Can a husband stand up when he dies alone? How the husband died and the wife erected a monument

Tombstones should not be erected indiscriminately, and there is also a need to pay attention to erecting tombstones.

It stands to reason that people erect monuments in the place where their relatives are buried, which is a special mark to commemorate their ancestors, so that future generations can remember their ancestors, so that future generations can mourn their ancestors. The old people in the countryside said that it is important to erect a monument to the deceased, and it is necessary to be cautious. Let's take a look at what's important.

Let's first learn about the tombstones, which are mostly rectangular in shape, far back in the Qin and Han dynasties.

It is useful, generally only engraved with the name of the deceased, and later in the Tang and Song dynasties, there was an inscription, that is, the name, place of origin, experience, meritorious deeds, time of death, etc.

There are two types of tombstones that have been inherited in modern times: one is the name monument. The front side indicates the name of the person in the tomb, the person who erected the tomb and the time when the tomb was erected, and the back is not engraved with an inscription.

The other is a tombstone with an inscription on the front and an inscription on the back, which generally includes the name, place of origin, experience, meritorious deeds, time of death, burial place at the time of burial, and finally an inscription written by descendants for the deceased.

The purpose of erecting a monument is to remember the ancestors, so the old people also said that the following situations cannot be erected.

1. The old people said that the new grave cannot be erected, that is to say, the relatives who have just passed away cannot erect a monument, but can only cultivate soil, and only after three years can the monument be erected.

2. People are influenced by the ancient tradition of patriarchal thinking, saying that there must be descendants before the deceased can erect a monument. If you think about it, it is not unreasonable, if the descendants have no descendants, the ancestors will not be able to receive this incense, and what is the use of a tombstone standing alone in the world.

3. No young man shall erect a monument. In rural areas, only those who have reached the age of 60 are considered old people, and if they are not under the age of 60, they are called young people or middle-aged people, and if they are not old people, they cannot talk about bringing benefits to future generations. After a few years of passing away at a young age, future generations may not even remember the impression, and there is no need to erect a monument.

4. A monument shall not be erected to a person who has died unexpectedly. In other words, it is not a normal death, but a sudden death that encounters an accident and is unwilling. For example:

Drinking medicine, hanging, diving, etc. Such a deceased person's descendants are not allowed to erect a monument, if the monument is to make future generations ashamed or let others remember this disgraceful death!

Fifth, a single grave does not erect a monument. That is to say, if a person dies, his partner is still alive, and the monument cannot be erected.

There is a saying that the specific time of the monument depends on the auspicious day of the zodiac, superstition or not superstition, we don't have to talk about it, but it is best to choose the Qingming season or the first day of October, because this is a big festival of sacrifice.

In the direction of the monument, it should be noted that the monument should be consistent with the direction of the tomb, that is, when burning paper money, it should face the grave and the tombstone in the same way.

The distance between the grave and the tombstone should generally be kept a few feet away, and the monument should not be erected on the grave or too far away from the grave, so as to facilitate the psychology of the mourners and make it more solemn.

Under normal circumstances, the monument is erected after both husband and wife have passed away, but the customs in each region are slightly different, you can ask the local elders!

Can stand, of course people have to stand when they die, otherwise they want him to die without turning a blind eye, or they still have to stand cards.

If the husband dies alone, a monument can also be erected, and you only need to write the names of the two people on one and paint the color, and the other can be left unpainted.

I can erect a monument, but the name of Mrs. (spouse) is vacant, and I am really looking forward to it

When a husband dies, he can set up a plaque temporarily.

Of course, you can stand, and you can die.

The name of the deceased can be engraved on the inscription, and the name of the deceased party can be engraved on it, and the name of the party who has not died is painted with red paint, and the red paint will be scraped off after a hundred years of living (after death). Nowadays, most children are reluctant to do this, and feel uncomfortable in this way, so they only engrave the name of the deceased on the inscription, and reserve a certain space for the other spouse to be engraved after a hundred years. About the person who erected a monument for others:

In most areas of our country, the younger generations erect monuments for the seniors, and generally do not list husbands and wives as the people who erect monuments. If one of the husband and wife (the surviving party) is listed as the person who erects the monument, then the living party will be hidden together after a hundred years, and the monument will not be usable. Because I can't erect a monument for myself!

