I m so insecure. Is it my husband s problem or mine?

Men and women think differently, you need more communication, you can first ask him the real reason for doing this, such as the difference in workload, salary, development prospects, impact on the family, etc. Then you analyze the current situation of the family with him, and finally tell him what you think. When two people are together, let's be considerate of each other Besides, you originally came to see him, and it wouldn't be because he would make money, right?

I won't dislike him because he won't make money. How has this changed now? Because you have formed a family, there are many things to consider, and there will be many problems in the future, if you can't find a way to face the problem and solve the problem together, it means that there is a problem with your composition, and as for what the problem is, it is up to you to find out by yourself.

Now it's not a question of who it is, even if I say that your husband doesn't understand you, will he immediately come over and understand you? The problem you need to solve is to achieve the general enjoyment of life, in addition to the basic security of life. But he's acting the opposite of that goal, so you're unhappy and insecure.

Let's try what I said first, it may not work, but at least let him know what you think and take it seriously.

Hehe, you're not worried about your husband's work, you're worried about his character. Saying that he is afraid of dampening his enthusiasm, afraid that two people will quarrel and hurt his feelings, afraid that he will think that you don't trust him, don't say it, and worry in his heart, feeling that whether it is for the good of the family or for his good, a good wife should say her opinion. In the end, I had a headache thinking about myself.

There are all these problems in life embarrassment, but it depends on whether he really can't afford to work, and men are sometimes under a lot of pressure, and there is definitely no more than just a family to do. You can communicate with him, there is nothing bad to say about the two of them.

Actually, it's nothing, your husband may be really tired...You give him a few days off, and then you tell him, 'The child will grow up day by day,' and we're going to work hard for the child and the family for a few more years, and then you can go out with your husband for a few days to relieve his stress.

Trust your husband.

Talk to him well, if he is really so unmotivated, then you can only think about it. I don't want anything else in this life, as long as I am safe.

Two people have to understand each other, now society is so tired, if you quarrel again, it's even worse.

Build self-confidence: Whether it's insecure in a relationship.

Or in everyday life. The biggest problem of insecurity is the lack of self-confidence, we need to be recognized by others to feel at ease, we need to cultivate self-confidence, make ourselves good, and feel less insecure.

Have your own circle of friends.

After many girls have a boyfriend, their lives start to revolve around their boyfriends. In fact, friendship is also needed, have your own circle of friends, try to sing with your friends, travel, and separate from your boyfriend for a short time, don't regard your boyfriend as the center of gravity of your life, and the sense of security will not be so strong.

Have a good talk with him: Of course, if you don't feel safe in a relationship with a man, a big part is because the man doesn't give you something that you feel at ease, maybe it's spiritual (he's very wooden, he doesn't know how to make you happy, he can't talk sweetly, he has a very low emotional intelligence) or maybe it's material (his job isn't good enough, he doesn't have a car). He doesn't have a marital room and so on) to solve the problem that can be solved.

Make some plans: After communicating with your boyfriend, you find a problem, you have to solve it, solving the problem is not to say that it is solved, we need to complete it step by step, you can make some small plans, what to do this week, what to do this month, the plan is slowly being completed, it will also increase the sense of achievement, and it will also help to alleviate the sense of security.

Remember to confide: Sometimes because of a lack of security, you feel that your heart is particularly blocked, but also remember to have a good chat with your good friends, don't hold it in your heart, vent it appropriately, don't let yourself live in an unhappy life, and be happy every day.

Help him become more perfect: Finally, if you really like the guy, even if he is not perfect. I believe that you will definitely help him, you can get him a better job, travel with him, improve the sweet feeling when you are with him, and believe that your sense of security will not be so lacking.

Financial independence: A woman in love must keep a clear head and be financially independent, which can give you enough security, and when you are in a bad mood, you can go to eat and drink to vent, instead of relying on men.

Seeing his parents: insecure, afraid that his boyfriend will leave suddenly, meeting his parents is a good choice, and the relationship between 2 people is upgraded to the marriage of 2 families, which will make this relationship more secure.

