In a relationship, is it really who gets emotional first and loses first?

There is a saying that "whoever is serious first loses". So some people stop at "first", but obviously you are already serious, so you unconsciously invest in your feelings.

Although I don't want to always talk about love with you, this matter is really suitable for small love. He and I met online and messaged each other every day. Sometimes the other party is not **, he will reply to me when he sees it, and I must immediately put down what I am doing and return to him.

We are not as elegant as Qiong Yao.

The story is like poetry and songs.

When it comes to the philosophy of life, we even look at the snow and the moon together. Every day we talk about trivial things, and even some sad stories about the family. That's it, I began to slowly rely on each other, and I thought of sharing happy and sad things with him.

I started to think that I liked him. However, when it comes to feelings, the first to be active is to be passive.

is pressing the "little ninety-nine" in my heart day by day, and I still want to talk about the world as usual. He didn't show any liking either. Finally, I couldn't hold back my inner feelings and sent him :

I seem to like you. He didn't respond for a long time. Sure enough, there are some things that have to be buried in his heart, and when he can't do it when he says it, his friends can't do it, and he is ready to give up, he sent a message:

When will we meet?

Where to? It's all right, listen to you. So I came up with the time, the place, and the day's activities.

After eating, I walked on the street, washed my hands and wiped hand cream, and waited for him to take me by the hand and cross the street. Seeing that the traffic light was about to end and the hand cream was about to disappear, he still didn't feel the temperature of his palm, so he mustered up the courage to take the initiative to hold his left hand, he buckled my five fingers, and we interlocked our ten fingers, and I couldn't help but be happy.

Sometimes it's awkward, it's a cold war. I told myself: if he doesn't take the initiative to talk to me, I will ignore him.

But one minute and ten minutes, seeing that an hour has passed, why doesn't he fight **, I'm anxious, I'm angry, I'm lost, and I'm about to get off work when I see the sun. So I took the initiative to ask him again why he ignored me, and he didn't respond. I was so angry that I turned around and left, but I was thinking in my heart:

Fool, why don't you come after me? Five seconds, ten seconds, thirty seconds......From rapid to slow, his eyes were fixed on the shadow diagonally behind, but he was never visible. I paused and turned around to see him standing there with our eyes met.

Took the initiative to take a step, from slow to fast, and couldn't wait to hug him, he stretched out his hand to pull me into his arms.

Suddenly tears welled up and asked him why he didn't take the initiative. He patted me on the back and said. Every time I hear from you, I want to tell you.

I like you so much, but I don't know what you think, and I'm afraid you'll think I'm a flowery, casual boy. Seeing your news, I was happy alone for a long time, it turned out that it was really not a dream. On a first date, I want to make you happy, so everything is up to you.

The nervous palms of the day were sweaty, and I kept thinking about holding your hand in the next second, and your hand reached over.

If someone doesn't take the initiative to look for you, don't worry, it's not that he won't look for you, he's just still on his way to find you.

Yes, generally the one who is emotional first will lose first, because the other person they like first will be led by the other party's every move, and they will also pay a lot in the relationship

Yes. This is because in a relationship, the person who is emotional first will give a lot of money, and will also be invested in the relationship and unable to extricate himself.

Yes. Because there are many people who don't care much about people who are good to themselves now, and they don't cherish this kind of person.

In love, whoever gets emotional first loses. In love, you can move a little emotion, after all, if you don't give up even a little emotion, then this love can't be talked about. However, don't be emotional, whoever gets emotional first loses.

Whoever is emotional first will become passive later. The first amorous person will love each other more, slowly lose their freedom, and slowly become less and lessA sense of securityand will be abandoned in the end.

When you meet a girl, is it because of some of her characteristics that attract you, you like her very much, you love her, and then you confess to her with your true feelings, and you fall in love together? Of course, it is also possible that the two of you silently like each other in your hearts, and both feel each other's sincerity, so your hearts slowly get closer, so that you can finally come together. So from liking to being together, isn't that the process you give?

For those who say that giving true affection means loss, how is your relationship built? Do you all pick and choose casually, hoping that the other party will take the bait, and then enjoy the true feelings that the other party gives you? So, in your relationship, you win because you didn't give your true feelings first?

People who don't give true love are actually very pitiful. If he doesn't experience the feeling of loving someone wholeheartedly, the other party gives a real feeling, but he always wants to give a little less than the other party, because he wants to have the upper hand. People who think this way are really scary, and they deserve to have never been able to get along well and have never loved someone well.

Love is a prelude to marriage, and if you have a good relationship, marriage tends to be more fulfilling. When you are in love, you should speak with your heart, observe, experience and feel with your heart. If you communicate with him with genuine feelings, your experience may be more accurate.

If a person is right for you, you have to determine when you are in love. During the screening process, you can't say that I didn't give my true feelings. Wouldn't it be better for you if you gave your true feelings, and you could understand the other person's thoughts more accurately?

When in love, everyone has reservations, and everyone has a ghost in their hearts. It's a boring feeling. When you love, you love seriously, when you don't love, you really don't love, you don't get entangled, you don't get confused.

Don't think that anyone can love someone, loving someone is an ability. There are people who can't love someone, they don't want to give, but passively receive, a situation known as "love impotence". Often, feelings are treated too trivially.

After a long time, he couldn't tell whether he loved or not. He doesn't know how to love someone. He will think that he is close to others, but only imagine and dare not act.

He is insecure, he is selfish and only cares about his feelings. He is unprofessional and can play ambiguous, but he has no real feelings and so on, these are all manifestations of a person's love and incompetence.

