What are the defects of the elderly with children?

Introduction: Now many families are elderly people with children, because parents are too busy to take care of their children, but to know that there are certain disadvantages of the elderly taking care of him, today let's follow together to understand what are the disadvantages.

First of all, some old people will be very doting on children, because they feel that they eat their grandchildren, so they want to give him the best, but it also causes the children to be very domineering, very willful, and some old people in the education of children are very unconditional to meet all the requirements of children, to the later can not be satisfied, children begin to complain about their parents, in addition to some old people in the parents will intervene when parents educate children, after all, it is their own parents, After all, it is his parents, so the child's parents don't dare to resist too much, because they want the child to respect the elders, but this also causes the child to not listen to his parents, but to find his grandparents, so that he can not be criticized or educated.

And if the elderly take children, the children will have a lot of mantras and will not speak in Mandarin, most of the old people he uses dialects, but you must know that it is now a Mandarin society, if you speak in tongues, others can't understand at all, and there may be communication barriers between children, and for those old people, they have a lot of mantras These mantras, or some not very good words, But the child is with them the longest people in the world will imperceptibly learn these things, sometimes it will make the parents very shocked, so in the conditional situation as far as possible parents to take care of the child, so that you can avoid the existence of some drawbacks, although the elderly take care of the child is more convenient, but can not ignore the child's education problem.

will spoil the child excessively, have no basic educational principles, lack of psychological counseling, will make the child become rebellious, will also make the child become willful, and will help the child take responsibility.

The education concept of the elderly is relatively lagging behind, the elderly are more afraid of the cold, they wear too much for their children, the elderly are more doting on their children, they are often separated from their parents, lack of security, and the parent-child relationship is not good, which is easy to cause the children's personality to be selfish, do not know how to be grateful, and are more domineering.

Spoiling children excessively, helping children take responsibility, incorrect education methods, and often instilling bad ideas in children will make children have psychological changes, and there are no educational principles.

Children will be very impolite, the quality of education is very low, children will be lawless, children are particularly rebellious, very unstable personalities, especially irritable, especially selfish and often self-centered.

The elderly are easy to spoil their children, and the children form bad habits and bad habits, are easy to learn badly, difficult to discipline, become indifferent, and do not know how to be polite, these are all defects.

At the entrance of the kindergarten, it is common to see grandmothers and grandparents coming to pick up their children. However, there are actually many disadvantages of the elderly with children, and the following is a detailed summary of the disadvantages and harms of the elderly with children? Let's take a look!

The child is more naughty, and the old man is very old and can't run, so he will directly ask the child to watch TV dramas at home to play, in fact, that is not very good, because the child will lack exercise, weak physique, and there is no very sunlight exposure, affecting the long man, and the old man speaks loudly, the child's English hearing will be damaged, and it is very rare to see others will also make the child more and more introverted.

If your child cries a lot to buy snacks or doesn't have to, fried food is not helpful for physical and mental health, and long-term consumption may affect brain development, and your child will lose his appetite by the time he eats dinner. Long-term use of crying and fussing to get delicious food will make the child more arrogant in the future.

Many parents will feed their children bite by bite, in fact, this is not good, because the child eats too fast, the bite is relatively weak, and the indigestion is difficult.

There is also a high chance that overfeeding will cause an enlarged stomach and eventually obesity.

When the child's eating method is disturbed, it is not easy to concentrate on it, and then the concentration is easy to lose concentration, and it is easy to form a psychological state of dependence.

The child's hands and feet are cold.

Most likely due to the circulatory system.

Not strong enough, in fact, it is conventional, but his parents will put a lot of clothes on him, causing sweat and being more prone to cold.

When a child falls, it is very likely that many parents will say to the child that they are to blame, that they are to blame, that everyone beats it, and so on. In fact, this will make the child develop the habit of avoiding responsibility, because the object itself is innocent, the child will get the wrong information content, and will think that way later.

If the child is allowed to eat earthwork backfill.

Or something else that is difficult to accept, so that the child's psychological state and physical and mental health will be affected.

Children are likely to have destructive personal behaviors, but there are some personal behaviors or a sense of adventure and innovation, and there is no need to rush to stop them at this moment, otherwise it is very easy to make children more and more timid.

If you often destroy the image of the child's mother in front of you, it is very easy to affect the parent-child relationship, hurt the child's physical and mental health, make him faceless and skinless later, and it is easier to lie. Moreover, children will also follow the same example, slandering others behind their backs and influencing others.

The disadvantages of the elderly with children include over-doting on children, cultivating children's "bad habits", not being able to respond to children in time, being slow to respond to dangers, and easily causing children's emotional loss.

It may make the child not feel the love of his parents, which will affect the parent-child relationship, and will also lead to the child and the parents being very unfamiliar.

If the elderly have some bad habits, then the child may also develop such habits, and it will cause character defects.

In my opinion, there are indeed some drawbacks to the elderly taking care of children.

1. Serious generation gap

One of the most obvious is the generation gap. With the change of the times, there may be a big difference between the ideology of the older generation and the modern society, which may lead to poor communication, misunderstanding deviations and conflicts in getting along. For example, when it comes to educating children, the elderly may adopt the traditional ways of a bygone era, but modern children are different from the children of the past, and they need a more open, rich and diverse way of education.

