What s it like to be close to anyone?

If a person is not intimate with anyone, it must be a lonely and lonely experience, because people are social animals, that is, they have feelings, flesh and blood, and needs, including intimacy.

If you are not close to anyone, how lonely and lonely it must be.

I myself have such a trait.,That is, no matter who they are, they're not very close.,That's what I think I'm particularly disgusted with.,A lot of times I actually know that this is very bad.,But maybe because of my temper or personality problems, I'm often reluctant to contact others.,So in many cases, it also causes me to feel like I don't have any affinity.,I think this has also caused a lot of trouble in my life. The biggest feeling is probably that you are often very helpless when you are alone, and then you will often let others misunderstand that you are a very cold person.

I don't know when I was a little reluctant to establish an intimate relationship with others, and I preferred to establish a relationship with the people around me, even with my parents and family. I haven't been home for a long time, and I finally got home once, and my sister was waiting at the train station to pick me up. Seeing me approaching in the distance, she walked over quickly and hugged me.

At that moment, I was actually a little overwhelmed, at least my body was a little stiff, and I didn't know how to give her a hug back. She let go of me and asked me, "Is it weird that you have been stunned by the train for seven or eight hours?" ”

I think it may be a rather declining experience, because relatives can bring you a different experience of kinship, and if you are not close to your relatives at all, then you will lack one of the important parts of our life journey, and you will regret your life.

I also have this kind of very withdrawn person around me, he may have some contact with everyone, but he is not that kind of good friend with anyone, that is, the feeling that you said is not close to anyone, I still remember the time he came to talk to me, I was very baffled, because I think I am not familiar with him at all, that is, the kind of relationship of meeting and saying hello.

Because I've been going to school in other places, and I usually go to boarding school at home, I don't know many of my relatives except my parents, and they think I'm a nerd. Whenever there is a festival, they gather at your house, and they all say that they hugged you when they were children, but you don't remember it at all.

When I meet a boy who likes me at school, I don't care if he doesn't get too impatient. And once the other party wants to have a relationship with me more than a friend, I suddenly feel a sense of resistance. I was afraid of getting too close to them and then hurting both parties.

I pity your growth experience, we generally trust the people we are familiar with, because of trust, the interpersonal relationship is closer and likeable, and language communication is a window for us to understand others, when you only have necessary communication and do not consider other small talk and in-depth exchanges about personal hobbies and values, this may not make others familiar with you, others do not understand you may not understand or like you?

If you are not close to your family or people you don't know well, then not being close may give people some kind of rejection signal, which may build a wall around you, and only in the dead of night you may think about what has changed in your life and why.

Now that you're out of pants, you don't feel like being close to people.

As soon as you get close, you will feel uncomfortable and afraid, and so will your family and loved ones.

When I see the emotional drama, I feel embarrassed and uncomfortable, except for the necessary communication.

I don't like to talk to people I don't know well.

I don't get understood.

Not liked.

If you don't like to talk, how can you make yourself understood?

I heard your very honest account When I was a child, I was introverted and fat, so not many people liked me, and I lost weight in college. Since elementary school, my mom has started to make me hate her, all kinds of verbal hurt. I don't feel liked, as if I can only feel comfortable if I get a good score and be recognized so that I can see that you didn't feel much affection and appreciation in your relationships when you were growing up, and your mother will always inflict verbal harm on you, and only the score seems to be the only thing that is concerned, which may suddenly neglect the breadth of your social skills development and emotional experience.

The pain of the past needs to be reprocessed, and you can set clear boundaries for the time being. If this person is someone who feels abrupt or obviously uncomfortable, then you need to be clear and polite and firm about your boundaries to avoid inappropriate interpersonal contact with the other person, oh, if you start to have some feelings of longing to be understood and liked, please keep yourself busy and remember this feeling, try to slowly let yourself live in the moment, get to know those friendly people to develop friendships, and if you can expand your emotional identity through psychological counseling, maybe it will enrich yourself, good wishes. zq

As the saying goes, clay figurines also have earthy nature, and each of us has our own little temper. ......In the process of interacting with people, we will find an interesting phenomenon, that is, the better our temper will be when we associate with people who are more distant, and the worse our temper will become when we associate with people who are closer to ......The reason why this is the case is that we dare not fully release our feelings when interacting with people we don't know, we can have no scruples when we associate with people close to us, and we vent our frustration in front of those closest to us when we are hurt.

1. When interacting with unfamiliar people, we dare not fully release our feelings and will be cautious.

When we interact with unfamiliar people, because we are not familiar with each other and do not understand each other, we do not dare to fully release our feelings in front of each other, but will be cautious, for fear of making the other party angry and hurting ourselves because of our bad performance. ......Because of this, we tend to have a good temper when we interact with strangers, and we don't have seizures even if we are unhappy.

2. In front of the closest people, we have no scruples and can fully reveal our true feelings.

When you interact with the person closest to you, because the other party is your closest person and you know each other best, you will have no scruples about trembling, dare to fully show your feelings, and if you are unhappy, you will show it unreservedly, even if the other party is unhappy, you are not afraid. ......It is precisely because of this reason that when we associate with the people closest to us, we tend to lose our temper and calm down.

3. When we are hurt, we tend to vent our frustrations in front of the people we know best.

In daily work, study and life, we will encounter all kinds of unsatisfactory. ......For these things that make me unhappy, I don't dare to say or do anything in front ......of outsiders, I can only hold my unhappiness in my heartBut when we are with the people closest to us, we can vent our dissatisfaction without scruples and release all the grievances we have suffered. Such an approach can cause harm ...... to those closest to youThis is the most fundamental reason why I always give my bad temper to the people closest to me.