How to warm his heart after a year of breakup? I m so scared!

Actually, you know what? I've had pretty much the same experience as you, except that mine is more serious. I was very good with him, very good, but the biggest thing I did wrong was that I fell in love with another boy, until now I didn't know that I may have regarded friendship as love, that boy, I like me very much, but, he is not suitable for me, what I love, has always been my dear, during that time, I even broke up with my dear for that boy, he loved me very much, he said he would respect me, if that boy can really give me happiness and really protect me, he will quit.

He said to me a lot and a lot of heartfelt things, he said that he went to sleep almost every night with tears in his eyes, sometimes he couldn't sleep all night, and he said he was wondering what was wrong and why I liked other boys. At that moment, I froze, and in an instant I realized that in my heart, I had always loved him the most. Now I'm very nice with him, although it was awkward at first, but slowly we are the same again.

My dear is as hurt as yours and he hurts, even more than yours, but he is still good to me, and he doesn't blame me, because he loves me and he respects all my choices. You love you very much, I think you know, you also know who your beloved is, in that case, don't give up, okay? Give him some time, give him time to heal his wounds, even if at first you will not be as happy as before, but as time goes on, I believe you will be the same as before, if not happier than before.

I bless you to be with Him forever.

You're a woman, aren't you... I regret it... Alas.. Why be impulsive.

It's too late to regret it now. If he doesn't have a girlfriend.

As he said. Be friends first.

After all, he was hurt by a woman he loved deeply. Half a year of hard work has not yielded any results... It proves that at least he was in pain for half a year. or longer.

You are now making such a request. He was afraid that he would experience that pain again... It's normal to have concerns.

He didn't make it clear that it wasn't possible ... There is still a chance of detention ... Let it be.

If you really care about Him ... Then you have to contact him more. Don't contact everyone. In the end, it was still over.

Supplement. I hope you really love him this time and get back together...

Cherish it. It's not easy for men to love nowadays.

The person who really loves you, will be hurt very deeply by you, he is actually very afraid of being hurt by you again, that feeling I believe, no one wants to go through the second time, so, he doesn't dare to believe in you too much, and he doesn't dare to invest too much in you, he can only be cautious, this is a normal performance of a hurt man, this kind of pain can never be forgotten, but since he forgave you, then he still has love for you in his heart, Then you should believe that he will slowly blur the memory of the wound, and only let the hand of time slowly heal the wound of the soul.

Good horses don't eat the grass to turn back, let's go, the cracks have come out, and there will always be wounds, and it's hard to be the same as before

I think the upstairs people who suggested it have already said very well, I would like to understand the reason why you broke up with him at the beginning, is it because of some of his own flaws that make you feel tired or 6 years of love is too long and begins to lack freshness and feel tired, if it is the former, then even if you get back together, even if the wounds in his heart are slowly healed by you, but if his flaws bring you trouble again and make you feel tired again, then the final result is still difficult to say.

If it's the latter, then I suggest that if you can get back together, you can choose to have a baby early after you get married, because a child can change the focus of a family, so that you don't get bored because of a long relationship.

Finally, I wish you and him happiness.

The upstairs are all reasonable, and they are all fine. It is said that being hurt by the person you love deeply is a scar that can never be erased.

If it were me, I'd be scared too. Once injured, people will not feel better. Not to mention the person I love the most.

I understand your boyfriend's feelings. Because I was also hurt by the people I loved so much. Bless you all.

Wait. The only thing you can compensate for now is waiting.

There will be a knot between you, either use time to dilute him, but there is a risk, or break up.

The more you care, the easier it is to miss, and look at it with a normal heart, everything is OK.

You didn't know who to blame for cherishing it. Good men are not easy to find.

But you have to bear the result, hey, girls are too willful!

People always don't know how to cherish when they have it, and they regret it when they lose it.

