Why do some boys have low self esteem when they are in love?

Some boys are particularly prone to low self-esteem when they are in love, and they always feel that their girlfriends are particularly good. I am not as good as my girlfriend in many aspects, and because my girlfriend is very good, there are many boys around me, and many boys are better than me. Therefore, this situation causes some boys to be particularly prone to low self-esteem when they are in love.

They are not as handsome as other boys and are not as rich as other boys. Low self-esteem is not as good as other boys, but he forgets that no matter how good a boy is, he has not won the heart of his girlfriend, only him.

In fact, boys with low self-esteem in love should think like this, many boys are more handsome than themselves and richer than themselves. But that doesn't mean they're better than themselves. At least the current girlfriend chooses herself.

Girls naturally choose their own reasons. In other words, I am better than those boys in some way. Everyone has their own strengths, or their own weaknesses.

Don't always compare your own shortcomings with the strengths of others, so that everyone's life will be full of gloom. Think more about your strengths, think more about what you can and others can't. It's not called narcissism, it's self-confidence.

My girlfriend, because she looks very sweet, has a lot of boys around her. But among the many boys, she chose me in the end. Sometimes I secretly compare myself with other boys in my heart, feeling that I am inferior to other boys in many aspects, and I will have some inferiority complex in my heart.

Tell my girlfriend, who will tell me that there is no need to feel inferior at all, since she chose me, then there is a reason for his choice, which proves that I am better than other boys in many aspects.

When you are in love, you don't have to feel inferior. Believe that you are good enough in many ways. I think all girls will like a boy who is confident and sunny every day, no matter how unbearable you are, you will have a unique sparkle in your life.

Since she chose you, I believe she must have discovered the shining point in you. You must have enough confidence to face her, face love, and face life!

Maybe it's because he likes it too much, or maybe it's because from the beginning, he felt in his heart that he wasn't worthy of the other party.

I talked about a boy before, but he is actually a very good boy, unlike many boys who play games in class, he occasionally plays games, but he is always very serious in class, and has a very clear plan for his future, which is why I liked him in the first place. And it's rare that he is not macho at all, he is very considerate and willing to take care of me.

Everything is good, the only thing that is not so good is that it is not tall. It's true that he's a small guy among boys, about the same height as me, but I think it's interesting to find someone I like, and I don't have to find someone who is tall and big. Height has never been an issue with me, but that's not how he thinks.

From the very beginning when we tried to get along, one time, when we were walking together, I jumped up a staircase, and he suddenly said to me, "Don't do this, how embarrassed I am." I didn't react at the time, I looked at him in confusion, I didn't know what he was referring to, until later, when we chatted, sometimes we talked about something, and I unintentionally commented, "How short, so short?"

He asked me quietly, "Do you have a big opinion about short things?" "I slowly realized that he actually cared more about the height difference between us than I did.

In short, after getting along, although I tried my best to avoid it, he still had a low self-esteem about his height and minded, although in my eyes, he was actually a very good person. However, because he is the one who loves more people, and the person who has low self-esteem is also him, later, the relationship ended without a problem under pressure.

Actually, if he could adjust his mentality, we shouldn't end up like this.

It may be that the girlfriend is better, and then he will have no self-confidence and low self-esteem, or the girl does not like the boy very much, and does not care enough about him, often ignores him, and even gives him a cuckold, in fact, love is equal, and unilateral efforts are fruitless.

Because he felt that he was not good enough in all aspects, he was afraid that his girlfriend would dislike him and propose to break up.

Perhaps the boy had the following considerations. 1.Boys are more frugal.

Usually, in the public eye, young Chinese men and women, once they have established a romantic relationship, need to get together often to eat, drink and be merry. In the traditional concept, men need to give, which is relatively large for a long time. Perhaps the boy's family situation is not very good, and he has developed the habit of saving money since he was a child.

Once he fell in love, he still couldn't adapt to this new consumption habit very quickly.

2.The girl asked for too much material. This one is related to the previous one.

If a girl is in a relationship that demands too much material from a boy and requires him to often spend too much on herself, then the boy cannot afford it financially, and he thinks that the girl is too wasteful and has no idea of saving. At this time, the boy will often remind himself that he has no money, in order to hope that the usual love expenses can be less, which is beyond his ability.

3.Emotionally unstable and unwilling to invest too much money. The stability of the relationship is not necessarily related to the time of communication, it all depends on the feeling.

If the boy doesn't feel that your relationship is too close, he won't be willing to spend a lot of money on you, so he will usually find some reason to reject you. For example, I don't have much money, my family is poor, etc. Boys want to hold their financial investments until their relationship progresses further, and at the same time, they can avoid creating emotional hallucinations for girls.

4.The boy has low self-esteem. Actually, there are not many such cases, mainly because some shy boys in love will have this situation.

Due to their introverted personalities, boys have few opportunities to take the initiative and are often unsatisfactory when it comes to money and machismo. Boys are suspicious of their financial strength and ability to pick up and drop off girls, and are often even dissatisfied with their performance, but they can't find a practical solution. In their eyes, it is easy to observe whether they have money or not.

They tend to attribute the gains and losses of their feelings to whether they have money or not, rather than looking for reasons in their own personality. They usually measure their emotional depth with money. He is afraid that you will leave him and wants to be comforted and encouraged by you.

Because his girlfriend is very good, he doesn't feel like a perfect match for his girlfriend, and he's one of those who are more competitive.

Because the boy feels that he is not worthy of his girlfriend, he feels that he can't give his girlfriend good material enjoyment, and he feels that he has made his girlfriend suffer.

It's because of the family reasons of these boys that their personalities are very inferior. So they don't think they deserve love.

