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The first type of mother: accustomed to taking care of everything, making decisions for the child in everything, so that the child has no opinion, and there is no way to make decisions; The second type of mother: yelling at the child, accustomed to using words to criticize the child, growing up in this environment, the child will become submissive and unconfident in his own behavior.

You must not be a particularly sloppy mother, nor can you be particularly short-tempered, nor can you always criticize your children, nor can you speak ill of others behind your back.

Each family has its own unique characteristics, some harmonious, some noisy, some rich, some poor. This kind of natural environment at home will imperceptibly penetrate into the child's concept day by day, and become the target of the child's imitation. In today's life, there are many young daughters-in-law and in-laws who will have conflicts, crying and making trouble when they disagree, which does not help the development of children at all.

In particular, there are some mothers who are accustomed to blaming adults in front of their children, or they love to be critical of the elderly, which will make the children cause the concept of "the elderly have to be scolded", and then they will be ugly and strange to their parents when they grow up. If a mother wants to nurture a good child, the first thing she needs to teach her child is to teach her children to respect their elders by word and deed.

After all, they are tired of raising their children for more than ten years, and everyone hopes that their children will flourish. Therefore, many mothers adhere to the education method of "no hit, no device", and either beat or scold their children's development. But as the saying goes, "a word of loyalty is warm in three winters, and a bad word is cold in June", mothers often beat and scold their children will make children more unconfident and not conducive to the creation of parent-child relationships.

If parents are free to beat and scold their children, it will make the children resist their parents, and they will become more eager to escape from this family relationship when they grow up, not to mention the filial piety of their children after they are born.

Nowadays, most of the families are only children, and many young mothers will make their children grow up healthily when teaching their children, and there are not too many rules for children. After all, in the eyes of mothers, the children born in October are pregnant, they only have one childhood, and they are now desperately trying to earn enough money to bring more capital to their children, and we all know that it is best to have children or a happy life.

It's okay to uphold happy education, but mothers still can't be too slack in their children's curriculum. It is important to remember that the pressure of competition between social development is very high, and if the child does not have survival skills, the child will fall and hurt others in the future, and become a well-deserved "gnawing old". Therefore, the simple happiness of children is not pampered, but smart and loving children.

Every time she helps her child with homework, many mothers can be so angry that they can stomp their feet, for example, previous news reports have reported that the mother was angry and had a myocardial infarction, which is really incredible. In addition, there are some mothers who always like to scold their children for not studying hard, which may lead to not being able to do homework. In fact, children's own playfulness is a little heavier, and parents need careful guidance and education.

I don't know why, mothers become "crazy" when they do their homework, and they are not careful. According to me, if mothers can play with one-tenth of their enthusiasm and preferences on their mobile phones, they can put them in the sedan chair to guide their children to do their homework, so as to ensure that their children's academic performance continues to rise.

I especially like it, complaining about the ruins of the family, complaining about fate, and complaining about society. He is particularly verbose, and preaches a truth ten times throughout the day. Don't like to kidnap others with morality, and ask children to study hard in the name of love.

Mothers who constantly urge their children, mothers who control their children too much, mothers who often beat and scold their children, mothers who like to compare, and mothers who have a particularly strong sense of vanity.

Particularly cowardly and weak mothers, often have a particularly low self-esteem to answer and laugh at the mother, and constantly urge the child's mother, such a mother will not be able to teach a promising child.

Mothers play a very crucial role in the growth of their children, and they must not be selfish mothers, nor do they become greedy mothers. Children should be role models.

The most important thing is not to become a mother who only imposes her own ideas on her children, do not pamper her children excessively, and do not talk about their difficulties in front of their children all the time, because these ideas will affect the psychology of children under long-term indoctrination.

Mothers who don't know how to respect their elders, and now their young daughters-in-law and in-laws are arguing when they disagree, which does not help the growth of children in the slightest. Mothers who often beat and scold their children, mothers who spoil their children excessively, and mothers who can't do without their mobile phones.

