What are the disadvantages of the elderly with children? Why?

What are the disadvantages of the elderly with children? Why?

1.The biggest disadvantage of the elderly helping to take care of children is that, unlike the young people's parenting concepts, they are unwilling to accept new parenting concepts and are relatively stubborn. It mainly affects the child's self-care ability and concentration.

If the elderly help to bring children, the disadvantage is that it is especially easy to pamper children, but especially easy to alienate children. The parents of all the elderly will indulge their children, and the children can easily develop a selfish character and do not know how to be grateful in life. The next generation is really not an empty word, but excessive spoiling like the elderly will cause a certain bad image for the growth of children.

Let the child form a self-centered mental impression, everything has to follow him, and it will not work if he does not follow his path. In this way, it will be difficult for the child to correct it after he or she goes to school, and it may lead to bad situations such as hitting classmates.

2.Elderly people with children usually solve all the problems of the child and overprotect the child. For example, when a child eats, see the child eat slowly by himself, and simply feed the child.

The child holds the cup to drink, and is worried about hitting the cup, so he holds the cup himself and asks the child to suck it through a straw. If the child is not allowed to do what the child can do, the child's independence will not develop easily. Many elderly people regard children as treasures in their hands, and they are very close.

Generally, children's requests are always responsive, which makes many parents feel "doubtful of life", because some elderly people are very strict with them when they are young, but they are very good to their children. <>

3.The old man's thinking is relatively backward and cannot keep up with the times. Nowadays, many developed goods and advanced ideas may be unacceptable to them.

Because the worldview of the elderly is the same, it is difficult to change, and there are some feudal superstitious ideas among them, which are not good for children. When taking care of children in daily life, some of the thoughts of the elderly may affect the children. Nowadays, as the days go by, society is advancing rapidly, and children are at the forefront of this wave and must keep pace with the times in their thinking.

The children brought out by the old man are very pampered, very selfish, always self-centered, never consider the feelings of others, the child's temper will be very big, especially irritable, always like to let others accommodate themselves, and the relationship with their parents is very poor, and they are particularly rebellious. Because the elderly are very fond of children, when taking children, children do not have any rules.

Teachers with children will make children particularly pampered, unreasonable, as soon as their own heart will cry and make trouble, independent ability is relatively poor; Because the elderly with children are intergenerational parents, everything will depend on the child, and the child is reluctant to do anything, which is not conducive to the expansion of the child's thinking.

It is very likely that the child will be bruised, or it may spoil the child, or it may make the child unassertive, easy to spoil the child, and the child will not speak Mandarin, because the elderly are inconvenient to move, so it is easy to be distracted when taking care of the child.

They will often spoil their children, give them whatever they want, make them very rebellious, and often contradict their parents; Because the old and the young have different ideas and different ideas, they will also educate their children differently.

The elderly with children may develop a willful and unruly character, this is because the elderly are more fond of children and are obedient to their children's requirements, so they will develop a willful and unruly character.

In my opinion, there are indeed some drawbacks to the elderly taking care of children.

1. Serious generation gap

One of the most obvious is the generation gap. With the change of the times, there may be a big difference between the ideology of the older generation and the modern society, which may lead to poor communication, misunderstanding deviations and conflicts in getting along. For example, when it comes to educating children, the elderly may adopt the traditional ways of a bygone era, but modern children are different from the children of the past, and they need a more open, rich and diverse way of education.

Therefore, the elderly and children may have conflicts and frictions because they do not understand each other.

2. It is easy to spoil children

In addition, the elderly tend to spoil their children, which is also a common problem for the elderly with children. This is because they tend to regard their children as an important part of their lives, and they will pay too much attention to their children's needs and desires, thus ignoring some rules and order. This habit of doting may cause children to grow up without self-control, and develop emotional and behavioral problems.

3. Unable to meet the child's mobility needs

Another problem is that the elderly's body has declined, and their mobility is greatly limited, which cannot meet the needs of children for learning and playing. Children need constant exercise to develop their hands-on and social skills. In the view of the elderly, the child may need a quiet rest, but the strong impulse of the child's natural life force is ignored.

If the elderly do not know how to carry out certain beneficial activities with their children, then this process will not only damage the child's physical and mental health, but also limit the child's development.

