Why some people are very kind to others and very irritable to their families

Because he wants to save face, he has a very good temper with outsiders, and he doesn't need face at home, he can do whatever he wants.

Some people are very good to others and very irritable to their families, maybe this person is different from the outside, maybe he doesn't want to show his true character in the outside world. He may not be able to control his emotions.

Because he gave the best of himself to other people, friends, classmates, and other colleagues, well, he will be very irritable with his own family, because he has given the best to others.

Maybe he feels that his family will never leave him, so he will express his true emotions, and of course he must correct such a character.

Some people are very good to others and very irritable to their families, well, that's the so-called good temper to others. Only to bring that bad temper to the family.

Some people may be in such a situation at that time, so they will be short-tempered, so sometimes it is not aimed at individual people, and sometimes it may be a state of mind at that time.

Because he didn't need to be treated like this, he behaved very irritable.

Because a person's temper is vented on his own family, and I am not an outsider.

In fact, people are like this, and they are often prone to lose their temper with people they are familiar with, because do they have any concerns?

Why do some people fly on the package for their family members who are particularly good in age, but they don't do it for others.

From a psychological point of view, it is the result of a combination of many complex psychological factors. I hope you can understand and try to get rid of this problem.

1) Reason 1: There are higher expectations for those close to them.

We often don't expect much from our colleagues and friends: it's better if they understand us, and it doesn't matter if they don't.

But for those close to us, it's completely different, and the closer the relationship, we date with an expectation that the other person "should" understand us.

But the reality is that even family members can't fully understand each other, and the rapid development of the times has made the collision of old and new concepts more and more powerful, and even the closest people will have things that they can't understand each other.

It is this gap in expectations that makes us lose patience.

Moreover, we will pay more attention to the words of those close to us, and Huai Jin hopes to get their understanding and approval.

2) Reason 2: There is no escape.

For strangers who can't understand us, or even have prejudice against us, we are not in a hurry at all, because we know that it doesn't matter if the three views don't agree, the ideas don't match, and we just don't have contact in the future.

Evasion, as shameful as it is, will find that it is the best and least costly means for us to resolve conflicts.

However, for those close to us, if the other person can't understand us, we will be anxious, because we know that it is difficult to change the other person, and it is even more difficult to stay away from the other person.

This entanglement tends to last for a long time, and this pessimistic outlook on the future makes us unconsciously become very anxious.

(3) Reason 3: Tolerance for us is higher.

No one dares to lose your temper with colleagues, bosses, or friends, because it will ruin your relationship, cause you to lose opportunities, be ostracized, or even be "scolded" in person.

However, you dare to lose your temper with your family because you know that no matter how excessive you are, the people in your family still love you, will still tolerate you, and forgive you.

This kind of psychology is actually to a certain extent to bully the soft and fear the hard, which is human nature and is understandable. But it also leads to the fact that the people who love us the most are hurt the most by us.

How can we avoid hurting those who love us? Here are a few things you can do to get started.

1.Learn to release emotions, emotions need to be resolved, when we are wronged and suppressed outside, this emotion will not disappear naturally, you have to learn to release him properly outside, don't bring him back.

2.Lower expectations, you have to understand that the joys and sorrows of human beings are not common, and no matter how close people are, it is difficult to empathize with each other's emotions, and if you lower your expectations, you will be much better.

Even if you lose your temper with your parents, he will not blame you, and continue to be good to you and others, because you don't want to offend people.

Have a good attitude towards outsiders and a bad attitude towards your own parents, which is a behavior that many people will have. This is not a pathology, but a common disease of ordinary people. Many people feel that they should be polite to outsiders, make a good impression on them, and care about what others think of them.

Be nice, even cautious, in your dealings with outsiders. These are all signs of lack of confidence in themselves, because they feel that if they are not careful, they will bring harm to their careers. You may be undoing your efforts.

This is also one of the pressures of people now, many people are like this, they have a good attitude towards outsiders and are very unfriendly to their families. He is harsh on his family, nitpicking, and unscrupulous. It's also called for your good.

There's a lot of verbal violence, and it's packaged as if it's not a family, so I don't care. Because in the face of different people, everyone plays different roles. When dealing with outsiders, you always need to consider whether your words and deeds will offend others and whether they will threaten your own interests, and always wear a mask to show others.

When you get home and feel safe, you will take off your disguise and show your true self. I was wronged outside, but I didn't dare to complain in the slightest, and when I returned home, I hoped to be released. But many people are released in the wrong way, and it is caused.

If you are short tempered with your parents and angry with other people, it means that you can completely show yourself in front of your own family, and if you are in front of outsiders, you may show your best side to others.

The father is quick to crack the mother's temper, and the temper of other people is closed, this is a kind of unfilial piety of children, and the parents are pampered and stupid, and this kind of child has lost his conscience and does not know how to be grateful.

I think this kind of person is an unfilial son who sells his blindness, and he pretends to be good-tempered to others. One person loses his temper with his parents, and he doesn't have much to do with other people.

It is estimated that when you were growing up, your parents were more irritable to you, and you became such a temper, and Wu Xing's temper became your mode of getting along with your parents. It's not like you're talking to others in a big voice, so you can get along with others calmly.

