Want to break up while traveling? When you go on a trip, you shouldn t break up

If you don't have feelings and want to break up, break up, after all, there are no feelings anymore, and there is no point in continuing to be together.

Normal, most likely inappropriate.

Because travel is like a catalyst, a high-efficiency three-view inspection machine, a short and fast run-in of two people. The three views fit more intimately, and the three views do not fit in a quick conflict.

Usually, what you see is his most perfect moment. When he goes on a date with you, he doesn't necessarily say or do the same thing as he always does. To put it mildly, if he has the intention to pretend to deceive you again, this is completely fine.

But travel is different, you have more time to get together, you have more space to stay together. Invisibly, you will have the opportunity to get to know him intensively.

At this point, his shortcomings will be laid to light. After all, pretending can be pretended for a while. If you want to deceive for a lifetime, it is absolutely impossible.

Travel, you can get to know each other better. Are the three views incompatible? It can be seen.

When you see him as he is, will you remain indifferent? This possibility is almost zero. In the middle of the trip, the breakup was inopportune.

Wait for you to come back, get off the plane, high-speed rail, cruise ship, you go your way, he goes his way.

Many people are accustomed to comparing life to a trip, because there are too many joys and sorrows, difficulties and challenges in life, which can easily make us recognize ourselves and fall into madness. Traveling is indeed a test, because two people come to a strange place, eat and live simultaneously, and add the fatigue of traveling. It will expose or even magnify your shortcomings or hide your personality, which is the fundamental reason why conflicts tend to erupt during travel.

Suddenly came to a strange place, and many things needed to be arranged one by one, and all of this basically needed to be arranged by boys. If you expect a girl to arrange it, then why do you want to do it? Therefore, there will be a lot of emergencies and troubles along the way, and the way to deal with these big and small things is easy for girls to intuitively feel your true ability, which is also the standard for verifying whether you have the ability to take care of her in the future.

Coupled with the tiring travel during the journey, both parties will inevitably feel hard and tedious. Girls are prone to complaining. Often at this time, the boy will feel that he has paid too much, and he cannot get the understanding and support of the other party, and there will be quarrels.

You must know that girls are naturally insecure, and if you have an argument with her in a strange city, it is most likely to amplify this insecurity, causing the girl to be completely disappointed in you.

Not necessarily, why did you break up? Just because of tourism? The reason can be explained in detail.

The reason why couples tend to break up after going out on a trip is because:

Travel magnifies shortcomings, travel is a test of emotional intelligence, and travel is a big test of life habits.

1. Travel magnifies the shortcomings.

Because they need to stay together 24 hours a day, everyone's fox tails are exposed, at this time, if they still abide by the usual rules of life, do not accompany each other to get up early to watch the sunset, return late to see the starry sky, and do their best to take pictures, then it will not be considered a good travel companion, not an excellent life partner.

2. Travel is a special test of emotional intelligence.

Claiming to be a world-famous attraction, the results are all deceptive. I had a beautiful fantasy, but in the end I found that I didn't see anything. These are the most likely to cause quarrels between the two parties: "I said not to come here", "Why didn't you say it earlier", "Who told you to leave things alone".

3. Travel is a great test of living habits.

Whether or not to use hotel shampoo or not to wash dirty laundry on the same day or to take home to wash it has risen to a philosophical level. "Don't you think roasted garlic is delicious and has a special aroma? At this time, you suddenly realized that the man in front of you was really not the same person as you.

Have you been in this situation a lot? If so, it's not true love.

Dealing with it well can enhance the relationship.

It's easier to get to know each other.

Because when we usually live together, in fact, many living habits are not fully revealed to each other. But when you're traveling together, you're together 24 hours a day. In this way, many of the habits in your life will be fully displayed in front of your significant other.

Chances are, you're showing a habit that he really hates and doesn't like. In this way, it is naturally easy to quarrel, and after arguing for a long time, it is natural that you will want to break up.

Probably the most problematic part of the trip is about the arrangement. If the boy is all responsible for the arrangement, if there is any link that makes the girl dissatisfied, the girl will feel that the boy does not care about herself. But if the boy doesn't care about anything, and the girl is responsible for everything, the girl will feel that it doesn't matter, and that the boy doesn't care about herself.

So no matter what, there will be some contradictions to a greater or lesser extent, and it is a very bad feeling when you quarrel with each other in a place that is completely unfamiliar to you. Usually you can talk to your girlfriend when you quarrel at home, or you can hide in your girlfriend's house, but when you go to travel, you don't have anyone to talk to, and there is no place to hide, which will greatly aggravate the conflict between the two people.

