It s hard for me to get along with people, and my friends haven t improved much

Hello friends! Everyone is very concerned about your questions, and a friend took your questions to the heart lily exchange room for discussion. As a result of the exchange, I will convey your suggestions to you for your reference.

You want to change your old state, you want to break out of your dull life and make friends, it's good, everyone is happy. You're 24 years old now, you've got a job, you're facing a family, maybe your parents are looking forward to you getting married and having grandchildren, right? You want to relate to people and realize the importance of it, and that's a good place to start.

You love the Internet, you can go to the UC room on the Internet to communicate, for example, you can go to the heart lily variety show such a room to sing, recite, tell stories, make friends with netizens, talk with the sisters and aunts in the room to exercise yourself, you can also go to the heart lily exchange room for discussion and exchange, on the microphone to express their own opinions, listen to some communication art courses. You can also read some books on communication. Make yourself cheerful and enthusiastic, develop a variety of hobbies, and have the opportunity to communicate with others.

A friend suggested that you set a goal for yourself and take the initiative to communicate with two people every day, even if it is a few words, preferably girls. Everything is difficult at the beginning, just open the breakthrough. We must learn to be humble, treat the people around us as our friends, take the initiative to get along with others, don't close ourselves off, see the advantages of the people around you, take the initiative to learn from others, don't know how to ask more, and confide in others if you have difficulties.

When others are in trouble, we should take the initiative to help, care more about others, and learn to comfort and encourage others with words. When someone has an achievement, praise them, say a few words of praise, or send a text message to show their support. These are all experiences for everyone.

I tell you that people love to make friends with people who love to help and care about people. Participate in more group activities, give yourself a chance to make friends, and at the same time, give yourself a platform to show yourself, let people understand you, help you, and let those girls appreciate you and love you. This is a little advice from everyone, I hope it can be helpful to you.

I wish you all the best and happiness.

I think you seem to care too much about what others think of you, resulting in the situation that you don't dare to do things and don't do the same as others, sometimes you feel out of place with others, you should focus more on yourself, reflect your own unique personality (the quality of your personality is determined by your own cultivation and judgment of the right and wrong of things), so that you will have more friends, but I think introverts are very good, generally introverts like to think and be unique, I like the feeling of being an introvert and making a splash.

The above is a personal opinion, and I don't know your specific situation, so I didn't say that I should not be angry.

Scold... I wish you all the best.

Don't worry too much about your introverted personality, just relax.

Personality problems, if you want to change, it's not easy, it is recommended that you take your time and talk to those cheerful and lively people!

When you arrive in a new environment, it takes a period of time to adapt, and this is a problem that ordinary people have. Your problem is that you're taking a little longer to get used to it. You are worried and dissatisfied with this.

It seems that you have high requirements for yourself, and you want to adapt to the new environment immediately. Is it possible for someone who adapts well to the environment in your eyes, she is actually anxious, but those uneasiness she only reveals to the most trusted people, and cannot be seen in front of outsiders. What we see is just the tip of the iceberg.

Most of us are more or less adaptable. Having a cold relationship with friends, this is a way of protection, once the emotional chain with other people is deep, you will expect the other party to express something, in fact, once you don't get the corresponding expectations, it will cause a lot of harm to yourself. It's possible that you've been hurt by something similar before, which is why you choose this cold way to deal with the relationships around you.

At the end of life, we need to learn to be alone with ourselves, and friends will only accompany us for a while. Parents, partners, and children can only accompany us on a journey of life. We still have to learn to get along with ourselves.

You're worried about being ostracized by your roommates and being isolated when you go to college. We will have a lot of thoughts about the future, and it is normal to worry about what may be bad. Honey, this is just your concern, not a fact, your roommate may be good in the future, and it is interesting to have different ideas in college.

There are different voices in this world, there are different you and his existence. It's so exciting, so rich, so diverse. So what can I do to improve my social skills?

Turn ideas into action. If you want to make friends, you take the initiative to find someone to chat, and if you don't know what to talk about, you will find relevant books and topics. How can I maintain a stable and long-term relationship with my friends?

Any relationship needs to be managed, and maintaining a stable and long-term relationship requires both parties to have contacts and interactions. One side is always active and the other is passive, which cannot last long. What should you do if you have a conflict with your friend and the other person bothers you and feels that you don't want to have a relationship?

What are the contradictions, there are many different concepts, and friends get along with each other and argue for common ground while reserving differences. There are differences, there are contradictions, just as when we eat, our mouths and teeth occasionally fight. It's not a matter of principle, it's a matter of life safety, let's see if it can be adjusted.

If you really don't feel comfortable and don't think it's necessary to be friends, then separate and separate.

Bad temper bai, can't get used to seeing a lot of things

Too seriously, too much pursuit of perfection dao

The self-esteem is too strong to stand the blow

The above three points show that you are a person who has little energy and likes to be more honest with others.

It is recommended that you get along with your friends with a generous, tolerant and humble attitude!

In the future, when we get along with our friends, we should look at things from the perspective of unity. Strive to be principled in big things and style in small things. Respect others more when you have things, and discuss them with your friends.

Don't worry about trivial things with your friends! (It is important to know that perfection is always relative.) There is never absolute perfection in doing anything in the world!

Over time, your image has been completely changed by you! Everyone is starting to like to be close to you! (You've made it!) ）

I wish you all the best!

A bad temper is actually a lack of self-cultivation. I also had a bad temper, so I went to the Chinese medicine doctor again, and he said that I was always angry and would answer some physiological questions. It will be helpful to read more books on Buddhism.

I don't know how old you are, it's normal to not be used to seeing a lot of things, but we have to learn to be sleek, and it's also a realm to see through it without saying it. In fact, if you experience more, you won't care about so many things. The most important thing is to be strong inside.

Excessive self-esteem can be a sign of low self-esteem, and it is important to build self-confidence, especially for girls. All in all, read more books that are helpful to you, go out more to broaden your horizons, and your mind will be much broader. I used to be very similar to you in many places, but in the last two years, I feel that my mentality has improved a lot.