You have to think about it from their point of view, parents, after all, it is for your own good, although they are divorced, they are still their own parents after all. Don't be grumpy with them, try to tell them to be kind, because parents are not easy, you can think about your problems from the perspective of your parents. Socks as early as morning.

For single-parent families, this phenomenon is also very common, family disharmony itself will make their mood very seriously hurt, will make their temper the same as irritable, treat relatives or friends the same. Therefore, this phenomenon will seriously affect their physical and mental health, should be their own liquid to look at life again, have their own new attitude to life, the most important thing is to their relatives, parents should be calm and kind to them.

This is a typical hatred, it is one of the manifestations of the rebellious period of youth, you feel that your parents are not doing well, they are not doing what you want, and they are still managing you everywhere, this is not okay or that, everything is wrong, they are not satisfied with what they do, they can't talk together, they can't get along well at all, they scold at every turn, so you hate them very much. Other people are different, they can have a good time, have a good chat, get along well, have no pressure, be happy and have a high level of interest. Think about it from your perspective, why don't my children listen to me, why don't they do what I ask, talk back to me about everything, lose their temper with me at every turn, run away from home at every turn, and live or die, I don't know what kind of fox friends they are messing around with, whether they will be bullied outside, whether they will learn badly, and whether they will be dangerous.

That's it, you hate them, they all die, so you are free, don't bother, but they love you and love you in their way, although this way is not the way you want, you are still young and can't understand, try to understand it, although the parents are gone, but they are still there, and if there is no more, there will be nothing.

If you are short tempered with your parents and good at others, you should pay attention to this situation and change yourself in real time.

The divorce of your parents affects you, and you are angry with your parents, so you are grumpy with your parents. Others are friendly with you, so be kind to others.

This is a very common phenomenon. The main reason is that the psychological pressure is relatively large, I can't get used to the people in front of me, and I have a big temper. There is also the feeling of affection for outsiders after all.

If your parents have a good temper in front of others, but if they have a bad temper with you, it means that they have a bad relationship because of the divorce and want to vent on you.

It is very undesirable to be short-tempered with your parents, so you should properly control your temper at this time and don't hurt your relatives because of this.

This character has to be changed.,It's essentially immature enough.,You know that your parents will indulge you.,And others won't.,So leave the bad Bei Iwaga emotions to the people close to you.,People who are good to you.。

Maybe it's because your parents are divorced, so if you don't have a warm family, you will lose patience, and in the end, you won't be able to communicate with each other, and you will be short-tempered.

The divorce of your parents must be harmful to you, this is their responsibility, and you are in the period of adolescent rebellion, and your behavior is normal. But you will soon be a bent man, and you should be more understanding of your parents and restrain your emotions. After all, your parents brought you into this world and brought you up to be dismantled and raised, and they don't owe you anything.

Many people are like this, they seem to be sensitive and irritable to their families, but they are very good at others, mainly because they think that their families can help you, but it's best not to do this.

Typical nest in the horizon, what you are talking about is that you are like you, you only dare to be angry at home to your parents who bury yourself in your own state, and you don't dare to lose your temper with other people outside.

It is true that there is this kind of rough and high bending, and it will appear in many people, because we tend to be more impatient with the people we are closer to, and we always feel that they are our own people, so we are very casual, especially to our parents, because we always feel that they do not ask for anything in return for us. And for the people around us, we always want to show their best side to them, so this situation will occur, but in fact, after experiencing some things, you will find that the person who really accompanies you can really give you selfless love is still only our parents, so we must be kind to our parents and encourage each other.

You know, all you can hurt is the people who love you! If it weren't for your parents' love for you, would you dare to yell at strangers? You know that your father and mother will tolerate you, so you have no fear and show your true nature before them.

So cherish the people around you who love Xiang leaky socks, treat them well, and change them from now on, it's not too late!

Because they are the closest people to them, if you don't want you to lose your temper with others, others will ignore you, and you will lose contact, but how do you lose your temper if you are a relative, you all know that he is your relative, and they can't break off the relationship with you, so people always rely on this relationship, unscrupulously losing their temper with their closest people.

That's Xichun because you are still young, there are not enough things here, you don't know how to understand some of the rules of the game in this society, you can put aside the prejudice against your parents to simply understand, the rules of the game in this society look back at the state of your parents' treatment of you, you will be different, especially in the case of giving you some support to your parents, you are irritable to her, you look back, you go to the society to try, who gives you support your irritable treatment of him, what will you get? I know that Lu Yu will feel it!

That's when you're spoiled by your parents at home, and you lose your temper with them, do you think you're worthy of them? They raised you from a young age and you were grumpy with them. You have a good temper with outsiders, but you still don't eat your set of outsiders, only your parents can be blind.

Right. 's temper is somewhat tolerant, so you should change to be kind to your parents, and think about what your parents are doing to you. A few.

Caring and caring.

It is mainly caused by the resentment that is very dissatisfied with their divorce, and the resentment that arises is caused by the clan Zheng? You still don't understand the affairs of adults, for the sake of yourself, you have to put down Zhaosong's resentment and study hard!