Do you always think about what others think?

It's not a disease, but it's a sign of self-confidence. In many things, you have to believe that your choices and decisions are right. Don't try to please others. You need to know that everything you do is not to please others, so you don't need to care too much about what others think.

It's not a disease, and a lot of the time caring about what others think may make your interpersonal relationships better, and it will make you more effective in getting the job done. But everything must have a bottom line. Care about what others think without going beyond the bottom line.

It's not a disease, but if you care too much, you will lose yourself. I'm just beginning to care about other people's opinions, but if you always live for others, look at other people's opinions and work hard to change, then are you still yourself? Please love those who give you advice sincerely, and stay away from those who are always pointing fingers at you.

This is human nature, everyone wants to show their best side to others, and hopes to leave the best version of themselves in the eyes of others. Take myself as an example, I must draw my eyebrows before I go out, because my eyebrows are almost faded to nothing, so I don't go out without eyebrows, this is a kind of obsessive-compulsive disorder, but it can be regarded as caring about those people's opinions, I don't think this is anything. In addition, in communication, there is a term called "mimic environment", which means that we will shape different selves because of different environments and different people, such as at work, in socializing with friends, and when facing parents, we will show ourselves according to different environments, which everyone has, so you should not worry about it.

It's not mental illness.

I deliberately care about what others think, and there are several situations: some care about what others think about themselves, and some care about what they think about others. When dealing with their parents and children, what they are afraid of is that they do not understand themselves.

In the treatment of colleagues and superiors, what I am afraid of is that because of misunderstanding, it affects the relationship between colleagues, and what I am afraid of is that I will offend the leader and bring great difficulties to my work. Ordinary people will have such a mentality, which is not considered a mental illness. This kind of care, not being released, talking and doing things, being more cautious, and restraining your hands and feet, is a mental illness patient.

First of all, as a social individual, you can't live alone, as long as you are in contact with others, there will be comparisons, and where there is comparison, there will be evaluation. So you have to understand that even if you can judge others, you can't control what others think, and you're bound to be judged by others, and that's the reality. Second, being overly concerned about what others think is a sign of a lack of faith.

If you have confidence in what you do and what you say, then the evaluation of others may be a new perspective on the problem, valuable to learn, and worthless to ignore. So, do what you have to do, and you'll have the ability to block out useless information. Again, you have to understand that no matter what you do and how you do it, it is impossible to please everyone, and it is impossible to displease everyone.

As long as it's not challenging the law and morality, then just let it go. In the end, the reason why time has the meaning of existence is because it is yours, and instead of caring about other people's opinions, it is better to use time to manage yourself and improve yourself. In the end, you will find that those who used to be mean to you will be self-defeating.

Studies have found that this may be related to their childhood experiences. Many people-pleasers receive "conditional love" as a child, that is, they can only feel love from their parents when they have fulfilled their expectations; And once their words and deeds deviate from their parents' expectations, their parents will clearly express their disappointment and dissatisfaction. In the long run, in order to gain the love of their parents, they have to suppress their needs and desires, and instead strive to fulfill their parents' expectations, and gradually become accustomed to pleasing their parents.

As these children reach adulthood, pleasing becomes a part of their personality and makes them unconsciously "pleasers" in other relationships. So, how can we improve this state of "being overly concerned about what others think" and being uncontrollably pleasing others? First of all, it is important to realize that since pleasing is a deep-rooted personality pattern, change must be a gradual process.

The fear of rejection and abandonment in the hearts of the pleasers makes them accustomed to pleasing others and gaining a sense of security by gaining the approval and appreciation of others. Therefore, what the pleaser really needs to do is to see the true self and affirm their own values and needs, rather than relying on the evaluation of others.

I don't think it's a disease, it's just that you care too much about what other people think of you.

It depends on how much you care. If this concern has not affected your eating and sleeping, it is not a big deal. However, if it has seriously affected your personal mood and life, it means that it is something serious and needs to be checked by a doctor.

In fact, it is not a disease, but it is to know how to be considerate of others.

It's not that people who are sick are very good at thinking about others, they are very kind, and people are fine.

It is a sign of self-confidence. In many things, you have to believe that your choices and decisions are right.