It shouldn't be like the original anymore, because after all, the wound is so deep, but I've also seen that a year after the breakup, both people still feel that each other is very precious, and they are together again, but rarely, your boyfriend is a good boy, it's your fault that you didn't cherish it well, he still can't bear to hurt you, it can be seen how much he loves you, but you can't be so selfish, you want to abandon the old and abandon, and if you want to get back together, what will it feel You never considered, you just think about your own comfort, if you do, He wonders if you're bored again and tired again. So I don't think you can be too selfish, you don't have the right to ask for anything, wait, wait for him to figure it out, if you can wait.

Finally, I would like to bless you.

Let's start with friends, a kite with a broken string is impossible to become intact, and it takes time for the smallest injury.

Don't force it, for the relationship thing, don't still think about the same as before, the changes in a year are really big, if there is still a relationship between the two of you, just take your time, like a pair of friends you just met, understand each other, let the other party fall in love with the current you again, and you also have to fall in love with the current him, this is a very difficult thing. Take advantage of it yourself, and if it can't be recovered, you should also bless them with a smile. Because you see, the person who loves you the most has already arrived to happiness.

What a joy!

I'm afraid that's because I'm not sure, whether I can be resurrected, and I should clean up the mess I left behind. Be brave and face it.

You don't have to be so heavy, okay?

No one wants to be loved so heavy and tired

Since you want to get back together, start with friends.

Maybe it's been that long.

You've all changed.

After being together, you may find that you are not the same as you were at the beginning.

It's better to start with a friend.

If you find that it is not suitable for yourself.

There's no need to be together.

My girlfriend and I are pretty much the same as you. But now it's time for us to separate, we've been together for 4 years. We only have to be friends now.

I asked her a lot. She didn't give me any reason. She didn't dare to face it.

In fact, a man's heart is also fragile. I admit that we are men. We have to go under a lot of pressure.

Bear everything. But who ever thinks about the pain in our hearts?Maybe he's afraid that you'll be hurt when you're together again.

He is also afraid that one day he will hurt you. He loves you very much, you don't need to have someone to love, all you want is a person's happiness. Happy.

Loving someone like this may be enoughWhen he really has it, he can't give him enough happiness and happiness. That will be regretted for the rest of your life

When he said this, it may have something to do with the reason why you broke up in the first place!

It's understandable that he said this, he has you in his heart and wants to get back together with you, but he is afraid that everything that happened in the past will be repeated!

Ask, it may be a pity not to ask.

1. First of all, we must have the belief that who does not leave whom! That is, don't lose yourself when you are on a task, there is no self** and love, ** can still love. Independence is very important, whether it is love or life;

2. Secondly, we must learn to be calm in love, it is not terrible to have a problem, it is terrible to not know where the problem is. So think calmly about what the contradiction between the two of you really is. If you say to break up just because of some small problems, some small quarrels, especially the man brings it up, this is very illogical, and it also shows that he doesn't really love you!

3. Love cannot be forced or accommodated, especially before marriage. It's like this now, so what to do after getting married.

I understand you, don't be upset. We are all too young to think that love will be exchanged for equal happiness as long as we give sincerely.

When we are hurt, we understand that love exists, and the shelf life is much shorter than life. I was also hurt, and although we didn't break up, we could never go back. We still love, but not the same deep love we used to have.

It's just that I can't bear it, so I'm together. I also lost 12 pounds because of him in 6 days, and he was so thin that he was skinny, and he was also distressed, but the damage will always exist. One day, when we understand that love is not so beautiful at all, we will no longer have deep love.

People's hearts are fragile. Girls, get married late and find a warm man to live for the rest of your life. If he can't give you warmth, fulfill him!

Reluctance, sadness is inevitable, because we have loved deeply, we have paid. We were happy.

