Under what circumstances do you suddenly feel a sense of powerlessness?

I didn't eat at night, and when I woke up the next morning, it was called powerlessness.

When you don't know what to do, and no one helps you, you will have a feeling of collapse.

When your parents are sick, you will feel that the sky is falling, and you will suddenly understand that no monetary benefits, status, and material things are as real as your parents' health. When my father was hospitalized, I took care of him in the hospital every day, and during that time I didn't have my own life, no social communication, and I didn't even bother to pick up my friend's **. I would ask myself over and over again why I had to carry such a burden at such a young age, and that was the first time I felt helpless pain.

After graduating, I interned and looked for a job, and went to Beijing, where there is no place for an inch, and I will never feel a sense of belonging.

7 years ago, I worked in the field, and I resigned temporarily after three months, and I resigned because I didn't agree with the workshop leader. When I resigned, I took my backpack with only 10 yuan on my body, ate a little xiaolongbao breakfast, and took the rest of the money to the local bus to join a friend. Because my friend also rented with his sister, he lived for a few days to take refuge in a distant relative in the local area, and lived in his living room, and there were a lot of mosquitoes in the middle of the night, and his family was also in the pork business, so he had to go to the slaughterhouse in the middle of the night, so he was also woken up.

During that time, I couldn't sleep in the middle of the night, although I said that I had friends and relatives, but this was more lonely and helpless than a person who was sick at home with a high fever and drove a motorcycle to get a drip, because only the loneliness in my heart is the most helpless! ‍‍

Sometimes it can be a sense of powerlessness to realize that your parents are old and that you have not lived up to their expectations. This powerlessness gives me a feeling that it is difficult to change, and sometimes I want to change, but I also know that the process is difficult. ‍‍

On the way to the market, there was no shop in front of me, no village in the back, and the car suddenly burst a tire, and the mood at this moment was very helpless! ‍‍

When you need money urgently, and none of your friends lend it to you! You'll feel abandoned by the whole world! That kind of loneliness and helplessness instantly crushes you. ‍‍

At the lowest point in my life, when I was too poor to go home, and when my father died, I felt helpless. ‍‍

Watching the man he loved smiling and hurrying to the city where the woman he loved was, I could only watch his back fade away, and he never looked back at me. At that time, my heart was broken. ‍‍

Just half a year after graduation, I worked overtime until 12 o'clock in the company, and when I passed by the convenience store downstairs to buy instant noodles, I felt that I had just graduated, and the pressure of life was coming, and I was lonely and helpless. ‍‍

When a person is sick and unable to go to the hospital, then a person goes to the hospital and queues up to see a doctor. In the end, I went back on my own. ‍‍

When we are faced with an unsolvable problem, we feel powerless and feel powerless from the bottom of our hearts. ......For children from poor families, because of the limited economic conditions of their families, there will be more things that make them feel so bad that they are powerless in study, work and life. ......Specifically, the things that make children from poor families feel powerless include their poor living conditions, feelings of powerlessness due to lack of resources to further their careers, and feelings of powerlessness due to the inability to join the social circle of successful people.

1. Children from poor families will feel powerless about their poor living conditions.

What can make children from poor families feel powerless is, first of all, powerlessness over their own poor living conditions. ......Because the family is poor, the living conditions will be poorer. And this aspect of the factor is now unable to solve the problem, so the children of poor families will have a sense of powerlessness at this time.

This question may have an impact on the child's psychological state and even create an inferiority complex in his mind. This is extremely detrimental to the development of children.

2. Because of the lack of resources, they cannot further develop their careers, and the children of poor families will feel powerless to experience hail because of this.

We often say that hard work is the only way to succeed in your career. But in reality, only when you have more resources in your hands, can your career be better developed. ......For children from poor families, the resources they have are really limited, and they do not play much of a role in supporting their careers, which will lead to children from poor families giving more in the workplace, but getting less rewards.

This situation creates a deep sense of powerlessness in the child's mind.

3. Because of his own limited conditions, the child of a poor family cannot join the social circle of successful people, and he will feel powerless because of this.

If there's one thing that makes children from poor families feel powerless the most, it's ...... that they can't join the social circle of successful peopleSuccessful people are people from wealthy families, and their social circle is not something that just anyone can join. ......For children from poor families, if they want to develop themselves, they must integrate into the social circle of successful people, but their own conditions are limited and they can't integrate at all. ......Therefore, if children from poor families want to succeed, they must endure more hardships and need stronger perseverance to work hard, so as to finally succeed and make themselves proud.

Napoleon Hill wrote in his book Thinking to Rich: "A man who has a clear goal and pursues it unswervingly will create a completely different life." ”

In our busy lives, in the face of all kinds of complicated things, some people feel very powerless, and an inexplicable sense of powerlessness will spring up in their hearts. Trying to be in control, but often overwhelmed and overwhelmed. In the eyes of outsiders, they are very busy every day and have a lot of things to do, but only they know that they have not accomplished anything, and busyness is just an illusion created on purpose.

