Tell me why you want a second child?

The original intention was mainly to hope that Dabao would not be so lonely, and the pressure in the future would not be too great. My eldest son was three years old when I was pregnant with my youngest son. Because my husband is an only child, I have an older sister above me.

In terms of family, my parents' life is shared by my sister and me, so it is relatively easy. And my husband's side has to do his best, because he is the only child, so the burden is very heavy. Usually his parents have a hard time, so I have to ask my partner for leave, one of the parents to see the doctor, the other to see the children.

It's a big time-lapse. That's why I want two children, so that when we're old, we won't have one child so worried.

In fact, my original intention was very simple, that is, I wanted a little girl to satisfy my love for my daughter. Since I was young, I have been looking forward to having a little daughter, who is led out to play every day, and I have nothing to do, which is very heartwarming. My first child is a son, very cute, I also like it very much, but my daughter still has a dream, so I boldly want the second child, fortunately, the second child is a younger sister, which also fulfilled my dream.

I don't have a lot of plans for the future, so I just think it's okay to live the present. Besides, raising children, one is also raising, and two are also raising, so I don't think too much about the pressure, just treat them well.

It's not for Dabao, it's not for your in-laws, it's just for yourself. Dabao is a boy who wants to have a daughter. It doesn't matter if the second child is a boy or a girl, although I want a daughter in my heart, no one can say for sure, I will raise them well after birth, do my best, give them a good education, and cultivate their independence.

When my grandmother died, she always told me that she wanted me to have another child, and she said that a child was too expensive to raise, which was very touching at the time. With the growth of the firstborn son, the selfishness and arrogance of the only child are becoming more and more obvious, and I am really worried that he will not be able to become the responsible man he imagined when he grows up, so I think of having another child, so that the child knows how to share, know how to be grateful, and know how to give. When they grow up, they can love each other and accompany each other for a lifetime.

The original intention was actually quite funny, because the relatives and friends around me wanted it, so I followed suit. And I feel that it is very good to have two children, very lively, and when I go home, the two little ones compete for favor and look very cute. Sometimes it's very warm to see them helping each other, and they are always looking forward to the future.

It's for her husband, who has always wanted to have a little princess. The eldest is a boy, and he was very determined not to want it, but in the past two years, my husband has shown that he wants to have another one, so he has no choice but to give birth.

In fact, I want a second child entirely because there is a very expected scene that is to wait until the children are older, we go out on a trip, and we can see the joy of the two children playing together. It's really that simple. I hope that my home will be more lively, so that the two children can grow up together in happiness.

In fact, I belong to the more casual encounter, I want it when I come, and I won't deliberately ask for it. So the second child naturally came, and I was very happy to welcome a new member of the family, and my eldest son liked it too, which is a blessing.

It's just because I like children, I plan to have three before I get married, haha, I feel that my own level with two is just right, and it is too hard to bring one more to dispel the idea of having three children.

Why didn't anyone say that they wanted a son, and I had a second and third child if I had bad conditions, all of them were girls. Why not admit it?

Because my daughter likes her younger siblings, but now she doesn't want to give birth, she doesn't want to be confined anymore, and no one wants to take it, so it's really tiring to be alone.

I really said that I wanted a second child and didn't want anything, I said I didn't want to die, and suddenly one day I had a premonition that there was a life to be reincarnated, so I wanted it!

I want a second child because I see my sister giving birth to a daughter, it's very cute, I like it very much, I can't stand my mother-in-law's urging, but it turns out to be a male treasure again, and my intestines are repentant.

I'm afraid I'll be lonely, my husband also likes children, my son is about to go to high school, and there is a child at home who is lively.

The eldest is a boy, accidentally conceived a second child, went to the hospital to have an abortion, when the doctor was about to push the anesthetic into the blood vessels, I stopped it, and finally I was reluctant to abort, and now I am almost three months pregnant.

My little aunt wants a second child, and according to her, she wants to give Dabao multiple companions.

Is there a second child like me, it is Dabao's strong request to have a second child?

40 that year, my son died of illness, I don't know how to save this catastrophe, 43 gave birth to a little girl, and the woman is not forced to give birth after forty, and her energy and physical strength are there.

Now the country has liberalized the three-child policy, but many people don't want to have children. Indeed, the cost of childbirth and education is too high now, especially many young people, who feel too much pressure and have no motivation to have children.

