Why do some people like to add insults to others?

It may be that they do not start from their own interests, and they are too considerate of the feelings of others, and they always feel that such words do not hurt others, but they actually hurt others invisibly.

One: I am in a bad mood, I usually take care of my relatives and friends, and I don't want to be polite to strangers anymore. Second, it doesn't make sense to hate the other party, and it's a stranger, so you're naturally welcome.

Because they are jealous of others, they just can't see others looking better than themselves, and they don't think that others are better than themselves, so they will talk about others.

It may be that you want to base your happiness on the pain of others, that the addition of bad words may bring you something more interesting, and sometimes you feel that you have a sense of accomplishment.

It may have something to do with their personalities. They may be more jealous. It is possible that some people have tofu hearts and knife mouths. In short, each person's situation is different.

Maybe it has something to do with the personal upbringing, if he likes to speak ill of others, then it proves that he may have been treated like this, and she is also an unfortunate person.

You've offended him somewhere. Or maybe you didn't offend him, but you just hate people like you.

There are also skills in dealing with verbal violence, in life, we are inevitably ridiculed by others, when others attack you with bad words, you can't scold him like a shrew, such behavior not only seems to be unqualified, but also lowers your own image. So, what to do?

The first is to stick to one's own position. Many people's emotions are easily influenced by others, so when the other party insults and abuses themselves, some people will immediately fight back angrily, but after the incident, they often fall into deep self-doubt, influenced by the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation, many of us are very humble in society, and then some are not very confident. So when others belittle us, it's easy for others to change our position.

However, people with high emotional intelligence will not do this. When they are attacked by others' bad words, the first move they take is to insist on their own standing and annihilation. They firmly believe that they are right and that they can do it.

In this way, first of all, your position will be clear, so that others will not succeed in looking down on your behavior; secondly, if it can make others feel nosy, he should not judge casually; Finally, show that you are excellent and leave others with nothing to say.

The second is to retreat as an advance and stop and change inspections. In life, people with high emotional intelligence use the second trick in the face of malicious attacks. They believe that when they encounter malicious attacks by others, they do not necessarily need to attack others with hard and simple words, and make themselves embarrassed, which is not the solution.

In fact, a different way of thinking, retreating as advancing is also an offense. The so-called retreat is to first agree with the other party's point of view and let the other party succeed temporarily, and then point out the other party's shortcomings that are fatal than the shortcomings you just admitted. Wouldn't it be more enjoyable to let the other party slap himself in the face?

This kind of riposte is also especially useful, leaving the person who maliciously attacked you to gnash their teeth and be speechless.

The third is a tooth for a tooth. The third trick used by people with high emotional intelligence in the face of malicious attacks is to retaliate with a tooth for a tooth, which is different from the above two ways, this way is more straightforward, there is no turn, how others evaluate you, you will directly attack others in the same way. In life, if you meet someone who is unreasonable and can't understand good words, you should treat him in a-for-tat manner, so that he can also understand the feelings of others.

In life, we all know that being angry is not good for our health, and we can do a lot of unimaginable things when we are emotional, so we should never be angry when facing malicious attacks from others. You must know that if you are emotional, you will let the bad guys succeed and lose a lot of money. Therefore, you need to face these attacks sensibly and fight back beautifully, the above are the three ways that highly intelligent people deal with malicious attacks, have you learned?

Because there will be a factor between people and people, which is comparison, when you are successful, he will envy; When you live a good life, he will be jealous; When you are beautiful, he is jealous; Although sometimes he doesn't even want to do it himself, due to physical factors, he is forced to do it himself.

Sometimes people are very helpless and don't want to be like this, but they will be like this, but when you look at it from the direction of understanding and **, you will feel that there is nothing.

Bad Words: Sometimes it's the people who are very disgusting. But sometimes it's a friend, why do you say it's a friend, because sometimes it's a cruel word to you, but when you understand that it means to help with good intentions, you will speak badly.

Sometimes you can understand from his point of view who is good and who is bad.

We always lose our temper with the people close to us, and speak badly to each other, this is a common problem for each of us, and we also know that this is very bad, but sometimes we know that it is not good but we still can't control our emotions, to put it bluntly, this is habitual, "what you can't get is always in turmoil, and those who are favored have no fear", this sentence is a good interpretation of our hearts, we always vent to the people around us, but are polite to strangers, isn't this the complete opposite! If we have such a problem, we must correct it, because you will make people who like you very sad. In fact, if you want to change this attitude, it is not difficult to say that it is easy to say, it depends on whether you can persist and change.

Control yourself and don't let the things you regret happen again. When we get along with the person we like, we will always say our feelings in one go, because you trust him, but sometimes we will vent our bad emotions, transfer our complaints to them, and say something that we regret, we always think that they will not leave us, but we don't know that when a person is full of disappointment, he will also leave, and forever. So don't always speak ill of the people around us, learn to control ourselves, and when we know that we have to say something unpleasant, change the topic or calm down alone, which will allow our emotions to slowly adjust.

Timely apology and reflection are necessary, regret has happened, don't make a mistake again and again, the damage has been done, then try your best to make up for it, don't wait until you leave to know regret. Constant reflection warns you to cherish the people in front of you and not to regret your life because of impulse.

To be honest, the further I got, the more I realize that I have done a bunch of bad things, and until my freshman year, I had a problem, which was that I was very poisonous and spoke very sharply. In many cases, it will cause laughter from friends around you, but more often it will hurt them. Maybe at that time, I was chasing the feeling of being watched.

I've always been immersed in feeling good about myself. I used to think that I had to fight hard against the world, but I didn't know that this would not only hurt myself, but also affect the people around me.

