Three years after graduation, why did you lose yourself?

When I just graduated, I also had ambitions and various goals, but after actively participating in social work, I clearly reflected or felt that this society is not particularly friendly to newcomers, and if you want to achieve the goals you set at the beginning, you need to make great efforts and guests due to some reasons for lack of self-discipline, resulting in their own goals, and they are not 100% completed, and the resulting exponential effect is almost worse and worse. In the end, he was getting farther and farther away from his dream.

For this question, it should be my question three years ago, many people will find a good job after graduation, or start a family or live another life, and the final loss should be the benefit of money. If there is no money in the world. How can you get lost?

So I think it's best to do my job well. Only do one thing well. When your social circle expands, you won't lose your way.

On the contrary, you will become more at ease.

Maybe it's life, we're always busy, in addition to going to school, let's not go to school, we also have to work, how much time do we have to achieve our dreams? The answer is no. People without conditions are like this, they can't afford to lose anything, whether it is time or money, gradually we can only be such an ordinary person at two o'clock a day, and lose ourselves.

Maybe it's because of the pressure of life, no way, the reality is like this, we can be carefree in school life, don't think about it so much, but, out of the school gate, it's firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, those dreams are too late to see the sunshine, they will be treasured.

At the beginning, the idealization of speech is in strong contrast with the reality of society, and if you are not mentally prepared, you will often lose yourself.

At this time, if you don't have a firm goal, then it is easy to be smoothed out by life. In the end, the burden of the family does not give much time to think. Maybe that's why many people end up losing themselves!

After graduating, you enter the society and find that you don't know anything. But there are still goals and dreams in my heart, but it's hard to find a job, you can't do a good job, you are unwilling to do a bad job, you are wandering every year, this one year, the second year I found that the good job is well treated, and I began to change jobs, and later found that the people around me are in a state, and the environment affects a person, and gradually begins to lose my goal and begin to lose myself!

I can't find my true self and I don't know how to find it. Every day when I open my eyes and look at the ceiling, I don't want to go to work. The content of the work, boring day after day, has no motivation.

Every weekend, the people around me are busy going on outings, dating, going to sea, etc., and feel that nothing is meaningless, and they can't find interesting activities.

Because I don't have the motivation to find a job, I have graduated for five years, and now I can go to work or not, and my mentality is relatively loose, mainly because I have no goals, but it wasn't until I met my wife that she taught me that men need to be responsible, they need to be responsible, and it was she who showed me what ability and technology can bring to a person, and I began to work hard and study hard.

Looking at the white ceiling, it seems like I have a life, confused. It's not that I forgot my ambitions, I always remember them, but I can't achieve them, I can only nest in my heart, what can I do, society does not allow me to be myself, I can only be what others want to be myself.