It was the same when I was young, after giving birth to my first son at the age of 27, I never thought about having a second child, of course, at that time, the policy did not allow it, and at the age of 35, I also did it once because of an unexpected pregnancy. At that time, my husband went to work, I ran a small shop by myself, the children were smart and sunny, the parents were healthy, I felt very relaxed in life, and my life was very happy!

So why did I choose to have a second child at an advanced age? I have to start with the accidental pregnancy at the age of 35, I didn't expect anything at all, I just felt a little uncomfortable, so I went to the hospital to check it, I didn't expect it to be pregnant, I didn't think about it at the time, I chose the drug flow, but it didn't work, and I did it three days later, in this process, it was really painful, not only physical, but also heart, I felt that the child who came to me was abandoned in such a cruel way, and I was sad for a long time.

Then there was another thing that made me gradually germinate the idea of having a second child. My neighbor next door is a pair of retired old cadres, in our local area has two residences, a store, and also holds shares in a shopping mall, retirement salary is also very high, only one son, in Beijing, there are also several real estate, the family is very solid, but the son got married late, and the child is also very late, and the son and daughter-in-law are only children, and they have been taken by their grandfather after giving birth to a child, so the old couple came out and went in, it is inevitable that they look a little desolate, I used to think, if I have the economic strength after I am old, I go out for a long time to travel and travel around the world. But when looking at the faltering old couple, I can't help but regret that maybe at that time, no matter how much money there is, it doesn't make much sense.

When I watched the old couple look at other people's children, my eyes lit up, and I was also touched, there are really many times in life that many things can not be solved by money, like my grandmother often said, life is to live a life of people rather than money. After that, although I didn't want a second child very deliberately, I didn't object to it.

At the age of 37, I was unexpectedly pregnant again, this time I was full of anticipation to welcome the arrival of my second son, although the advanced maternal age brought me a lot of discomfort and fatigue, although because of the birth of the second child had to close my small shop, although in the second child, my mother and mother-in-law fell ill one after another, no one can give me any help, although the second baby was young and faced the adolescent rebellion of the big baby, although I gave up almost all social ...... for the second babyI still have no hesitation and courage to move forward, and I have never regretted ......

A son and a daughter are considered "good".

Couples who have such thoughts still have some traditions, thinking that a son and a daughter are absolutely perfect in life. For example, if you have a child, you will want to have another daughter, the son is a little man, the son is a cute princess, the family of four is happy and happy, and the hard work is more motivated. For this kind of thing, I still have to remind that if Erbao does not reach the estimate, it is the same fetal sex as Dabao, and you must not be dissatisfied with Erbao.

2. Simply like children.

This type of couple, the idea is relatively simple, because they like you, so they can have one more child, see their child's super cute face, many mothers have long forgotten the pain of having a child. And I feel that I have raised a child, I have accumulated a lot of work experience, and the child's food, clothing, housing and transportation have long been well understood. For example, when raising a big treasure, I experienced countless nights when the baby kicked the quilt, and I knew that there was such a thing as a baby sleeping bag.

3. Give Dabao a companion.

It feels like a child feels lonely, and someone can accompany him. In the last century, there were generally a lot of children in Chinese families, and they knew that it was a particularly happy thing for them to have a biological brother and sister to accompany them in their development, so these parents would have to have a second child, so that the two babies could grow up together, and learn to be responsible and responsible in the process of growing up.

Fourth, pension services.

This is really a particularly real problem, although people are not as feudal as before, but they want to have more security. The only son has a lot of helplessness, if there is only one daughter, she grows up and marries to a distant place, and she may be able to go home to see it two years before marriage, and after a long time, children, home, and work. It will make the other party busier and busier, and then have no time and energy to go home to spend time with their parents.

And the only son and the only daughter are married, and the pressure is indeed too great for four elderly people to have a child in the future, so these parents will choose to have a second child.

Fifth, worry about losing orphans.

Orphaning is really a sour word, but there are many accidents in life, and not every child can grow up safely. I used to see the experience of a netizen, due to the loss of a child, he desperately had a second child, and it was dark because of the loss of the child.

In many families, there will be a second child, I want my baby to have a brother and sister in the future, so that he can have a dear one when he grows up.

In order to let their children have the company of their siblings, there will be no one to communicate with when they encounter things in the future.

First, both children are "good", second, simply like children, third, give Dabao a companion, fourth, provide for the elderly, and fifth, fear of being orphaned.