I used to joke with my friends, and I always thought that we had a good relationship, so I didn't have to care so much, but gradually you will find that as soon as you open your mouth, all you bring to your friends is harm. What I remember most clearly is that once a friend was shopping in the supermarket, he was wronged and came back to the dormitory to talk to us. She was already uncomfortable, and wanted to talk about it to relieve her depressed mood, but I was good, she finished speaking, and she scolded her on the spot in the future.

I remember that as soon as I finished speaking, her eyes turned red, and now I think about how I really went too far, doing such a bad thing, and I don't know it, I always feel that it is my true temperament. In fact, in the end, I was uneducated. Later, I paid attention to it, and now it is much better, even if I am a friend, I have to keep my distance and learn to respect.

We always can't help but want to speak ill of people who are good to us, in fact, many people can't figure out why, sometimes they want to control themselves, but they just can't control themselves. Sometimes I really want to find someone to wake myself up! No matter whether a person is born excellent or not, there will always be people around him who like you, no matter how he looks, how good or bad he treats others, whether he is good or not, but he is very good to you!

And it's the kind of good that is unconditional, because he just likes you, and he doesn't understand why he likes it so much!

But when it comes to people who are unconditionally good to you, if there is no one who likes you at the moment, then the people who are unconditionally good to you are your parents, they always want to give you the best, always take care of you, you can still accept the kind words and persuasion of your parents when you are young, and when you are older, you will rebel. I feel that everything they say is like nonsense, I can't wait for them to say a word, you use ten sentences to prevaricate, the rational ones can still prevaricate, and if they are irrational, they just say that they don't care, and it has nothing to do with them, and there are those who are rebellious and say directly, I don't want to leave parents like them, and I hate them for giving birth to themselves.

Don't do this anymore, don't hurt the people who are good to you, you have to tell yourself slowly, they are the most important people in your life, learn to talk to them calmly, go out for a walk with them, talk to each other, and try to leave them for a few days, feel what would you be like if you didn't have them in your life, would anyone be good to you! If you understand your fate, you will learn to cherish them and want to leave the good side to them!

Actually, I used to feel this way, if someone liked me but I didn't. I'm going to start hating him very much. I don't know what he thinks about before, I used to be a good friend, and I don't want to pay attention to him after I know.

This kind of psychology is really very strange, I think why does this person like me, it's so annoying. I don't speak ill of each other, but I'm pretty much done. When I was a freshman in high school, there was a guy who liked me, and I had a really good relationship with him at first.

Every day in class, chatting and playing with mobile phones, and when I go home at night, I will buy snacks and bring them to each other to eat the next day. I would tell each other any little secrets in my heart, I regarded him as my male best friend, but one day he confessed to me, and I was stunned on the spot. Since then I have never paid attention to him, and I have spoken coldly to him to me.

Later, he transferred to another school in his sophomore year of high school.

This incident still touched me quite a lot, and then I figured it out. The fact that the other person likes me shows that he likes me and can appreciate me. Why should I speak ill of someone who appreciates my merits?

Even if you don't like him, wouldn't it be better to have one more friend, and one more person to help you when you are in trouble. So think about it calmly, has the other party done anything to hurt you in addition to liking you? If not, don't do that to him, and don't rush to open your mouth!

That can also leave a good impression on the other person, so why not! Otherwise, wouldn't it be worth the loss to lose a person who likes you and get a bad reputation!

Many people think that the other party will not care much about the person who likes them, no matter what they say, but in fact, this is not the case, whether it is a friend or a lover, even if your relationship is good and the relationship is intimate, there must be a degree of speaking, this degree must be grasped well, too cautious It seems that the relationship is not good, and it is too easy to make the other party sad.

Then it is for your other half, boyfriend and girlfriend or husband and wife, don't speak ill of each other, this is the closest person in your life, is to be with you for a lifetime, maybe your temper is a little anxious, maybe some of his things make you unaccustomed, but don't argue, let alone speak badly, people's hearts are flesh and blood, whose heart is hurt a lot, and there will be times of despair, you must learn to control yourself, tell yourself that it is a person who likes yourself, and a person who is good to yourself.

Finally, for your parents, the people who love you the most in the world, maybe they always love to nag, but the starting point is for your good, so don't speak ill of the person who loves you the most.

Most people are like this, they always like to keep their bad side for their family. We often see some news about domestic violence, either abusing children, or beating wives and parents. And will this kind of person beat people like this outside?

No. Because the people closest to you love you the most, are the best to you, and are more gentle to you, he vents his emotions on them. It's crazy.

Of course, not everyone is so excessive, but there are some small things that need to be paid attention to.

I often meet people who play tricks on those closest to me. One of my classmates was a very gentle person among his classmates and was also very docile to his girlfriend. I thought he had always been like this, gentle and never angry.

But one time when I was talking to him at home, I spoke to him, and I heard his attitude towards his father. It seems that his dad can't find something, so my classmate is very impatient to talk to his dad, in normal times, I have never seen him in such a tone. I felt like he wasn't him anymore, and it was much worse than what I usually felt.

So we tend to ignore the feelings of those closest to us. But it often breaks their hearts. When we are outside, we are also polite to people because we are unfamiliar, but when we are at home, because of the familiar environment, we may vent our usual dissatisfaction, because we feel a little safer at home.

This hurts those closest to you. Therefore, we should control our emotions, we should also love the people who love us the most, and we should leave the best of ourselves to them, instead of giving them bad emotions to affect their mood. The greatest happiness is to be happy with those closest to you.