I thought it was nothing! It's just that if the old man is there, it's better not to stand first, it feels like a Chinese tradition!

Erecting a monument is actually a bad tradition, if everyone stands a shellfish, what will be used to farm the land in future generations

You are a good woman, you can have this heart, I think your husband will feel extremely relieved to have a spirit in the sky, in fact, you can erect a monument at any time, if it is a cemetery, you will have to erect a monument when you are buried, if it is a private cemetery, you can be in Qingming, Zhongyuan Festival.

If you erect a monument in your own name, it is not too particular, if the name of the child erects a monument, it depends on whether you remarry, if you no longer marry, it is necessary to leave a place for you.

You can't stand, you can only stand after you both die, and you can't stand when you die.

In fact, you can erect a monument at any time, if it is a cemetery, you will have to erect a monument when you are buried, if it is a private cemetery, you can set up a monument at Qingming Festival, Zhongyuan Festival, October 1st and so on, you can also wait for his death sacrifice as the time to erect a monument, if you use your own name to erect a monument, it is not too particular, if the name of the child is erected a monument, it depends on whether you remarry, if you are no longer married, it is to leave a place for you.

Generally three years. However, it can sometimes be extended. If the third generation of the deceased old man has not yet been born, a monument can be erected after the birth, which belongs to the name of the grandson

Erecting a monument to the deceased is a kind of remembrance of the deceased, and it is also a kind of respect for the elders of the younger generation. And the process of erecting a monument also has a lot of etiquette things, I have experienced my father erecting a monument to my grandfather, so I give the subject some suggestions:

Whether the deceased can receive the monument.

It is not necessary to have a monument when a person dies, it is not that a monument cannot be erected, but it is necessary to feel the need. Let me analyze that the average life expectancy of Chinese is about 75 years old. In my hometown, the deceased is about 80 years old, or more than 80, which is a happy mourning; Around the age of 75 is a normal death, less than 70 years old is an early death, 45 or 60 years old is a "pity", and in 30 years old is "a young grade......"It's going to be a dead death.

If the age of the deceased is less than 60, it is recommended not to erect a monument, the monument is to commemorate, children to worship, and before this age, people only think of regret, regret, sympathy, sorrow. Therefore, it is recommended that if the deceased is under the age of 60, it is better not to erect a monument, or to wait a long time before erecting a monument.

Whether the identity can be erected.

Why do you say that, generally the monument is erected by children to the deceased parents, so it depends on the relationship between the monument erector and the deceased. If it's a general relationship, you can fund it, but try not to dominate it, it's not in line with customs. After all, filial piety is done by children, and ordinary people cannot bear this obligation.

But if the deceased has no children, it can be led by nephews. If there are no relatives, then it can be dominated by relatives and friends, which is actually determined according to the relationship between blood relatives.

Time to be with local customs.

This is important because we are influenced by some unscrupulous TV dramas, and when people die, they are buried immediately and a monument is erected. In fact, this is very unin line with our national customs. My father's erection of a monument to my grandfather was carried out ten years after my grandfather's death.

In the hometown of Leadhua, if you want to erect a monument to the deceased, you must wait until more than three years after the memorial time is more than three years before you can erect a monument. Why is it three years, because we had a "Ding Wei" system in ancient times, that is, children keep filial piety for their deceased parents, and the time is at least three years. Therefore, the main topic is to erect a monument, and it is recommended to consult local people with high moral standing and respect local customs, after all, the deceased is great, and it cannot be arbitrary.

The contents of the tombstone.

To erect a monument for the deceased, it is generally written that the name of the deceased, the year of birth and death, the relationship between the monument erector and the deceased, the lineage of the deceased's descendants, the time when the monument was erected and other information will be written. It is worth noting that when erecting the monument, pay attention to the use of words, we commonly have "first test (妣)" and "show test (妣)", in which the deceased has no elders, and has grandchildren, in order to be called "Xian", otherwise everything else is called "first". There is also the use of "therefore".

Is it a joint burial?

If the husband and wife are buried together, it is recommended that only one tombstone needs to be erected, after all, it is a beautiful thing to die in the same cave, and a grave corresponds to a monument, which is the respect for the deceased. But there are many cases, and I will explain them one by one.

