What should I do if I care too much about my appearance and affect my life?

My point of view is to read more books, participate in outdoor sports (hiking, traveling), find someone who can pour out feelings, and reduce the degree of attention you pay to the outside world. Everyone who has a firm core will not care too much about the eyes of the people around them.

Appearance is a by-product of things that you can't control. So all you can do is control yourself, be unfazed, and don't care too much about these outward things.

The best way to cultivate one's inner self and divert one's attention is to learn. Supplement your knowledge in all aspects and cultivate your hobbies. When you have a lot of hobbies, you will find that you will gradually reduce the attention you only pay to your appearance, and your elegant temperament will be more and more precipitated.

I think it's a good thing to be aware of this kind of thing. You can change your attitude towards such people of the opposite sex and make them realize that you are not someone to talk to easily. After all, it is not easy to be completely unaffected by the attitude of others.

So you can start by avoiding others being overly courteous.

No matter how beautiful you are now, you will become an aunt in 20 years, at most a good-looking aunt. Think about what kind of person you want to be when you're away in 20 years, and then you know what to do now. If your ideals are relatively high and difficult to achieve, then you may not care about your appearance all day long, at least the frequency of caring about your appearance will be lower.

I'm super influenced by people, too. I heard what others said, and I was sad, but it was useless, I thought I had to be detached. 60 years later, it's not a handful of ashes buried in the ground.

My mom thinks it's enough that I'm good-looking, I didn't eat a bite of your meal, why do you want to grow into what you like. You can't appreciate me.

Everyone has a love for beauty. If you want to be beautiful, you have to change, people only live for a lifetime, just do what you like, and don't care too much about what others think.

You can learn to make up, not the big eyeliner of Huang Zitao Qiao Renliang, but the light makeup that makes us look very good. Smile often. Don't leave the good world to those who despise us. Life can't be reshuffled, why not play the cards in your hand well.

Everyone has a love for beauty.

As the saying goes, a point of appearance is a point of food. It's very good-looking, doesn't it make people salivate!

In "The Fourth Sister Is Going to Get Married", I described my fourth sister like this.

The fourth sister is a yellow-haired girl, and she is not beautiful, but her labor has forged her "healthy" physique. There is also a standard cow's head on the top of the head, and the curly hair is very interesting. ......

When she got married, my mother did dress her up. Put on new clothes, new shoes, flower socks. I washed my hair, combed my hair, and shaved the curls on my forehead. In a moment, a Peugeot bride was born.

My fourth sister happily led her fourth sister away. ......

Later, my fourth sister became an officer's wife. Went with the army. Later, when I returned to my parents' house, the yellow-haired girl disappeared and became a cup-in-the-cup woman.

If a man and woman who are ready to find a partner, it is indeed a bit too much to care too much about their appearance, but it is still necessary to dress themselves carefully, only by dressing themselves well can they attract people's attention, carry out a charm offensive, and get the perfect result they want.

Dress yourself carefully, give a good impression, as long as you are not too harsh to dress up, in fact, how you look yourself, you know how to dress yourself perfectly, it is not a mistake to dress yourself, this is human nature.

I look ugly, and I know my own shortcomings, but people have to be polite, you can't treat people casually, you have to be a guest, my wife has to help me dress up, dress up, wash my face, connect, shave my beard, look in the mirror, really overdo it in the accident. My wife said it was polite.

I say this, deliberately caring about your appearance is also a need of life!

Everyone has a love for beauty. A person's appearance reflects a person's temperament and self-cultivation. A clean and beautiful face is something that everyone wants to have. Throughout the ages, beautiful and beautiful looks have been the standard and pursuit of handsome men and beautiful women. Do you care too much about your looks?

The first thing people see is your appearance, not a variety of inner drama, how much value will be provided to you through appearance, a good appearance will make people's hearts more pleasant, do things faster and easier than unkempt people, and get more resources, and those who care too much are often not confident and inferior, good looks, no ink will be eliminated later, only a neat appearance + rich experience and knowledge can better show yourself!

Why do some people care too much about their looks? In fact, the more successful and well-run a woman is, the easier it is to pay attention to her appearance; Because it represents the overall image of a person. The same rural and urban women, why do some women dress appropriately and are beautiful.

Some women are dressed in lal lata and ragged clothes; From the dress to the appearance, some women look mediocre, but they are dressed up fresh and superb; There are women who look good in themselves, but they are dressed up.

People are not saints, so they all have their own personality or cognitive defects. At the root of the same problem, having an opinion of others and being too concerned about one's own appearance is actually the same problem. It is precisely because you have an opinion about others that you will cause you to care more about the eyes of others, and at the same time care too much about your appearance.

