Why can t I say what I think about?

If you can't say what you want to say, it's because your aura is all gone after you see each other, and if you lose your aura, your momentum will be gone, and if you lose your courage, your momentum will be gone, and your whole state will be sluggish, and you may not dare to say a lot of words hidden in your heart.

I often experienced this when I was a child, and sometimes I felt wronged by my parents, so I wanted to reason with my parents. I've been mentally prepared all kinds of drafts before, but when I say it, I can't say it. One of the reasons for this is that I am afraid of my parents from the bottom of my heart, and the other is that the aura at that time was not enough so I had no courage, and I was incoherent when I said it, and I didn't know how to describe that state.

If this is the case for you, use the subconscious mind first.

Tell yourself not to be afraid, to be brave and strong. Because the more scared I became, the more I couldn't say it, and the words I said were completely different from what I thought before. If the other party is a little stronger and presses you step by step, then the brain will become blank, and it can be said that you have lost completely. <>

I think it's an experience that everyone has experienced, especially during the formative years. And people with this mentality are generally more easy-going, unwilling to compete with others, and don't know how to express their emotions. Therefore, this kind of person is generally not very eloquent.

There is also a situation that occurs when two people are in love. Especially at the beginning of love, although the two people have a good impression of each other, they are not very familiar with each other. If you see your sweetheart trying to say what you want to say to him at this time, you may feel embarrassed or embarrassed.

That's because I'm young, and it's the first time I've been in love. But after only two relationships, this situation will be much worse. Because at that time, the mentality was already mature, unlike children, and some words knew how to say them to make people more comfortable. <>

So if you have friends with this mentality, you can only let yourself experience more ups and downs and setbacks, and when the mentality matures, the situation will improve a lot.

This is a sign of lack of self-confidence. I usually feel like I can't say something like that. So there is also some hesitation in my heart.

I always can't say what I think about, and my heart is still not strong enough, and then I am very unconfident, and I am afraid that the other party will not want to listen to it after I say it, so I dare not say it.

In fact, sometimes this is the case, even if you think about some words for a long time, but when you see the person you want to talk about, you swallow the words when they reach your mouth.

Because of my poor expression skills and lack of self-confidence, even if I think well, I can't say anything, and I have a special inferiority complex in my heart, so I will have such a performance.

You may have low self-esteem and some nervousness in your heart, so you can contact and socialize with friends more and exercise your eloquence.

Obviously, you have good things to say in your heart, but you can't say them, that's because you're too nervous, and your personality is more introverted, you can't say what you want to say, and you're not bold enough. It's also because of shyness, I want to say it, but I'm embarrassed to say it. When I didn't meet, I felt that I had a lot to tell him, but when I met, I was embarrassed to say it.

In fact, when you are parting with someone or in a certain situation, you will always unconsciously forget what you want to say, and only remember what you want to say before you are done at the end, then I think you can say it to the other person when you remember.

Maybe I don't know how to express it, there are many kinds of thoughts in my heart, this also depends on the person, if you can't say it in person, you can express it in the form of words, so that he can understand what he means.

In this way, he will understand himself better, and he will not hold the problem in his heart and affect his mood.

Then don't say it, if you say it lightly, people think you are hypocritical, and if you say it seriously, people think you are hypocritical. Not all things and feelings can be shared, there is really no so-called empathy in this world, didn't Mr. Lu Xun also say that the joys and sorrows of human beings do not understand, I just think they are noisy.

This feeling is more like having a lot of words to be embarrassed to say, especially in terms of feelings, often the person you like never knows how to say it, and in the end, the most is missed.

If you can't say it, don't say it, after all, people who really understand you don't need you to say it.

You can express your feelings that you can't describe by writing letters.

It is possible to express feelings that are difficult to express through letters.

Contemporary relationships have become particularly fragile, social circles are easily broken, and perhaps you have not been in touch for a month or two, and the relationship begins to fade slowly.

Even if it's a very good friend, you don't know how to talk to the other person, you will think:

If I tell the other person about all my worries and negative energy, will the other party feel particularly disgusted? Particularly disgusted with me? And then you don't want to talk to me again? ”

The more you think about it, the more you hold back all those sad things and troubles in your heart, and you don't want to talk to the other party.

From a psychological point of view, when you are uncertain and unconfident about a relationship, you will often choose to actively avoid it; And you are not confident in the friendship between the two of you, so you choose not to talk about it.

1.First of all, I will explain to you that you are a special state in a specific period, you don't feel inferior, this is an introvert, a common trait of people with mucous or depressive qualities, and I clearly tell you that this can be solved, I used to be like this, the main solution to this is to relax the mood, participate in more communication, encourage yourself through autosuggestion, and gradually get better, through your own subjective efforts, After actively participating in social networking, I am not nervous about talking anywhere now, and I believe that you will be like me, slowly getting better! Certain psychiatric disorders, such as social disorders, dissociative conversion disorder, need to be excluded.

Suggestions: I used to be like this, the main thing to solve this is to relax your mind, participate in communication more, encourage yourself through self-suggestion, and gradually get better, through your own subjective efforts, to actively participate in communication, I am not nervous to talk anywhere now, I believe you will be like me, slowly get better!

2.In my opinion, it can be initially considered to be due to strong personality traits. This may be due to your personal growth experience, so that you have a strong sensitive, suspicious and introverted personality traits, because of practical reasons, so that you have not been well perfected, so that when you are asked questions in class or other occasions need to speak, you are prone to excessive tension, anxiety and even fear and other negative emotions, these strong negative emotions are easy to produce the feelings or symptoms you describe are speechless.

Therefore, I suggest that what you need to consider at present is to help yourself try to do a good job of self-psychological adjustment, further improve your personality characteristics, learn to understand and accept, learn to communicate effectively with the people around you, and enhance the sense of mutual trust with the people around you, so as to gain more understanding and support from the people around you, so that you can gradually return to normal learning, interpersonal communication and mental state.

Psychoanalysis: The last sentence has already stated your reasons. "It's like doing it for someone else."

I believe that you are usually with close friends, and such a problem may not arise. For example, if your friend is in trouble, you will definitely go back to help, but if you have some "friends" at work, you will not help.

Why can't you say some good things?

Because it's not sincere.

It is undeniable that good communication skills can help us attract attention, build up contacts, and capture success more easily in a short period of time.

But I don't know when we have relied more and more on these exaggerated communication skills to manage interpersonal relationships, and we must praise when we meet, whether it is true or not.

Sincerity in the heart, it will be able to form outside", sincere praise is far better than profitable boasting.

It may be that we have an aversion to the inflamed sycophants in our hearts, which may be related to the subtle influence of your growth environment. When we equate these words with "sycophancy" in our hearts, we naturally can't accept these behaviors on our own.

Next time, try to remind yourself to tell whether this is a "sincere compliment" or a "slap in the face." When you want to praise others, you can try to find the shining point of others, and [sincerely] can say it better