Is there still a need for the right door?

Personally, I think it's right, unless it's a particularly special family, there will be some contradictions in the future life, such as one party lives in an urban family with good pampered family conditions and pampered only children, and the other party is a family with many poor conditions for rural brothers and sisters, so there will definitely be differences in personality, living habits, spending money and other aspects after marriage. It's better to be a door-to-door match.

No, you don't. If you find a potential stock, her development in the future will be immeasurable, so are you willing to choose the future, or choose the past? Unless you have a sick brain, of course, you choose the future. ‍‍

It is still necessary, marriage and love, it is best to be equal. Otherwise, sooner or later something could go wrong. Of course, if two people are mentally mature enough, it may be a different story.

The so-called right door, modern people, it seems that 99% of people understand it wrong. This is understood as marrying a rich man if he is rich. The one who is an official marries one who is an official.

This approach is wrong. My understanding of the family should be that the family style and tutor of the two families should be the same. There is no money and status, so it seems that the right person is more needed.

Door-to-door pairing is just a tradition in our country, both parents and children have a sense of balance together, but real life is also changing, material is not the only emotional basis for husband and wife, the feelings between husband and wife should be based on mutual respect, mutual love, complementarity and tolerance.

Now there is basically none, and the woman's parents just need to let their daughter live well.

Love is the inevitability of marriage, and the reciprocity of real conditions means more appropriate communication, as well as the synchronization of ideas. I don't think it's necessarily necessary, after all, whether life is good or not, whether it goes smoothly or not, still depends on both sides. ‍‍

Definitely can't ask for it anymore, now the life is the young people who work hard by themselves, why do you have to ask for the door to be right, my wife and I have been in trouble for a long time because of this, the family has always felt that they can't get along, and the wife and their family feel that they are superior, a little bit can't get along, and in the end, fortunately, with my unremitting efforts, they have changed their impression of me a lot, and they got married.

Yes, I feel that it is better to be a door-to-door, not to climb, and not to settle.

It depends on whether the person you love is important or the person you love is important, if the person you love is important, then the person is not important, if you use the door to make an excuse, then he doesn't love you at all, then simply let it go.

There is no mansion now, and of course it depends on personal choice. And true love has always had no external conditions since ancient times.

I think this is relatively light, nothing important, I must find the other half in the future I like, so that life will be delicious.

It is often safer to be a good match, but when you encounter a potential stock like Ying Hui, you will lose.

Now they are all on the three views! The two of them are similar in thought!

Some people say: "When you get married, you must consider the other party's family background", after all, family background determines the material foundation, and without the material foundation, who can afford the chicken feathers after marriage?

Someone said: "If you all look at your family background, if you want to be right in love and get married, will there still be love?" "True love should be a passionate collision of two hearts, and sincere feelings should be purely spiritual in addition to material factors.

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Pineapple thinks that both statements make sense, both say that there is love and water is full, but sometimes it is really important to be in the right place.

Similar living environment, corresponding outlook on life, values, world view, interests, hobbies will be relatively close, which is also a great foundation for family stability.

Whether two people can "match each other" ideologically is generally determined by the appearance of education and financial resources, but it also depends on whether the character and financial resources can show whether the ideology and cognition of the other party's family members can be "opposed", otherwise it will become a "mutual hatred" in life.

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If the conditions are far apart means that the lifestyle of the child is far away, then there may be a gap in the consumption outlook, vision, and world view. It is quite possible that at some point irreconcilable contradictions will erupt.

Of course, if there is no love, just looking at the family background, is there any use for fart? If you choose to take love as the premise and then look at your family, that is a choice; If it is based on the premise of a blind hail in the family, then everyone is the same.

It is appropriate and normal for the door to be the right person. But the right people here mainly refer to hobbies, three views and knowledge.

Because today's men and women are more and more independent and self-reliant, as long as they can be financially independent, it means that "he" has a certain ability to work and survive. Therefore, in a certain (e.g., in-situ average.

above), the above-mentioned "three views" are particularly important. Of course, a good tutor (not necessarily a difference between families, but also the principle of educating people) is also crucial for the next generation.