This is completely incorrect, the main thing is to see who has no feelings for whom in the end, this person will take the initiative, and the other will lose.

I don't think that's the case, only people who don't cherish you will feel like this, if a person really really loves you, then he will never care who is the first to be emotional, I can only say that I don't love enough, so I will be unscrupulous.

Yes, as long as you are emotional first and pay more things, you will definitely lose in the future, and the person who is the first to be emotional is also very easy to lose.

Yes, it is often the first to be emotional, and the other party is easy to lose, because he gives the most in this relationship.

Of course not, when two people get along together, there is no winner or loser, if it is suitable, it will be together, and if it is not suitable, it will be separated, there is no need to divide the winners and losers.

Yes, because the emphasis on feelings is the first to come, first to come, whoever is emotional first will be in a passive position, and who will be led by others.

It's not like this, it must be who has the deepest affection and who will lose, and it is also because the other party does not cherish it, so it causes you to lose this relationship.

It's true, so you must not be emotional first in your relationship, and even if you are emotional, you must control your feelings and don't give it all.

Yes, as long as whoever uses affection first, he will be very humble in this relationship, and he will lose himself and let himself be seriously hurt.

It's not like that, people are emotional animals, if a person really likes which cherry blossom erects, it will be moved, and it will not live up to the sincerity of others. However, some people are also more scumbag, thinking that the other party should pay more if they like themselves first, and in the end they may propose to break up, so that the other party will lose all their money. But most people don't do that, they are empathetic.

Many people say that men and women will lose first if they pay first in their relationship, and this statement is only correct. As mentioned earlier, people will not be so clear in front of feelings, maybe the love of the person who fell in love first disappeared in the consumption of time, and then the person who fell in love reacted that the other party no longer likes himself and will regret it specially. It can only be said that people need to meet the right person at the right time, so that they can find the other half of their life and not be hurt emotionally.

If you find that the other party is not worth your effort, you should stop it quickly, don't invest too much money and emotion, otherwise it will be very painful in the end, and it will take a long time to really come out.

There is no winner or loser in a relationship, many couples will say some cruel things when they quarrel, and they may even say that they regret it after the breakup, but there is no way to control their mouths at that time. I hope that all people understand this truth, and they should also be merciful when arguing, and don't just say some words that pierce people's hearts. In the early stage of the relationship, the person who pays first will definitely be more tired, because he is always sticking to the other party upside down, and he may not like you yet.

But as long as you keep persevering, you will definitely be able to go smoothly, and you will be able to repay the beauty or find the prince of your heart. If you really can't beat others, Li Da can give up appropriately, which is also okay, because people's hearts are fleshy, and they will hurt after being hit.

Boys can tolerate their girlfriends appropriately, because women are more emotional, especially easy to worry about some small problems, boys can correct it, it will make girlfriends very happy.

In my ten years of experience in love, it is indeed like this, in a relationship, the one who gives the affection first will lose, and it is also very real.

I don't think so, if that's the case, then neither man nor woman is willing to take the initiative to pay, then there is no point in falling in love, and it is not possible to provide the other party with some spiritual comfort in the dismantling group, there is no winning or losing in love, if this love fails, then both men and women are losers.

No, because a real relationship needs to go both ways, and if only one party works hard, then the relationship will collapse sooner or later.

Love is the joy of the two loves, maybe in the process of love, there is a little contradiction between lovers, but there is no need to treat feelings as a game to fight high, let alone as an emotional battlefield to fight out of winning or losing, it is not suitable to break up, and cherish it. Love is single-minded and selfish, extremely serious and solemn, you can't go from day to night, you can't eat from the bowl and look at the pot, but I don't see it that way, because when I experienced you, you told me a truth, a relationship, if you don't even dare to be serious, even take the initiative to hesitate, then you have already lost it.

Whoever is the first to be emotional, so what? Without this person's active confession, how can there be the beginning of a beautiful relationship? Don't anyone take the initiative?

Then, you look at me, I look at you, and who can't help it? Be careful, so that you wait for me, I wait for you, and in the end it will be the turn of the others to take the lead. I don't necessarily see this problem, the other party treats me sincerely, if I am very angry, when we are together, it is true, cool, comfortable, this thing, I will take the initiative, life is short, the person I like, why don't I take the initiative?

Don't talk about whoever takes the initiative to lose, this kind of thing is useless for me to say.

Because feelings can't be described as winning or losing. Every love is a heart-touch, not a transaction, not a game, so no one wins or loses. If two people happen to like each other at the same time and are emotional at the same time, that is the greatest luck in life, where does the loss come from?

We should be more grateful, because it is the favor of fate, the favor of fate, and the preference of fate. After all, "what you can't get is always in turmoil, and those who are favored have nothing to fear", the person who falls in love first will always pay more, maybe your favorite concentration is 99%, and her concentration on you is only 60%, what two people pay together, or what they get is unequal, and it can't be measured.

Women are serious about feelings, as the saying goes, women who are good at love are negative men, but then again, there are not many such people now, and some people think like this and do this, women chase men too much, and the other party looks down on them, men like each other too much, and the other party rarely has this.

Of course not, the relationship needs to be paid by both parties, which has nothing to do with who pays first, it needs to be managed by each other.

I also think so, whoever pays the affection first between the man and the woman will lose first, because such a party is particularly vulnerable, and if the other party wants to break up with you, you are the one who is hurt the most.

It's not like this, as long as you meet someone who treats you sincerely, it doesn't matter how much you pay, you don't care about winning or losing at all, this sentence is just for people who don't take their feelings seriously.