Get to know more of his friends: Get in touch with his circle of friends, on the one hand, you can get to know him as a person (what friends say about him), and at the same time, it can make your relationship more intimate, and it will be easier for you to control him.

Let's see if it can be alleviated: we talked to him a lot, it depends on his change, our own mentality also needs to be adjusted, and it is a very troublesome and long thing to get back the sense of security, be more patient, and trust the people around you.

If you live with your husband and feel very insecure, this is mainly because you don't have good communication and communication between your husband and wife, and your husband doesn't care enough about you, so you will feel like this, so you should communicate and exchange between your husband and wife, so as to relieve the tense atmosphere between you.

Maybe your husband is the kind of irresponsible man, he can't give you the life you want, he can't give you the sense of security you want, I feel that since I'm with him and I'm married, I have to be good, and the two of them work together to live a good life.

Living with your husband feels very insecure, I think in this case, it may be that your husband is doing something that does not meet your ideas, sometimes you can express your inner thoughts and let your husband know.

If a man has "inertia in thinking" and is unwilling to think, or is cowardly by nature and does not dare to make choices, he is willing to give the choice of his life to others, often blindly obeys the opinions of others, and makes choices according to the suggestions of others, but he is not willing to be responsible for his "lack of assertiveness and blind obedience to others", and finally often puts the responsibility on others.

Such a man does not have the courage and wisdom to live alone, nor does he have the responsibility to be responsible for his own life, and always passively accepts the arrangements of others and fate, and the quality of life of men is often not high.

On the contrary, a man with a real high level will have his own outlook on life, values, will be firm in his choices, be responsible for his own life, he will take one step at a time, take the road under his feet seriously, and finally often make his life better and better. A woman will only pay special attention to you when she is interested in you, and she will be very sad about everything about you, especially sometimes she may seem to be nosy, but it is really because she is very serious about you, so she is willing to take the initiative to help you no matter what you do. She may not dare to discuss you directly with your good friends and brothers, but when others talk about you, she must be very concerned, and even take the initiative to talk to her best friend, but although it is confidential, she is still very excited from her conversation with her best friend.

But it's only because of you that she has such attention, and if it were someone else, she would definitely not have it.

4.Let others misunderstand you.

Sometimes you can see that you don't want to have anything to do with her, but if she takes the initiative to pull you or get closer to you, others will be able to see what she means. But anyone who has a little eye naturally chooses to create a chance for the two of you to live alone, and if you don't want to bother the two of you anymore, it will make others misunderstand whether the two of you are really together, in fact, the two of you may not have any contact, but she creates an illusion for others, that is, the two of you are now a couple. This shows that he already has a special idea about you, and he just wants to be with you, that is, to let others see that you are already his person, and also to let others stop thinking about you.

Insecurity has its own reasons and your spouse's reasons.

First, some people are very sensitive to the relationship between men and women because they are naturally possessive, and second, some people are insecure because their spouses have a particularly good personality and they have low self-esteem (love makes people humble, it is justified).

Thirdly, the other party really doesn't love you enough and doesn't care enough about you.

The specific reason needs to be carefully judged!

What do you understand as a sense of security, is it the inability to earn money? Or unfaithful to marriage.

Communicate with your husband If your husband is not able to give him a sense of security, you can communicate with him, explain his attitude and position to him, explain to him the reasons why he is insecure and what he is not doing well, and then tell him that he needs security and that the family needs security.

My husband can't give you a sense of security, what do you mean by financial or emotional? Financially, you can work together, if it's emotional, you need to do it and talk about it and communicate it!

Prove that your relationship is not good.

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In my family, I am Mi Xiaobei, a teacher who focuses on emotional marriage and love issues. We'd love to answer for you.

The teacher understands your feelings.

It is actually a normal phenomenon to say that you are insecure about your husband, and many women have felt this way.

Generally, because the other party is busy, the social circle is relatively large, and they ignore care and communication with themselves, so women will be insecure.

I don't know what is the main reason for the insecurity?

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