Therefore, the elderly and children may have conflicts and frictions because they do not understand each other.

2. It is easy to spoil children

In addition, the elderly tend to spoil their children, which is also a common problem for the elderly with children. This is because they tend to regard their children as an important part of their lives, and they will pay too much attention to their children's needs and desires, thus ignoring some rules and order. This habit of doting may cause children to grow up without self-control, and develop emotional and behavioral problems.

3. Unable to meet the child's mobility needs

Another problem is that the elderly's body has declined, and their mobility is greatly limited, which cannot meet the needs of children for learning and playing. Children need constant exercise to develop their hands-on and social skills. In the view of the elderly, the child may need a quiet rest, but the strong impulse of the child's natural life force is ignored.

If the elderly do not know how to carry out certain beneficial activities with their children, then this process will not only damage the child's physical and mental health, but also limit the child's development.

Therefore, I believe that we need to explore new solutions in the practice of the elderly with children, so as to maximize their advantages and avoid the above drawbacks. We can reduce generation gaps and misunderstandings between the two sides by enhancing interaction, communication and understanding. Let the elderly understand the modern way of family education, pay attention to children's emotional and growth problems, and can guide children to live and learn in a healthy and scientific way.

At the same time, we should also involve the elderly in children's educational activities, focusing on building a close relationship through mutual help and understanding, and increasing each other's emotional feelings and opportunities to think about each other. If these aspects can be grasped well, the process of the elderly taking care of children will be more effective, and it will also have a great effect on the growth of children.

What are the disadvantages of the elderly with children? Why?

1.The biggest disadvantage of the elderly helping to take care of children is that, unlike the young people's parenting concepts, they are unwilling to accept new parenting concepts and are relatively stubborn. It mainly affects the child's self-care ability and concentration.

If the elderly help to bring children, the disadvantage is that it is especially easy to pamper children, but especially easy to alienate children. The parents of all the elderly will indulge their children, and the children can easily develop a selfish character and do not know how to be grateful in life. The next generation is really not an empty word, but excessive spoiling like the elderly will cause a certain bad image for the growth of children.

Let the child form a self-centered mental impression, everything has to follow him, and it will not work if he does not follow his path. In this way, it will be difficult for the child to correct it after he or she goes to school, and it may lead to bad situations such as hitting classmates.

2.Elderly people with children usually solve all the problems of the child and overprotect the child. For example, when a child eats, see the child eat slowly by himself, and simply feed the child.

The child holds the cup to drink, and is worried about hitting the cup, so he holds the cup himself and asks the child to suck it through a straw. If the child is not allowed to do what the child can do, the child's independence will not develop easily. Many elderly people regard children as treasures in their hands, and they are very close.

Generally, children's requests are always responsive, which makes many parents feel "doubtful of life", because some elderly people are very strict with them when they are young, but they are very good to their children. <>

3.The old man's thinking is relatively backward and cannot keep up with the times. Nowadays, many developed goods and advanced ideas may be unacceptable to them.

Because the worldview of the elderly is the same, it is difficult to change, and there are some feudal superstitious ideas among them, which are not good for children. When taking care of children in daily life, some of the thoughts of the elderly may affect the children. Nowadays, as the days go by, society is advancing rapidly, and children are at the forefront of this wave and must keep pace with the times in their thinking.

The children brought out by the old man are very pampered, very selfish, always self-centered, never consider the feelings of others, the child's temper will be very big, especially irritable, always like to let others accommodate themselves, and the relationship with their parents is very poor, and they are particularly rebellious. Because the elderly are very fond of children, when taking children, children do not have any rules.

Teachers with children will make children particularly pampered, unreasonable, as soon as their own heart will cry and make trouble, independent ability is relatively poor; Because the elderly with children are intergenerational parents, everything will depend on the child, and the child is reluctant to do anything, which is not conducive to the expansion of the child's thinking.

It is very likely that the child will be bruised, or it may spoil the child, or it may make the child unassertive, easy to spoil the child, and the child will not speak Mandarin, because the elderly are inconvenient to move, so it is easy to be distracted when taking care of the child.

They will often spoil their children, give them whatever they want, make them very rebellious, and often contradict their parents; Because the old and the young have different ideas and different ideas, they will also educate their children differently.

The elderly with children may develop a willful and unruly character, this is because the elderly are more fond of children and are obedient to their children's requirements, so they will develop a willful and unruly character.

1. The long-term "absence" of parents can easily cause children's emotional loss.

Before the age of 3, it is the most important period for children to build a sense of security, and it is also a critical period for building self-awareness. If the child is directly thrown to the elderly, the long-term "absence" of the parents will make the child emotionally estranged from the parents, and even complain.

This affects the position of parents in their hearts, affects the values of children's growth, etc., and easily forms extreme character traits such as sensitivity, vulnerability, and irritability. This will not only have an impact on the children, the family, but also on society in the future.

2. The doting and indulgence of the elderly can easily cause children to have character defects.

Many elderly people often have a compensatory mentality, and they transfer all the good life care they could not give their children when they were young to their grandchildren, and this kind of pampering often easily turns into unprincipled accommodation and doting. It makes children too "self-centered", affects the development of self-awareness, and forms a selfish and willful bad character.