Because two people give unequally, the depth of love is also different. As the saying goes, if you love deeply, you will hurt deeply. The party who pays more will cherish the other party more, want to keep the relationship, want the other party to care about themselves, and love themselves more, so they can praise the low value and think about the other party.

On the contrary, if the other party asks for more and loves less, it will be like an adult who has been in a high position for a long time, and in the long run, of course, one is humble and the other is noble. Oh, in fact, it doesn't necessarily come down to humility, but this party is the one who cares more, the more persistent one, and the one who knows how to cherish more, as long as this person has self-esteem and self-confidence, don't change everything for the sake of each other, be your true self, and it doesn't matter if you pay a little more. On the other hand, after a long time, they may become more cherishing, giving, and tolerating.

It's humbleness for love because of stupidity, it has nothing to do with gender, the more you love, the more willful the other party is, until you lose, and then you will understand it when you love again, just like when you were a child, you didn't understand the love of your parents.

Feeling one, you feel that you are also slowly becoming less confident and have low self-esteem.

If you were quite confident before, but after falling in love, you have low self-esteem, it means that your partner has low self-esteem.

Inferiority complex is contagious, if you yourself are also unstable and not too confident, then dating and falling in love with a person with low self-esteem will also make you become inferior and more suspicious of yourself in long-term subtle communication.

The opposite of low self-esteem is self-confidence, that is, not believing in oneself. If you also have low self-esteem, then it can be described as a disaster for two people with low self-esteem to be together. Because both people don't believe in themselves, let alone believe in each other, believe in the relationship and relationship.

The foundation of a romantic relationship lies in believing in each other, if you don't believe, how can you last long, and how can you be happy?

Therefore, once you feel that you have also become inferior, you must be vigilant and stop your partner's inferiority complex from invading you. Loving yourself, being firm in your values, and trying to regain the confidence you haven't gone far from are the most important things you should do right now.

Feeling two, you feel that many of your partner's inferiority complex behaviors are particularly unbelievable and incomprehensible.

Why can't it be understood? Because everyone thinks differently, they have formed their own way of doing things and coping patterns.

Remember: when you encounter something, you will react in a certain way, but don't assume that everyone will react the same way you do. Different people are likely to do and react in diametrically opposite ways.

You have to understand this, otherwise you will feel very incomprehensible that your partner is behaving differently than you expected. Not understanding can lead to misunderstandings, and it can also make you more and more intolerable and even disgusted with your partner.

Yes, everyone understands the words "put yourself in their shoes", but how many people can really do it?

If you can't understand your partner's inferiority, how can you be like this, how can you do such a thing, then the road ahead will be difficult. Only by understanding first, being more considerate, and thinking from the partner's point of view, can we find the crux of the partner's problem and help the partner overcome low self-esteem.

It is not easy for a person to overcome low self-esteem, and the understanding, support and help of a loved one are particularly crucial.

When you feel that you are slowly becoming less confident and have low self-esteem; When you feel that many of your partner's inferiority complex behaviors are particularly unbelievable and incomprehensible, it means that your partner's inferiority complex is affecting you and your relationship. At this time, self-confidence and understanding are the most important things.

There is a feeling of sister and brother love, he will be very obedient and considerate!

The best way to solve low self-esteem is to make him excellent, once a person is excellent, he will involuntarily become confident from the inside out.

No, do men have low self-esteem? It's so ordinary, but you can be so confident.

It shouldn't be good, his low self-esteem will be less sunny, and this emotion will affect the people around him.

I won't be liked by girls, because this kind of boy has low self-esteem, and he is very introverted, and he is not good at communicating with people, and he is also very timid, so I don't think he will be liked by girls.

It's not going to be liked by girls; Because this kind of boy generally does not muster up his courage to confess to the other party when facing a girl, nor does he like some girls, it is very likely that he will not deal with girls.

Boys who are shy and inferior will not be liked by girls; Because girls like lively and cheerful boys, shy and inferior boys don't dare to express themselves, and they can't speak, so girls don't like such boys very much.

Generally, in the face of the person you like, you will feel a little bit like this, and in the face of the person you like, he will be slowly elevated in our minds, and when they are elevated, we will reduce our sense of superiority, so we will feel inferior.

It could be: I hope to pay more for this girl, so that this girl can get more. But the boy's own ability is a good level. So, ahhh I want to do more, but I can't do it myself, and I feel inferior.

Probably always worried that he is not good enough, in the face of love, no matter how good a person is, he also needs to learn

Hehe, people's conditions are very good, why do you feel inferior in the face of girls who like them? This is also very normal, after all, in the face of the girl you like, you don't know how to express it for a while.

There are many aspects to conditions, not only economic conditions, but also appearance, work, conversation, and self-conditions

Summary. Hello dear, your problem is up to me, boys will have low self-esteem when they fall in love, and they are generally more introverted, so they must realize that they should slowly adjust to this, first of all, they must find their own shining point.

Hello dear, your problem is up to me, boys will have low self-esteem when they fall in love, and their general personality is more inward-looking than Duan Lu's inward grip with his brother's model, to realize that he has to adjust slowly, first of all, he must find his own shining point.

There must be a reason for feeling inferior, because of your own conditions or your height and appearance, but these are the status quo, and it is not easy to change. Therefore, you must change your mind in your heart, discover your own good, self-restraint and self-restraint, and strengthen your confidence.

Everyone is a good person to point to, than noisy such as gentle and considerate, careful, responsible, inner sunshine, etc., Duchang Peng is a person's advantages, are worthy of recognition and pride, so you must have self-confidence.

Can you tell me more about this boy's low self-esteem? Let's analyze it and solve it together.