With a man's intuition, I said directly, he is not worthy of your love, understand you are completely wrong, as a man proposed to break up, and said that he still loves you, that is pure, heartache for everyone, I think he chased you is still too easy, think about my college chasing a woman chased for 5 years, how bumpy, in the end it still didn't work, in fact, now think about it is not a big deal, the most regrettable is that I hanged myself on a tree, I ruined myself, the more I experienced, the more mature I became. No big deal, lose it.

There are many good men.

I also studied art, and I don't have a girlfriend, a car, or a house. I'm getting older, and although I'm in a hurry, I can only force myself to calm down, because I believe that one day I'll find a woman who really loves each other.

I don't know, does he like you? If he cares about you, you try harder, it's not a big deal, just don't bother him, let him know that you still care about him My friend told me, if you are wise and foolish, you will indulge if you want to be captured! Don't ask me, I don't understand it

I had the same experience! Sympathy for you! If he loves you, he can't do without you, and he will regret it. Unless he has a hard time.

He is sincere to you, absolutely sincere, you think about it, you want to rent a house, the money is more difficult, you ask him if he will help you with the burden, he didn't return, it means that he is in the entanglement, he has no money, he is thinking, after giving you the money, what can he do, he didn't save much, but he can give you the computer, it means that you can sell the computer and save money, and, true, ignorance, this means that he is dedicated to you, but he can't help you, if you break up, you get him back, that's a good man.

Your personalities are really incompatible.

It is recommended that you communicate calmly and calmly.

If he really can't understand your words and can't listen to you, I advise you to break up decisively.

Otherwise, get along like this.

It's going to be really tiring and tiring.

Actually, my boyfriend and I are the same, but every time I take the initiative to give in, we communicate every time under the guise of breaking up, just like he said, "We are happy except for unhappy between us", in fact, sometimes we are very reluctant to be together, he and I have a "generation gap", fortunately, my boyfriend can still listen to me).

I hope you and your boyfriend also communicate well, and if you belong to the kind of "generation gap" that is very serious, to be honest, then it is better to give up.

Otherwise, the more you drag your heart, the more painful it will be...

You don't understand what he means, good!

True is a Buddhist term, and true nature is what Buddhism often calls "one mind".

Ignorance is also a Buddhist term for ignorance, which means not understanding the truth, which is another name for stupidity.

What he means is: I'm so stupid and demented that I don't understand what you mean when I'm so focused on you.

Your boyfriend is very strong and should want to help you, but he can't help you. Maybe he feels indebted to you and is therefore sensitive.

Maybe your text message hurt him.

He can send you the computer, which means that he still doesn't care about these things, take advantage of it, and hurry up and contact him.

May you have lovers and end up married.

Since you are afraid of him breaking up, it means that you still care about him. At this time, don't hold on to it anymore, you have to lose face if you die, if you miss it, it will be your life.

There has been no contact for a month, and he believes in Buddhism, don't do anything stupid, get in touch quickly, maybe there will be a turnaround.

Personally, I think your relationship is fine, the problem is the difference in your identity. He knows that he can't give you enough material things, and he always feels inferior when he is with you, so he tries to avoid too much contact. It's not necessarily that I don't love you, and it's more likely that I don't deserve you, so it's easy to let go of a breakup.

And if you guess correctly, his family should believe in Buddhism. It can't be said that people who believe in Buddhism are necessarily better, but people who have faith are generally not bad, so he shouldn't have no feelings for you and still drag with you.

My suggestion is to keep the computer, not to leave room for reconciliation, but most of you girls think that if you break up, you will return everything that your boyfriend sent, so that you don't owe each other, but in fact, boys don't like to do this after their girlfriends break up, which will make them feel insulted, and they hope to do something for the girl they once liked.

Therefore, the computer is left behind, which can be regarded as a souvenir for you.

But don't think about reconciliation anymore, I think your biggest problem is because you don't fit at all, the background is too different, even if there is no such thing this time, there will be other things that will lead to a breakup. Therefore, it is better to say that long pain is better than short pain, give yourself a chance, you are people from two worlds.

I wish you all happiness.