If there are bear children at home, is it the best way to educate them?

When the child is disobedient, many parents will choose to beat them first, which can be effective and angry. But it is important to believe that parents do not want to hit their children from the beginning, but they choose to hit them when their children are really disobedient and no longer know what to do. However, we also know that this kind of education is not promoted, and it is not a cure.

Choosing to hit children when they are disobedient will only create a shadow in the child's heart, and they will choose to lie in order not to be beaten in the future; Parents have an influence on their children by word and deed, and doing so will only make them emulate; Also, children who are beaten actually hate their parents in their hearts.

In order to avoid the occurrence of the above phenomenon, when children are disobedient, as parents, it is necessary to educate them in a positive and correct way.

Only in a calm state can we solve problems better

When the child is disobedient, the parents must be very anxious and emotional, in fact, the child is the same at this time. So we need to calm down and deal with our emotions with each other. It is necessary to give children a good impression and a good example.

Let your child realize that he may have done something wrong, and give him time to recall and digest what he has done.

Bear the consequences of your own choices from an early age

When children are stubborn and disobedient, parents can give their children the results of their actions and the results of their own suggestions, so that they can choose and bear the consequences.

For example, a child is naughty and likes to bully others, telling him that he either gets along with others and everyone plays happily, or he continues to bully others, and in the end no one wants to play with him.

Make rules together and follow them

Parents can try to make some rules in daily life with their children, and take the lead in following them, giving appropriate rewards when their children do well, and correctly guiding their children to do the right things.

When children are disobedient, the last thing they can do is to scold them, and just tell them that they can't do that. It should be to ask why, find out what they really think, and give advice.

No, the child should be made to understand that the fault is **, if it is just a beating, the child does not know from the bottom of his heart that he is wrong, it will only make the child more rebellious.

Not the best way to educate. If you beat him, he will hold a grudge and it will not change because of this.

Mistakes cannot be solved by fighting, and problems must be solved by proceeding from the problem itself and using reason to solve the problem.

The appearance of bear children is related to the family growth environment, and the connivance and protection of parents is the reason for the child's willfulness. When facing a bear child, it is not terrible, the terrible parents just let it go, and throw out the sentence "he is still a child" lightly, such bear parents are the most difficult to deal with. Because bear children can have room and opportunities for correction, but bear parents are the most difficult to change.

Some of the children educated by the parents of the bears, even they feel that the children are not at fault, and even ask you confidently. If you can't help but do something or make some unreasonable responses at this time, not only will you not be able to relieve your anger, but you may also get into unnecessary trouble.

Therefore, when facing such bear children and bear parents, what kind of ways can we take to relieve our anger and not be charged with "child abuse"?

Stay calm and patient first, and don't do anything.

I saw a news before, a terrible scene happened on a bus in Suining City, Sichuan: "A man grabbed a child next to him and fell directly over the shoulder, and then kicked the child's head with his foot." After investigation, it turned out that the man and the little boy had never known each other, but in the process of riding in the car, the little boy next to him kept kicking the man, and the parents next to him ignored it at all.

The man couldn't bear it anymore, so he directly started to educate the bear child, but he shot heavily and got himself into unnecessary trouble. After the incident, the man was controlled by the police and detained for 15 days, and the police said that the man beat a child under the age of 14, and after 15 days, he would be punished according to the law according to the results of the boy's injuries.

When the news was first reported, many netizens shouted "relieved", and the bear children that parents didn't want to care about finally had someone to take care of! But the man's behavior was obviously excessive, and he also brought unnecessary trouble to himself, and he may even face prison.

Then you think about the problem too simply.

Since the orange fortune wants to do the secret method, have you ever doubted it? Scolding vocabulary, blaming, complaining, parents and relatives have been the way.

None of them belong to round and vertical education.

Should you hit a bear child when educating him? It depends on what mistakes the child makes, and if the parents educate them verbally, the child can admit his mistake and do not need to be beaten.

Hitting is not conducive to the healthy growth of children's psychology and physiology, but in the face of extreme bear children like "pushing pregnant women" and "pouring hot pot oil", it seems that it is really not good not to fight. In fact, on this issue, we really can't do a one-size-fits-all approach, and we should do "specific analysis of specific problems".

The way parents educate their children should depend on whether the implementation of this education method can achieve the desired educational effect.

If parents beat and scold their children just to "vent their anger for a while", then this is really unacceptable, and there is even a suspicion of "domestic violence", which will only ruin the child's health and future. Therefore, the so-called "beating" should also be punished in a certain degree and punishment with rules, so that children can clearly know that the fault lies in the first place, so that every hit becomes a "meaningful" education.

When it comes to bear children, it not only makes parents feel very headaches, but also makes relatives and friends feel very headaches. Because it doesn't make sense for these bear children to reason with them, but usually the performance of bear children has seriously affected the lives of others, and today I will tell you how to manage bear children is the best.

For example, if the children in the family always want to eat ice cream, and they want to buy a lot of ice cream, then we, as parents, can choose to buy a lot of ice cream for our children and let them eat them all. In this way, the child will know how annoying his approach is, and he will also feel that his behavior is wrong. Sometimes follow the child's idea and let the child hit the south wall, so that they know that what they are doing is not right, and the child can keep his memory for a long time.

If the child does not do it, the parents blindly veto, it will only make the child more and more rebellious, and they do not understand the pros and cons.

We must know that in this society, no one should tolerate your children except yourself, so we must not indulge our children at this time. Sometimes children do something wrong, we must criticize the child strictly, don't always think that the child is still early, it doesn't matter. Many bear children are raised because parents always say that my child is still young, so what does it matter?

When the child grows up, he will naturally understand. However, if the child asks for such bad habits from an early age, then it will be difficult for the child's parents to change it when they grow up.

As parents, we must remember not to pay attention to our children, sometimes even the children's thoughts let the children know how hateful their behavior is, and the children themselves can know the pros and cons. And usually when educating children, wrong is wrong, right is right, don't always confuse Oh, don't always mix it up.

In this case, we must strictly manage and criticize, and we must let them fully realize their mistakes, so that they can better discipline.

You can beat the child appropriately, so that you can leave a deep impression on the child and correct the child's behavior in time, and the effect is better.

Scientific discipline should be carried out, and some criticism and education should be given to bear children, even if it is a child's wrong behavior, they should also establish a correct three views, and carry out some ideological education regularly.

It is true that hitting is not the only way to educate, because it will make the child fatter and fatter, and you will become more and more naughty.

Not the only way. It's useless for a bear child to just fight, and it won't change much.

In the face of bear children, playing is certainly not the only way to educate, in fact, bear children need more respect from their parents, they need their parents to give more care and understanding, and they can educate their children by words and deeds.