How to solve all kinds of grievances in life?

Complaining is actually a kind of venting, you have to tell yourself to learn to be satisfied, what you have now, what you get, have a clear understanding, tell yourself, you should cherish it, compared to some people who are less lucky than you, poorer than you, you are still very rich.

People who often complain because they complain too much are the reason why there are so many unlucky things. Maybe if you don't complain, there will be fewer bad luck. Maybe thinking about things from a different angle, there are so many unpleasant things just to exercise yourself, temper your patience, and feel the ups and downs of life.

In response to this kind of complaint from others, we might as well praise him, directly saying that he has the opposite of that weakness or showing that he should be in fact happy, otherwise people will talk endlessly and endlessly.

Complaining shows that they are dissatisfied with reality, dissatisfied with the status quo and do not want to change, complaining about others, and their mental quality is not good. Do what you do well, come down-to-earth, and tomorrow will be better.

You can let yourself often tell yourself to learn to be grateful, that is, to look at life with a grateful heart, you can say thank you to yourself, thank you for your hard work to have your current life, you can also thank yourself, because you worked hard to get into a good university, compared to those who failed the exam; You can also thank the boss for scolding me, but not firing, compared to those who don't have a job. I'm sorry for those people, but thinking of those who are worse than me is not enough to complain.

Complaining is indeed a bad habit, that is, it makes you feel depressed, and makes others feel that you are often complaining, thinking that you are really difficult, which does not affect your interpersonal relationships and future development, etc. Remember one principle: from today onwards, no matter where there is a problem in life, family, or work, I will no longer complain, because it is useless to complain, and it is my own incompetence to complain.

Hint at yourself like this, and you will naturally stop complaining.

Most of these people who like to complain can be labeled as "immature" and "mentally weak", they need to be more rational, and at the same time need to shoulder more responsibilities. In short, they need to grow. Maybe you can't stop complaining right away, but at least please understand and approve of it rationally:

Complaining is to express dissatisfaction with the things that caused the results because things are not going as planned, and complaining has a specific object, such as: "Why are you like this! ”

There's no fixed object to complain, it's like, "Oh my God, I'm bored!" "Collapse and relapse.

Both complaining and complaining have the meaning of dissatisfaction and blame.

The difference between the two is that complaining is generally directed at things or circumstances, while complaining is generally directed at someone.

For example, complaining about bad food, losing the game, and the team members complaining about each other's socks.

To complain is to have resentment in your heart, and to complain is to bury resentment in your heart. Complaining and complaining mean the same, the difference is that complaining is deeper. For example, if you are dissatisfied with people yesterday, you complain and say this and that, this is complaining, then this thing has been more than ten years, and it is still turned over from time to time, this is complaining.

Everyone will complain, venting dissatisfaction with people's normal feelings. But complaining is narrow-minded, Chen sesame rotten millet trivial old things remember the door clear, 20 years ago owed two cents now I can't sleep when I think about it, nothing to turn over endlessly. This is very bad, especially for yourself, it is easy to get cancer and die early, because you are always depressed.

Isn't complaining the same as complaining? It's the same thing.

Knowing the difference, ask why?

Both words are verbs, and both express the meaning of "complaining because of dissatisfaction", subdividing words:

1. "Complaining" refers to being dissatisfied and blaming others, which is very focused on "blaming others", which can be understood in this way: "The quality of this bicycle is really poor!" Sellers are really not a good thing. "That's complaining about others.

2. "Complaining" refers to expressing dissatisfaction with the cause of the adverse consequences itself (personal, personal opinion), you can understand it like this: "I complain that Xiao Ming slept lazily and didn't have time to go to school." "That's blaming someone else.

3. The object of complaining can only be other things, not oneself, but the object of complaining can be oneself or others, and complaining can be long-term and effective and continuous, while complaining is single and discontinuous.

For example, "The old grudge with you more than ten years ago should be paid off today Why am I so stupid!" Pour a glass of water and spill it all over the floor? “

And the complaint is immediate: "Hmph, you clumsy parents why did you make me so stupid!" Let me pour a glass of water and spill it all over the floor! “

Both of these words are verbs, and both have the meaning of "complaining because of dissatisfaction."

"Complaining" has the meaning of "blame" and is used to refer to "expressing dissatisfaction with the person or thing that you think is the cause because things are not going your way".

For example, my sister often complains that my brother is nosy.

"Complaining" has the meaning of "resentment", and mostly refers to "dissatisfaction in the heart, so as to count the wrongness of others".

"Complaining" is not as important as "complaining".

In terms of usage, you can use "complain" or "complain" to others;

But others can only use "complaining" about themselves, not "complaining".

1. Object: The object of complaining can only be other things, not oneself, but the object of complaining can be oneself or others, and second, continuity

And complaining can be long-term and continuous, while complaining is single and discontinuous.

3. Concept: 1. "Complaining" refers to being dissatisfied and blaming others, with a strong emphasis on "blaming others".

Example: "This bike is of terrible quality!" Sellers can really deceive people. "That's complaining about others.

2. "Complaining" refers to expressing dissatisfaction with the cause of the adverse consequences itself (personal, personal opinion), he complained: If you don't have to go shopping, you won't lose your wallet.

1. Different interpretations:

Complaining: dissatisfied, counting others is wrong; Complain.

Revenge: React to the person you are resenting about.

