What should you do when someone finds it boring to talk to you?

People are divided into groups, and things are gathered by like. I think that if you find a position for yourself first, then stick to being yourself and believe in yourself, then you will naturally attract people who share your interests. Don't worry too much, show the most authentic self, the unsuitable people will walk away from you, the right people will slowly surround you, these suitable people are your friends, and those people don't need to be particularly pleased, just treat and be yourself.

In life, it is enough to have three or five confidants, of course, on this basis, the more the merrier, but there is no need to force it.

In fact, you are too sensitive, and you care a lot about what others think and think about you, so you will think a lot. I'm like this, but it's not as serious as you, it's not exactly an inferiority factor, it's mainly about your character, which is a big factor that affects a person, only slowly change, but you also recognize your own shortcomings, maybe you just don't know what to do, restrain yourself from thinking nonsense, and try to say hello automatically. It's up to you.

It depends on whether many people feel this way, if everyone doesn't want to hear you, they still need to correctly understand the shortcomings, life is very long, and there are many places to learn.

You can observe what they like to talk about, and then look it up for yourself. Try it, that's what I am.

Find someone who is willing to chat and talk to me, the communication should be two-way, and it is better to find someone who can talk well than to find a topic.

If that person really likes to be close to you, even if you have bad breath, she will think you smell good and want to talk to you.

Understand your feelings, but you should think about why others don't like to talk to you, whether it's wrong or a problem with the way and method, and it should be fine after summing it up.

Then don't talk about it, don't speculate for more than half a sentence. I still dislike her for being bored to talk, and I don't disdain it because I can talk to her with more meat!

Maybe I was really disappointed at the time, but it doesn't matter, everyone's experience is different, and their views on things are different.

Find out if it's because the topic you talked about makes her bored and boring, or if I'm a person who makes her feel bored.

I stopped talking to her.

You don't think it's interesting to talk to me, so why should I be cheeky and continue to talk to you?

After all, everyone's time is limited, and I'm looking for someone who is fun to talk to, not like you.

You are an introverted person who does not want to talk to others!

Of course, others will not take the initiative to talk to you, talking to you means that there is something to tell you, notify you, and it has nothing to do with your appearance! Even if some people are very ugly, they will talk and laugh with everyone, because they can integrate into this collective, you must not talk to others usually, this is your character, this is also related to your living environment, it is estimated that the parents or relatives who live with you usually don't like to talk! They are all internal people, or, your parents and your relatives at home, take the initiative to talk to you, and everything will be arranged for you!

You don't have to worry about it at all! Advice against the ear is good for action! What I said is to help you solve your current difficulties, please don't be angry!

I guess you must be a lazy person, don't take the initiative to do things, always like to wait for others to arrange for you, do it if you arrange it, and don't do it if you don't arrange it! Is there such a situation?

You speak very directly! It's easy to hurt people! People don't like to talk to you, everyone likes to praise good things, even if he's wrong, they don't want to hear someone say about him!

There is a saying, "See who says what!" "What you say is to do what you like, depending on what identity this person is, what you like to hear, you can say anything! They're happy! I'm willing to listen to you!

Will talk to you too! If others don't talk to you, you must not talk to others either.

Others won't take the initiative to talk to you, just like you don't take the initiative to talk to others!

What are others thinking? How can you talk to them?

Also, what are the differences between you and others, for example, the conditions at home are particularly good! A bit arrogant!

Reluctant to be with others! People who look so good at looking like they're special! People don't dare to talk to you at first glance!

In short, you are reluctant to take the initiative to contact others, and your personality is more withdrawn!

I'm sure you'll have a good relationship with your classmates! But I'm going to tell you not to flatter others! Don't do it without self-esteem! We must grasp a scale!

Okay, let's talk about that first.

It's hard to say clearly because you don't know your circle of friends.

But at the very least, a greeting is essential when you meet every day, even if you are not used to seeing people, you should casually say morning hello, good afternoon and so on.

When you have nothing to do, ask more about the hobbies you want to associate with, and open a breakthrough from the person who is popular, and invite him to a meal or go out to play or something.

If you want others to respect you, you must first learn how to respect others, speak with evidence, not in front of a set, behind a set, of course, it is necessary to be sleek, the so-called see people talk about people, see the hell and talk nonsense, speak really 7 points and fake 3 points, for example, others ask you today and the leader out of **? At this time, you have to be tactful, you can't tell the whole truth, etc., you need to understand it yourself.

The communication between people is mutual, there are common topics to talk together, it's not that no one wants to talk to you, it's just that you don't know what to say to others, in general to take the initiative.

When talking to others, one is that both parties should have common hobbies, or find topics that the other person is interested in to talk about, and the other is to talk about new things that have happened recently, these are all ways to open up a conversation!

Explain that you are communicative. There is still something missing. If you want to learn to adapt to society, find more topics that the other party is interested in to talk about. Do what you like.