The first is to control all the things of the child, interfere with the child's socialization, completely think about his own child, and will not think about the future of the child.

One is a competitive mother, the second is a mother who wants to take care of everything, the third is a strong mother, and the fourth is a mother who loves to blame herself.

Text|Cheats Jun.

As a mother, I was heartbroken for my child's affairs, but the child still didn't know anything, always found out some things, let my head and friends hurt, I didn't understand how hard I worked, last Friday my daughter came back from kindergarten and had to let me make her Coke chicken wings, I was busy with my own work, so I said to my daughter "You play for a while, and when I'm done, I'll get it for you." The daughter said reluctantly, "Mom, you don't love me anymore, you used to get me ...... whatever I wanted to eat.""I kept telling me that in the end, I couldn't concentrate on the work, so I could only come according to the child's requirements, and I really had to prepare in advance when I met such a child.

As soon as I started crying, I couldn't stopSome children will start crying because you don't meet his requirements, and if you ignore his words, he will cry non-stop, as if he is crying to tell his grievances, as if you have done something, how sorry he is, that is, after the liquid shed rent makes him cry, you meet his requirements, and follow his wishes, he will also keep crying, such children are the most difficult to coax, difficult to bring.

Always like to fight with youSometimes, your child will come to you without knowing what kind of psychology you have, and you say, "Wow, what is this, it's ugly and unpalatable." The child will say, "It's not ugly at all, and it's great to eat." "No matter what you say, the child will always have the opposite opinion with you, and you are tough, you think that the child does not respect you, always embarrass you, and you don't like to take the child, in fact, sometimes, the child and you are tough, not really strong, he just experienced a different fun from it.

Text|Cheats Jun.

When I used to raise children, I often heard mothers complain that it was too difficult to raise children at home. Indeed, today's children do not worry about food or clothing, and many families have only one child, who is held in the palm of his hand by his parents every day. If the mother often dotes on the child, the child is easy to develop the problem of pampering.

How should I raise my child? In fact, many mothers have done it wrong, these mothers work hard every day for their children, and in the end they don't raise good children.

What the child wants, the mother gives.

In fact, there are many such mothers, no matter what the child's request, the mother always satisfies it and does not know how to refuse. Every mother wants to give the best to the child, but the child's requirements cannot be done, the child wants bread today, the mother can give it, and tomorrow the child may want the stars in the sky, can you do it? But children have become accustomed to having what they want.

When they grow up, such children will lack the motivation for self-struggle, even if their mothers are tired, they can't understand their mother's hardships, they only know how to ask their mothers for nothing.

If the mother is like this, it is easy to raise a child who does nothing. Therefore, when the mother is very young, she should let the child know what can be given and what cannot be given, and if she wants to get what she wants, she can only struggle by herself.

In the course of the child's life, the mother has always played a very important role, it is not difficult to become a mother, but it is not easy to become a good mother, some mothers are conscientious from beginning to end, fulfill their duties, and love their children, but they can't raise a good child, such mothers also want to raise a good child, and pay a lot for the child, but the method is not right, pay a lot of effort, live very tired, but do not regret seeing that Sen Hu can raise the child very well.

Especially these kinds of mothers, who are very tired but can't raise good children.

1. Mothers who take excessive care of their children.

Taking care of children is the obligation and responsibility of every mother, and it is also the instinct of mothers, many mothers take care of their children, which is a good thing, children do need to be taken care of by their mothers when they are young, but as the children grow up, mothers need to let go, but in the eyes of mothers, children will never grow up, and they will always take excessive care of children, so that children lose the most basic ability to live, and even can't stand on their own when necessary, such mothers are very tired, but they can't raise good children.

2. Mothers who don't know anything about their children.

There are also individual mothers who are over-stocked for their children, thinking that as long as they provide a good material foundation for their children, they don't have to worry about the rest, they have no awareness of accompanying their children, and they don't have the idea of guiding and educating their children.