Why should people who don t love stay together?

Maybe it's because of habit, two people are used to each other's existence, two people feel that they have grown together, even if there is no so-called love, but that habit is deeply rooted in the soil.

When two people are accustomed to each other, they may also be able to live together for a lifetime, after all, all the couples in this world do not necessarily have love between them, but a habit, you may find that there are two people with completely different personalities, you can live very happily, this feeling between the two of them may not be love but family affection, the evolution of this family affection, it may be because of habit at the beginning.

It's like a woman who has been injured, under the care of a man who is not good-looking, for many years, this woman may get used to being taken care of by this man, and he will feel that leaving this man's shoulders will make him lose his sense of security.

When this habit makes two people together for a long time, they will abandon their love, directly to the family affection, two people rely on each other to survive, but like two big trees growing together, on the surface are two completely different numbers, but their roots have long been entangled, if we uproot any tree, then the tree that is entangled with him will inevitably lose its life, this is the habit of letting them blend together to make them fall in love with each other, let them treat each other as the closest people.

In fact, this mode of life, although it is not who loves whom, nor is it the love we understand at the ordinary level. But I'm sure they're family, they're the kind of people who can't tell who is who, they're the same people who have grown up together.

Maybe there is a kind of people who don't love, and they will live together, that is, they have a common connection with each other, maybe their own children, maybe their own career, because of this level of relationship, they can never leave themselves, and they may give up their love for what they value each other.

The reasons for this vary depending on the state of the person.

When they are lovers, if they are no longer in love and are still together, it means that they do not have a next spouse, they do not want to be single, or one or both of them cannot do without each other, so they are reluctant to live together as a comfort.

Of course, in this case, it is inevitable that there are interests involved, or each has selfish intentions, even if there are people in their hearts, they are unwilling to let go.

After all, there is nothing wrong with the child, and the child should not suffer more than others because of the discord between his parents, so the parents care more about their children, and forgive each other, or just stay for the child, pretend to do nothing, and give the child a complete home.

Of course, the above two situations are indispensable, and I want to set aside a period of time to consider whether to reconcile, so as not to be embarrassed to reconcile after a big breakup.

There are many such examples around us, obviously not in love but together, I think there are probably two reasons, it is that parents have imposed on their children since childhood, but there are more constraints in life, and even their marriages have been the master for them, so. Two people who don't love each other will be together, and the other situation is that two people who love each other are suitable for falling in love but not together. There are many situations where people with the same personality attract each other and like each other, but they are not suitable for falling in love together.

First of all, the first situation is our parents, there are many examples of this in ancient times, there is an old saying that "the order of the parents, the words of the matchmaker". At that time, people who really love each other are rarely together, they all get married and have children under the arrangement of their parents, and before they get married, they have no feelings, and they have not met yet, let alone talk about whether they like it or not. was set up by his parents to get married, but now, there will be a small number of people who inherit the ideas of the ancients, and there will be things where people who don't love will be together, in order to fulfill the parents' ideas, they sacrificed their feelings, but feelings can be cultivated slowly.

Secondly, there are often people around us who fall in love and find that it is not suitable later, such as a plot in reality, after falling in love because of incompatible personalities, many years after breaking up, they find that the other party has been married and has children, and the other party has re-chosen to be completely different from themselves, only to find that even if they do not love each other as much as we do, they can be much better than us in terms of time and way of getting along.

In the end, in our real society, there are many reasons why people who love each other can't go on in the end, such as the opinions of the family, the reality of money, etc., which will make many people give up their original love, but find a suitable and comfortable object that they don't like.

I think that no matter what you do, they are complementary, just like the feelings of two people, two people must be active and one is passive in the process of getting along, one is very strong and the other is relatively very weak, only in this way can two people complement each other and go on.

Two people are often like this when they are together, so some people say, why do two people not love to be together, which is the reason why we can see one-to-one couples in ** now, especially on the street or in various public places such as restaurants or supermarkets, but we found that there is a common feature that two couples are together or they are both men who are particularly good and women are particularly ugly.

Either your particularly beautiful man is particularly ugly, now people often say that they are all beautiful women with ugly men or ugly women with beautiful men, which means that two people together cannot be very good, then in the relationship, there must be one of them who loves you very, very much, and the other party does not love you so much.

There are still a lot of single people, and some people are curious that their conditions are very superior, but they haven't found their favorite object, and they are still single, I think they are probably unwilling to find someone who both loves each other. I think such people are people who pursue high quality, because they are not willing to compromise, they must find someone they love to be together, and they are very responsible for themselves.

For those who don't love and are still together, I think they also have their own reasons, maybe they didn't find a more suitable one, or they may not want to wait so hard, just like that, after a long time, the two of them will be together like that.

The other day, a few colleagues chatted together. The topic of conversation was my unfamiliar territory: children.

They are all mothers, so the topics all day long are children, milk powder, school, and I can't interject at all.

Looking at me silently in the corner, a woman deliberately teased me:

When are you going to get married? Let's drink your wine, and by the way, I wish you an early birth to a precious son. They burst out laughing.

I don't know how to reply, but I probably expressed the meaning that I am still in the stage of understanding and that it is too early to get married.

It's risky to have a baby when you're older, so you have to hurry. Someone said at the same time.

We talked about this issue, and we unanimously decided to be a Dink family, live a two-person world, and don't want children. I said. That's actually what I mean.

It's better to have a child, otherwise your marriage will be very boring......”

I can't forget what we talked about later.

But that last sentence made me ponder, what kind of marriage needs children to add fun, and it seems that without children it is boring to live.

After pondering for a long time, I began to understand that many people live together as partners, without love, let alone fun. As for why we should be together without love? If you don't understand this, it means that you are underestimating the power of the world, and that you do not know enough about the masses.

Regardless of the fact that human material has been highly developed, the long-standing concept of men and women living together is still deep-rooted, especially in backward places.

Because of their own needs, use each other to achieve their own goals.