Therefore, I believe that we need to explore new solutions in the practice of the elderly with children, so as to maximize their advantages and avoid the above drawbacks. We can reduce generation gaps and misunderstandings between the two sides by enhancing interaction, communication and understanding. Let the elderly understand the modern way of family education, pay attention to children's emotional and growth problems, and can guide children to live and learn in a healthy and scientific way.

At the same time, we should also involve the elderly in children's educational activities, focusing on building a close relationship through mutual help and understanding, and increasing each other's emotional feelings and opportunities to think about each other. If these aspects can be grasped well, the process of the elderly taking care of children will be more effective, and it will also have a great effect on the growth of children.

At the entrance of the kindergarten, it is common to see grandmothers and grandparents coming to pick up their children. However, there are actually many disadvantages of the elderly with children, and the following is a detailed summary of the disadvantages and harms of the elderly with children? Let's take a look!

The child is more naughty, and the old man is very old and can't run, so he will directly ask the child to watch TV dramas at home to play, in fact, that is not very good, because the child will lack exercise, weak physique, and there is no very sunlight exposure, affecting the long man, and the old man speaks loudly, the child's English hearing will be damaged, and it is very rare to see others will also make the child more and more introverted.

If your child cries a lot to buy snacks or doesn't have to, fried food is not helpful for physical and mental health, and long-term consumption may affect brain development, and your child will lose his appetite by the time he eats dinner. Long-term use of crying and fussing to get delicious food will make the child more arrogant in the future.

Many parents will feed their children bite by bite, in fact, this is not good, because the child eats too fast, the bite is relatively weak, and the indigestion is difficult.

There is also a high chance that overfeeding will cause an enlarged stomach and eventually obesity.

When the child's eating method is disturbed, it is not easy to concentrate on it, and then the concentration is easy to lose concentration, and it is easy to form a psychological state of dependence.

The child's hands and feet are cold.

Most likely due to the circulatory system.

Not strong enough, in fact, it is conventional, but his parents will put a lot of clothes on him, causing sweat and being more prone to cold.

When a child falls, it is very likely that many parents will say to the child that they are to blame, that they are to blame, that everyone beats it, and so on. In fact, this will make the child develop the habit of avoiding responsibility, because the object itself is innocent, the child will get the wrong information content, and will think that way later.

If the child is allowed to eat earthwork backfill.

Or something else that is difficult to accept, so that the child's psychological state and physical and mental health will be affected.

Children are likely to have destructive personal behaviors, but there are some personal behaviors or a sense of adventure and innovation, and there is no need to rush to stop them at this moment, otherwise it is very easy to make children more and more timid.

If you often destroy the image of the child's mother in front of you, it is very easy to affect the parent-child relationship, hurt the child's physical and mental health, make him faceless and skinless later, and it is easier to lie. Moreover, children will also follow the same example, slandering others behind their backs and influencing others.

The disadvantages of the elderly with children include over-doting on children, cultivating children's "bad habits", not being able to respond to children in time, being slow to respond to dangers, and easily causing children's emotional loss.

It may make the child not feel the love of his parents, which will affect the parent-child relationship, and will also lead to the child and the parents being very unfamiliar.

If the elderly have some bad habits, then the child may also develop such habits, and it will cause character defects.

01 The average elderly are more doting on their children, they are reluctant to beat and scold, and they bring the children alive to the appearance of a little emperor, and they are pampered to reach out for food and open their mouths.

02 Intergenerational education is also a more terrible one, the elderly often agree with the education method of their time, but they don't know that the times have changed now, all kinds of cram schools and interest classes are lining up to take classes, and the previous era of only their own home education is different, and children have more things to learn.

03 If the child sleeps with the elderly for a long time, it is not good for the child's health, because the elderly exhale much more carbon dioxide than the young when sleeping, and the child's breathing is relatively fast, and the carbon dioxide inhaled by the child will affect the child's physical and mental health in the long run, which is extremely detrimental to the child's development.

04 The elderly can't help their children with various problems in learning, even if the old man is a retired teacher and has an education level, he can't do it, because the current version of learning and education has been reborn compared with before, usually in addition to various English Olympiads, there are calligraphy and writing, etc., even young people will be exhausted, not to mention the elderly.

05 The old man with the child independent activity space is small, now the children are generally only children more, the old people are eager to hold the child in the palm of the hand all the time, as long as the child wants to do something independently, all day long is not afraid of the child knocking or afraid of the child touching, so that the child has no independence, everything has to depend.

