybe the level is too low, and there are ordinary people around him. Only know two Dink families. There is a couple because of infertility.

There is a couple whose husband is in his fifties and has passed away, and the woman has followed her niece, and the niece has the right to inherit. There is a pair of children who broke up the year before last, because they want to deal with the inheritance issue well, the woman wants to step the children of her sister's family, and the man wants to step her brother's children. I didn't talk about it, and I got divorced by dividing the property.

This couple is a man of no reproductive age.

As long as it is the life I want, it is good, like I like children, I will give birth, if I am reluctant to raise it for the sake of the so-called inheritance, it is better not to give birth, it is good for the child and for myself.

Boldly remove all the obstacles around me, do what I want to do, bravely open to all the feudal ideas formed for thousands of years, I am a family without children, I feel very good, much more comfortable than people with children, traveling all over the country, and preparing to travel around the world.

Marriage for the sake of having children is meaningless, compared to Dink, how many people have children for the sake of family urging and outdated feudal ideas!? I don't have the ability to educate, I don't have the ability to let my children have a better environment, just for the so-called fear of others gossiping and having children! The scariest thing is that this kind of people are the majority!

So Dink people are more sensible, more real, and truly choose love than most!

Everyone is free, and if you get married and don't want to have children, you can dink; If you don't want to get married, you can be single; Those who don't want to live can also kill themselves. It doesn't matter if its society develops or not, it has nothing to do with anyone! - I don't know, what is the meaning of living?

It doesn't matter if you dink or not, don't attack each other, children have childlike fun, and dink has the freedom of dink.

Not against doing dink. But the Dinks I know like to say something about raising children at every turn. I don't think they really want to be a dink. Those who really do Dink don't care about and pay attention to other people's children's affairs.

I have more or less a say, I originally wanted to Dink, after 7 years of marriage, I was afraid that I would regret having no children when I was old, so I had a child at the age of 33. But in my life so far, the 7 years without children were the happiest. With a child, you have a lifetime of responsibilities and burdens, and you don't plan to let your children retire in old age, so it's wise to think about sticking to Dink.

Retirement is nearing the state of life that has stopped in the year of marriage.

I used to like children very much, but when I learned that I had congenital infertility, I couldn't raise any interest in children, I also saw a doctor, and I wanted to try IVF, but I heard that the negative impact is very great, coupled with all kinds of problems in the society now, I don't have the confidence to teach children well, and I was forced to become a dink by reality, and I don't know if the choice is correct, I also want to see everyone's opinions, and give some encouragement.

Regardless of whether they want to have children or not, the husband and wife discuss it well, for fear that someone will break the contract halfway. That's to pit the other party.

Everybody pursues different things, and the definition of happiness in their eyes is also different, and I personally still feel that having a happy child doesn't affect our lives, but adds a lot of joy to our lives.

As long as it's a lifestyle you like, don't care about other people's opinions.

What does it feel like to be childless in your life? The first batch of "Dinks" in China have reached their old age, what is the current situation.

Daughters, sons can have. If you have money, you can ask for an aunt. It's good to have one if you don't have money, it's more tiring.

Their philosophies are different and cannot be compared.

Support my son later Dink.

1. The Dink family generally refers to working-class couples who do not have children. Husband and wife "double income and childless". According to the individual differences of husband and wife, Dink families are divided into active and passive types.

The former refers to a family in which both husband and wife are of childbearing potential, but voluntarily infertile; The latter refers to a family in which one or both spouses are infertile and thus have no children.

2. Couples with childbearing potential voluntarily do not want children, which is what we call the "Dink family". Since the 80s of the last century, it has quietly appeared in China, and in the past, such a family would be known and discussed by others, and even suspected by others of having "physiological problems". And now, this kind of family has begun to be understood and accepted by "outsiders", and more than sixty percent of people agreed that "couples can not have children" before the hail.

Some of these respondents have chosen this kind of life, and most of them are just "outsiders".

Definitely not good! Children are the crystallization of their own love, and they are also a happy big toy.

The child's growth process is full of envy and happiness for Gao Paixin's parents, especially in the era of Yin Tong Qi Lun before going to elementary school.

Some people want to be a dink when they can give birth when they are young, and they want to have children when they are older, but they can't do it again, and it is useless to regret it.

A dink family is a type of family that refers to a childless dual-income family. With the gradual increase of influencing factors such as modern urbanization, economic development and population aging, many young couples are willing to choose the Dink way to live.

One of the main reasons for the high level of emptiness is that couples pay more attention to personal career pursuits, freedom and comfort. Because childbirth will bring huge financial, time, and energy pressure to couples, and splitting thoughts may become an obstacle to their career development. At the same time, with the progress of society and the improvement of women's status, women generally have more unbridled sense of self-worth and career pursuits, and they are no longer satisfied with just becoming housewives or mothers.

In addition, urbanization is also putting more pressure on young couples. In cities, various factors such as the high cost of living and soaring housing prices have caused problems such as financial burden and mental stress for young people. Dink can reduce their financial stress and allow couples to live more freely and comfortably.

In conclusion, the growing number of Dink families is due to a variety of factors, and each family has its own choices and reasons. That's how I see it.