How to educate rebellious children? How to educate rebellious children

The growth of children requires great attention from parents. The more attention you get, the more power your child will have to grow. However, attention does not mean that you have to be involved in your child's personal affairs.

Judging by your desperation and madness, you are too involved in your child's growth. It is impossible not to pay attention to the child's growth, it is impossible not to help the child to deal with some things beyond his ability, but if the parents also give too much help in the matters that should be handled by the child himself, it is not to help the child grow, but the parents are dealing with their own anxiety. There is a criterion for judging here, that is, to see if parents can't stand it when they don't guide and help their children in specific matters.

When parents are dealing with their own emotions, they are helping their children, and it is obvious that children become the bearers of parents' anxiety. Children not only have to face various tests in the process of self-will, such as academic pressure, but also bear the pressure brought by parents, often feel very tired, when his waist is bent, his self-will is difficult to develop healthily.

It is better to intervene in a hurry rather than to give attention. What is attention? Attention is to be full of interest in children's affairs, to be able to understand the needs of children in a timely manner, to fully understand the psychological state of children, and to be confident in the growth of children.

Attention not only means keeping the distance between parents and children, but also parents have their own concerns. When children become the most important or even the only task of parents, parents themselves have lost the content of self-independence. The role of a parent who has no self-independent content can be imagined as a role model for children.

On the contrary, a parent who has his own concerns and is full of enthusiasm for life brings his child the power of positivity. As the saying goes, "teaching by example is better than teaching".

Of course, the children themselves may have such and such problems, the key is whether parents will really have two beliefs from their hearts: 1. Their children are definitely good children; 2. No matter what kind of problems children encounter, children have the ability to embark on the right path. Trust has infinite power.

Hahaha, education!! Why is there a rebellion? If there is no oppression, where can you rebel, keep talking about education, what do you understand, can you understand why your children rebel?

Can you understand what the rebellious child is causing it? If you don't understand anything, how can you educate, just for vanity? How to educate children, it is better to change it to how to understand children, and when chatting with children, don't make a look like you know everything, understand everything, do you think you know something?

Do you know what it means to live on this earth? Do you know why you are in this world? And so on) If you want to understand your child, you have to put down the so-called parental shelf.

I believe that many experienced parents know that punishment is only temporary and effective, and it will cause harm to the child, and parents will feel distressed and blame themselves afterwards.

Why do these parents treat their children in such a way?

First, parents themselves were treated like this when they were young;

Second, parents don't know what to do? Therefore, it is simple and rude, and it hurts yourself and your children!

Punishment, or the idea of authority ("Listen to me, or you will .......") It must be replaced by mutual respect and cooperation. Although the status of children is no longer as low as we used to be, they are inexperienced and untrained, so they need our guidance.

A good facilitator should inspire his followers and motivate them to behave in a way that is appropriate to the situation, as are parents. Children need our guidance, and when they are sure that we respect them and their right to make their own decisions, they will accept our guidance.

Hitting children is a great insult to their dignity, and parents do not respect themselves and feel guilty and regret afterwards. Parents can learn effective ways to motivate their children and make them self-disciplined; It can create a family atmosphere of mutual respect and understanding, teach children how to live happily with others, create a state of life that respects themselves and children, and give children the opportunity to learn and train in such a life. These actions should be carried out without the use of parental privilege, because once we use parental privilege, it will provoke the children's resistance, which is contrary to the original purpose of educating the children.

When you get along with your child with sincerity and respect, your child will be very cooperative. Every time you say that your child cooperates, some people will say that it is because your child is well-behaved, and the real reason is that the child is "well-behaved" because the parents have won the child's cooperation with sincere and respectful interaction.