Second, the usage is different:

Complaining: It means reciprocating the resentment that someone has towards themselves. For example: repay grievances with virtue.

Grievance: It means to be dissatisfied in your heart, and to say that others are wrong; Complaining, etc. For example, you can only blame yourself for doing something wrong, not others.

Third, the source is different.

Complaining: Wei Wei Chapter 5 of Part 4 of "The East": "Don't use me, put me in the wall, and I won't complain." ”

Complaints: Yang Shuo's "Haishi Wang Lu Xiaoji": "Sometimes he simply doesn't go home and sleeps with an electric pick, which provokes his wife to complain that he doesn't understand affection." ”

Complaining and complaining, although the meaning of the word is similar, but there is still a difference, complaining has the meaning of blame, blame, and complaining is the dissatisfaction in the heart, telling people that there is a nagging meaning.

Complaining is to express dissatisfaction with the things that caused the results because things are not going as planned, and complaining has a specific object, such as: "Why are you like this! ”

There's no fixed object to complain, it's like, "Oh my God, I'm bored!" ”

Both complaining and complaining have the meaning of dissatisfaction and blame.

The difference between the two is that complaining is generally about things or circumstances, and complaining is generally about someone.

For example, complaining about poor food and losing a game, the team members complain about each other.

Complaining refers to complaining about a specific object or class, and complaining is not necessarily about being dissatisfied with a specific person, just whining.

Commonly used words to distinguish and complain, complain, complain.

Both of these words are verbs, and both have the meaning of "complaining because of dissatisfaction."

"Complaining" has the meaning of "blame" and is used to refer to "expressing dissatisfaction with the person or thing that you think is the cause because things are not going your way".

For example, my sister often complains that my brother is nosy.

"Complaining" has the meaning of "resentment", and mostly refers to "dissatisfaction in the heart, so as to count the wrongness of others".

"Complaining" is not as important as "complaining".

In terms of usage, you can use "complain" or "complain" to others; But others can only use "complaining" about themselves, not "complaining".

The first thing that is when you encounter a problem is not to think about how to solve it, but to start looking for various reasons and excuses to get yourself out first, and then push the problem to others, and all kinds of reasons, and finally it may be because you don't solve it in the first time and cause bigger problems.

Obviously, selfishness and self-cleverness cannot survive for a long time, unless you are really indifferent and proficient! In today's society, relying on the old and selling the old, with power, money, and connections, relying on these things to operate to solve some problems, maybe when the problem arises, the first thing you think of should be who to find to solve, rather than to solve it yourself!

Rules and regulations are used to constrain certain behaviors. Having various behaviors to solve problems is also a state of life, and everyone has their own way of dealing with it, which also forms a life effect. When everyone solves the problem on their own, what will happen to this society?

Hungry, there is a restaurant. Thirsty, there are shops. Sick, there are hospitals. Some of the problems that are necessary in life have been solved accordingly. A cycle is formed, and this is a life effect.

Everyone, more or less, will encounter some trivial things in life, big problems in life. There are many trivial things that you don't want to solve by yourself, and you can solve them with a lot of money. Big problems are formed by not solving their own small things in time, and you can spend more money to solve them!

Obviously, it's a cycle where no matter what the problem is, society will have an agency dedicated to solving the problem!

So no matter what, when you encounter a problem, complaining is the least effective way. It's about finding the problem and solving it as soon as possible.

Under the influence of China's traditional culture, the idea of patriarchy has always existed in the land of China, so if you live in this kind of family, how to resolve the grievances and hatred in your heart? I think the following points may help you:

1. Always be grateful.

We can't choose our parents, but we can choose our own attitude towards life. The world is so big, without parents, there would be no us, and the grace of birth and nurturing is greater than the sky.

Compared to the life given by the parents, ideologically"Imperfections"It seems insignificant. Even if our parents don't do well, we must always be grateful, because often remembering the warmth given by our parents can help us resolve some of our dissatisfaction and resentment.

Second, you still need to rely on yourself on the road of life.

In the TV series "It's All Good", Su's mother can smash pots and sell iron for her son's schooling, and even sell the house, but Mingyu just wanted to spend money to enroll in a tutoring class, but was ordered to stop by Su's mother, and finally Mingyu ran away from home with grief and anger.

Many years later, Mingyu is already a gold collar in the workplace, and she has walked out of it on her own"Sunshine Boulevard", financial freedom has been achieved, and when the material is abundant and the spirit is independent, the past grievances and hatreds will also be alleviated.

Third, the bell must be tied to the bell.

As the saying goes, the palms of the hands and the backs of the hands are full of meat, even if the parents have the idea of preferring sons over daughters, I believe that they also love their daughters.

Since you have a problem in your heart, it is better to sit down with your parents, talk openly and honestly, tell your parents your thoughts, and at the moment when you "release your suspicions" and hug your parents, all the complaints and hatred will be resolved.

4. Seek professional help.

When you have a bad mood that you have been holding up for a long time, when you can't solve it independently, it's better to seek professional help.

You can find a psychologist or psychological counselor, and under professional guidance and resolution, complaints and hatred will also be well resolved.

Mu Guiying is in command, and Hua Mulan is in the army for her father, this series of allusions all tell: Who said that women are not as good as men.

I believe that no matter whether it is a boy or a girl, since they are fathers and mothers, they should give the same love to their children, and in this way, it is what a qualified parent should do.