Why does the old saying It is better to be next to the grave than to the grave ?

Because in the eyes of the older generation, it is not good that the doorway is facing the cemetery. Because it is very unlucky, it interferes with the luck of his own family.

Because it is unlucky to see the tomb when you go out, it will make the owner's family feel unlucky, but if the tomb is next to it, it will not be noticed, and it will not affect the mood of the owner's family.

This is a psychological effect. Anyway, there are graves, and if there are ones next to the house, then they can't be seen every day. If it is outside the door, then no matter whether the door is opened or closed, you can see it every day when you enter and go out, and you can see it at any time, then the psychological impact on people must be very large, so this saying is very easy to understand.

Most parts of the country still practice burial, finding a piece of land in the mountains, and then erecting a monument for the grave of their deceased relatives. However, since the grave is the destination of the deceased, the living still feel that looking at the grave is not auspicious, it is not a special festival, and most people will not go to the mountain to go to the grave. It's just that some people live close to the mountain, so it is inevitable that they will be close to the tomb.

It is really impossible to keep the home away from the cemetery, as the Chinese saying suggests, "It is better to be neighbors with the grave than to face the grave". I think it makes a lot of sense, because once you open the door to the grave, you can see the graveyard and affect the mood of the day.

Not being in harmony with the grave can reduce the number of times you see the graveyard. Families living near the grave should also be careful not to place the door opposite the graveyard when building their house. Just imagine, as soon as you open the door, you will see a cemetery, which is still very frustrating.

If you really can't avoid being close to the cemetery, you would rather be neighbors with the cemetery, because in this way, you won't see the cemetery all at once.

In fact, it is not unfortunate to always look at the cemetery, but it will give people psychological hints. In ancient times, people were taboo about cemeteries because they believed in ghosts and gods, and now it has been proven that ghosts and gods are not credible, so looking at cemeteries will not affect themselves. However, since most people are influenced by traditional thinking, looking at the cemetery will still give them negative psychological hints, and they will also associate the bad things that happened with the cemetery.

Therefore, even in order to maintain a positive mind, people do not like to go to places with graveyards too often.

In short, this proverb is still very reasonable, after all, it is a word that has been passed down from generation to generation, and I think we should try not to live near the cemetery, as this proverb suggests, if we can't avoid living near the cemetery.

Because if you are facing the grave, you may be a grave as soon as you go out, which is a bit scary and should be scary.

This kind of has its own customs, and it's not very good to make the right face, so there are such particulars in various places.