06 Excessive snacking for children, nine out of ten children are basically happy with snacks, but the elderly will be obedient to the children, which will cause children to be picky eaters when eating, unwilling to eat, and more terrible is that children eating snacks for a long time will be harmful to their health, and the snacks on the market contain a lot of additives and pigments.

07 The parent-child relationship is not harmonious, and children who have lived with the elderly for a long time are a little estranged from their parents both physically and psychologically, because in their eyes, it is their grandparents who have been accompanying them to grow up rather than their parents, which will make children resist their parents and thus form alienation from their parents.

If you have children, you must not hand them over to your grandparents to raise, sometimes it's really outrageous, and the next generation is really too doting and refuses to share.

Children have a selfish side that they don't know how to share, and when parents buy their children what they like, children will be careful to protect them and are reluctant to let others touch them. Especially some snacks, even if you can't finish them, you are reluctant to share them with children.

During this period, the child's "self" consciousness is very strong, and parents should guide their children well, otherwise it will be more difficult for parents to change when the child has developed a habit. When parents buy snacks for their children, they can think of themselves as the sharers and the baby as the takers. When children have this strong feeling of wanting to eat and play, parents often have a very good effect in educating them.

3. Don't know how to be polite.

Parents' love for their children is inclusive and does not ask for anything in return, many parents love their children too much, and do not see the ability of their children to grow up, the ability to continue to learn, and still take care of the baby as before, it is very easy for the baby to appear seriously dependent on the parents.

And these children are often at home, lawless. If parents do not properly nurture their children's early independence, it is because parents are too doting on their children. What's more, some parents do not pay attention to the principle of satisfying all the requirements of their children, which often makes their children appear to be indifferent to outsiders, do not know how to be grateful, and appear impolite.

Children's growth, need parents every moment of help and care, and children's emotions are very sensitive, parents in the education of children, must insist on themselves, do not feel sorry for the child, and the baby has to respond, this excessive doting, often let the child become a lifelong bad habit, so that the baby's life is deeply affected.

Benefits of caring for babies for the elderly:

Parents can have time to work.

Just like many parents choose to go out to work and then leave their children at home for the elderly to take care of, many parents will also ask the elderly to take care of the baby because they are busy with work, so the first benefit of the elderly taking care of the baby is that the parents can work for a few hours. If parents have been at home with their children, it means that there is a lot of pressure at home, not only to worry about household expenses, but also about children's various expenses. So, at this time, parents are very anxious.

Although parents will be reluctant to let the elderly take care of their children, it means that parents can have better room for development, which is also an advantage for the elderly to take care of children.

Older people are more experienced in taking care of babies.

Compared with the rush of novice parents, the elderly will be more calm when taking care of the baby, which is also because of the experience brought by the older generation. For the older generation, they have many children, so many times they have the experience of taking care of the baby by themselves, such as when to add clothes to the child, what to prepare for the child's bath, and what to do if the child cries at night. With the experience of the older generation, parents don't have to worry about having no one to take care of their children.

Disadvantages of caring for babies for the elderly:

Over-indulgence of children.

Of course, it is not all good for the elderly to bring a baby, but there are still some disadvantages for the elderly to bring a baby. Because both parents and the elderly love their children, especially the elderly. On the face of it, "having distant relatives" means that the older generation will love their children more.

As many netizens said, because the elderly can see from their children that when their children are young, with such psychological blessings, the elderly will like their children more and more. So sometimes when parents educate their children, the elderly will always come out to obstruct them, deepening the child's awareness that they are not afraid of their parents, so that the child is becoming more and more pampered.

Traditional parenting.

Although it is said that the elderly will be more experienced with babies, because of the different times, many parents cannot accept the parenting style of the elderly, which is also a contradiction between the elderly and current parents. As mentioned earlier, although the older generation will have experience in taking care of babies, because of the difference in age, sometimes the elderly also like to use home remedies. For example, some elderly people do not choose to take their children to the hospital after their children have a fever, but want their children to drink some plant ashes.

In the consciousness of many older generations, they believe that plant ash can cure diseases. But this is a taboo compared to parents who have scientific parenting, so this is also a disadvantage of the elderly taking care of their babies.