As the saying goes: Parents are the first teachers, which shows the importance of family education and ancestral training. Those who are interested may wish to "ferry" Jiangsu and Zhejiang.

The "Qian family", why the Xingshen family is almost a "natural" "noble". Why do we only have "the second generation of officials, the second generation of wealth" and no "second generation" of Confucianism, "second generation" of Ya, "second generation" of literature, and "second generation" of expensive (the second generation of nobles, there are only a lot of money).

There are many reasons for the above phenomenon, mainly including:

The first is the constraints of social development (the average level of productive forces is low), the second is the constraints of the accumulation of social wealth (the per capita possession of social wealth of the Chinese people is still low), and the third is the low average level of national education (after the expansion of enrollment, many "college students" cannot be compared with the secondary school in the 80s, and the education level in the countryside has a downward trend. ）。

There is also the so-called "three views of the spine". Back in the '80s, employees were proud of their technicians. The social status is not mentioned much, and most of them are proud of their contributions to the country.

With the development of the economy, the idea of looking at "money" has indeed poisoned more than one generation. Nowadays, most of the ordinary people and friends they meet take the amount of "money" and the level of "official position" as the criteria for "success". This is the lack of "three views" education.

In fact, "success" should be based on oneself, and surpassing oneself is success (success is not big or small, because personal conditions are good or bad, resulting in personal ability). Therefore, the three views are not correct.

How to be a righteous person, how to be a righteous society. Therefore, it is appropriate and natural for the "right match" in marriage.

Because in real life, many people's unhappy marriages are based on this. The door-to-door match not only refers to the material conditions such as the family background of both parties, but more importantly, the vision and pattern of the parents of both parties, because marriage is often not a matter of two people, but a communication between two families. If it is not suitable to force together, only unfortunate Feng Weili will be harvested.

It's important to be a good person. If two people are not on the same understanding latitude, it is easy to have contradictions. For example, in daily life, you don't understand the other party at all, and playing the piano to a cow is not a good experience for both of you.

In addition, when it comes to family questions, if there is no point of view at work, it will be very uncomfortable. Unless one party can be very high, there is no need to discuss Lingxin in everything, all of them are in charge of their own affairs, and they don't care about the other party's understanding, then it may be able to continue, but there are too few people who can do this. Everyone has emotions, and there are times when they need the other party's understanding of Wang Jian.

So the ideological door-to-door pair is very important.

In fact, whether it is love or marriage, everyone will actually pursue the right match. It's just that some people say it, and some people keep it in their hearts. In the narrow sense, it refers to only the family in the family, and in the broad sense, the family is in more aspects, in addition to the family, there are feelings, personality, etc., let's take a look at how important the door is in the end.

1. Feelings are right at home.

Whether it is a lover relationship or a husband and wife relationship, they are all relationships involving feelings, so it is very important for two people to be emotional. The so-called emotional matchmaker means that both people have to treat their feelings with their hearts, not seeking to achieve absolute equality, but at least they are doing their best to pay for love, so that they can be called a match. Anyone who has been in love should know that if two people are not equal in their emotional efforts, the balance of love is bound to be unbalanced, and once the relationship is unbalanced, then love is prone to problems.

This requires that two people in love must recognize the state of your love, understand each other, understand each other's feelings, and be loyal to each otherAffection is the premise of high quality of love.

2. The character is right at home.

It is also very important for two people in love to have a good personality, which can greatly promote the deepening of the relationship. The so-called personality match-to-door refers to the fact that no matter what kind of personality two people have, as long as they can get along, complement each other, and like each other's personalities, they are a good match. Different people will collapse and form different personalities because of the influence of various factors such as origin, Jingzhou Shenli, etc., if two people can't do the right thing in character, such as two people who are not in harmony with each other, dislike each other, and always hate each other, you think she is too extroverted, she thinks you are too introverted, then this kind of love is getting higher and higher, but there will be a lot of problems, because each other is dissatisfied with each other, and after a long time, it will inevitably make love go downhill.