They are often afraid of failure because they are powerless to change the status quo, and they procrastinate because of fear. Whenever the procrastination approaches, I will unconsciously fall into a deep panic, time is running out, but I don't know where to start, and I am overwhelmed by the heavy guilt in my heart.

Looking back on the pride of the past, the pride and ambition when I first entered the workplace, I often looked forward to my bright future at that time. But the ideal is very beautiful, the reality is very cruel, when it is found that there is a huge gap between the goal and the reality, the heart will involuntarily give birth to a "sense of powerlessness", is the inability to change the status quo, is the inability to achieve the goal, in this unconscious "complaining" and "negative" negative energy emotions.

Once a sense of powerlessness arises in their hearts, their subjective initiative will be greatly reduced, and their enthusiasm for action will be greatly reduced. However, in fact, it is often not the cruel reality that kills us, but the "powerlessness" entrenched in our hearts, which is the culprit that causes us to be timid, inferior and procrastinating. Most of the reasons why we feel powerless are frightened and defeated by the "difficulties and fears" that we have imagined.

The motivation for people to move forward mainly comes from the expectation of a better future, from the yearning for success, if you can't overcome your fear of the future, then you will lose the motivation to move forward. You must know that without the strong support of action, any goal and ideal will become a "flower in the mirror" and "moon in the water".

If a person wants to succeed, he must first be convinced in his heart, or imply that he can succeed, and overcome his inner fear and powerlessness. First face the status quo calmly and accept yourself in reality. Don't set goals that are too much for themselves, so that they don't get serious frustration and become negative.

Face the current situation, set goals must be reasonable, and expectations for the future must be moderate. In this way, the feeling of powerlessness and fear can be eliminated.

I know, he is very good, his grades are very good, his family conditions are very good, and his appearance is also very good.

Compared to him, I don't seem to be good, so every time I mention my crush to my friends, I have low self-esteem.

He's a very polite, very sincere guy, unlike a lot of people, and I think he's very careful about everything.

His politeness also made me feel very distant.

It's been a long time since I made it clear last time, I don't dare to read it, this is also the first time he sent such a long list of messages, before I did it, I must have been ecstatic, and read it many times, but this time, it was the end of my crush, that message, I only read it once at the time, and I still don't dare to read it a second time, and now I think about it, I will feel very sad.

Friends say I'm very persistent, indeed. I liked him again and again, including before, my friends even thought I was joking.

In my freshman year, I went to a new environment and met a lot of people, many of whom had initiated the message of falling in love, but I didn't feel it, and even from the beginning to the end, I would point out that I didn't want to fall in love.

I'm curious now about what the girl he likes is like, and when he chats with the girl he likes, he doesn't reply to messages for a long time, and he says they don't have a common topic, and he politely addresses her "you"?

It's hard to let go, in my room, the 18-year-old gift for him has not yet been delivered, and the digital oil painting that has been painted for a long time has begun to fade ......

Anyway, let it be.

If you want to get rid of the feeling of powerlessness, you can start to change it in the following two aspects.

1. Change your mentality.

As the saying goes, there is no such thing as a desperate environment, only a desperate mentality.

To avoid learned helplessness, you must first have a dialectical and optimistic mindset.

The successive failures may limit some of the possibilities of life at the moment, but they are by no means all.

Maybe you can do 1000 things in the past, and some bad experiences happen, minus 100 things, and you can still do 900 things.

2. Start with small actions.

According to Seligman, a person's sense of helplessness is actually caused by a lack of ability and a perception of a sense of control.

If a person is able to control certain situations and succeed, then he can believe that if he puts in the effort, he can achieve something.

Therefore, if you want to get rid of the feeling of powerlessness, you can try to set yourself a small goal, small enough that there is no resistance, and small enough to fail the goal.

For example, do only one push-up every day, write only 50 words a day, wake up only 5 minutes early every day, read only one page of a book every day, and so on.

Obviously, there is almost no burden to do these things, and it can be done with even the least amount of willpower.

Over time, these behaviors will gradually evolve into micro-habits.

These micro-habits may seem insignificant, but they can open up a strong desire in the brain to change. Once a person has the desire to change, then driven by intrinsic motivation, he will naturally raise the threshold of micro-habits and let himself continue to upgrade.

What kind of problems did you encounter that made you feel this way?

Parents undoubtedly love their children, but when we accompany our children to do their homework, we always break down easily.

I feel as if everything I have learned has been used and as if I have not been used, and sometimes I feel a deep sense of powerlessness.

What do you do when you feel powerless?

So what is there to fuel yourself?

Here are a few points::

1.You can make a deep breath adjustment!

2.You can go flower arranging or watch a movie of your choice.

3.You can go to exercise, and the dopamine secreted by exercise will take away your troubles.

4.It's okay to keep a diary!

5.You can talk to people with high energy! Your pattern will be bigger! Look further!