If you can make yourself not have too much opinion of others, then you will no longer care about other people's opinions, so that you will not be too concerned about your appearance.

(1) Do what you don't want to do to others, don't do to others, care about your own appearance, care about other people's opinions, don't have opinions about others.

If you want to solve your own problems, you can work backwards from your two dilemmas to get the results. Because you care about your appearance, in essence, it reflects your own opinion of others, so don't do to others what you don't want to do to others, and don't have opinions about others. When you don't have opinions or prejudices against others, you will continue to grow inside, and you will no longer be subject to the opinions and eyes of outsiders, and you will no longer care too much about your appearance.

(2) Build self-confidence and don't let low self-esteem get in the way of your life. Having an opinion about others, and being too concerned about the opinions of others, is not conducive to our own physical and mental development, and we must do not do to others what we do not want to be done to others, do not look at others with colored glasses, but also confidently hold up your chest to be a person, try to abandon both, and be the best version of yourself.

If you care a lot about your appearance, you can learn how to look better, and there is nothing wrong with dressing up beautifully.

In this case, it is still necessary to improve your emotional intelligence, and when your emotional intelligence is high enough, I believe that there will be no such problems.

If you have an opinion of others, but you don't have enough confidence in your appearance, you need to improve your inner self.

You should be careful not to be calculating with others, treat people leniently, your appearance is naturally destined, you should be confident in yourself, don't pay too much attention to your appearance.

Everyone has their own way of life, just be yourself, don't care about others, if you feel that your appearance is not as good as others, you can dress yourself up and buy a few sets of good-looking clothes and makeup.

We all live in the world, and we inevitably care about the eyes of others, and the beauty and ugliness of our appearance also depend on the evaluation of others. We need to regain our faith, and we must not be inferior to ourselves and ignore evil words.

When I went to college, the people around me were the kind of dignified looking, and at first glance they were male gods and goddesses. Every time I look at them, I envy them very much, why they are so good-looking, and I have become black and bucktoothed. Anyway, my roommate's description of me as something that can't be saved by a beauty camera is also true.

When I was in high school, I squeezed it with my hands, and then I didn't pay attention to hygiene, and I didn't use saline to disinfect it. On the surface, it looks rounded, but in fact it is a pit after pit, one print after another. That's right, it's the legendary acne scar.

Now I have a facial cleanser, and I basically spend more than ten minutes observing my face every morning, and then I found that my face and hands are hairy, hairy, hairy, really, very carefully look at hair. I originally thought that only beards would grow faces, but in this way, I have no common sense except ugliness. I went to college, and there are too few people who can speak, and I really want to complain about this kind of school where I paid 15,000 tuition fees and can only be used to study, and you don't have to care too much about other people's opinions, because, it's all true!

Hello, when you think about what will happen at the school sports meeting, you feel ashamed and feel inferior.

And I, if I see a beautiful girl who has drawn an ugly makeup, I will want to pull the makeup artist out and beat her.

As the saying goes, the little girl offended the makeup artist.

So don't you want the school sports situation to happen again? Don't you want to make a fool of yourself again?

Here's how I got your workaround.

Practice makeup by yourself, and this kind of thing is like riding a bicycle, you need to practice checking your pants upright. From the beginning to the training wheeled bicycle, to the removal of one wheel to ride, to the removal of both wheels, to the help of others to ride. I will ride a bicycle.

From riding a bicycle to riding a bicycle, you can also get rid of both hands, to play with fancy bikes. It's a pure posture process. You let someone who hasn't ridden it play trick bikes.

I guarantee that you don't even know your mother.

So don't be discouraged. After learning how to put on makeup, the school celebration will never happen again. Remember that feeling.

Rather than being dominated by this feeling. Remember this feeling of shame. Do everything in one's power.

Make sure you don't have to face this situation again next time. You're going to be good.

Come on! When it comes to low self-esteem, it's a big category. Requires in-depth **. If you want to know yourself better, you can find a reliable consultant and explore systematically. Of course not the one downstairs.

You have to remember. The big tree in my heart. It is planted by itself and then irrigated.

Where does this seed of inferiority come from? Why it exists. You have to look for the cause.

But this seed becomes a big tree in your heart, and it is never irrigated by others. Because no one can come into your heart and water it.

Find the origin of this seed. Give up watering. He's going to wither someday. From the withered tree will grow new shoots called self-confidence. I'm sure you'll have that day one in coming. As long as you want to go looking for him.