If the people who are buried together have all passed away, then a monument can be erected directly.

One of the co-burial people died, and no monument was erected. In fact, this is just as long as the information of the undeceased party is left blank and will be filled in after the joint burial.

The title is the tomb of my wife, which is in the middle, and the name of the person who erected the monument is the name of the husband written in the lower left corner. If in the name of the child. The son must be 50 years old and have a successful career.

It is written on the tomb of the husband and so, and the widow is alone in the empty house.

Find a professional gravestone carver to pay, even the design and production, you don't need to know too much detail.

It's impossible. Because the husband died, the wife would definitely be buried later.

Yes, they are all the closest people, for sure!

It's hard to say,,, should be ,,, the child to erect a monument in the name of the child when he becomes an adult,,, and if you erect a monument in your name,,, will it be changed in the future,,, or not.

The husband died. If only the names of the husband and children are on the tombstone, can the wife not be engraved on it? If the husband has died, if the wife has not died, there is no need to engrave the wife's name on the tombstone, because the wife has not passed away and is still alive in the world, if it is engraved on the tombstone, it proves that the person has died, so there is no need to engrave it on the tombstone, but if the husband dies and the wife also dies, then the names of both people must be engraved on it, because the two people are buried in the same district tomb as husband and wife. Therefore, it is also necessary to engrave the names of the husband and wife on it at the same time, so that it is correct.

Your husband's tombstone is engraved with the child's name and the husband's own name, and it doesn't matter if the wife doesn't want to engrave her own name.

Under normal circumstances, one of the husband and wife should not erect a monument when one of them dies. Unless it is in the city's cemetery, for the convenience of identification, the monument will be erected. But only the children's names are written on it.

Of course you can, I don't engrave it, but it doesn't feel good.

Life is always old, this is the law of nature. When people reach old age, what they fear most is loneliness and loneliness, and what they need most is the understanding, comfort and consideration of their children. Respect for the elderly is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, and nowadays, some people's awareness of respecting the elderly has been weakened, and the phenomenon of gnawing at the elderly occurs from time to time.

Some take advantage of weekends to visit their parents, eat and live in the homes of the elderly, and the elderly are busy. The old man had to go to Tizhu to buy vegetables before dawn, and then he kept cooking and cooking, all the dishes were done, and the table was set up, and his children and grandchildren were invited to the table for dinner. After the meal, I had to be busy cleaning up the leftovers, cleaning the cups, plates, dishes, and ......The children wipe their mouths and go back to rest, pack up the extra vegetables and take them away, and sometimes leave the children behind for their parents to take care of, and retirement at home is really more tiring than going to work.

Pity the hearts of parents all over the world. Today, many elderly people in their sixties and seventies still have to buy groceries, cook, do laundry, sweep the floor, and take their grandchildren to and from school. When you are a child, you may want to empathize, if you are old and your children treat you like this, how do you feel?

As parents, I don't have too high requirements for you, I just want you to treat your parents as your own children. This is also the highest courtesy to parents, and it is also the most filial piety. I often hear some old people say:

A child can have one percent of his or her own children to his parents, which is filial piety. It is also said that in real life, some children regard their children as the pearl of their palms, obedient, caring and considerate, and all-encompassing, but for their parents, it is the opposite. There's an old saying that goes well:

The country is upright and the people are happy, the officials are clean and the people are safe, the wives and husbands are less troubled, and the sons and fathers are generous. "However, there are many infatuated parents in ancient times, and they are filial to their children and grandchildren.

There's nothing you can't do, as long as you want. According to common sense, after the death of husband and wife, they will be buried together, and the names of both parties will be engraved.

The answer, analyzed from the description, can not be engraved.

However, due to the different customs in different places, some practices are different.

Yes, how old is your husband gone?

Generally, it is the younger generation who erects a monument to the elders.

Theoretically speaking, even if you don't do this, even if you erect a monument, you can't engrave it, and it can only be a wordless monument.

If a person has not died, is there retribution for erecting a monument with his deceased husband, this is an immoral act, a violation of human rights, you can go to the leaders of the local villages and towns to complain, and strongly demand that this behavior be corrected.