Because others may also be introverts.

Or they will be embarrassed to speak in the face of strangers, so they will talk less.

And everyone will look at people's faces, if you are smiling all the time, maybe others will feel easy to get along with and will not feel embarrassed to talk to you.

If you look very cold and difficult to get along with, people will naturally be embarrassed to talk to you.

In my personal experience, the conditions for the formation of humor are mainly as follows:

First of all, your mood should be relaxed and stress-free!

Second, imagination, associative ability should be good, can diverge thinking, think things are different from others. Let me give you my own example: a friend said that the lid in the cover can make people walk like a cloud and a fog, silently.

I can immediately think of it as a must-have medicine for thieves, because when a thief enters the house, there is no sound, and the owner can't hear it.

3. Watch more humorous jokes, and tell them when you encounter the right scene, and others will find them good jokes.

The most important point is that when telling jokes, others will definitely laugh, remember, you must not laugh, especially in the process of speaking, you must not laugh, otherwise the laughter will be reduced by 90%, and you can enjoy the jokes you created after others have laughed!

Free time to see my jokes**:

Look at jokes and tell them at the right time.

A sense of humor also needs to be practiced, it will be expressed unintentionally, and it is useless to be deliberate.

Humor should be unintentional, don't deliberately show how many good books you read, and your ability to express yourself is naturally strong.

Usually read more books and accumulate more

First of all, I think that sometimes communication is not necessary, if it is just an ordinary friend or the like, there is no need to find something to say, and if you really want to communicate with others, I will give you the following suggestions:

1. Start with your point of view. You are most familiar with the things around you, and you have the most right to speak, so you can start with the anecdotes around you, and casually mention what I heard about you, "The welfare of the unit is very good, and our teachers have doubled the amount of homework recently, what about you?" If the other party responds, then you can continue to talk, if you don't respond, then I'm sorry, people don't want to talk, then you don't need to ask for trouble

2. Start with the circle of friends. Friends don't jump out of the stone for no reason, and the people you meet have something in common, even if you just waited for the bus on the platform together, you can start with "Which one are you waiting for?" You go**?

What are you going to do? Isn't it fun? "Let's start talking.

In the end, I think that there is no good or bad topic, as long as you can attract people to participate, it is successful, and people focus on sincerity, as long as you sincerely care about others, sometimes even if you don't say anything, everyone can feel your sincerity, not to mention, friends who will listen, is hard to buy

Tell me something you're interested in, or you know he's interested in.

Dear, you are caused by an extreme inferiority complex caused by psychological effects, and there are many reasons for this, it may also be family, or the living environment. In fact, these are some incorrect understandings and judgments that you have made in your heart based on the various things you have experienced or all kinds of negative emotions. I used to be the same as you, very inferior, very shy, psychologically fragile, afraid to speak loudly to others, especially in that kind of public place, psychologically very fearful, insecure, so I usually use an indifferent appearance to hide my inner fear and embarrassment, I don't want to communicate with others, for fear of being hurt.

I'm guessing that you usually think about others first, and you care a lot about what others do, and you are afraid that you will do something wrong or say the wrong thing. (Think about others and put yourself in their shoes.) ）

In fact, these are enough to show that you are very kind at heart! And it's excellent, and we should all learn from you.

But you have to be confident and believe that you are the best, you might as well try to do or think about some of the things that you are most successful and proud of, and surpass others, maybe this can make you feel a great sense of self-confidence from the bottom of your heart.

You can usually insist on going out for a walk and try to practice in a crowded place, and the effect is particularly obvious.

Remember this sentence: In general, the reason for low self-esteem is to compare one's own shortcomings with the strengths of others.

Calm down, or try to vent your anger on other places, such as playing games, running, etc.

I'll talk to you and analyze what the situation is.

You can try to raise an animal, and it works wonders.

Why do I think I don't want to eat instant noodles when others eat them?

A person's life is a bumpy carmack.

It is normal for a 23-year-old to be naïve, provided that there is a certain limit to naivety.

You see yourself as a child, but you see yourself as if you are not. However, since you have been dissolved from society, you are not considered a child. You tell me?

What is the reason for the reluctance to engage with others? Reluctant to speak? Shyness, no topic, low self-esteem, nervousness, .........

Whatever the reason, since you want to improve yourself, then start now.

Personal advice: Read more communication books to master basic communication skills.

Interact with people sincerely and open your heart in a principled way.

Understand, learn, and master some things as your own talking point.

Wait a minute. I'm sure if you can stick to it, it should improve a lot.

Try to open your heart to ......Only by opening your heart can you truly change yourself.

You should accept yourself like this, and give full play to the good side, for example, your lovely side and try to improve the bad as much as possible, as long as you do a good job and you are not at fault, you don't need to worry too much.

Don't think too much about it.