Then there's the issue of overhead. If you go on a trip, if the boy is responsible for the whole process, if the boy's family conditions are also average, to be honest, he will definitely be very dissatisfied. But some girls think that you are a boy so you should be responsible for this, and the boy sees that you don't take the initiative to ask for AA, and he is embarrassed to ask you for money.

In this way, when there are some contradictions, the boy will think that he has paid so much for this trip, but the girl has not paid anything and is still calculating, of course he will be very unhappy.

Travel is the easiest way to see what kind of person a person is, if you do know the true face of your boyfriend through travel, and the performance in the usual communication is quite different, you can choose to break up.

I believe in this sentence very much, so the year before last I proposed to travel with my ex, I went with the purpose of seeing him clearly. So on the way, I deliberately took some small things to get angry with him, to see if he would still take care of me and comfort me when he was tired from traveling.

As a result, he was completely absent from the gentleness and thoughtfulness he used to be, and he kept a straight face, feeling particularly cold. Later, I didn't go to a few attractions that I wanted to see, and I was very unhappy to have a good time, and I even quarreled.

After that trip, he and I naturally broke up, and it was neat. The other party didn't look like he wanted to redeem it at all. In the end, I couldn't help but hold Lu and ask him, why is his temper so bad when he travels?

He said: "Travel is the best way to see a person, you can lose your temper when you travel a little thing, give me a look, it is particularly difficult to serve, this is not like your usual, I can finally see clearly." ”

That's what it's like.

During the journey, it is inevitable that there will be constant situations; What's more, when going out, the mode of getting along with people jumps out of the daily years, and a few people who have been busy for most of the year will inevitably relax their usual sanctimonious nerves. As soon as a few moths come out, whether it is communication style, emotion management ability, or problem-solving skills, you can see it at a glance. Compared with those strangers who form a group temporarily, intimacy faces more tests, the truth of adversity sees the truth of temperament escalates, once there is slackness, the previous decency seems so unreal, and those who are mature and secure are more likely to get the other party's affirmation.

Travel is fraught with serendipity, and it may not be wise to rush to define your partner's behavior.

Therefore, travel is not necessarily a relationship curse, and the accidents that everyone wants to avoid during travel can also become a turning point in the relationship, the key is whether to focus on the other person, take into account the feelings of the other person, or put too much emphasis on the self - it is not that I am traveling alone, but that "we" are traveling.

Perhaps the safest thing to do if you want to stay on the sidelines and not be disappointed in your intimate relationship is not to throw your perfect assumptions about your partner into a rush trip.

Originally, the two lovers were happily making travel plans, and they felt that the relationship between the two people should go further after traveling together, but they didn't expect that the relationship between the two people would be frozen in an instant after the end of the trip, and they broke up after returning from the trip. So why is it easy for couples to break up after traveling together? What is the root cause?

First, the emotional foundation is not solid.

In fact, the purpose of today's couples, especially young people, is often based on a simple "hedonistic" relationship.

On the surface, the two of them are like glue and live vigorously every day, but in fact there is no emotional foundation at all. It's nothing more than eating together, watching movies, occasionally playing escape rooms, and giving a gift every New Year's Day.

Compared with these, "tourism" is undoubtedly a comprehensive test of the habits, three views, and character of both sides, and the poorer the two sections, the greater the difficulty coefficient of the test.

Before leaving, the two of them thought very well, took a group photo together, rolled the sheets back to the hotel when they were tired of playing at night, and slept until they woke up naturally the next day, stopping and enjoying the scenery along the way.

But what about reality? Many couples, when they have no money, travel is not only physically tired, but also in the process, they will encounter all kinds of troubles, conflicts and problems - these will infinitely magnify each other's shortcomings.

Therefore, without the filter of hot love, those couples who have not yet stepped out of the novice village will continue to accumulate negative emotions in the process, and they will naturally think:

How did he plan it? Tired to death every day? ”

What kind of broken hotel did he order, and there were cockroaches in the bathroom? ”

Why does she play with her mobile phone as soon as she returns to the hotel and don't do anything serious? ”

Why does she lose her temper at every turn, she really suffers, let's end it quickly! ”

Therefore, all your complaints can easily be attributed to the fact that two people are not suitable, or the other party's character is not good, which will give people an illusion: tourism is the most effective way to test "whether two people can be together for a long time".

It is not shy to say that it is easy to break up after a trip for "wine and meat couples".

Because two people are together, they are all in "hedonistic mode", they rarely need to solve real problems, and they all show their best side to cover themselves, what we like is not a real individual, but a deliberately concealed and false image.

Therefore, when we find all the shortcomings of the other party after a travel experience, we are not willing to admit "the dilapidation under the cover of beauty", so we are naturally willing to attribute the reasons for the breakup to "unsuitable" or "bad character".

In other words, the reason why they break up is because two people only have the ability to love, but they do not have the "ability to love someone".